February 2011 Babies: Where only us and a select few know.....

[KnitterNotTwitter]

Just starting up the new thread in anti-natal groups. Will cross post with the old thread and updated the stats in a moment!!

nic yeah I know how you feel. I'm on the max dose for cyclizine, and, although I keep wanting to lower the dose, I keep feeling rubbish, which worries me about how much worse it will be with less meds.

Makes me drowsy too, although not as bad as the avomine I was initially on (but didn't help). I find it really hard to function normally and have to have at least 1 nap a day!! Apparently that's suppose to wear off once your body gets used to them, although I've been on these for about 2 weeks, and another drug the week before that, so you'd think it would have by now!

girlafraid hey - sorry to hear you've had a nasty scare... but good to hear it was only that

ledkr my DH breathes in a very annoying way too - I find smothering him with a pillow stop that... only kidding.... seriously, only kidding - don't wany you on the news saying "knitter made me do it!"

Re: the food can you get an old icecream box of something and write "LEDKR's special cravings /morning sickness food" on it so he knows what is out of bounds? Or you could try waking him in the night and saying you've got a really bad craving for X (X is the food that he's just finished) and will he go down to the shops and get you some as you're feeling awful but are sure that will help....

And as for cereal in bed that is just gross - can you accidentally do one of those involuntary twitches that send cereal cascading down his pyjamas? DH is very strict on the no eating in bed rule so I'm lucky there - sadly he isn't as strict on the 'no farting in bed' rule....

lol at ledkr. I get driven insane by how my DH eats. He has the worst table manners imaginable at at the best of nonpregnant states he can make me feel ill how he shovels food in and makes such a mess.

Since being pregnant I can't face sitting in the same room as him when he eats - it makes me feel ill and the bad table manners get me really cross.

We had a discussion last night where he moaned at me asking him to keep his fork the right way around to eat his dinner rather than his usual shovel method. I got told if he ate like that he'd have to eat one pea at a time and seemed to think the whole idea utterly ridicuous.

I told him it might do him some good to eat one pea at a time as he'd eat more slowly. arrggghhhhh, drives me insane!!

Oh i am so glad its not just me,he has always been greedy but food is so expensive now and he eats so much.The other day a jacket potatoe for lunch.In it went cottage cheese(mine)cheese,whole tin of tuna i mean really that is excessive,will also take half a loaf of bread and tin of tuna and beans to work along with half the fruit bowl. I said that if he made a few sarnies it wouldnt use all of that.He will drink juice by the carton and the leftover thing is nauseating i seriously think its an eating disorder-he is very fit and not at all fat-but when we visit his family(all thin)i noticed that there is no rules on food consumption like i have always had for my kids,bowl after bowl of cereal and last time mil had done chilli rice jacet spuds and shepherds pie all with garlic bread and salad etc. when asking everyone what they wanted everyone was choosing s pie or chilli and him and his bro said "a bit of everything"and got it.
I like the waking him up for things yes.I may make a special box of goodies too with a skull and cross bones on it.He will be home soon i will go and hide my lovely new lotus biscuits they are very good for ms you sufferers

angels..my dad wont eat peas as they "take him too long" it is a long standing family joke.

Ledkr fancy swapping for a few weeks? Mine does F-all round the house, has never put a load of washing on, never cooked me a meal, never done any housework. He does the shopping with me and DD but that's it. Even now I am feeling sick a lot of the time he doesn't help with the cooking- nearly every night I cook tea but cannot eat it, he just ignores me. Grrrr. However the cereal in bed thing would drive me MAD!!

Haha you lot are so funny chatting about your husbands/partners! But seriously, poor you debka - that's awful to have someone so unsupportive!! Think he needs a kick up the backside!

As for eating cereal in bed - haha, sorry guys but that's our Sunday morning thing, breakfast in bed with the telly on. (well it used to be before the ms started!) And my husbands isn't the most careful of eaters either but if it's over his side i don't care too much!

