Due March 2010 - "Hello Baby... Goodbye Pelvic Floor"

[Arcadie]

Welcome to the March Preggos. Here's hoping we see nearly 1000 posts before anyone pops!

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henrietta 29 March #4

Dr p didn't help for me staying 3 days in hosp with no 3 but tried to spend 10 mins a day at one of no 3s naps and continue to take him to his regular toddler groups just to reassure him he was still important in my life. TBH whenever I went to toddler grps my baby was always smooched so it left me free to spend a bit of time with no2

I too watched One Born...this morning and second ALL the comments re Steve being an utter knob. I think I would have applied some swift pressure in a certain area which would ensure his baby-making days were over, I'm telling you.

Thought I wouldn't be able to watch it, but was quite gripped by the whole thing! I can cope with the C-section stuff (and actually feel a bit better informed about how the procedure would go, if I had to have one) - it's the natural births which freak me out! Looking forward to seeing the water birth next week actually.

quick catch up with some of the details I can just about remember (!)

Pixie well done to your DD for getting into ballet school! What an achievement, I'm sure she'll love it.

Manda I hope your Dove-model dreams turn to reality - that would be so cool! And, only slightly more importantly, please get better soon too and don't develop pre-eclampsia!!

p&p and mumbot enjoy your last couple of days of preggo-ness and all the very best for the birth-days!

I'm Keeping on Buggering On (did I get your phrase right, designerbaby??) and slowly feeling a bit more like myself these days. I'm getting a bit more energy back, although my head continues to spin like I've just got off a very fast and spinny fairground ride. All. The. Time. It's getting annoying. Not least because it's preventing me from driving and I really like my independence, being able to nip out to the shops etc at will...not to mention the fact I'll want to take New Baby out and about, meet people, go to the library etc etc. At this rate, I'll be walking her the length of the street, clinging onto the pram handles in a bid to walk in a straight line

On that note, we took delivery yesterday of a new Loola Up (which was an ace bargain at Glasgow Pram Centre. ) It's red and black, not red and pink like in this pic though. I'm v excited - it looks very cool and is the kind of pram I wish I'd bought the first time round!

I'm off to check out the link to a Mamas and Papas nursing bra someone just posted...!

I have just watched one born every minute on 4OD, I too wanted to throw something at my laptop. I was a bit at the son being there aswell.

I dont think that film showed the DP's in a very good light. The CS girl's fella was not exactly supportive either but at least he didn't behave like a total tit like that Steve bloke.

I might make DH watch it as a lesson in what NOT to do.

I was in floods of tears when the babies arrived though!

Well ladies, Steve of 'one born every minute' fame is truly the worst husband in the world. i am thanking my lucky stars that my DH was truly the perfect husband when i was in labour and am banking on a repeat of that this time around.
Am watching the programme now, having dipped in and out of it last night. Hoping it will get me out of my 'denial' phase that am well and truly stuck in now
pixie i too was bording from 8ys old thru to 16. it's not for everyone i'm sure but it was fine for me and teaches you a hell of a lot about 'life'.
midwife appt for me tomorrow. wonder if that will tell me anything exciting like whether head is engaged etc etc.
right, must concentrate on this bloody awful bloke steve ....

