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High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:22

Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:23

Does this sound like your baby?

  1. Feeds frequently daytime
  2. Feeds frequently nighttime
  3. Needs to be constantly held
  4. Wont sleep alone
  5. Hates the car seat/pram
  6. Short naps

If so - join the club!

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tickleme63 · 22/01/2012 09:25

Previously on the High-Need Baby Support Thread...

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LittleWaveyLines · 22/01/2012 17:03

Yay!

Well I have a poorly baby so not so goohd here atm, but previously following her TT snip she had almost stopped being high needs, and has put on nearly a pound and a half in the month since her snip, compared to 4 ounces in the previous 2 months.... hmmmm wonder if there's a connectio there! Hmm Grin

QueenKong · 22/01/2012 18:24
SpannerPants · 23/01/2012 01:54

Marking my place...

Just had night feed no 1 - despite taking 2hrs to put to bed last night he went for 6rs between feeds which is almost unheard of Grin

JeewizzJen · 23/01/2012 06:04

Hey ladies, crap one for us, up every hour or less from 7pm for no apparent reason, except for one 2 hour stretch between 2 and 4. Ridiculous. Zzzzzz.....

buttonmoon78 · 23/01/2012 07:01

Hello! Yay! My computer likes this thread and the letters appear as I type them rather than in slow motion cos the thread is so long!

Two reasonable nights here.

That's the good news though. On Saturday he had a reaction to something. I gave him his fish pie but didn't have enough of the one I'd made before with just sweet potato, carrot and cod so I topped it up with one I had just made with all that and also some potato (my next food to try). DH then decided (not knowing this) to give him some mashed banana. He loved it but then half way through was violently sick and within 10 mins he had the usual rash all over his chin and around his mouth. He was really unsettled through the evening and seemed to have tummy pains. His eczema has flared up again especially around his shoulders and ankles etc. But of course, the real problem is that I don't know whether it was the potato or the banana! Confused

I like the lentil idea with veg soup on the last thread Spanner. Everything else is too stressful as it involves suspicious new foods! I'm not sure my nerves can take the strain! I'm going to ring the hospital today as they rang me on Tuesday to say there were no scheduled clinics at the moment Hmm. If they can't give me an appointment today or at least the promise of one then I'm going to ask where the next clinic is geographically and get our referral transferred there. I'm getting too frightened to introduce anything new and a diet containing less than 10 items hardly constitutes varied!

Expressos and chocolate to all those in need!

QueenKong · 23/01/2012 08:24

Banana is more likely, isn't it? Never heard of anyone having a reaction to potato - isn't it mainly water? Nightmare situation though button, hope you get your referral soon.

DS had haggis yesterday as we went to a Burns Night. I only gave him a little but he scoffed it right down. He loved the neeps and tatties too. I drew the line at whiskey, mummy needed all that to herself.

He's had a series of terrible nights. I think he's trying to self-settle but can't do it yet. He refuses the boob and just moans until he eventually drops off. It takes a while though and then he's awake an hour or so later. Ah well, suck it up QK!

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tickleme63 · 23/01/2012 08:54

Hey all... Another bloody awful night here. Come on, lad, you're over 6 months old. You surely don't still need feeding every bloody 2 hours??? Sometimes I just don't know whether I can take too much more of this. No choice in the matter so I have to, and it has to get better soon, doesn't it?!

Id be such a better quality of mum if I could just get a decent few hours. It makes it seem worse when my 2 friends babies (FF - not that that makes a difference does it?) either slept through at 3 months or sleeps six and a half hour stretches.

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buttonmoon78 · 23/01/2012 11:34

Could easily be potato, though most people don't know that! Potato is in the belladonna family so could be an allergen. My nephew was allergic for the first 2 years of his life. I view everything with suspicion!

Tickle makes no difference at all - I can assure you of that!

JeewizzJen · 23/01/2012 12:01

queen I think my DS is doing something similar, at least some of the time. Since starting solids he definitely doesn't want to eat as much at night, but it doesn't really stop him waking anyway Hmm I'm actually quite convinced that he could sleep through without feeding, it's other things that keep him waking up - sometimes those things are a total mystery to me though! He does, however, quite often try quite hard to get himself back to sleep. Sometimes he manages it with some moaning and wriggling, and sometimes he just gets hacked off and cries until I get up out of bed and rock him back to sleep. The past few nights however, he's been skipping straight to the crying! Sad It is quite encouraging when he does try to settle himself though, even if he doesn't quite manage it. He clearly wants to be asleep - at least he doesn't want to be up playing or anything stupid like that.

tickle Yup. I feel exactly the same, and also find myself stopping my moaning with the resignation that I have no choice but to carry on! I do so, so wonder when on earth it will get easier though. Seems like forever. I find myself having low expectations most of the time, but then he'll have a good (ish) night and it gives me hope, only to be dashed the very next day with a shocker. It's so disheartening.

button what a nightmare Sad I really hope you get somewhere with the docs/clinics soon, I can't imagine how difficult it must be having to deal with all that!

