July 2010: Still getting bigger, gone are the days when we had a figure

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July is getting closer and we're all still gabbing. Feel free to join in

becky have to see a neurologist every 6 months, got a very complicated medical history, but as ive had to come off my medications while pregnant things are presenting that he hasnt seen b4 so they just want to do another mri as its been 2 years to check all is ok one of the things is a degenerative desease they seem to have stopped in its tracks so its just a case of putting a stop to things b4 they ravage my body!
on subject of babies skin being sensitive as mlic just pointed out my friend had a baby a few months ago and they said after an initial top and tail with water only they tell you not to wash baby again for a week as it removes the lanoline from their skin!
ive just gone to tesco at ths time to get custard slices and cornettos!! but in my defence neurologist said as i havent put on much weight he thinks i should have a daily pack of slices but on downside i have a nasty large scar on my hip and ive seen the start of a couple of stretch marks around it!!!

Hi all
Had a really nice day - dd slept late - I slept well, spent the morning sorting out the house with dd - I know people who have nice, clean tidy houses and have toddlers, I have no idea how they do it - I tidied the toys in dd's room then moved onto the clothes she'd chucked everywhere yesterday, as I was sorting the clothes she was throwing toys down the stairs, then when the clothes were done she decided the drawers would make a great train, so she got them all out, thew a few out to make room and proceeded to pretend to drive around her once again chaotic room!

Anyway my mum and stepdad are both teachers as well and we went over to there house and dd had a lovely afternoon playing with Nana and Grumpa in their huge lovely garden.

Been thinking about when dd was newborn - it was so special - she was this tiny little creature that I really didn't know at all - now she is such a proper little person - chatting away - it feels like they are babes forever then all of a sudden you realise they are really growing up fast.

becky sorry your dad is giving you a hard time - not what you need at the moment - I'm sure he is worried about change, not being able to imagine how it will all play out - but that is life really and having Aspergers doesn't stop you knowing right from wrong - tis the alcohol that makes that confusing, really don't blame yourself for this trip of the wagon. Hope he sobers up soon.

anisfers sounds like you've had a tough day - take it easy.

Anyway should get off to bed really, though baby is uber wriggly atm, seems to be most active this time of night - going to farm park tomorrow - hoping the weather stays, haven't seen the forcast yet.

Mylife What, dont use non bio to wash the baby clothes? Just water? I wish I had a washing line, it had to come down for the conservatory, ill have to peg them onto the clothes horse! My carpet is being done in the babies room tomorrow so will be able to move stuff in properly after that, hurrah!! then I can wash the clothes coz i will have somewhere to put them! Cant wait.

becky Ur last day sounds fab, how generous they have been. Still gagging to finish but managing to tolererate it so far.

I have been catching up with the last few days posts and its all been very interesting. I agree with not lending any money....ever, hard to say No at the time but much easier in the long run. And all the family issues especially where alcohol is concerned. DH's brother has a problem and has been in and out of rehab, i dont know if anyone remembers a while back when DH's dad died and all the malarkey that went on. Its so hard and such a sad situation, according to DH he has no brother now, how really sad.

Regarding pregnancy,DH and I had been trying for 5 and a half years for this baby and eventually got lucky with IUI. Now u would think i would treasure every moment, but i have not found things easy, i have not suffered anything like some of the ailements that some of you guys have, but have suffered hideous anxiety and intense mental anguish that there is something wrong or going to go wrong. I have got over it loads over the last few months, it seems my logical brain has taken over again thank god. All Im trying to say is that for very different reasons it is different for everyone and I can tell you I have found you guys invaluable to be able to moan and groan to and for the fact that you have been really understanding and have made me feel better, its certainly not all doom and gloom, its amazing and wonderfull, but how nice is it to let off steam and not be judged for it. Thanks guys xxx

viksam so glad you are feeling better - we tried for 3 years after a miscarriage for dd - the first two trimesters of that pregnancy were just awful - can totally relate to feeling high anxiety - then I sort of realised that actually it was probably going to be alright after all. Hearing her first cry was the most intense feeling of relief - felt I could breath again after that.