Just added myself to the list below

1. Mumbot 18 February DS2 c-section booked

1. DrSkid 22nd February #3 Boy

1. Smac 25 February #2 Surprise

1. pureeandpearls 26 February #2 Girl induction 12 February

1. mawbroon 27th February #2 Boy

1. Potpourri 1 March #4

1. Tigresswoods 2 March #1 Boy

1. Caitni 2 March #1 Surprise

1. angfirsttimer 2 March #1 Boy

10. Scarysarah&co 3 March #3 Boy

11. BlueyDragon 3 March #2 Boy

12. TakeLovingChances 5 March #1 Surprise

13. hecklephone 5 March #2 Girl

14. BusyMissIzzy 5 March #1

15. EmLouT 5 March boy #?

16. Dalrymps 6 March #2 Boy

17. Scooby26 6 March #1 Boy

18. Iwonka 6 March #1 Girl

19. Evitas 6 March #1 Boy

20. MandaHugNKiss 7 March #3 Boy

21. itwascertainlyasurprise 8 March #1 Boy

22. Ilovegreenbeans 9 March #2 Surprise

23. Sariska 9 March #2 Girl

24. rebeccacad 9 March #1 Girl

25. JasHook 10 March #1 Boy

26. mumofsevenplusfour 10 or 13 March #8

27. Summmer2010 10 March #1 Boy

28. PacificDogwood 11 March #4 Boy

29. BulletProofMum 11 March #3 Surprise

30. Siamesecatwoman 11 March #1 Girl

31. Minicooper 11 March #2 Surprise

32. Swingsofglory 12 March #2 Girl

33. Walnut8 13 March #1 Girl

34. Annamama 15 March #2 Girl

35. Retromum 15 March #2

36. Shroomer 15 March #1

37. BelgianMummy 16 March #2 Boy

38. Scootergrrrl 17 March #3 Surprise

39. mumof2point5 17 March #2 Girl

40. PixieOnaLeaf 18 March #4&5 Girls

41. MummyElk 18 March #2 Surprise

42. designerbaby 19 March #2 Girl

43. Rindercella 24 March #2 Girl

44. Arcadie 26 March #3 Surprise

45. Afribaby 26 March #1

46. Henrietta 29 March #4

47. Fleximum 2 April #3

Sneaks in after coercion from Pixie on the Pregnancy thread
Hi all,
Sorry I'm not very good at posting, much more of a lurker by nature. The thread moves so fast sometimes! Hope everyone is doing well (or at least as well as can be expected). No early arrivals yet? I'm 36w+5 now and feel like the baby seems ready to arrive any minute. 4/5 engaged, and she feels like a little chubster already
I finished work last Friday (yay! and boo! in that I might not be able to go back as my contract will possibly not be extended), but have not been able to relax as we are in the middle of having a new bathroom put in. Once that's finished my Dad is coming to help with yet more rennovations, after which I can finally get the house clean and tidy and get the nursery organised. Maybe even find time for some of the elusive nesting I've been hearing about. I feel like I should be making the most of my time off but I can only walk short distances now without my back hurting, so am a bit limited. Going shopping tomorrow for nursing bras and possibly a changing bag. Any recommendations for either are very welcome..
I watched One Born Every Minute too and couldn't help but shed a few tears when the little one born by CS cried for the first time. And I second everyone's comments about Steve . I hope for his sake he was showing off for the cameras.

How soon are you going to let your parents/parents in law meet the new baby? I think this is a question for the first timers. If you have children already, what did you do with your first born?

I'm asking because it became clear yesterday that my mother wants me to ring her as soon as I go into labour, and she had presumed that she'd then go straight to the hospital. She is not my 'birthing partner'! Maybe that's how it was done 30-odd years ago. I've made her promise that she won't go to the hospital (I see that as a very private time). But I also think that the first few days at home are precious - oh I don't know what to think.

Are you going to ring your parents when you go into labour, or once the baby is here? And when will your parents visit?

shroomer with dc1, i made my dh promise NOT to call anyone until the baby was born, for fear of MIL appearing at the hospital when i was in the final throws of labour.
i think as it turned out he did call his mum & my parents quite late at night telling them the birth was imminent. however, luckily for us (or unluckily, depending on how you see things) they are both not local so we didnt have anyone turning up that night.
ds was born at 1am and my folks came over that afternoon (were very sensitive to our privacy & exhaustion and stayed less than an hour). MIL & BIL came following day (if memory serves correctly) and unfortunately totally outstayed their welcome as far as i was concerned. i didn't feel i could really turn them away after half an hour as they had driven from yorkshire to london.
Different story this time though as we will need my folks to head over as soon as i go into labour so they can mind ds1. our main worry there is that we will get caught short as my labour was v quick with ds1 and likely to be even quicker with dc2. anyway, i'm sure it will all work out one way or another!
I, for one was not keen on having hoards of people knowing that i was in labour, or hoards of people coming to gawp when we were still in hospital, but it's a very personal thing and everyone has their own preferences.
Whatever you do decide though, I would be sure your DH is fully aware of your wishes so that you don't end up with any surprises!

Shroomer - I am a first timer and have told parents and PIL that I do not want anyone at the hospital unless I have to stay in for more than 24 hours or so.

My parents live 200 miles away so will probably tell them when I am setting off for hospital so they can arrange things to come down. They will then be in a hotel until I am ready for a visit, my parents are pretty good and I wont have any problem telling them to go when I have had enough.
PIL live much closer and I expect that I will invite them over once I have settled at home. I also think it depends on the time of day you give birth/come home.

My DH is quite adament that he wants as much time of just us as possible in the first few days. Luckily we dont have large families or lots of friends close by so we shouldn't be too inundated.

