July 2010: Still getting bigger, gone are the days when we had a figure

[stac14]

July is getting closer and we're all still gabbing. Feel free to join in

mlic is iron levels at 11 low? mine are 12.2 which my mw said is brilliant and she said she wouldnt worry unless it dropped below 8.5!!! am agreeing with you stac and wonder about wanting to be me again, cant waith to be pushing LO in pushchair rather than pushing his feet out of my ribs

I see those childbirth stats Anis and thank the lord we have access to contraceptive - keep thinking of poor women having to go through numerous, not really wanted pregnancies. Woman in the queue for the bus the other day was cooing over dd - then told me her dd was with her mother, in Thailand and she hadn't seen her for 14 years - she was sending money back to send her to school - that made me grateful for all I have.

Anyway have now recovered from dd scarring the bejesus out of me - dh came home and was such a total star, had dd make tea with him, let me just chill most of the evening - he has been so fantastic all through this pregnancy and I have been a total nightmare - I am so lucky (as is he obv.) Just had a much needed glass of Baileys.

This child is trying to get out sideways tonight I'm sure - dd used to kick her foot out under my ribs (foot felt really familiar when she was born - I really recognised its shape) but this baby is pushing out right in the middle of my tummy - is like a scene from Alien - I think its his bottom sticking out.

Thanks for the support everyone, sorry I couldnt reply last night, DP was next to me on the sofa and didnt want to chance him seeing it, dont think he'd be very pleased about me discussing his mum on here!

Im going to the zoo today with my sister, her kids and my grandma its a really lovely day today, will even have to crack out the sun cream!
I went to the park yesterday and found a quiet spot with no one else around to sit and read my book, then got plagued by chavs so I had to move and sit by the pond. Why do they have to spoil everything?

Hope everyone else has a nice day.

lol DH i didn't want my dh to see what i had written either! would just be hurtful i think! Have fun at the zoo

wonder glad you were well looked after last night and have rested well- its amazing how tired a fright can make you!
I think my LO is moving from transverse to head down as getting what feels like a headbut in left side of pelvis and bum sticking out around bellybutton (sticks right out and moves my whole tummy!) and feet under ribs on right side. Yes can understand the reference to an alien!

After having a moan about MIL last night i'm now on to moan about my dad! Just really need to get the thoughts out as i'm upset- He is a "sober" alcoholic and has been living a stable life for a few years now (minus the odd weekend binge every 4 or 5 months). I have been his main carer since he and my mum split 10 years ago however we have an agreement that he does not come near me when he's drunk! 2 years ago he was diagnosed with aspergers - was a huge relief for me as i never understood why he needed so much support to manage basic daily tasks! It has helped me understand why he is the way he is! He has been really excited about this baby and becoming a granddad, and been a wonderful practical support to me throughout pregnancy- comes and walks the dog, does the garden and brings in basic shopping when i ask! He has also been a great finanical support too. However he has been off the radar for 2 weeks and i knew he was away on a binge. He never contacts me during these times buts lets me know when he's back to normal (has good support through AA). I have expected this TBH, he really doesn't so change easily, so left him too it. This morning he called me -drunk- to see how we all were and make sure baby was ok, i told him i wasn't speaking to him when he was drunk (you know the rules!) and he could call me when he was sober- he then started shouting at me telling me its my fault he's drinking and blaming me for changing everything!
I know he's drunk and will be ashamed of saying it when he is sober but i also know that because of his aspergers its probably how he really feels!

Sorry long post, probably doesn't make much sense- feeling like a confused wee girl today and these hormones aren't helping!

What a great first day off!!!

Becky he is a grown man and you have done all you can as his child! Don't let it bring you down.

mlic i think your right tho point it out at the next app about iron levels, im truely b12 deficiant so had injections weekly and i have pernicious anemia which if not treated can be life threatening but strangly they are both at better levels than they have ever been since being pregnant and its 1st time sincde my teens that i dont need my jabs and iron tablets!
becky poor you try and put it to back of your mind, you seem so strong the way you seem to understand his illness and leave him to it when he lapses i hope he apologises for hurting you when he sobers up!
its lovely and sunny here, legs have been restless all night so didnt sleep much poor dh hardly slept as i fidgeted a lot think i should sleep on sofa tonight as he gets up at 4 its not fair on him, bless him he never moans! got neurologist later hes in for a shock i havent seen him since start of pregnancy!! hope you all have a great day

