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**August 2010** Tired days and Sicky nights, fear not ladies the end is in sight.

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KayloHalo · 04/01/2010 16:46

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UnderneathTheStream · 09/01/2010 15:14

Yes I'm finding that my symptoms have reduced a lot in the last few days ? which has had me really worried as I have previously had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks that wasn?t picked up until 13 weeks ? and then my symptoms dropped off as well. So I?ve now got myself pretty convinced that it?s died?currently 9 weeks.

aendr · 09/01/2010 15:18

Not the rice, it grows bugs too fast and our immune systems are suppressed so that our little ones have a better chance of growing. Everything else ought to be okay if cooled and boxed and fridged relatively quickly.

UnderneathTheStream · 09/01/2010 15:42

Oh yes, and I have a stinking cold so am feeling really sorry for myself...

liahgenisuptheduff · 09/01/2010 16:48

lady what an awful situation. The only advice I can give you is to move in with your dad if that is still an option, and let him help you emotionally get yourself back together.

I know it's hard being on your own, (my 1st H told me it's me or the baby when I was 6 wks with my 1st, and that was after we'd discussed IVF only to fall naturally)I left the next day. It is hard not to keep going back, ( I did that too, hence my 2nd child)but trust me it does get easier and one day when you are mentally ready and able to find a place in your life for another person, someone will come along and it will all fall into place, (my dh, dc's 3, 4, 5, and 6!!. You need to look after yourself and your daughter and tbh this chap sounds like he's not your soul mate for want of a nicer way of putting it.

I hope it works out for you, there was a period in my life a long long time ago when I thought it would never get better but it will. Seek help for your debts, be honest about your feelings, (dark or otherwise)and your friends and family will help you through it. Good luck.

plant I am a Doula and I don't work within the hospital as such, I have a stand at the pregnanct evenings on a tuesday. I am familiar with the mw's cos I have alot of clients at QM and of course, I am there regularly.

The women's ward, (margaret do you mean)is a busy place I have to say, I think it can accomodate 28 women, and 3 or 4 mw's. Having said that, MLU and deivery are very well looked after, they are very Doula friendly, (if you are having one) and partner friendly. If MLU you will get complete one to one care and if delivery then 2 to one. Afterwards I would suggest you go home as soon as you are comfortable doing so.

If you come along to one of the pregnancy evenings, we can say hello.

email me if you like.

lct walters at sky dot com no spaces obviously.

Hope everyone else is well. I feel really rough but hey ho, I said I would embrace this and am really really trying to do that.

tiany · 09/01/2010 17:34

sadly ladies i will be leaving the group. I had a little bleeding last night and went for an early scan this morning....no heartbeat i am sad but have my wonderful DH and we will be ok.

Wish all of you lots of luck and best wishes for August xoxo

liahgenisuptheduff · 09/01/2010 17:44

tiany I am very sorry to hear your news.

Look after yourself, (((()))) x

neenz · 09/01/2010 17:56

Tiany, that is so sad, I'm sorry . I had a m/c a few years ago and it is hard for quite a while, but in the darkest times I just kept thinking of a year on and how much better I would be, cos a year goes so quickly. I was PG again by then and I am sure you will be too .

Also, sympathies to all those worried about lack of symptoms. I know exactly where you are coming from, it is such a scary time, I hate the first trimester .

bouncingblueberries · 09/01/2010 19:14

Fingers crossed for you allthe8s. Stay positive if you can, as someone else said, you may just have ovulated later than you thought.

I'm so sorry tiany. Be kind to yourself.

10 + 5 today and feeling rotten with a stinking cold. My lovely dh whisked ds out for the afternoon to play in the snow to give me time to rest. Of course I wasted half the time tidying up and was just dozing off when dh phoned to check I was ok! Grrrr. Bless him.

Wishing the last week and a bit of my first trimester away - just want to be in a safer place! Think I'll need to start chasing on Monday for my scan date - still nothing and time is ticking on!

Food update:

lunch: tomato soup + cheese sarnie
throughout afternoon: wine gums, hot chocolate, chocolate lollipop (stolen from ds!!! )
dinner: veggie curry (again!) saag aloo and naan bread - yum!