Mampig · 23/01/2012 13:30

at work so can't catch up yet, so see you all later!!

QueenKong · 23/01/2012 15:26

Had my first BLW compliment today. Was at a garden centre and DS was smearing half a jacket potato with cheese around his face. A lady asked how old he was and when I said 7 months, she said "wow, doesn't he feed himself well?!" [chuffed emoticon] Smile

buttonmoon78 · 23/01/2012 18:13

Grin at babykong's table manners!

Is def banana for all that!

buttonmoon78 · 24/01/2012 07:13

Terrible night. Up at 9 - took 4oz (tiny feed) then puked it all over himself, me, his swaddle, sleeping bag, sheets, moses basket etc etc. Then woke at 1.40 as he was hungry. Not too bad so far. But then cos his ankles were itching him he onlyt slept if I held his legs apart so he can't rub them against eachother. And I'd given him all his allowable piriton at 9 to get him to sleep again as he was itching then.

I was hoping to go for a run tonight when dh is home but the thought currently is like cold water down my back - unappealing to say the least!

Also found out yesterday that it's looking likely that we'll have to wait until May at the earliest for his skin prick testing unless we can stump up a private consultation fee (not too bad) and £130 for EACH DAMN FOOD TESTED! That'd be £520 simply to confirm what we think we already know (standard practice before you move on to new foods). They're laying on extra clinics between now and then for the urgent cases. But, of course, because my gp thinks it's a waste of time he won't have put urgent on the referral will he? Will he heck as like. I gave the sob story to the secretary but it's very little to do with her. So I then left a message for our dietician to see if she could have a word to help out.

What I really wish is that when the company began to make some money we'd stumped up for Bupa. I'm not sure I agree with private medicine in an ideal world (having paid NI contributions and it then not being a level playing field etc) but when it comes to your own dcs, principles go out the window - they have before and if I had that sort of cash, they would again. I am fickle!

TitaniaP · 24/01/2012 09:17

I'm such an idiot, couldn't work out why no-one was posting on the old thread. Hadn't realised it was full. .

Good couple of nights here (after a week of awful ones). Feel more human now!

LittleWaveyLines · 24/01/2012 09:22

Oh Button.... unmumsnetty hugs. Hope you get your referreal soon.

Well I thought she had started sleeping better and commented on that this morning - turns out she is still waking at least every 2 hours, when I deal with her - but I'm just not remembering! Feeding and comforting her in my sleep!

... not quite sure what to make of that....

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tickleme63 · 24/01/2012 10:43

Another terrible night, followed by a morning nap disaster. Been working on getting him in his cot for this nap, and it's been going well and gives me 30 minutes to myself. This morning he lasted maybe 10 minutes after spending 40 minutes trying to get him off. Tried and tried. He's now downstairs, me having done a very childish 'Well, if you won't sleep, you'll have to come downstairs and be tired and miserable' :(

I'm well and truly fed up today.

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buttonmoon78 · 24/01/2012 13:37

Me too. He's just howled himself to sleep because I had a 'there's nothing else I can do' moment Sad. He seemed just as miserable whether I was holding him or not so I just decided to leave him. And now I feel terrible. Every now and again there's a little sob down the monitor but he's fast asleep [bad mum emoticon].

In an odd way, the fact that I haven't felt this bad in a long time is something that I'm using as a positive. After all, previously this was a normal day so I'm trying to focus on the fact that must mean that most days are getting better. Do you follow or am I rambling?!

LittleWaveyLines · 24/01/2012 15:46

No that makes sense... and I know what you mean by those "nothing more I can do" moments. Had loads at night in the colicky early weeks... DP would just come and take her sometimes as I would be just sat looking at her... :(

buttonmoon78 · 24/01/2012 21:03

So now I'm totally confused! He had another reaction tonight after eating the fish pie with potato. But was ok yesterday Confused

We've had another puke fest too including my sheets that were clean on after last night's marathon effort Angry

Still, I'm on my second glass of wine which I guess is more than most of you will have. I guess ff does have some benefits Wink

SpannerPants · 24/01/2012 22:45

Oh button - sounds rubbish and I can't believe how expensive those tests are!

I think I've figured out why DS has been so grumpy for the last few days - we almost have a tooth! It's right under the gum and feels quite sharp so I hope it will be through soon. I had a little cry to DP tonight because my baby is growing up too quickly Blush

We've got buggyfit tomorrow - god knows why I signed up for it as DS hates being in the buggy and just screams and screams for an hour while I push him up and down muddy hills and feel like a bad mother for upsetting him :(

QueenKong · 25/01/2012 08:06

Maybe it'll make you run faster Spannerpants?! Oh dear, good luck! I'm thinking of doing something similar to try and shift this spare tyres. I had thought by now I'd be able to get to the gym in the evenings but how foolish was I!

QueenKong · 25/01/2012 08:07

*tyre s

LittleWaveyLines · 25/01/2012 08:54

Sympathy please - so DD is over her sickness bug and back to being bouncy.... and I now have it, and cant cope with bouncy baby who needs entertaining when I'm struggling to keep down water... :(