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Due Jan 2010... Grab the folic acid and settle down for the long haul...

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singalongamumum · 23/04/2009 21:34

Wow, can't believe I'm posting this, hope I'm not jinxing it but sooooooooo excited. Just found I'm due on January 1st. OMG!

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skidoodle · 05/06/2009 19:12

Biccy that sounds YUM! I haven't much nausea but I might make it anyway

dal I just told a friend of mine today. My immediate family all know already. I would definitely want this friend's support if anything went wrong so there's no risk telling her. I've also got her lined up to lie for me at a wedding we're both going to soon

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laurawantsababy · 05/06/2009 19:47

Hi all, seems like everyone is doing well!

I am 6 weeks on Sunday and wondering how the hell I can wait another 6 for my scan! Im so tempted to tell my mum but would rather just give her the scan photo and watch her face go white!

Its dd's 1st birthday party tomorrow! Im knackered just thinking about it She has become a lot more confident with her walking today so thats going to fun in the next few weeks! I have started napping with her in the afternoons and have noticed a big difference.

sazlocks · 05/06/2009 19:50

evening all - welcome to new BFPs and hello to everyone else.
Feeling wretched - don't know about morning sickness more like all day, every day sickness. Although to be fair I haven't actually been sick yet but the slightest smell sets me off nausea wise. Other peoples perfume in work is a particular annoyance at the moment ! I am going to buy some of those band things tomorrow and see if that helps. Given that I am only 6.5 weeks its going to feel like a long way to 12 weeks if I carry on feeling this rough.
Told my boss yesterday and she was very lovely - excited for me and told me to go home if I was feeling ill etc. I feel very lucky to have such a supportive work environment - especially reading about your experience marmitemonster - how dreadful are your colleagues ?!
Happy weekend everyone

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skidoodle · 05/06/2009 20:13

PMSL @ marmitemonster imagining Biccy pouring her tasty drink all over her tummy

OK, nachos ON TOAST? I don't comprese. I wish you hadn't said nachos. I'm getting very food faddy these days and now I really, really want a plate of nachos (just on the plate though, no toast required )

sazlocks what you're describing sounds a lot like how I felt last time. It was really shit. I also used to say "at least I haven't puked", but TBH the odd vomit might have relieved the awful, relentless, exhausting nausea. I hope you find some relief through seabands or lollipops. I never tried anything like that. Probably couldn't get myself to the shops because I was feeling too shite.

laurawantsababy well done your DD walking already My DD (14 mos) took her first steps on Wednesday

Right off to make some potato pancakes for my daughter. She's been eating some rubbishy things since we moved. Got to stock up on foods for her.

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starshaker · 05/06/2009 20:34

i dont know if i could cope with twins. Its gonna be hrd enough if there is just 1 (single mum) i hope its a shadow or a blip so fingers crossed. 2 would just be too much lol

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starshaker · 05/06/2009 20:46

no id quite like to keep my head burried in the sand please lol. in different circumstances i have always said i would love twins but im on my own now with dd and the dickhead donor (not even calling him a dad) wants nothing to do with this. It was scary enough to think of 1 let alone 2

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Dizzyclarebear · 05/06/2009 21:19

oh Starshaker - it must be hard to be excited by twins when you're doing this solo... sending hugs.

Londonlottie, also not had any MS. Hoping this situ remains... Also running out of fitting underwear, think a shopping spree might be in order tomorrow.

Craving spicy food like mad - DH out at rugby dinner (decided not something to try sober so have declined joining, think for the best..) so made a curry, but not hot enough!!

Somewhathorrified - questions, next time try: who would win in a fight, She-Ra or Cheetah from Thundercats? Although seriously, I'm first go at this and not really thought all that much about it, just keeping to the stupid long list of things I can't eat and hoping no-one suggests I try childbirth without a shedload of drugs... Any 2nd (3rd, 4th) timers can suggest anything I should be asking about? They are a bit rubbish round here so I don't get an appointment until 29th June...

lilacpink · 05/06/2009 22:00

Hi All

Starshaker I'm friends with two mums with twin boys born within the same week. One was single & started a routine ASAP and had both sleeping through chunks of the night by 6 weeks! The other one (couple) still stays up with hers now until they're asleep, gives them bottles etc. (they're approaching 3). My single friend has a new partner and is considering no.3. Other friend says 'no way'. Anyhow, my point is that if it is twins, you can get through this, and that having a partner sometimes doesn't help with routines. Personally it took me awhile to get DH to let me get on with it, and this time around I'm setting the routine ASAP as I'll need to continue it when he's at work anyhow. I hope you have family/friends support or will be able to use a nursery for breaks, whether 1 or 2 DCs.