Still a severe lack of fruit - never did get round to making that smoothie

Mummy369 · 09/01/2010 19:45

Ladeyjadey I have posted on your thread, but some more thoughts for you. You could maybe take your maternity leave at 29 weeks, and save up your annual leave to take immediately before, moving in with your Dad at that stage. eg 6 weeks A/L would mean you could leave by 23 weeks.
Not sure what your due date is but that could mean only a few weeks for you

PlantHasABabyBean · 09/01/2010 19:46

Thanks Liahgen What are the pregnancy evenings?

I won't be in the MLU, I had my booking in the other week and I asked but because of my previous c-section, they say that I am 'high risk' I am hoping to change their minds as long as I don't have any major issues with this pregnancy. Although how sucessfull I will be I don't know, I'm not sure if they budge on these decisions. I am more determined since learning that there aren't any birthing pools in the delivery ward but they have two in the MLU. Is the delivery ward just as good care wise?

I am unsure about having a doula, I did think about it after what happened to me last time but not sure how much they charge and whether we can afford it.

I can sympathis with others feeling rough! Even with my sickness bands I am feeling really bad. I feel sick if I don't eat, but feel twice as bad if I do eat, it's a no-win situation. It seems to be worse if I don't get a good nights sleep.

vix206 · 09/01/2010 20:57

tiany - I am so sorry to read your news do take care of yourself x

I thought I'd update my food intake for today!

Woke up late so its all a bit later than usual...
9am - muesli bar
11.30 - scotch porridge oats (yum)
12.45 - bag of hula hoops
1.30 - cheese on toast with home made coleslaw, salad and half a bag of crisps
5 - cheese string
6 - corn on the cob
8.15 - pasta with tomato sauce and 2 Quorn 'meatballs', hardboiled egg and some salad
8.40 - pack of fresh melon pieces from tesco
8.50 - a ferrero rocher

Still sooo hungry all the time and the second I get hungry I feel so nauseous and anxious. Still, I would rather be like this (able to control the nausea) than being sick and unable to relieve my nausea. I feel so sorry for hose of you feeling constantly sick Sorry if my food-chat is making you heave

BunnyBaby · 09/01/2010 21:23

tiany really sorry to hear your news, take care and look forwards to hearing from you when the time feels right.

neenz · 10/01/2010 09:03

Vix, I am same, I have to keep eating to stop feeling sick, which I am grateful for cos at least it does stop it for a little while.

Plant, sorry about not being able to use the MLU, but you could still get a VBac in the CLU. They might not have birthing pools, but they will have baths so you can spend early labour in the bath (I did) and then transfer to labour room for delivery. That worked really well for me. I thought about getting a doula too cos I really wanted a natural birth with my twins and it is difficult because they do like to micro-manage you when it is twins! But in the end we didn't get a doula (cos of the cost) but I read books like Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Childbirth, Lamaze books and even Grantly Dick-Read's Childbirth Without Fear (a bit heavy-going, wouldn't recommend!), and I think if you really educate yourself about the issues and get a supportive consultant and try to speak to as many midwives at the hospital as you can before labour, write a really detailed birth plan and make sure you feel supported by the HCPs (change consultant or even hospital if you have to!). Obviously none of this will guarantee a natural delivery but it will help!

popAwheelie · 10/01/2010 11:19

I thought it was strange that no one had posted for a week! Here's my post transfered from old thread:

