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Due in June 2009 – let the eviction process begin!!

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lauraloo09 · 01/06/2009 13:30

I hope I've done this right - here is the new thread...and hopefully the last in ante-natal

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Ineedmorechocolatenow · 14/06/2009 18:55

Congratulations to snow and Nemo - Hooray for more June arrivals. I can't wait to hear choccie and Naat's news later....

We spent a lovely day at RHS Wisley today. Such beautiful weather, and DS got to run out a bit of energy. He's pooped now!

I BF in public in a special 'quiet area for nursing mothers' in the cafe, which although wasn't whopping my boob out in front of everyone, was still much more public than I'm used to! It was nice, actually as I'm quite shy about the idea and it felt like a happy medium. DS sat quite happily next to me repeating 'so, mummy, what's the story in Balamory' and getting me to make up stories about the characters. Quite cute, but scary how much TV he's watching!

On the downside, I'm pretty sure I have thrush in each breast and it was only confirmed this morning when I saw a white coating on Emily's tongue and little white spots on the roof of her mouth. Off to GP's tomorrow. Boobs have deep pain in them, worse after a feed and between. I suppose I was on some heavy duty antibiotics after she was born for my third degree tear. I sent DH off for some Actimel this afternoon to try and combat it. Any of you had this before? I've scared myself looking it up on the internet so would rather hear others' experiences! Apparently it can be agony, so I must have caught it early as it's just uncomfortable at the moment. Hopefully GP will give us drops for her and cream for me. Apparently there is a tablet you can take too. Just looked it all up on The Breastfeeding Network....

Anyway, about to tuck into one of my pre-prepared cottage pies. Thank God I managed to do loads of cooking before my SPD got too bad!

Love to all xx

June2009 · 14/06/2009 19:35

We just got back from midwife appointment and it went well.
She started by doing the usual blood pressure, urine sample, listening to baby's heart, feeling the tummy to see where baby is and then explained briefly what the sweep was about, what she was going to do and what was expected to happen after.
Here's for the tmi:
If I understood correctly there's an outer and inner cervix, so she had a feel around and in my case the outer part is starting to open but inner part is closed still.
She did a sweep and hopefully a few things could happen: the inner cervix opening, a show, maybe labour...
The sweep itself was completely fine and nothing to worry about, of course it didn't feel very natural to have someone's fingers up there...(and the cervix felt a lot further up than I thought!!) and it was not the most comfortable thing but it was not painful in my case.
She did it at around 4:30 and so far no niggles or pains or bleeding.

She then left us in the room to let me get dressed, go write her notes/chat with the other mw.
THEN she comes back to say she'd like me to see the doctor in labour as she felt that the baby was quite big. (She either "felt" this today or saw the copy of the measurements from the private scan we had at 2 weeks ago.) and that the last thing they wanted, NOW that they've just done a sweep, is me being in labour in the birth centre and the baby being too big. (shouldn't they check that kind of stuff BEFORE they do a sweep???).

We went to labour ward ("donwstairs") to have a chat with the doctor and he charted the baby measurements on their maternity notes graphs, the baby is within the norm but at the top of the chart and the birth centre have a policy to not deliver babies that are in the 90%tile.
So no birth centre for me.
I'll either go directly to labour ward or, if nothing happens before then, I'll be induced in yet another ward ("upstairs") on the 19th June when I'm 40+12. He said the size of the baby is not of concern, just doesn't fit the birth centre criteria (fair enough I guess they have to draw the line somewhere).

At this point honestly I don't really care where I give birth anymore, and the people in the labour ward are a lot more straightforward than the midwives from the birth centre, even when/if it's not good news, which is the approach that I prefer.

I have to go for now unfortunately, will be back a bit later on, but that's basically the whole story.

Fingers crossed baby comes before the 19th.

loooouise · 14/06/2009 19:46

Oh June sounds like you've had an eventful afternoon! I hope you're not disappointed. Sounds like you're pretty on top of it all though. I'm glad it wasn't too painful for you - fingers crossed you'll get some action in the next few days. Chin up. We'll get there in the end!

ermintrude13 · 14/06/2009 19:47

Gosh June, you're having such a complicated time. Never heard of that policy in a BC but I guess they play it terribly safely - although I'd have thought that with them being in the same place a quick transfer 'upstairs' would have been possible. So sorry it's turning out to be such a palaver, but you seem to have come to terms with going to the labour ward and by this stage just getting the baby out safe and sound is the only priority. Hope that sweep does something.

Doris Happy birthday! I'd have loved my LO to share it but unless s/he gets skates on that's not going to happen...

silk I have elephant ankles this evening too

Bigcar Great news that Edward is such a good weight and not waking too much

Ineed I have heard of thrush on breasts but no experience of it. Hopefully you've caught it early enough for treatment to prevent it gettng painful or serious.

