February 2011 Babies: Where only us and a select few know.....

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Just starting up the new thread in anti-natal groups. Will cross post with the old thread and updated the stats in a moment!!

ledkr can't help with the nuchal scan I'm afraid. I've not even been referred to the midwife by my GP yet...so have no idea on if I'll get that scan here.

scubamummy totally agree with the marmite - I've already gone through one large marmite 'squeezy' pack since being pregnant. Marmite on toast or crackers seems to go down well with me when nothing else will. I am starting to feel just a little fed up with it though! lol I always remember taking marmite on holiday with me to a german exchange when I was a teen. They have nothing like it in Germany, and they always looked at me oddly when I spread it on my toast for breakfast. One day I asked if they wanted to try some and they looked at it, took a big wiff of the bottle and their faces were a picture - I'd never seen such disguist!! They looked at me like 'what on earth are you eating'. I think maybe they thought it was like chocolate spread or something from what it looks like, and the smell of marmite obv is nothing like that!!

No news from honeywitch which I take could be bad news.....there's so many of our names on the list, yet we hardly hear from some, I wonder how many of them are still OK.

I think I'm the only one that's not struggling with no alcohol as I never drink anyway [slightly smug emotion]. It's probably the only time in my life that I'll be able to say no to alcohol and not be looked at like I'm slightly odd, so I'm quite enjoying it. I know it sounds odd, but I really just don't like the taste that much, and it doesn't agree with my body very well, so I figure what's the point. DH the same too (luckily ).

yes, actually it's a really thoughtful question about what you'd do if you found out there was something 'wrong' with the baby (ie abortion or keep it). At this point, and having gone through so much with a previous mc, I feel I'd keep the baby and deal with whatever issue it was, but it's easy to say that as I'm not actually in that position. It must be such a hard decision that some people have to make and there's no right or wrong answer. I'm not sure what DH thinks as we've never really discussed it. Fingers crossed we are all OK and don't need to have this concern.

My main concern at this time is just not to mc, but I'm sure, given time, I'll start worrying about this issue too (doesn't take much for me to worry about anything and everything!). I do already worry that the sickness pills I've been taking will cause some kind of developmental issue.

I used to drink pretty much every night - would generally just be a glass of two of wine but I can't stand the smell of it, let alone the taste at the moment which I so thankful for or I would be a nightmare at the moment! The same goes for smoking, didn't smoke much anyway but I just never fancy one which is great - wonder how long it lasts!

Sorry to hear the bad news of so many.

Ledkr - I also have family member with DS so it has played on my mind also about the nuchal scan and to be honest I have no idea what I would do or how I would feel if scan showed a high chance of DS. I am 25 so I guess I have that on my side but also think of my aunt who is now in her 50s - and quite happy living in a community with other adults who have DS. Im sure what ever the results and decisions people make they do with the best of intentions and also what they feel is the best for them and their child.

Have found it very funny reading all the posts about things DH/DP do that annoys. Must say I am quite lucky on that one, only been married for 5 months but DH does the washing and cleaning, I do the cooking (although not much at the moment!!!) and we have an ironing lady as neither of us can stand ironing. I am feeling really really rough at the moment, have passed out 3 or 4 times now in the past 2 weeks!

Oh and just one note on the marmite thing - what horrible idea!!! Definitely a marmite hater here!!!

Oh, had booking appointment last week - Midwife asked if we have twins in the family - only me and my sister I said, got home (nan was staying the week) and she tells me that her sister had twins, as did her sisters daughter!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Scan in 3 weeks time may be interesting!!!

Hi ledkr, my NHS dating scan is this Monday (19th). Woo hoo! Then my NT one is the 26th (much more scary prospect). I won't get my results until the 29th though. Fingers crossed for all the upcoming scans.

Would add some fiance rants, but feel too guilty as he's actually being a bit of a star...

ledkr my NT scan is on the 27th, and I'm also nervous about it although only due to my age (will be 35 when baby is born) as have not got any genetic problems in my family that I am aware of. he odds are in our favour though, so fingers crossed all will be ok. We would terminate if it was confirmed that baby had DS.

ledkr I'm on the 27th along with lots of people I see!! If the results come back as high risk I am prepared to have a CVS to see one way or the other. We have already been through having to make a horrible descision at 20 weeks (Feb this year) becuase of spina bifida, its the worst thing I've ever been through. If you are in that position whatever descision you make, there is no right or wrong. I am just hoping that I will not have to make that choice ever again

Apologies for the negative post I am feeling very blue as one of our chickens died this morning.