Chulita #2: 25th July (- 8th Aug)
Vinocollapso #1: 27th July
Aussie #1 30th July
Nikalah #1: 30th July (-1 Aug)
KayloHalo #3: 1st Aug West Yorkshire
Dibbydab #1: 1st August
Bouncingblueberries #2: 2nd Aug
BigMomma #4: 2nd Aug
JamieJay #1: 2nd Aug
Missus84 #1: 2nd August
Shmoo #1: 4th Aug
BunnyBaby #2: 4th Aug
Alys #3: 5th Aug
Geocentric #3: 6th Aug
driedapricots #2 6th Aug
Bewler #1: 8th Aug South London
ElusiveMoose #2 8th August
HerbalHolly #1 8th August
RubyRubyLou #1 8th August BEDS
Rubena #2 8th August
Girlsyearapart #3 8th August?
PopAwheelie #1 9th Aug East London
NichyNoo #1 9th Aug
possiblenewmum #1 - 9th august
SayAnything #1 10th Aug
Mummy369 #4 10th August
Allstarsprincess 11th August
Floweryboots #1 12 August
Crazycatlady #2 12th August
luth #1 13th Aug
tiany #1 13th Aug
bigmuther65 #3 14th August
Alice #2 16th August West Suffolk
irishmumwannabe #? 18th August
Liahgen #6 19th August kent
aendr #2 20th August?
Yuletidedog #4 21st August-ish
vix206 #1 22nd August
TwinkleToes76 #2 22 August
cakeywakey #2 23 August
Allthe8s #3 25th August
isheisnthe #3 25thAugust
loobyt #2 23rd August
MrsZaC #1 26th August
SmileyMylee #4 26th August
Littlemiss72 #1 27th August
K8M #2 27/28th August
booreeve #2 28th August
starshaker #2 29th August
cazzybabs #4 ?July/August
Boobz #2 ?July/August
Boos75 #1 29th August

Hi all hope everyone is having a
nice weekend. I have my 12 week Scan this Friday, v excited. Mentioned to a friend that I've had v
little morning sickness- nausea only. She wondered whether I was having a boy. She said she puked for
britain with her girl but v little with her boy. I know that everyone is different, but has anyone else found this?

Bought some super cute maternity sundresses in the asos sale. Also some very ridiculous maternity acid
wash 'jeggings' I figure pregancy is an opportunity for all sorts of fashion crimes!

popAwheelie · 10/01/2010 11:23

Ps underneaththestream as you've had a mc before perhaps you could self refer to your Early pregnancy Unit at yr hospital for a scan? I was worried before Xmas and did this and it was brilliant. The nHs can be brilliant. I also have stinking cold by the way and am drinking freshly squeezed OJ and lemon honey drinks which is helping.

UnderneathTheStream · 10/01/2010 13:10

Thanks PopAwheelie, I was thinking of waiting til I'd met my midwife and asking her. Didn't know you could self-refer! I meet her on Friday...

neenz · 10/01/2010 15:17

Just re-posting the list with popawheelie's details on the most recent list from this thread rather than the old thread cos a few details had changed.

Chulita #2: 25th July (- 8th Aug) Dorset
Vinocollapso #1: 27th July
Aussie #1 30th July Nottinghamshire Age 35
Nikalah #1: 30th July (-1 Aug) Dorset
KayloHalo #3: 1st Aug West Yorkshire
Dibbydab #1: 1st August Devon Age 34
Bouncingblueberries #2: 2nd Aug South London
BigMomma3 #4: 23rd July Essex
JamieJay #1: 2nd Aug
Missus84 #1: 2nd August Bristol
Shmoo #1: 4th Aug
BunnyBaby #2: 4th Aug Middlesex
Alys #3: 5th Aug Barnsley
Geocentric #3: 6th Aug
driedapricots #2 6th Aug
Bewler #1: 8th Aug South London
ElusiveMoose #2 8th August Kent
HerbalHolly #1 8th August
Rubena #2 8th August
Girlsyearapart #3 8th August? surrey. Kingston hospital. age 31 (30 now though!)
PopAwheelie #1 9th Aug EAST LONDON
NichyNoo #1 9th Aug
possiblenewmum #1 - 9th august; Guildford
SayAnything #1 10th Aug
Mummy369 #4 10th August
Flexab23 1 10th August South London, King's
Allstarsprincess # 2 11th August South London
acatcalledfidget #1 11th Aug
Floweryboots #1 12 August NorthLondon(NorthFinchley)
Crazycatlady #2 12th August
Underneath #1: 12th August Gloucester Age 35
luth #1 13th Aug
tiany #1 13th Aug - SW London -
bigmuther65 #3 14th August
Plant #2 15th August KENT
Neenz #3 16 August North Liverpool
Alice #2 16th August West Suffolke
Doodleydoo #2 17th August
irishmumwannabe #? 18th August
Ladyjadey #2 18th August West Yorks
Liahgen #6 19th August kent
Asquashandasqeeze #6 ?20th August
aendr #2 20th August?
Yuletidedog #4 21st August-ish
vix206 #1 22nd August Leicester
TwinkleToes76 #2 22 August
cakeywakey #2 23 August
sparkle #1 23 August KENT
Allthe8s #3 25th August
isheisnthe #3 25thAugust
loobyt #2 23rd August Devon
MrsZaC #1 26th August Glasgow Age 26
SmileyMylee #4 26th August
Littlemiss72 #1 27th August S London
K8M #2 27/28th August
booreeve #2 28th August
starshaker #2 & 3 29th August Ayrshire
cazzybabs #4 ?July/August
Boos75 #1 29th August - SW London