I know of people who have had 'visiting hours' so that people have a set window to visit - helps to get rid of people!

shroomer - I think I actually prefer them to meet the new baby early on *first 3 days) before everything goes mental, milk comes in, baby stops sleeping for hours and hours every day. I have found the 1-2 week mark the hardest with both DC while I have still been on cloud nine immediately after the birth (even with DD following a relatively traumatic labour)

arcadie - agree that that programme COMPLETELY freaked me out and I do not want to have to give birth EVER AGAIN. Wierd given that i had a good birth with DS but listening to the noises (it WAS the noises, wasn;t it?) brought it all back to me and now I am terrifed. I think I slept for about 2 hours last night, between worrying about that and stuff at work...

pixie - I reckon the frequent posting on our thread is because we are now so close - I have become almost obsessive now, but before I'd go days without checking...

mummyelk - your poor little DD - do you think she's picking up on the fact that she is facing impending dethronement? Or that you are worried aout it? At least you can give her loads of love and attention now before the baby arrives and hopefully it will just be a short phase...

henrietta - thanks for the tips re middle child - will endeavour to find some time to spend with DS every day even when in the midst of nappies/feeding/sleep deprivation...

Quick wave to everyone, glad to see I'm still on the list, though haven't posted in ages and ages - have been keeping up to date with all your news though, it's been great - so many questions I've had have been answered just by reading all your posts!

To those with upset DCs - my mom just reminded me that when she was in the last weeks of pregnancy with my younger brother, I stopped eating - ended up in hospital on a drip. Strangely enough, I don't remember being upset at all, I had actually told my parents I wanted a brother - so I was excited. Too excited to eat? There you go...

Maternity leave officially starts next week when I FLY AWAY (at 35 weeks) into a cold cold European winter. Can't wait. Bye bye Africa, hello winter coats.

And then I can attempt to respond properly to everyone - until then, all the best to all of you!

Hi ladies,
I saw Pixie's call and sort of misunderstood the intention. But I've been meaning to drop in anyway, so here I am .

Yeah I was on the thread for a short time in July, I doubt anyone remembers me... dropped off due to MC.

Things were rough and tough for a while, with long anovulatory cycles reducing my chances of conceiving again, but then in mid-December I finally got my 2nd BFP. This time it looks like a sticky one, had my 12-weeks scan last week and all seems fine. So am now looking forward to an August baby

Now I want to wish you all the very best for your births. I hope that by the end of April, many many healthy bouncy new babies will have been born.

Pixie I'm very well thanks.

I recovered from the norovirus, have since gone on maternity leave and had confirmation that my little one is engaged, though no idea how much. I have an elcs booked for 23 March, so to have a chance at the VBAC that I want, I have to go into labour on my own before that. I have my list of things to do from week 37 on, starting with eating curries to accupuncture.

Shroomer With my DC1 we told my parents and pil as soon as my waters broke and they came in the afternoon of the same day (was an emcs in the end), which was fine. My MIL did however invite all her family (her parents, brother, aunt, etc. whom I had never met before) to the hospital on day 3. It was horrible. I hadn't been able to wash my hair, was still wearing those horrid throw-away pants and basically looked and felt like I got hit by a train. I cried the whole morning before they arrived. So my advise is to communicate who you want to have visit you clearly before and don't worry about upsetting anyone.

Afribaby where abouts in Africa are you now?

Meita Sorry to hear about your M/C and Congratulations on your pregnancy! August babies are fabulous (says a true Leo).

Well done Pixie getting all these lost souls back on here, great to hear your updates!

Hey everyone,
I'm new to thread. Due March 5th with first & have 2 days to go until maternity leave. I can't wait!! Just discussing with DH whether he should take paternity leave straight away or take a couple of days a week for a few weeks. Any thoughts?

fab lists ladies!!!!

re parents- my mom has been present at both my previous births and wil be with my husband and i again- as for pil- they came once we were home and stayed an hour too long (even askjed what we were doing for dinner as they may stay!!!!WTF- not a chance lady!!!! but tbh we are glad to show off our babies heehee!!!!

i must admit though it can be hard sometimes when everyone wants to come and visit!

lovely to see so many ladies coming back to the thread, its getting very busy in here!!!

Grizzer Hi - and welcome. I nominate Smac or someone else with time to update you on the list.... My thoughts on pat leave were: I'd rather have my DH save his time up for a week after the birth. The first few days for me were filled with lovely visiting family and my Mum staying and helping. Having DH and DMum was a TOTAL waste of time and actually a little counter productive. As DrSkidaddle said a few posts back actually about a week in was the hardest point and having DH around then was very helpful. That said I remember thinking by the end of it - I wish I could have a go at doing this on my own for a day at a time to see if I can cope - so if your DH can take his pat leave in dribs and drabs (not all can) then I'd say that (for me) would be the best solution. Week 1 stay home 4 days, Week 2 stay home 3 days etc etc depending how long he has.

shroomer First time we called everyone as soon as DS was born (1am) and they were there for 3pm visiting the next day.(Still in hosp). I had DH and my best mate being birth partners. Mighty useful as they could chat to each other and leave me to get on with it permit me space. That for me was perfect but I'm an extrovert (on the Myers Briggs thingy anyway) and thrive on being with a big crowd.