That's so sad Gina (chicken and baby). A friend of ours had to make that awful decision in Feb this year too due to her baby having hydrocephalus and other complications. We had a fundraiser last weekend for her chosen charity and everybody was wearing 'in memory of' t-shirts, I was really struggling to hold it together. She was also very open about what she had been through which is great she can talk about it but I felt so overwhelmed with emotion for her and for the baby growing inside me. It was a good day though

Chloe55 So sorry to hear about your friend. The whole thing was heartbreaking and like your friend I have found that being as open about it as possible has been the best thing for everyone. TBH other people were uncomfortable around me at first as they didn't quite know how to act, but once they realised they could talk about it they found it easier, they also had a lot of questions - people really are curious! We were just so unlucky - DP and I are both in a good place about the new pregnancy, just more nervous and worried than last time!

Re the chicken - poor Doris, she was really lovely, she had just laid her first egg too. Just hoping that whatever she had doesn't spread to the other girls now....

Gosh Gina b poor you what a nightmare.It is a very personal decision and depends a lot on your circumstances. I had my 2nd ds at 19 and he was born extrememly prem.His prognisis was terrible but i remember just thinking "so what hes my son ill deal with it" as a sinfle mum i then had to do peritneal dialisis 2 x daily and pretty much put my life on hold but i took it all in my stride and he is now a strapping 24 yr old with a great life and lots of friends. However he will ned a kidney transplant soon and i will have to look after him and maybe donate a kidney and for that reason i too would probabaly terminate as i have so many other people to consider. I have also had breast cancer and would be terrified if it came back that i would have to leave the kids i have never mind a disabled child.
small b fvery honest post. I have spent my life leaning towards anti abortion but this has taught me that you never know until its you.
Doom and gloom eh. On a lighter note me and my pregnant mate have just been out for an indian buffet and i now feel like a big bloated blob can hardly move and i know i will pay for this later(or rather dh will)i had a good chat to him last night and told him that i am very hormonal and irritated by everything and not to take much notice and that Justin Timberlake would also probably annoy me at the moment. I have spent the last week despising him and then at about 10 o clock last night i decided that he was going to cheat on me after the baby is born cos i will be fat and off sex.I spent the next ten mins telling him all the things i will do to him if he does-kill him,sleep with his friends etc.he just led there with a bemused look on his face. poor bloke haha

Hey wonderful ladies. I agree witht all the scan worries - although DH and I have been very clear that if there is an increased chance of someting serousthen we'd terminate - I'm sure it would be hideous though. Fingers crossed here for all of us.

Awful situation just arisen on my email - one friend emailed to tell our little group of friends that she'd miscarried at 6 weeks. And literally seconds later another arrived from a different friend saying that she'd just given birth - 11 days early 7lb 2oz and doing well. Can't help thinking that it's awful timing of the messages though. Will call them both later...

Oh God, what an awful coincidence Really bad timing but these things happen I guess. Your poor friends though, I bet they both feel awful in their own way.

Hi all, today i had the early perg. meeting with midwife, along with almost 20 other women! on teh way back got the most incredible craving for cinamon buns, so got home and made some, and although they are a bit burnt on the top I've been able to eat nothing else all day... when are craving supposed to start? surely not yet and this was just an excuse.

Re scans. We (DH and I) had that conversation today, but none of us know very much about ds. I don't know how i'd feel about terminating due to it. Other things, such as spina bifida, are much more clear in our mind.

Well, I'll try the marmite thing, although I have not been able to take its smell so far.

re knitting, I've made a pair of booties and started a hat, which seems horribly big and has really scared me, surely something that size cannot possible come of between my legs!!!

Sorry about all the people leaving and poor chicken.

geekyand s b f we will have our results around the same time then. I just cannot wait for that to be over so that i can feel truly pregnant and tell my kids.
angels yes i thought that about the names too.Hopefully many are just too busy or too sick to post but i aggree its been a long time for honey witch,such a shame.
I am definately regrtting my lunchtime binge now am a walking bag of burps and farts and so thirsty from the curry but no room in tummmy for liquid.Pssst DH has been home a while and there is no tea as i went to a friends after school and she fed Ella and i am full so havent cooked.He is playing cool but has been walking around the kitchen picking at biscuits and fruit and has checked the oven and microwave. Is now looking a bit forlorn and yes frankly confused.

Sorry to hear some bad news from some of you hope the rest of you are bearing up!