Thanks jojo and memphis - I know your right! Have lived with the ups and downs for long enough, but he is my dad, i love him! Feel much better now and had a chat with DH who is very supportive Going to sit in the sun and read my book for a while before we head into the maternity for our tour!
I'm powerless over my dads decision making but can make up my own mind to have a good day with DH today

memphis good luck at neurologist, bet his face is a picture when you waddle in

becky my mum was an alcoholic too. You know its all the drink that make them say hurtful stuff and he will be like a wee boy when sobers up which i'm sure happens anytime he has a binge. Did you ever try al anon? It is hard to deal with the patterns but you seem to have worked him out probs better than he knows himself.

memphis hope all good at neurologist hun. You feeling better after fainting?

dh have a fab day, its a great day for it

Well ds has dp's sickness bug, so its gorgeous and i'm stuck in. My sis and aunt have had a huge fight again so sis is away to stay at other aunts house. Seems like a never ending cycle with them since mum died when sis was 8. Anyway, i've not to get stressed as it will be fine, i hope. Get off my high horse now lol. Hope your all well and having a good day x

becky sorry to hear about your dad but congrats on starting your maternity leave!
It's a beautiful day here. Just went for my scan to check if the placenta has moved and it has which is great. Baby is all in the right position although her legs are so long they are to the right which I knew anyway as her little feet keep sticking out which makes me smile.
stac we couldn't see much of her face or anything so she didn't do us a pic this time but it was lovely to know she's all ok.
I looked at my notes and she's estimated at 6 and a half pounds with five weeks to go! I'm seeing the consultant next week to discuss my scan as I dind't have an appointment today - but from you ladies who have already had babies does this mean she is going to be very large?
Anyway, I am very happy and excited to see her properly now.

Also a question on holidays. As the forecast is sunny this summer we are planning a UK holiday in August. Does anyone have any tips on where to take a newborn baby in the UK. I guess we will go to a beach somewhere in the south. She will be between 4 and 8 weeks old I guess depending on when she comes. It's so nice we are having summer babies.

Had another look at notes and she's 82 centile which I figure means she is big!

stac im not feeling great today but i reckon its becaue i slept so much in afternoon i didnt need to sleep last night!! so paying for it now. how old is your sister? im sure it wil all be ok between them in no time!
kapers ive just looked in my baby book and for 35 weeks baby normally weighs 5 and a half pounds. i bet baby has just had a greedy week as for holidays what about center parcs or something simular as everything is in place set up for you like cot, patio, bbq and cooking plus everthing is a walk away, this is what we are considering as then we dont have to take much extra for baby just his sheets and bottle steriliser things, or look on daltons weekly website for a holiday chalet/ cottage

Thanks memphis Yes just looking at Centre Parcs website. Have you been before? Wondering what they are like.

Wonder - that's so adorable what you said about recognising your DD's foot once she was born. That just made me feel a little teary!

Becky - that sounds so tough and i completely imagine how horrible it must have been for you to hear those things. As you say, he was drunk and he's probably expressing feelings of fear for you during your pregnancy and birth and anxiety about being a grandfather, but this really shouldn't be your problem and it must be so upsetting for you.

You sound like you're being really positive about it (god, I'm a cracked record!) You know deep down that he loves you and it's not him talking it's the alcohol, and that this is an illness that he has to deal with and not the real him. Keep your chin up and enjoy the tour of the hospital - sending you good vibes

Stac good on you for not letting stuff stress you too

I've had a killer headache all morning, so have been drinking gallons of water, which means I keep on having to run to the toilet past the frumpy women with the issues. She either blanks me or throws sour looks at me and I have to struggle not to giggle.

kapars my lo is measuring the 97th centile. Your lo still has growing to do so by a guess i'd say bout 9lbs, not massive but a good weight. Glad she's well. Did you not see her face?

memphis she is nearly 21. They assessed her for feotal alcohol syndrome but have said its not that but she has issues. Anyway, thats typical not sleeping after a couple of hours during the day, it does make you worse the next day.

Thanks anifers as you said yesterday we have to try to be positive. The stuff with sis is something we repeatedly have to deal with so used to it. You could have a cpl of paracetamol hun or lie down in a darkened room, hard goin if your in the office.