Going to be hot tomorrow ladies

what a manic night at our house, phone didnt stop so just getting a chance to read up. Nothing exciting lol

memphis is the neurologist concerned by anything in particular or just wanting an overhaul after baby is here?

becky i must admit thats one thing bout the hospital i am not looking to is the roasting wards. I know it has to be a certain temp for the babies but for goodness sake it will be the height of summer lol. Your right bout remembering the support from al anon, i'm not religeous but found the serenity prayer very comforting when dealing with the alcoholism. Your dad will be gutted with himself

wonder glad you feel better. Your so right bout watching lo grow from a wee baby to little person, think it gives parents a sense of pride and achievement that we helped them get to that stage. Enjoy your day out today

anifers sounds like a hard day hun, are you busy again today? Or getting to relax?

viksam you are right bout this thread being helpful and supportive, think its made the pregnancy seem quicker. When do you finish up work? You must be glad that everything is nearly sorted in the house. Sad for dh bout his brother but sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind and even though its hard to shut the person out it may be necessary for your dh sanity.

kk are you away tonight? Hope you have loads of treatments and relax. My friends going to do treatments for me next week. I can't wait lol

mlic hows things been with you? X

Morning all,
I will be washing all of babies clothes, got my fairy non-bio washing tablets all ready!

Its going to be a really sunny and hot day today here, going out for a walk with my mum a bit later. I cant walk as far nowadays, my feet really start to ache from carrying around my heavy load!

Really looking forward to getting LO's room sorted this weekend, we're going to Argos tomoro to buy drawers to put all his little clothes, nappies, wipes etc in and do a general tidy up of the room as everything is just on the floor!

Hope everyone has a lovely day today

dh if you have an ikea near you I would suggest you go there, they do a lovely white set with panels at the fron for only £40, the drawers are very deep, plenty room for lo's stuff.

I didnt sleep well at all last night was totally roasting, think I will try to have a nap then do the rest of the washing. All lo's things are done, just to be ironed which my aunt is going to do for me yay lol

whats everyone else up to today? xxx

LOL Mylife see how easy it is to get the wrong end of the stick, i thought it was a bit weird, haha!!
Wonder After my twelve week scan I felt huge relief but anxiety soon built up again so i can easily imagine i will be in bits for ages when the baby finally comes and i can see its well and healthy.
Stac I have another two weeks at work, seems like ages but im sure it will go quick.
Ur so right about DH sanity, its just a necessary evil, its just such a shame that he has no Dad and no brother to share the baby with, he dearly wishes his Dad had stayed here long enough to meet the baby, I cant compensate for this one at all.
I didnt see that white pannelled unit from Ikea, was that under nursery furniture?
DH Ur weekend sounds ace getting everything sorted and washing all the clothes. Im dying to do that. Im so going to resent going to work this weekend, i will just want to be doing what ur doing!!

wonder that was so nice to read about the tiny baby growing into a little person i cant wait for all this to happen, dh is always saying things about his 1st quad, push bike losing a tooth etc and i keep telling him to slow doen and enjoy our baby 1st not to make him grow up too fast!
stac i kept looking at my knee movement which he hasnt really done b4 i trust him so i dont ask questions, b4 i met this doc, i was in a wheelchair or using walking stci andthey said i wouldnt have a baby, abd he changed my life so i ownt ask until after brain scan, bless him he was very excited about the baby and said he wanted me to take him to my next appointment!
im spending the day just relaxing, im going to mums tomorrow while dh finishes the shed (at last) and clears garden of everything so hopefully by the time i get home i will have garden back!
feel for you ladies with a hot house today, my house is luckily cool

stac our nearest Ikea is about a 2 hour drive and dont think I can face it. The drawers Im getting are those solid plastic ones as they are so useful for storage and will last a long time.

viksam thats annoying that you've got to work! The time will come for you to wash all the little clothes Im sure it wont be long after our LO's are born when we are complaining about the amount of washing!

DH Thats the kind of draws that I have but in a wooden unit, very practical i think.
Yes my time will come........soon I hope!!
DH U get BH dont you, i have been feeling something a kin to very mild period pain type belly ache last night and a little this morning, im not alarmed but just wondered if it may be BH. Belly doesnt feel any different that i can tell though. Weird.

Morning all - lovely out! And no traffic on the M25 or M4 this morning, so a lovely quick drive into work. PLUS it's Friday! Only seven weeks until my last day - if I make it that far!

memphis I've only got stretch marks around my appendix scar too. I had adhesions there to start with too, which were really painful up until about 17 weeks when there was this almighty ripping sensation which left me in agony for about half an hour and it's been fine ever since, so whatever was adhered obviously isn't adhered anymore

Stac - I'm busy pretty much every day - it's just the nature of production - always scripts and designs and animation coming through. It's more chilled working for a broadcaster - when I was working as supervising producer it was pretty much 24/7 - this is way easier than that, but it remains relentless. But I can't complain - I've worked for years to get to where I am, it's all I've ever wanted to do and I love it

LOL - I washed all the clothes we have for LO but buggered if I'm going to iron anything!

anifers I'm with you on the ironing ha! I washed all my sleep vests etc.but can't be bothered ironing them. I haven't bought much else but my mum has bought tons of outfits and ironed them. She'll bring down when baby gets here. I work in the media industry too although I'm a freelance journo. I did used to work in TV news production years ago.