Hi to Looouise, Lauraloo and everyone else.

insywinsyspider · 14/06/2009 20:50

hello all

more congratulations to send round! its going to be slow work getting through your messages but hope you are all keeping well

ineed I had thrush with ds2, it really hurts! I felt like I had glass in my nipples every time I fed, HV blamed my latch on but gp confirmed thrush, he gave me a gel for ds and I had tablets - they aren't actually listed as suitable for bfeeding mothers but the NCT did a study and its one of the most effective things to take with minimal risk to baby, if the thrush is in your milk ducts then gel or cream won't cut it - hope you get some treatment soon

june sounds like a right palarva and a strange policy just hope the sweep gets things moving

good luck naat and choccie

lauraloo09 · 14/06/2009 22:20

take it there is no news yet from naat or choccie hope everything is going ok with them

june poor you sounds like a lot of hassle and a strange policy for a birthing centre

Well i'm 39+1 today and tonight i feel very uncomfortable, very heavy on the bump and underneath the bump and i've had a cramp lasting hours (still got it) I've had cramps before but nothing that made me this uncomfortable

I hope the rest of you guys have been ok or giving birth today x

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daisy5 · 14/06/2009 22:26

nemo and snowwombat - I am thrilled for you both. Congratulations. Can't wait to hear your stories.

littlesarah - I really sympathise with your situation. My dd had reflux and could take up to 90minutes to stop being unsettled after a feed (would cry if lain down as acid problem and had tonnes of air that would never leave) which was especially hard at night. Twice I fell asleep trying to burp her and woke a couple of hours later with her still upright in my hands!!!! Anyway, point is that I had so little sleep. No one really comprehended how little sleep that meant for me (4-5hours for 3 months) and the fact that I was suffering from extreme exhaustion. All I can think to say is to try and get sleep wherever and whenever you can, even if it involves telling visitors they can't come but you are probably trying to do that. My heart goes out to you.

mrsmcjnr - thinking of you. Am a bit appalled at how you were treated in the Spanish hospital - the bit about the cold shower and leaving you undressed. It all sounds a very draconian. I hope they are being nice to you. Thanks for the website referral.

june - sorry to hear that the bc is no longer a possibility....although if it is a large baby then it may well be for the best. We are both battling to give birth before possible inductions.

naat - Recently I had the hunch you would pip me to the post .

Ineed - sorry to hear about the thrush. I hope you get treated quickly and it clears up. It sounds painful.

I have had a horrible day. dp is being just nasty - he has no sensitivity whatsoever and is downright foul....and will be for the next three months, I am quite certain. He is only ever great if I am in tip top form, and if I am not well, he becomes very bitter and unpleasant. He just can't his mouth shut and put his feelings aside for a moment and give me what I need. We are both under a lot of stress but I am the one facing a possible induction in two days time. In fact when I burst into tears and said I needed a hug and said 'it's all too much. I want to have this baby naturally', his response was 'well we both know that's not going to happen'! Gee, the w_ word leaps to mind doesn't it. Patronising sarcasm in time of distress, just what the nearest and dearest needs.

His schedule has changed a bit as the uber important US man is having to fly back Monday night as something important has come up, and so the only important things are a Monday 2pm meeting and a Tuesday 2pm presentation. Anyway, I've decided that after the way he's been today, there is no way I am going to put his work ahead of my health and baby's welfare.

I am going to see how I feel overnight and then most likely go to the hospital in the morning and beg for one last sweep and tell them I want to change my induction to Wednesday or Thursday. I do hope the schedule on those days isn't full, as I do think leaving it till Friday might be a bit on the late side.

It's just that I had such an excellent first experience with dd and she just popped out with a couple of pushes. The midwives said I was one of those people designed to give birth easily (from my dad's side of the family apparently) so it is very hard to see the need for an induction unless there is some real concern.

Anyway, I've been in tears as the pressure is getting too much for me. It is hard going against doctor's advice isn't it, as you really feel you are taking a lot upon yourself.

daisy5 · 14/06/2009 22:27

hi laura

lauraloo09 · 14/06/2009 22:34

Hiya daisy sorry to hear DP has been nasty today, not that I am condoning it maybe he is starting to feel stressed about the presentation and possible induction...but him being stressed is no excuse being nasty to you, esp being sarcastic to you there is no need for that esp when you're feeling a tad low at the moment.

I hope that when you go to hospital tomorrow they will give you one last sweep and move your induction date...or even better if labour was to start naturally tonight so no need for induction...fingers crossed for you xx

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loooouise · 14/06/2009 22:37

Ahh Daisy ((hugs)). You sound like you're having a rotten time. I'm sorry you're not being supported. I'm in no position to offer relationship advice, (!) but have some cyber sympathy from me xxx

LittleSarah · 14/06/2009 23:39

Daisy - So sorry to hear you are not getting what you need. I can't imagine how stressed and and down I'd be if I was waiting and worrying about induction! I really hope you go into labour very very soon and you have a nice simple time of it.