I can't complain about mine really, maybe it's because this is our first experience of pregnancy?!? He's very good at helping around the house, cooking my meals, going shopping for whatever I need. He's banned me from picking up the vacuum cleaner out of the cupboard... and if he gest it out i can only vacuum downstairs! I'm not allowed to carry it upstairs! He's banned me from cleaning the bathroom because of all the chemicals in cleaning products (we don't have marigolds else I'd have no excuse) so all in all, he's not at all bad. If he didn't help out at all, or was really unsupportive, I think I'd have serious words with him, failing that the pillow idea sounds good, and quite effective!!! ;) Men just don't get it tho I don't think. There'd definitely be an unspoken one child rule in the UK (tho not law) if men had babies, one iota of a niggle or pain and that'd be it! I mean, if they're that bad with a cold that they call if flu think how they'd be with pregnancy and child birth!!!

my DH is pretty good at general tidying although he does have several 'blind spots':
1, clothes on the bedroom floor
2, leaves his wallet and stuff on the dining table every evening despite giving me a lecture about taking my handbag upstairs and not leaving it on the dining table
3, has recently said we don't need the cleaner any more to save money. We got the cleaner when DS was 5 months old and DH went to Afghanistan for 6 months with the RAF. We kept her when he came back and I went back to work. The deal is now that we're supposed to spend one evening a week together cleaning - obviously the house hasn't been cleaned since the cleaner left... I refuse to crack and be the one to start cleaning as that will set a precident - we need to do it toghether as it was his bloomin' idea...
4, He is forever leaving glasses and mugs round the house - doesn't seem to see them - very annoying....

Yeah have to say he is doing nearly everything at the mo, what do you do with a lazy arse tho? problem is he is used to it now as he been doing it for ages. My friend has one the same just sits in his chair like a king. She even does the gardening and decorating. Debka i reckon you should stamp your foot a bit. Men are like toddlers really. I used to have a lazy husband but i tricked him into doing stuff eg "i havent got time to wash the kitchen floor and put the washing away if i do the washing could you do the floor"tell him you need the help now and more so when you got 2 dc i would go as far as to say you will not be cooking if he doesnt help.My dh is good but sometimes if i think he is taking the p i take dd for a meal out and dont cook or mention dinner which spins him out cos i do the cooking and he can only make pasta or chilli con carne.He doesnt say anything just has a look around for dinner then cooks his own solemly. He will be back soon i wonder how nice i can be. I have made a sign to put on my door which says "NO EATING BEYOND THIS POINT"he will find that funny.Am i being hypocritical tho cos i have tea and couple of biscuits in bed in the morn as feel so sick

Knitter i am not allowed my cleaner anymore either.I think its a money thing with him which is odd as i paid her.I was a single parent when we met i had a fast car and a cleaner i now have a boring diesal and a dirty house.I have in fact re sceduled my lovely friend to start again in september and continue as long as i wish. I f he moans i will be telling him to mind his own business and cancell sky sports to save the cleaning money hahaha

I used to have a cleaner before I met dh but with him came uni and travelling debt and the cleaner had to go I miss her! I neevr dreamed I would go backwards in how much money I had but I def had more as a full time vet nurse at 17 than I do now as a full time mum and childminder, it sucks.

Ledkr, you say you are newlyweds - could it be postwedding blues? I know I got them, everything just made me think why the hell did I marry this man? But despite the fact he annoys me from time to time I couldn't think about not being with him now.

for another loss on this thread.

which loss/have i missed one or was it chocolate

No, sorry for the worry, I was referring Chocolate.

the only thing about this thread is the losses its inevitable i suppose but really really sad when they dont post and you kind of know its not good and i keep imagining how horrid they feel cos can remember my mc.Having a negative day today esp when you hear of people having later mc and you realise the magic 12 wks isnt really all that magic.Early night for me girls. Bit of crap tv and some popcorn what do you think? Will check up on you all from my i phone but cant post as i have eyes and not binoculars in my head.Have a nice evening everyone and hope you poorly ones are feeling a bit better

Hi, realise after quick read that it has been donkeys since my last post, just wanted to have a quick wave, and say all good here so far, apart from awful sickness but I am sure I have complained enough about this! Still searching for my always will make you feel better food!!!
PS Have great dh but after 12 years of marriage and 18 years together he bloody better be, still does this incessant drumming of fingers, constantly singing habit, very annoying but now that it has made an appearance in my 5 year old dd mannerisms sort of endearing

I never iron, hoover or drive on motorways - DH does it all But I do most of the cooking and earn (slightly) more than him, so I guess it all evens out over the course of time. Oh, and I am Chief Bathroom Cleaner.

