Due May 2010????

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Thought I would start a new thread for may. Just got bfp and I am really excited. I think I'm due 30th April/1st May but there are so many people on April already. Heres hoping for a healthy pregnancy. I will just wait for lots more of you to join me. xxxx

Oh, kaylo. Keep hoping, it may not be what you fear. It surpirses me how many people have really significant bleeds without mc.

I thought the worst this morning when I went to the loo, but remembered I ate beetroot for dinner last night. Doh!

Kaylo we all have our fingers crossed for you, love. Really hope it's just a cervical abrasion or something. If you haven't had cramping that's a good sign!

Well the pregnancy dreams have started with a vengeance here. I dreamt I gave birth three months early, and although the baby was fine (and could talk, natch) it was tiny like a kitten. The birth was fun though, I just kinda coughed and it fell out! I think that was wishful thinking because I'm petrified!

I'm not feeling 100% at the moment, my cold is finally calming down but my chest feels tight, and I keep getting breathless and having palpitations. I just don't feel right. Tried calling NHS direct last night but they're swamped with swine flu callers so they couldn't call back.

Kaylo..fingers crossed for you

Jamesandthegiantbanana..get an urgent appt with your gp..sounds like you have a chest infection.

have got up this morning feeling utterly miserable..the reason?..arrived at center parcs in the throes of hyperemesis..vomiting left right and centre..then slowly over the course of the weekend..the symptoms have subsided..I have got up this morning and eaten and drunk as normal, dont feel the overwhelming exhaustion, no nausea..no tender boobs...I fear the worst..especially after all the bleeding Ive hadsad..epu have refused to scan me until monday at the earliest..so have had no choice but to book a private scan at £150 which is tomorrow evening..Im dreading itsad

Kaylo keeping everything crossed that you will be able to post some good news tonight. I hope you get to see your GP/get a scan asap.

Kaylo, thinking of you and hope all is well.

Haven't had any strange dreams for a few days, but last night DH asked what was wrong with me and I had to admit I was in a bad mood with him for no reason whatsoever. Bless, he took it well and even drove off to buy me Maltesers and Minstrels to try and make up (for having done nothing wrong!)

memorylapse I've got no advice for you, though my nausea comes and goes. I hope your scan tomorrow puts your mind at rest.

Thinking of you and kaylo today. Hope we get some good news soon.

memorylapse, good luck with your scan, sorry to hear you're still having problems. Try not to worry yourself too much though, I was feeling massively tired last week, sore boobs etc (I don't have MS but still) this week I feel much less tired, my boobs are fine again, the only pregnancy "sign" I have is a constant feeling of pressure down there. Maybe your hyperemesis is just finally calming down? Best of luck, we're all behind you.

I have made a doctors appointment since I called NHS direct again and they said there's a chance it could be something to do with blood clots, but that she thought it probably wasn't that, and it was just the cold I've had plus the extra blood being pumped around the system etc - best to get checked out either way.

sorry memorylapse x-post - thinking of you as well. Hope you get positive news - just keep thinking that it was all OK last time you were scanned. So hope that everything if OK this time too.

Totally irrelevant but I have namechanged - due to impending second bean I thought I needed a new name - used to be HarryJoesMummy but now am TomlinTowers. No prizes for guessing the name of my DS1!

I have also put some photos on my profile page of Ds1 and DH, just for the hell of it.

Can you tell I am working from home today???!! 8 files down, 14 to go.....

Memorylapse - No advice I'm afraid although I know I had symptom free days last time. Will be thinking of you.

Memorylapse thinking of you honey, I hope it it's good news for you as theres been far too much stress and loss on this thread.

Thank you all for your thoughts and lovely words - I fear I may be leaving you all though The EPU won't even see me until Thursday at the earliest but she has promised me that they will scan me when I go in. I'm only 5+5weeks so I fully understand theres nothing they can do to stop a mc if thats what this is - which I think it is

I have an appointment with the nurse this afternoon so I will ask if she's able to do the blood tests to check if I am indeed progressing or not. I just want to know one way or the other - it's the not knowing thats eating me up! In my state of desperation I have done another CBD which said pregnant 1-2wks, but it said exactly that a week and a half ago - surely if this was/is a healthy pregnancy it should have gone up to 2-3wks by now??

Am sat here sobbing as I'm absolutely heartbroken, also feeling guilty because I already have 2 beautiful children and I should be grateful. I'm terrified because I've never experienced this before and have no idea what will happen next.

I'm sorry for the ramble. I have no idea what I'm doing at the moment. I called in sick to work this morning and explained the situation to them and they've told me stay off for a few days so at least they understand the delicate nature of this whole thing. Just wish I wasn't going through it - wishing and thinking nobody should have to go through this.

Am still bleeding although sometimes its brown and sometimes its red - doesn't sound or look good - sorry if TMI.

I'm gonna go now - I'll pop back on later with results of nurse appointment and whether she will do the tests or not...