alys78 · 10/01/2010 17:28

tiany I am so sorry for your loss, take care xx

Hope everyone has had a nice relaxing weekend. I was supposed to go to the panto with DS's yesterday but could not get comfy sat up for some reason, so my SIL and MIL took them, DH and I got a much needed night together, I seem to be so snappy at the moment, I think hormones kicking in.

Can't stop eating today, 4 slices of cheese on toast for brakfast, 2 rolls with ham and crisps for lunch and now well done steak and all the works for tea, all good!!

Hope everyone stays warm and well xxx

liahgenisuptheduff · 10/01/2010 18:26

plant maybe that might be open to negotiation.

email me, I know a lovely trainee, mother of 4 herself, £200 all inclusive, she'd look after you

[email protected]

So my first lady of the year just called. Waters went about half hour ago. How exciting, very good of her to wait until the worst weather had passed too.

Have eaten well today so not feeling too bad, just had lovely fresh jelly too, recomend that. Will need to take snacks to this birth just in case it's a long one.

Ina May is a great self help read and yes Childbirth withour fear is very heavy going. A short hypno course would be good for any nervous ladies.

Hopefully back to school tomorrow, Enjoy rest of weekend ladies.

nervousandexcited · 10/01/2010 20:49

Hi all, can I join you?

Am 7 weeks and due on 29 August. Already hoping baby will be late - not only a bank holiday weekend but also DH has tickets for the cricket test that day! This is our first baby (and first attempt!) and all first babies are late, right?!

MS has kicked in properly today starting at 4am. Have been in bed most of the day and thankfully it's just dizziness and feelings of being sick but I feel so washed out. How am I going to cope at work? Any top tips?

x

soontobefatnat · 10/01/2010 20:52

Chulita #2: 25th July (- 8th Aug) Dorset
Vinocollapso #1: 27th July
Aussie #1 30th July Nottinghamshire Age 35
Nikalah #1: 30th July (-1 Aug) Dorset
KayloHalo #3: 1st Aug West Yorkshire
Dibbydab #1: 1st August Devon Age 34
Bouncingblueberries #2: 2nd Aug South London
BigMomma3 #4: 23rd July Essex
JamieJay #1: 2nd Aug
Missus84 #1: 2nd August Bristol
Shmoo #1: 4th Aug
BunnyBaby #2: 4th Aug Middlesex
Alys #3: 5th Aug Barnsley
Geocentric #3: 6th Aug
driedapricots #2 6th Aug
Bewler #1: 8th Aug South London
ElusiveMoose #2 8th August Kent
HerbalHolly #1 8th August
Rubena #2 8th August
Girlsyearapart #3 8th August? surrey. Kingston hospital. age 31 (30 now though!)
PopAwheelie #1 9th Aug EAST LONDON
NichyNoo #1 9th Aug
possiblenewmum #1 - 9th august; Guildford
SayAnything #1 10th Aug
Mummy369 #4 10th August
Flexab23 1 10th August South London, King's
Allstarsprincess # 2 11th August South London
acatcalledfidget #1 11th Aug
Floweryboots #1 12 August NorthLondon(NorthFinchley)
Crazycatlady #2 12th August
Underneath #1: 12th August Gloucester Age 35
luth #1 13th Aug
tiany #1 13th Aug - SW London -
bigmuther65 #3 14th August
Plant #2 15th August KENT
Neenz #3 16 August North Liverpool
Alice #2 16th August West Suffolke
Doodleydoo #2 17th August
irishmumwannabe #? 18th August
Ladyjadey #2 18th August West Yorks
Liahgen #6 19th August kent
Asquashandasqeeze #6 ?20th August
aendr #2 20th August?
Yuletidedog #4 21st August-ish
vix206 #1 22nd August Leicester
TwinkleToes76 #2 22 August
cakeywakey #2 23 August
sparkle #1 23 August KENT
Allthe8s #3 25th August
isheisnthe #3 25thAugust
loobyt #2 23rd August Devon
MrsZaC #1 26th August Glasgow Age 26
SmileyMylee #4 26th August
Littlemiss72 #1 27th August S London
K8M #2 27/28th August
booreeve #2 28th August
starshaker #2 & 3 29th August Ayrshire
cazzybabs #4 ?July/August
Boos75 #1 29th August - SW London
soontobefatnat #1 15th August S London Kings