Irritations with OH

1. Xbox time which can waste hours in the day when DD at nursery and there is so much needing done around the house or in the evening when there could be oh, like time together instead! 2. Eating junk 3. Smoking grrrrrrrr 4. Saying he'll quit smoking for the last 5 years and not 5. Horrendous table manners, shovels his food in like some sort of animal! 6. Contemporary jazz music, god help me.. 7. Drumming (but then he is a drummer) 8. Returning from 3 weeks of work to expect 3 weeks "off" 9. Being next to useless at anything remotely diy, it will be so botched I literally have to save the place from devastation & just do it myself 10. His tidying up technique involves lots of random piles of things, he IS chaos

He too is inherently lazy at home though I quite simply ask him to do things now. He does cook though and does have some good points! I feel better for getting that lot off my chest!

Sorry to hear your news Chocolate, take care of yourself & hopefully see you back on another thread.

Sad to see people leave our club, I'm thinking of Mrs Teapot, not been here for ages & her posts always raised a smile. Hope she's ok.

Take care all x

Wow earlgrey - a list of ten irritations is pretty impressive, even if most of them are rather tame! I probably won't complain about newdad as he'll just read this anyway, but he's generally been very good and has been trying to help out more around the house.

And congratulations debka! It's so sweet when you see them looking all human and wriggly

Hi All!

Been catching up and giggling at everyones gripes with DPs!! I'm engaged to be married in August but can still join in!!! We had a "discussion" last night after I raised my eyebrow when, after 2 peronis, he then returned from the kitchen with a vodka lemonade! Not sure if I'm being unreasonable but I exclaimed he must be an undercover alcoholic (I know I know I blame the hormones!) and I just hadn't noticed because I was drinking the same! I then made him pour it away!

But on a serious note I bought him 6 peronis as I don't like beer so don't feel envious when/if he drinks it. But watching him drink vodka/lemonade in our nice glasses with ice and lemon - now that's when I feel !! So he's agreed to cut down now - do you think I was being harsh?

This thread/support group is great

My dh has not been drinking as I am normally the instigator for that but we going out sat and I am not really looking forward to it. no drink or cheeky cig booooring! Might not go. Girls I think the fatigue has lessened which is really nice. I expect by tonight I will read something sinister into it? does anyone have their nucal scan booked yet? Mine is the 28th am I the first? would be nice to chat to other people with this looming

Ahem, I know, a list of 10 seems slightly deranged! I am VERY hormonal right now!!! Got booking in appointment this morning so hopefully will get an idea of when the scan will be and what is what here with the nuchal scan. Have a great day

To alleviate ms - try marmite! It really helps me (but I love marmite anyway, probs not the best suggestion for everyone). Think it's something to do with the B vitamins, stops you from feeling so sick. Great on toast, crackerbread or even just to sniff

Lulabel - I don't think you were being harsh, I think I would kill my DH if he were to start drinking in front of me, especially if it was something I loved. We're not in the habit of keeping alcohol in the house anyway, so he hasn't been drinking either, which makes it much easier for me.

ledkr - I think the nuchal scan is included in my 12 week scan (at least I think that's what the midwife said), which is the 27th. I've not thought much about that bit, to be honest, I've been more concerned with the baby being OK and alive.

The complaints about your OHs are making me feel better! I know I'm being unreasonable but the way he breathes and smells is driving me crazy now (my sense of smell is really sensitive now). He's been a saint with the housework and cooking though - he insists I'm giving off pheromones that make him want to do all the housework. No complaints from me!

Of course . Am naturally concerned about the baby being ok and alive! But at 43 with family member with ds Im afraid its difficult not to be concerned re up coming screening tests does ds not come under the ''ok'' categorie? I find people on this thread very supportive normally which is why I asked. with so many of us on here there will be many who need support through screening in the coming months. Let's hope we can be supportive and non judgemental

ledkr - I hope my post didn't sound judgemental, as that's not the way I intended it at all. I've been so focused on fearing a missed miscarriage that I haven't thought much about the possibility of a developmental problem. I think we all just want our babies to be healthy, whatever that means to us. I do hope no one will be judgemental, as this is such a difficult topic.