Let me know how your tour goes becky i've still to book mine x

kapers i havent been b4 been waiting to have a baby to take, i know a lot of people who go every year, 2 of my friends went with small babies last year and recommended i go as it was stress free with a young one, plus eventhough their are shops there you can take food their with you saving a bit of money! i cant wait to go! i only live an hour from the sherwood one.
stac must have been horrible losing your mum, i hope your sister is able to put her issues behind her and carry on with her life, it would be such a shame if she cant and her issues continue to eat her up.
im so bored still got 2 hours til my appointment, ive just put the babygrows in the wash.
has anyone got the dark line down the center of the stomach?? im starting to get one, it looks like i have a fake tan streak on belly!

memphis it was horrible hun but as they say times a great healer. It happened nearly 13yrs ago and while that doesnt change how she feels about it, her issues aren't really bout that.

Soz for boring you all with this, just a pain in the ass that was my first phone call was about her causing havoc again. Thanks for listening. I am bored too, dp has confined me to bed with ds as he is ill and i have huge cankles (love that word wonder describes them very well). I haven't even been to the shops. I have to write a list for dp. X

stac families can be such a pain in the ass by times.you're right to not let it get to you im sure they'l sort it out in time.just focus on you,ds,dp and baby for now.
becky my granny is an alcoholic too.sober for few years supposedly but i reckon she has a slip now and again. she's said some horrible things to people while drunk and horrible stuff about people but she's the nicest person ever when she's sober. its so hard on everybody around them.
memphis they say that line down the belly means its a boy! another old wives tale! i dont have one but i know a girl who did get it!
well i had a crap sleep last night again.awake most of the night so im just exhausted today and busy with work all day. i'l be finished by half 7 and going to try and get all my stuff ready for weekend so i only have to worry about doing my hair and stuff tomorrow night as we have bbq to go to aswell. sex and the city was sooooo funny last night! really enjoyed it! nice girly night out too xx

kapars I've only heard good things about Centreparcs too, plus you can get massages and treatments and things, which I think you'll be deserving by then

memphis I'm getting a very very faint line, but not sure if I'm imagining it. I thought they were supposed to appear much earlier than this.

Thanks for the sympathy stac - unfortunately we have this open door policy here at Disney, which means all the offices have glass walls -nowhere dark to lie down lol. Plus had truck loads to do today. Spent the afternoon hunched over a storyboard and now my ribs are aching like crazy.

Off out with a script-writer tonight to pull his new screenplay apart. I hope he doesn't think that just because I'm pregnant I'll be soft on him, although I'll be a cheaper date than I used to be ;)

anifers my line is faint and if i was a normal colour then you probably wouldnt see it but as im casper the ghost white you can see it.
stac back from neurologist and he kept writing stuff down and mumbling as he poked me he wants an MRI asap but obviously cant have it until baby is here so that is another reason for inducing, i also have carpel tunnel syndrome apparently.
just pegged out all the little baby grows on the line they look so lovely! waiting for dh to come home so we can have cheesey jacket potatoes for tea!!

Geez! what are families like? stac hope your sister sorts herself out soon! Glad to hear your DP put you to bed, you must be needing the rest! are the cankles looking any better?

memphis why you need scan? (sorry if being too nosy). i also have carpal tunnel syndrome (according to GP last week) my hands are really achy, sore and swollen it is worse in mornings it takes ages before i can open my fists and hold things like cup of tea! she said to try sleeping without bending my wrists in- try to keep wrists and fingers straight! apparently physio can give you splints to wear at night which might help? i've been a bit better since trying not to bend wrists!

DH and i had a good day, the trip round the hospital was L-O-N-G and hot! the place is like an oven and they can't open the windows in any of the rooms! Labour rooms have ok air con but wards and halls are hot. Been told to make sure PJs are light cotton for comfort in that heat! didn't get to see the birthing pools as there are only 2 and were both in use!

Dads not been in touch again today, glad about that! Yeh, stac have been to al anon, he was in rehab a few years ago and my brother and i got loads of support through them. Need to bring some of the info back to the front of my head now... i.e. accept the things i cannot change!

KK glad you enjoyed sex in city movie, i really want to go see it but everyone i've spoken to said they were really disappointed in it! Sounds like you have a busy few days ahead of you- enjoy your break away tho

Also, is every one washing all the new baby clothes? I really don't plan on it! i don't wash my new clothes before i wear them so didn't intend on doing baby's

becky you should see it we were laughing out loud a few times! and i wasn't going to wash babies clothes either but took the advise of the lovely ladies on here and did it and had them all out on the line! glad i done it now cos they smell lovely and like a baby! can see im gonna have an obsession with fairy non bio . got very emotional while ironing them all! didn't manage to get my clothes ready this eve as we had to go to football match but i have a break between clients tomorrow that i'll try to get everything done in!