I definitely agree with wonder and viksam on the anxiety thing. As we had a miscarriage last year, the first three months of this pregnancy were lived in absolute terror. One of the consequencs of a mc or having difficulting in conceiving is that on top of grief for your lost child, you are robbed of the job of your next pregnancy which normal healthy pregnancies can take for granted.
However, I have to say that the 20 week scan was the second most joyful day of my life (after my wedding) and I have been pretty much over the moon happy ever since - (in between bouts of severe pain!).
I now feel more happy and content than I ever have and just can't wait to meet my little girl. That makes me feel teary just writing that especially when I remember the utter horror of having a bleed at ten weeks this time and I swear I didn't breathe again until I was scanned at the hospital and knew everything was going to be ok.

35 weeks today!

Hope you are all enjoying this perfect weather.

anifers glad im not the only one with the marks around the scar! wow 7 weeks of work, ive just realised even if i go over i will definatly be a mummy when you finish work eeek!!! how long are you having off work for maternity leave?

memphis - So exciting! I hope everyone can stay on here for a bit at least so we can compare new baby stories I'm fully expecting my LO to be late - kind of counting on it, so I expect all your babies will be here before my arrival!

I'm only able to take 3 months leave (another reason why I'm leaving my mat leave so very late) I changed jobs when already pregnant, which was totally the right thing to do for my career and my pregnancy, but means I only get the £120 a week mat allowance, which won't be enough to pay the bills. BUT, as I earn quite a bit more than my DH he's going to take a 3 month sabbatical once I go back to work in November, so LO will have one of us at home until she's 6 months and it'll also be wonderful for DH - he's really looking forward to having the special time with her. He's a composer and has decided he's going to teach her to play the piano, even though she'll only be 3 months old and barely able to sit up...

kapars - missed your post before! I think I've been very similar to you. Changing jobs at 3 months pregnant was way stressful, but also kept my mind off things a bit. I was still losing weight and didn't feel any movement until about 20 weeks, and I didn't get my scan until 22 weeks. I think when I finally got some movements I started to relax a bit, but the scan was what lifted all the stress and it was a blissful feeling and a wonderful wonderful day (until I got an evil email from the wife of a friend of my husband's saying 'just found out you're pregnant, well, I can't tell you it's all going to be wonderful.' Why do people feel the need to do that?)

Since the scan I've been utterly blissed out. just enjoying the pregnancy, enjoying my new job, enjoying the sunshine... (Not enjoying maternity jeans, that make you look like you're wearing a nappy.)

anifers im the opposite, im always early for everything and so impatient so im hoping LO will be the same as me and make an early arrival! will be lovely for your dh to have 3 months with her, im planning on going back 2 days a week as soon as i can, i work for my mum so days i work she doesnt so it will be perfect nanny time! what a horrid email, of course it wont all be wonderful its like everything in life there will be tough times as well as good, ive had such a rough pregnancy but recently i love it! i laughed at you dh wanting to teach lo the piano, i swear my dh thinks our boy will be riding a motorcross bike by 6 months, he has just ordered baby ear defenders for when we take him to bike race days!
just gone to buy my dads fathers day card just so its done and got dh a lovely card saying to the soon to be daddy!!! (still hoping there is a chance i wont be using it and will end up buying a 1st fathers day card!!)

viksam they were in bedroom storage, we have them in beech but they have discontinued that colour so I didnt get them for lo I had to get a drawer set at £45 but still reasonable. I know how dh feels, for every big event in my life I am constantly missing my mum, especially with the kids. She would have made a better gran than mum lol

dh some ikea's do online deliveries hun, I like ikea because they are built to last

memphis aww thats lovely a soon to be daddys card, I'l have to look out for one of them. Thats lovely you have a good relationship with your cons and good you can trust him hun. Loving the baby ear defenders for lo, may be i should get some protect dd from ds and his friends lmao

