Best part of being childfree

[Mintgum]

Whats the best part of being childfree.
I chose not to have children knew from an early age i never wanted them.
But i have been ask why not whats so good not having them my reply was whats good with having them.
I like my life i like doing what i like i love my freedom.
I have no intrerest in schools finger painting teen dramas i also like sleep.
I dont have the stomach to be around them when they are eating either.
My sister didnt like my reply.
And told me im missing out on what love really feels like.
I replied with.
I'm really not missing out on anything.
You're the one that had kids in your late 40s and all you want is help.
And now im in the doghouse because i was rude.
My family all know dont ask me to baby sit because it won't happen.

So why does wishing to remain childfree also means you need to cut yourself off from family or children who are in your family or distance yourself? I don't understand. Or are you saying that childfree people also effectively want nothing to do with their wider family? I'm confused. Surely you can be family oriented, love the kids in your family AND remain childfree?

I've spent most of my adult life single through choice. I'll be 50 in a few years. Why would I suddenly start being lonely?

How is this relevant to what was meant to be a happy thread about the benefits of being childfree?

The poster seems to be suggesting that we should force ourselves to have lives we don’t want now, on the off chance it will be worth it when we’re elderly.

I’d rather be happy now & risk it.

Im not there and not going there.
I dont want grandchildren, not everyone does.
My life is so much better without the drama.
What makes you think people like me are going to be lonely.
Ive met loads of people older than me and love life and they never wanted kids they are not lonely or bored.

Because we will all be lonely old hags with no joy in our lives.

Excuse me while I order another Aperol by the pool and watch my last fuck fly over the horizon and drown.

I wanted kids. I spent years trying and thousands of pounds trying. I still think not dealing with poo and puke, getting as much sleep as I want and having more money is a benefit!

Me too. I also think not having to deal with headlice over and over is a benefit. I'm of the nit nurse generation and it was rare for anyone to have them and I still find them gross.

If any of your children decide not to / can’t have kids, I hope you’re not going to put that kind of pressure on them.

Of course I won't. I'm simply trying to point out to this person who wants to gloat on a parent forum about how great their child free life is that I won't always be this way. And I suggest she starts being a bit nicer to her sister because one day she will be hoping for an invite to her family occasions with her kids and grandkids instead of being on her own. Maybe help your sister a bit more instead of gloating to her and being horrible about needing help. it will be remembered 🙄

I hope none of your children or grandchildren turn out to be infertile.

Because if they do, good luck to them in their miserable and lonely existence right?

So my parents are dead. I have no siblings. I spent close to 50k trying to have kids but was not successful.
Do you realise how hurtful the things you are saying could be to people like me? Telling us our lives will be miserable, lonely and pretty much pointless in the future.
As it happens, I'm old enough and have been through enough in life to not take your bullshit comments to heart. But others might not be.
I enjoy reading threads like this. Because it makes me think of things in a positive way. Rather than wallowing in depression that I'm infertile I can read some benefits of not having children and tell myself that actually yes I will be OK and maybe it's not all bad. Things like that keep people going.
Then people like you come along to remind us that our lives are fucking pointless and we'll be miserable and lonely forever. Thanks for that. Aren't you just a great person.

And she'd also better hope that they don't all emigrate or decide they really can't be bothered to look after granny! Fancy having kids just to improve your old age!

My husband and I are child-free by choice and can't imagine not being able to do what we want, when we want. We're away most weekends and will be having our third long-haul holiday this year in October. Couldn't afford all that if we had children.

I got torn off a strip for posting on a thread on AIBU about gender disappointment, which I felt entitled to do because I went through years trying and hoping. "Why don't you go back to the Without Children board, you seem to hang out there a lot"

Perhaps you could simply point out your "helpful" advice somewhere else where it is more appropriate?

Although your posts and those similar remind me of another benefit of being child free. Not having to spend time with smug mummies who have nothing else to talk about other than the joys of their little darlings.

ODFOD

Can you not read? This section is called MNers without children. It’s for people do not have children for whatever reason

I remember a parent once patronisingly told me that parents have far more empathy than those without children and yet this forum so often proves that not to be true!!

Freedom and peace. Always my reasons.

Hi folks - a friendly reminder that we've no problem with threads like this on Mumsnet - but in particular, this board is called MNers without children and was set up as a space for those who are child-free either by choice or circumstance.

Mumsnet is a parenting site - but non-parents are welcome too. Please refrain from chasing people away.

Also this. No school mums and tedious play dates or whatever. Bliss.

Thanks @BeckyAMumsnet.

I apologise. I did not realise this was a child free section. I hope I havnt offended anyone who can't have children. I am not a smug mummie at all. Having children is bloody hard work. We all need to be kind to each other whatever choices we make or if the choice is taken away from us. Have a nice day everyone 💐

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But there's no argument though? People are allowed to be different.
I've wanted to be a mum since forever and couldn't imagine life not being one. In the exact same way, there are people wanting other things and they can't imagine life with kids. And that's absolutely fine.

We should all just do what makes us happy.

Hahahahahaha!

I agree we should do what makes us happy.

The OP is about a disagreement the OP is having with her sister, who is telling her she won't know what real love feels like unless she has children. She's not going to convince her sister otherwise and her sister isn't going to convince her, so what's the point in finding reasons for being child free?

Bloody hell, talk about being shortsighted! Can you really not comprehend that not everyone wants the same things in life?