Hi all, new to the group, but have been lurking for the best part of a week.

Firstly, Tiani, so sorry for your loss - hope you're doing okay. x

Secondly, just a general hello really - 9 weeks and feeling pathetically tired and nauseous. Finding it hard to prise myself out of bed/off sofa this weekend, I have to say. Other than that, looking forward to my booking appointment this Thurs - although struggling to come up with a good list of questions for the midwife, aside from whether I can get on the list for home births at Kings.

neenz · 10/01/2010 21:08

Hi, soontobefat and nervous

First babies are often late but not always! Which cricket game is it? An England test? It's quite unlikely to arrive on your due date and anyway the due date is likely to change after your dating scan so who knows!

I am feeling quite snappy too. I felt very on edge yesterday, getting very annoyed with DH for not getting the DTs dressed quickly enough and not tidying the kitchen well enough

Doodleydoo · 10/01/2010 21:42

Tiany - so sorry for your loss.

liaghen and Elusivemoose its either Maidstone or Ashford. Have heard dreadful things about Maidstone and so would appreciate some input as my Dr says they have 121 midwife care? But then know a midwife at Ashford so............. Actually Liaghen think I looked at your website a while ago re doula's but obviously you couldn't help me out! Too Close together! Also trying to be vbac but think could well have another cs as so don't want one!

Look forward to your input and good luck tonight Liaghen!

BunnyBaby · 10/01/2010 21:53

Had a nice weekend but really tired.

Tummy has popped out, but that's eating way too much!

Went to Costco this AM, and as we drove past the Toby Carvery yelled - stop, I need meat! We were in and out within 20 mins, and a roast beef dinner what just what I needed, DS1 enjoyed it too!

Can't believe I could feel the SPD after trying to push a wonky trolley so early on. Had to beg DH to help as he was trying to stalk across the shop as fast as he could.

Our TV is an old Amstrad, both speakers have now gone kaput, but as we have surround sound we can't justify a new one, so hummed and ha'd about a lovely 37 Panasonic, but came home with lots of loo roll, and cleaning products!

Went to a 2nd birthday party today, so feeling tired as on the go all day.

Just settled down to a lovely nutritious meal of pancakes and maple syrup.

The heartburn is really underway now, so really starting to feel pregnant again. Though my morning sickness seems to be evening sickness.

liahgenisuptheduff · 10/01/2010 22:19

at bunny and her desperate need for a roast.

So no baby yet, no ctx either so will go off to bed and await further instructions. Hopefully mum 2 be will be able to get some sleep before it kicks off.

doodley Maidstone do try to offer 121 care and mostlly manage to get it right, we had a cmw drafted in for us when I went in with dc5 cos there weren't enough on at the time.

I have given birth and supported there, and I have to say I couldn't fault it. Antenatal care is great ime too. I have pg complications so am well known in the FAU, (fetal assessment unit) and it's run by 2 lovely mw's. Wards aren't always as well staffed as you'd like but I think you find that anywhere. ( I mean labour and postnatal, not delivery).

William Harvey, I love it there, very women centred and Doula friendly. One of my favourite mw's works there and if she was on the community and I could guarantee her, I'd have her at a hb anyday.

So that wasn't very helpful was it? I can recommend a lovely trainee Doula who I know is free as yet or can certainly point you in the direction of others if you wanted some info.

I have just had ice cream and lime jelly leftover. Yumm. Probably not great just before bed,