I'm starting to feel less tired and sick (or might have just had a good couple of days). Went to my first LLL meeting today, it was really good and apparently there is a lady that goes that tandem feeds so I really hope she'll be at the next meeting!

Hi everyone, we are back from holiday having had a fab time!

Have to admit that i haven't had time to read all this new thread, the last two weeks at school are chaotic.. sports day, school trips, visits to next years class etc. Plus Dd1 is crawling!!!!

Feel a bit out of date with how everyone is doing. Hope all well.

Went to gp this week to tell him that i'm expecting and to get referred for a CVS so hopefully will hear from them soon with an appt for week 11, still fingers crossed all is well by then.

Feel nauseous and knackered, but i suppose that is to be expected! My boobs feel like they do when your milk come in...ouch!!

Told some of my close friends and they think we're barmy having 4, but they say it with a smile as they know it is exactly what we want.

Take care all, will be back to update soon.
xxx

ledkr at your poor hungry DH

sweetnitanitro I'm interested to know any titbits of experience from anyone with tandem bf experience so please share...although at my first mw appointment yesterday I was asked if I was planning to wean DD before DC2 is born - my answer was 'if it suits us, but not if we are both happy to carry on our bf relationship' she didn't have anything to say about that!

Oh it was such a joy to read all the posts about DH/DPs! I really thought I was alone with all my gripes and moans about my DH, thought I was a very unreasonable wifey indeed! I laughed so much about table manners, eating too much, drinking when I have to stay sober, promising to clean and never following through. Men eh!! My DH has a list of things that annoy me a mile long but he gives the best back tickles ever and while I can still lie on my tummy I'm getting them every nite and that makes up for all his foibles

smallblackflowers have you read that tandem feeding book? I got mine a week ago and it's really good! Lots of pics so you can figure out logistics too . My MW was v open minded and curious about tandem feeding, she didn't know much about it but was supportive about me wanting to carry on. Think I've struck lucky yet again in the MW stakes!

Dear everyone

Thank you for all your kind thoughts. As you'll have guessed - it's bad news, a missed mc. The scan said that little one died at 8 weeks and my body is only now starting to catch up.

The main thing is that now I know we can conceive naturally, and I have so enjoyed being pregnant and all the excitement, and I would rather have had the happiness and the disappointment than nothing. Keep your fingers crossed for us for another time.

Meanwhile I have 7 siamese kittens to look after.

Best wishes to you all and I hope I am the last to leave this thread.

Sorry to hear that honeywitch, but you are right, you know it can be done, and that's something!
For now, enjoy the kittens! and good luck soon.

Gutted for you honey w. Well done for looking at the positives ie that you can conceive. There are some great mc threads on here I hope that helps. very best wishes to you both x

Sorry to hear your news Honeywitch, great to know you can concieve though and do hope you're back on ante-natal threads soon, all the very best x

Sorry too for what you went through GinaFB, I can barely imagine that but realise there is the potential for us all to have to face it. What an incredibly brave decision. Sorry too for your chicken I don't know what I would do if faced with that decision. If my blood comes back with a high risk factor then I will go for amniocentisis. What is CVS? Sorry to be thick here, this is all new to me. I went for my booking in appt today and had my bloods taken for rubella etc then shall have bloods taken in week 16 for DS & Spina Bifida, I'll take it from there. I'm well aware that there is a good chance of me being higher risk simply down to my age though I feel fit and consider myself to be very lucky with my health. Discovered that the Nuchal scan is private here & costs £270! It simply isn't an option for us. As midwife pointed out though, both nuchal scan and bloods lead to the same choice / next stage of amniocentisis so I'll see what the bloods say. I'll join everyone else in saying best of luck with scans everyone, let's hope none of us have a difficult decision to make. I've been told my 12 week scan will be between 12-14 weeks so just waiting to hear now.

Still feeling nauseous & eating to combat (god help me) I've virtually put on a whole stone!! Will try the Marmite as I have some in the house. My sister is a Marmite addict as was my dad so the potential is there!

X

So sorry honey, exactly the same thing happended to me in March and now 9 weeks pregnant, got pregnant straight after I had my first period post miscarriage. Good luck! Eat well and sleep well as your body needs healing.

X

Honey I'm so sorry. x

Knittakid whats an "early perg. meeting", do your MWs get all the preg ladies together, that would be so good to meet local expecting mums, I doubt I'll got to antenatal classes this time as I know I'm having another section so don't know how I will meet any new mums to play with; of course we all have each other on here to talk to which is awesome but would be nice to make some less virtual friends.

So sorry about Doris and fingers toes crossed that the other girls don't catch it.