I really don't want to leave you all!!!

kaylo - oh dear poor poor you, remember not all bleeding ends in mc, I had a tonne of bright red blood with DD1 at 9 weeks thought it was all over and she was fine, had another red bleed at 10 weeks, no cause ever found. Also had browny red spots with DD3 at 10 weeks too after having a good scan at 8. You will go through every emotion going and thats only natural. With my mc i had brown spotting at 8 weeks I thought I had better get it checked out expecting them to say oh it's fine but they said the baby was only measuring 6 but the sac was measuring 8, they made me come back in a week to check nothing had grown which it hadn't I think this may be standard practice in case your dates are wrong etc, I was told to go home and think of whether I wanted an ERPC or let nature take it's course. As it would have it nature did take it's course but personally if it were to happen again I would have the ERPC I won't go into the reasons here just now, sorry if I have upset anyone just trying to let kaylo know her options.

As sad as it was at the time, I went onto get pregnant 2 months later and now have my beautiful DD3 who wouldn't be with us, the one I lost wasn't strong enough but he or she gave me DD3. It sucks though I know.

memorylapse - hope everything is alright for you too, remember symptoms can come and go, £140 for a scan is rough it's £80 round these parts.

Thank You SweetKitty It is helpful to know what the options are cos I know the doctors can be oblivious to some things sometimes. Which is why I'm seeing the nurse at 4pm.

I'm really sorry if I have upset people with this - I definitely didn't intend to. Just feel a bit lost. Am trying to stay hopeful but it's fading fast. Trying to see it as a good thing that IF it's a MC then better for it happen early.

I will definitely be trying again, Sweetkitty if you don't mind me asking, how long did you wait before starting to TTC again?

xxx

Kaylo - I was the same after 2 children you just don't think it will happen to you and then it does and no one else really talks about it, I remember asking on MN too, I hadn't a clue.

I had my first scan about the 1st August, the worst of the mc started about the 12th and I bled for 2 weeks after that, funny thing is 2 weeks after that I had a period so my body must have been ovulating whilst I was losing the baby, strange. So I had that period then another one which was around about the 4th October then I got my BFP on the 31st October so 2 months really. We didn't want to wait and I wanted to TTC and be pregnant straight away. The next pregnancy was worrying though especially with bleeding again but I relaxed after 12 weeks when I felt her move.

kaylo..is there no way the can bring your scan forward..thursday seems a long time away when you are left in limbo

I have bled again..and am having cramps..so its not looking good..I keep torturing myself that its something I did at the weekend

phoned epu and they have agreed to scan me tomorrow morning so I can cancel the private one..Im dreading the scan.Ive been there so many times where they have told me there is no heartbeat

Kaylo - if it helps at all, I had an early miscarriage at 4 + 4 at the beginning of July. BFP on the Friday and then started bleeding on the Tuesday . Would have been due 7th March. GP said to wait three months before TTC again but we didn't want to wait. I had a slightly late period at the end of July (1 week late) which I think was just thrown out by the m/c and then got BFP the day after my next period was due - don't know if that counts as one month or two but it was quick. Friends of mine have also been in the same situation and got pg again v quickly. I read on the internet (so it must be true ) that there is apparently a "fertility boost" after a miscarriage because the body "wants'" to get pg again as quick as possible - so even if the worst comes to the worst, no reason as far as I can see why you shouldn't try straight away as soon as your cycle re-establishs itself.

Obv hope that all of this is in vain and scan shows good news but hope that helps in the meantime...

Hi Kaylo

If it helps, I also fell pg on our first attempt at trying after my MMC in July. We waited until I had my first period in mid-August and one month later, here I am.

But like Tomlin, I hope all of this is in vain and that the scan brings good news. x

Thank you Pamelat . Send my best wishes to your friend and let her know if she wants to talk to anyone, I'm here.

It was our first IVF attempt so we're very very lucky. Egg collection was a bit of a nightmare, so tell your friend to take it easy that day and the next. If she can afford to, and they have enough good quality embryos, she should ask her clinic to go to Blastocyst which is what we did. It's an estimated 5-10% greater chance of success, which to me was worth it. Apparently all Day 2 embies look fairly similar, and then they start to die off, leaving only the strongest by Day 5. Out of 16 eggs, 8 fertilised, one died off pretty quickly, and we were left with 3 Grade 1 embies and 4 Grade 2. Of the Grade 1s, only 2 made it to Blastocyst. Although we felt sad about their demise, it proved to us we'd made the right choice. We knew the strongest one had gone back in, and I 'spoke' to my embie every day after transfer willing it to stick with me. I doubt it made any difference, but it helped me [mad mad woman emoticon].

Thanks too Slipperfeet. Unfortunately my clinic would not put back more than one embie so the likelihood of more than one set of feet arriving in May is very slim.

Has everyone told their parents yet? How did they react? We haven't told either set yet, just a few friends. Am actually nervous about telling them, how daft is that?

Oh Kaylo, I am so sorry to hear of what you're going through. My thoughts are with you.

Thinking of you Kaylo hope thursday comes quickly and delievers good news xx

memorylapse sorry to hear you are bleeding again but as hard as it is try and stay positive im hoping and praying everything is ok xx

Thank You everyone!!!

memorylapse I'm cyberly holding your hand. I know exactly how you feel but we have to stay strong and think positive thoughts. Don't torture yourself by thinking you've caused this cos you haven't. We're all here for you.