anifers I must say I wish I had your energy, I did with my first and worked up till 2 weeks before my due date as at the time maternity leave was only about 5 months altogether. That is such a rude e-mail, everyone is different this thread proves that lol. Hate maternity jeans too, I have a huge belly and a lack of ass so even bloody leggings sag haha

kapars I have enjoyed this pregnancy more as I knew more about what to expect and would have loved it more if it hadnt been for the aches and pains

stac its tomorrow morning we're goin away.its a bank holiday here this weekend so home monday eve! make sure your friend gives you a leg massage it'l be great for all the extra fluid in your legs and hopefully make them feel lighter.i dont have the swollen legs all the time only when its hot and im busy with work as im on my feet all the time.
memphis do you really think lo could be here by fathers day?! my god that'd be brill! suppose if i go early my one could be here too!
36 weeks today!!! dp is getting so nervous and he's really scared and thinks i could go any minute! he was asking last night am i sure i feel ok for going away! and he reckons as soon as baby is engaged thats it we're gonna have it straight away and thats the feeling he has! bless him! pretty busy with work today and have been all week and its gonna be like this for next 2 weeks as everyone is getting their last hairdo's before i go! only taking a couple of weeks off though because i'l end up losing all my clients if i dont go back very soon after. feeling verrrrrrry tired though so its starting to take its toll!

kk i only think he could be here if the induce me i get the docs decision on that next wednesday, but everyone else thinks i will go early, plus im certain im 2 weeks further than they say! my dh is the same thinks now im engaged it will be any day, i got a pain like i had been kicked in my bits with a stiletto yesterday and doubled over he came running over saying shall i call hospital!! (this happens daily) he isnt nervous just very excited was talking to my belly telling him to come out mow because hes desperate to meet him!!
my baby brain is getting bad ive got a wedding next week, realised i havent booked my hair appointment and cant get in anywhere on morning of wedding!! my hairdresser only works saturdays as shes just had twins and my 2 friends who cut hair are going to wedding too so they cant do it!!!

memphis I actually have the attitude that it definitely won't be easy, but there's no reason why it can't all be wonderful - it's just how you approach things. the most unpleasant nappy in the middle of the night after days of no sleep can be wonderful if you think try and think of it in terms of being part of an overall wonderful experience.

And ooh - I didn't realise there were 'soon to be daddy' cards - that's making me well up at the thought of my DH's face when I present him with one thanks for the tip!

LO has gone transverse again and has major hiccups -it feels like she's got a load of coathangers in there with her! I'm squirming and wriggling in my seat trying to find a comfy position, I must look like a nutter

Hi Girls! It's all happening isn't it? I have 3 and a bit weeks left till the elective and part of me can not wait, part of me is in denial I guess! Because my DD is 5 years old we already "did" the baby thing and can kind of lead a normal life now. So going back into the whole sleepless nights, 2 naps a day, attending to every sound, breastfeeding every couple of hours etc.... is a little scary. But so wonderful at the same time. We called each other pandas just after DD was born. Because that's how we looked! I wonder if it will be the same, better or worse, because we have two! Sorry for long post. All you first time mums - don't mean to freak you out You will just get on with it!

Very excited as found some Marine Ices in a local shop - yum! Also got cherries, raspberries and Canteloupe Melon, which I am crazy about at the moment. And I don't have to cook! DH is bringing some chinese from Chinatown. I have this plain fried white fish and chilli that I like with plain rice. I hope everyone is enjoying this beautiful sunshine today.

anifers i totally agree with you i feel very ready to be a mum, a friend of mine had baby 8 months ago, she was all sweetness throughout pregnancy and when reality hit that it isnt all frilly dresses her status's on facebook and in texts changed to horror child, baby for sale! i didnt realise there were daddy to be cards either, man in local card shop pointed it out while i was in there!!

viksam my belly goes really hard, its uncomfy but not painful, would be worth mentioning to mw though. I do get mild period pains every now and then but not usually at the same time as belly going hard.

stac yeah we have an ikea coffee table which is looovely! He has a built in wardrobe in his room so just need some drawers for storage. Maybe when hes older and needs something more durable I could get it from ikea and then use these drawers for toys. I will find a use for the argos drawers somewhere!

anifers you must be working almost right up to your due date if you've still got 7 weeks left at work??

Im getting DP a fathers day card as he got me a mothers day card (albeit after I asked him if he was )

Had a really nice day today, had a walk round town but realised I cant walk very far at all nowadays, bump feels uncomfy and I can only walk slowly too. Spent all afternoon in my mum's garden in the sunshine where LO got hiccups for the second time today lol.