Second time my parents came up to babysit DS when I went in to be induced with DD. Again we phoned his and hers parents at about 2am and they came in the next day (with DS who was aged 22 months and had suddenly grown into a BIG BOY overnight or so it seemed). All worked well.

Friends etc visiting at home took us as they found us including me being asleep, DCs being asleep, MW visiting and therefore unavailable. If anyone was smart enough to phone to ask what time was good I generally appreciated it. The one couple (with kids) who phoned, arranged to come at 7 and then didn't show up til 9 with DS and were similarly 1 1/2 hours late with DD really pissed me -off- were less appreciated. Especially when we'd juggled feeds & sleeps so that they could see DS awake. Still 4 years on Arcadie? Get a life.....

1. Mumbot 18 February DS2 c-section booked

1. DrSkid 22nd February #3 Boy

1. Smac 25 February #2 Surprise

1. pureeandpearls 26 February #2 Girl induction 12 February

1. mawbroon 27th February #2 Boy

1. Potpourri 1 March #4

1. Tigresswoods 2 March #1 Boy

1. Caitni 2 March #1 Surprise

1. angfirsttimer 2 March #1 Boy

10. Scarysarah&co 3 March #3 Boy

11. BlueyDragon 3 March #2 Boy

12. TakeLovingChances 5 March #1 Surprise

13. hecklephone 5 March #2 Girl

14. BusyMissIzzy 5 March #1

15. EmLouT 5 March #2 Boy

16. Grizzer 5 March #1 Surprise

17. Dalrymps 6 March #2 Boy

18. Scooby26 6 March #1 Boy

19. Iwonka 6 March #1 Girl

20. Evitas 6 March #1 Boy

21. MandaHugNKiss 7 March #3 Boy

22. itwascertainlyasurprise 8 March #1 Boy

23. Ilovegreenbeans 9 March #2 Surprise

24. Sariska 9 March #2 Girl

25. rebeccacad 9 March #1 Girl

26. JasHook 10 March #1 Boy

27. mumofsevenplusfour 10 or 13 March #8

28. Summmer2010 10 March #1 Boy

29. PacificDogwood 11 March #4 Boy

30. BulletProofMum 11 March #3 Surprise

31. Siamesecatwoman 11 March #1 Girl

32. Minicooper 11 March #2 Surprise

33. Swingsofglory 12 March #2 Girl

34. Walnut8 13 March #1 Girl

35. Annamama 15 March #2 Girl

36. Retromum 15 March #2

37. Shroomer 15 March #1

38. BelgianMummy 16 March #2 Boy

39. Scootergrrrl 17 March #3 Surprise

40. mumof2point5 17 March #2 Girl

41. PixieOnaLeaf 18 March #4&5 Girls

42. MummyElk 18 March #2 Surprise

43. designerbaby 19 March #2 Girl

44. Rindercella 24 March #2 Girl

45. Arcadie 26 March #3 Surprise

46. Afribaby 26 March #1

47. Henrietta 29 March #4

48. Fleximum 2 April #3

sorry to hear about the MC Meita but delighted to hear you will be having an August baby. Good luck.

Thanks Arcadie, I felt a bit nervous when he said work had offered him paternity as & when as I felt we should be together for the initial sleepless nights! I think he's going to take 3 days off at the beginning then 2 or 3 a week. He gets 10 days in total but we're really lucky he's a teacher so Easter holidays should fall pretty soon after paternity runs out. My mum is totally flexible & easy going so will fit in with anything & DH has 2 sisters so there won't be a shortage of support. Very excited now

sorry girls. random rant coming up.
just talked to a friend (well our DHs grew up together)to make arrangements for our ds's bday on fri. her son same age. she has recently had dc2 - now approx 4 months and dream child. her ds1 was (and still is) a 'difficult' child. she was kind enough to say to me that she hopes we get a real 'b@stard' this time, as our ds was a relatively easy baby. is that not totally insensitive ? although our ds has been quite a good child/baby, he has certainly had his moments, as all children/babies do, and to wish that someone has a difficult child just seems really unkind. am i being oversensitive ?