Have tried to get the scan brought forward to today or tomorrow but they're just saying they won't see or do anything until I reach 6 weeks. So Thursday it will be. Bleeding seems to be easing off bit by bit. TMI but no more clots as of yet, which I don't know if its a good or bad thing.

I figure if I prepare myself for the worst then I'm prepared to hear the worst. If it's not the worst then I'll be thrilled!! And very surprised...

Thanks again to everyone. I would definitely find this a lot harder without you guys!! The support on here is just phenomenal

xxx

Kaylo..Im clinging onto your hand too

I can see why they dont want to scan you until thursday..because if they dont see anything because its too early..it will just make things more distressing

my bleeding has stopped but I still have period like pains..bizarrely..my nausea seems to be back

Well, here's the latest.

I just got back from the nurse who was lovely and couldn't have been more helpful.

She rang the EPU for me to see what they thought the best plan of action is, they told her on the phone they want to scan me tomorrow but she would callback with an exact time for appointment. Anyway they called back with an appointment for Friday as they consider me a low-ish risk because the bleeding I'm having isn't enough to fill a pad an hour, tbh I'm not wearing a pad at all as it only seems to be there when I go the loo. So there seems tyo be a little hope there for me anyway - but I won't allow myself to believe it until I see it for real. So am praying the bleeding holds back now as it really does seem to have eased off, barely anything there when I wipe now sorry, theres that TMI again...

Looking forward to Friday - am thinking of going back to work tomorrow just to keep my mind occupied if nothing else!

memorylapse I'm so pleased your bleeding has stopped!! And it's great to hear your sickness is back, well kinda. At least having sickness is pregnancy is a good sign, bleeding not so good....

Love to all
xxxx

Oh Kaylo I hope you get some good news. So sorry you're going through this.

memorylapse I really hope your scan goes OK. Glad to hear you're getting it done by EPU rather than having to fork out all that.

heffa totally know where you're coming from on the weight thing, I was a very very big girl when I had DD (I weighed 23 and a half stone and as I'm so short BMI was over 58 a week after birth!). I so didn't look pregnant, just fatter, I used to deliberately rest my hands on top of my tummy to try and emphasise that I was in fact pregnant, not just giant. I really hope with all the weight loss I get to see a proper bump this time, altho my tummy is still the most fatty part of me. My before and after pics are on my profile if anyone wants a nose (altho the after pic isn't too recent, have lost another stone and a bit since then).

James I think wishful thinking must be a major factor in pregnancy dreams. I had a dream the other night that colostrum started squirting out everywhere every time I got undressed! Think my sub-conscious is already stressing over whether I'll be able to BF this time and I'm having wishful thinking dreams that I'll have the opposite problem!

Kaylo and memorylapse really feeling for you both.
Don't apologise at all for upsetting people, we all want to support you.

Really hope we'll still hear good news for you both but if it is the worst, here's my story-
I had a mmc in April at 8 weeks. It was absolutely horrendous but you do get through it and it does get better. If you want any specific advice please just ask I'll tell you what I can. DH and I started trying straight after my first af and I'm so glad we did because it took 4 cycles to get pregnant again.

Holding both your hands and hoping for good news x

I am getting quite worrying stabbing pains in what feels like my ovaries..scared about ectopic might call my EPU this week.

Thanks glastochick.

I have not told her that I am pregnant as she has already told me how hard it was to hear that another friend is and a family member. I would like her to remain as stress free as possible until after she tests.

She will find out within a week or so. Hopefully we will both be having babies close together . If her test is negative then I will just have to tell her gently.

Everyone - I have officially gone off tea, milk, water (except fizzy) and even chocolate . However, I still do not feel anywhere near as ill as I did with DD. I have not even been sick yet. I feel iffy and I am getting bad headaches in the evenings and mornings, and a little around lunch time but otherwise ok ... which should be great but I need to relax in to it.

I am away for 2 weeks next week on a residential work course. Was very anxious about leaving DD (am home at weekends) but now feel the rest may do me good. It doesnt start until 9am and is only a 15 minute drive from the hotel, plus chips in bed (room service) each night !! I think DH is probably also quite glad I am going

Memorylapse and Kaylo - I have everything crossed for you. I haemorrhaged with my last pg and was so sure I'd miscarried. Everyone thought so - even the docs. It was bright red, watery blood - and loads of it - with clots and cramps. But all was well in the end. I couldn't believe it. I really, really hope the same is true for you.

ForcesSweetheart - wow - those before and after pics are amazing! Well done! And what a gorgeous little girl you have - I love the halloween pics and the green hair!

I feel pretty rotten today. Think I'm coming down with a cold, still can't sleep well at night, feel sick ALL the time, and am panicking about how I'll cope (time and money) when the baby is born. And I'm beginning to worry how my DD will cope - we've been so close for 6 years (I was a single mum for much of her life), and soon she'll have to share me! Silly, really, as she's been begging for a sibling, and I'd felt so guilty before at not giving her one for the future! Arghghghgh, Blardy hormones!