I think the difficulty with these early days is always tiredness, going to bed becomes a bit depressing as you know you'll be up so often. But hey, I'm hopeful it won't be too often for too long!

insywinsyspider · 15/06/2009 06:24

I think I'm having contractions - want to cry, not sure I'm ready to have this baby and getting scared about labour, normal right??
been up since 4am frantically doing last minute jobs, just remembered moses basket is still in loft... much virtual hand holding needed, will be back later to post I hope!

dreamydowler · 15/06/2009 07:01

Morning Insywinsy Im here to hold hands with hun Stay calm and relax in between contractions have something to eat and breathe slow and steadily with each contraction. bounce on your ball if you have one or rock your pelvis. You can take some paracetamol early on too and if it helps have a nice power shower or soak in the bath for a while. Looking forward to hearing some good news from you later sending lots of calming positive birth vibes your way xxxx

silkcushion · 15/06/2009 08:17

Hey Insy - hope yr feeling a little calmer now. Great advice from Dreamy and good luck if it is labour x

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 15/06/2009 08:20

Message from Naat:

'Hi there! Quick message just to let you all know baby was born today at 2.53 pm. I'll tell you all about it tomorrow w we go home. Lots of love xxx'

No other details, but hooray for Naat and Mr Naat!!

Sorry to hear about DP not being supportive Daisy.

Good luck insy! Thinking of you xx

Off to run the gauntlet of the doctor's receptionist.... wish me luck x

insywinsyspider · 15/06/2009 08:21

thanks dreamy, its baby number3 so I have this horrible 'oh my god its going to be horrible' feeling even tho both were straight forward and ds2 was a home birth, contractions are 8 mins apart but haven't got any closer, showered, am eating scrambled egg now and my mum on standby, dh just gone to work, the breathing is just helping me through my moments of panic at moment more than contractions!

insywinsyspider · 15/06/2009 08:22

congrats naat too!

ermintrude13 · 15/06/2009 08:44

Insy good luck, go with it, you'll be fine. I'm more worried about labour #3 than #2 for some reason so maybe it's a common thing. But your body knows what to do - and we did forget enough about the other labours to get pg again so it will all fade into a distant memory once you hold your LO.

Glad you're eating - keep your strength up - and just b-r-e-a-t-h-e!

Hurrah for Naat, hope we hear from her soon.

Daisy so sorry DH is being an emotional retard - they do choose their moments don't they? There's no reason why this labour will be any more hard work than the first, so focus on the MW's positive comments about how well you did then.

Hi looouise and lauraloo hope you have comfortable days - or that those cramps and aches develop into something.

daisy5 · 15/06/2009 09:10

Contractions last night - irregular but got to sleep at 1.15. Awake at 4am with some more. Started timing from 6.00 and they were around 14mins - eye wicingly strong ones for 1minute and have hit 12mins since, but not getting any closer to 10mins. Dp going to work from home this morning and I shall gyrate on the ball in front of tele in the hope they start to come quicker. Until the head pops out, I will not believe I am in labour and almost don't want to tempt fate by writing this down.

dreamydowler · 15/06/2009 10:27

Insy My third labour was just 3 hours start to finish 1st about 12 hours second 6 my 4th was probably my longest
Congratulations Naat cant wait to hear all the details
Daisy think positive thoughts imagine that baby moving down do you have any clary sage oil thats meant to be good for strengthening contractions
Its all happening not much here though. Its my daughters actual 18th today so nice that I managed to make it to both her party and her birthday. Its my due date tomorrow but somehow doesnt feel like baby has any plans to go anywhere soon. Going to make some spicy fajitas for tea as they are my daughters favourite eat lots of pineapple and maybe encourage dp to give a helping hand

lauraloo09 · 15/06/2009 10:41

morning everyone - well no change here apart from being up around 15 times during the night with cramping pains but yet again never came to anything, just feels like a constant period cramp
DH knocks off work on Friday for 2 weeks and I am starting to panic that baby wont be here for him and he'll be back to work before she makes an appearance...Baby will be grounded if she is late coming out lol

daisy hopefully this will develop into labour for you and you wont need induced tomorrow fingers crossed for you x

insy good luck and will be thinking of you, hopefully it will all go well for you x

dreamy you never know those spicy fajtas and pineapple might just set you off tonight

litlesarah how's things settling now with Alexander?

Naat congratulations and can't wait to hear more on birth and baby's name

erm morning how have you been keeping today? x

ineed good luck going to GP's today

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silkcushion · 15/06/2009 10:42

congrqatulations Naat - wonder what she had? Hopefully we'll hear from Choccie today as well.

All sounds promisng for Daisy and Insy. Still no real signs of anything here - that's me, Dreamy and Ermin in the 'nothing happening corner'

Hope you good days ladies

silkcushion · 15/06/2009 10:42

congrqatulations Naat - wonder what she had? Hopefully we'll hear from Choccie today as well.

All sounds promisng for Daisy and Insy. Still no real signs of anything here - that's me, Dreamy and Ermin in the 'nothing happening corner'

Hope you good days ladies

silkcushion · 15/06/2009 10:43

oops x and double posts

June2009 · 15/06/2009 11:03

All fingers crossed for you Daisy and Insy. Naat Congratulations :D

I hardly slept last night thinking about induction, hoping that lo comes before then...