Dal21 to echo the earlier question - where do you buy preggie pops? I'm trying travel sickness bands, but as with 1st preg not sure if they're helping or not. I'm sick 1-2 times a day, waking between 2-4am to be ill, and then ill again around 9pm, sometimes around 10am in morning. I'm finding rice crispies with sugar and plain toast the best to settle my stomach, but will try anything anyone else suggests!

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starshaker · 05/06/2009 22:45

my dd goes to nursery in the morning and my mates help out when they can. But my family have more important things to do. Im looking into having a doula as i cant expect my mates to drop everything and i know my family wnt.
Not sure if people know my situation but dd's dad cheated on me 7 times before i kicked him out. I then got drunk with my mate and he got me pregnant. He wont even speak to me now. sorry just feeling really shitty today

Biccy · 05/06/2009 23:32

starshaker I am pretty sure that you can get help, for free, when you have twins. Don't quote me, but I think trainee nursery nurses need the experience - and even though they are inexperienced, it's not really experience you'd be after I don't suppose, as much as another pair of hands? I'm sure when you see a midwife they can tell you what help is available in your area.

You know marmitemonster cold fizzy liquid actually on my tummy might not actually be so silly... hmm..

Has anyone else had one of those moments yet when you suddenly start crying uncontrollably and thinking 'oh what am I doing, a baby???!!'. I know it's the hormones, because it happened last time even though I'd been broody for about 10 years, and I don't want to put the frighteners on first timers, because my dd is 100% the best thing in my life... but oh dear, the tears have been coming thick and fast this evening.. and I was watching a comedy on Film4!

Re questions for 1st timers - I advise asking whatever comes into your head, no matter how silly you think it may sound. I asked every thing from 'do I really need to buy baby lotion' (no), to 'I think I'm breaking her ankles every time I lift her legs to do a nappy, could you watch me and check I'm doing ok?' (yes)

dal21 · 06/06/2009 07:37

preggie pops

I ordered 10am on tues morning, they arrived 9am the next day. Didnt bother with any of the packages, just bought 1 box each of the 2 flavours. They are expensive but have helped me. HTH everyone else.

I have a craving for 2 things and they have not gone anywhere. Fish shop chips and a Burger King Bean Burger. [BLUSH] How random? I used to eat them when I was a teenager....I may actually have to cave into one of the cravings this weekend.

skidoodle · 06/06/2009 13:19

dal first time around I went back to eating as I had when I was a teenager.

It was bizarre, and extremely unhealthy as I had a terrible diet when I was that age. I was also able to eat a terrible diet and stay rail thin and full of energy, which doesn't quite work for me now

This time around I seem to be turning into some kind of fruitarian. I am crazy for oranges in particular. Yum.

Biccy - I haven't had any actual crying jags but for some reason even the slightest mention of a baby (including DD's book "Whose Baby Am I?", which is about baby animals) makes me well up. It feels more like a physical reaction than an emotional one because I'm thinking "this is ridiculous" but still the tears come unbidden.

marmite In my work a colleague came back from maternity leave during which her brother had died (probably suicide)

The first morning she was back there ended up being some jokes cracked about suicide in our morning meeting. It wasn't aimed at her, although she must have been shocked and upset by it. But it was noted, and words were had with the people who did it. It was carelessness, not spite that brought it about, but it was still unacceptable.

I don't know your colleagues and they do sound pretty dreadful. But it may be that they are not fully aware of what they are doing, and it may also be that there are people hearing this who are appalled and are saying so out of your hearing (to spare your feelings).

Anyway, I hope you can get to the stage with it all where you can let it wash over you and not be stressed out and upset by it. I know that it far, far easier said than done. Being miserable in work, particularly when you don't like your colleagues, can be very trying emotionally.

starshaker at your "friend" what a louse. That's great that you have such good friends to help you out. It sounds like you've been through the mill recently, hopefully we can give you some support here too.

somewhathorrified · 06/06/2009 15:40

starshaker I'm shocked. This 'mate' sounds like a perfect candidate for compulsory castration. You'll probabaly find that your friends will be expecting to drop everything when you need them, that's what friends do! I wouldn't fret about it. You may find someone on here who lives close to you and is in a similar position, stranger things have happened. In the meantime we're here for moral support.

Regarding obscure behaviours: I appear to have aquired the appetite of a starving nation. No edible item is safe! I'm thinking of investing in a padlock for the fridge.

nervoussara · 06/06/2009 15:48

Hi guys. Have been reading everyones ups and downs but haven't been in touch as feeling too poo. Very anxious and depressed as well as feeling sick. Its so hard because there isn't much advice on depression through pregnancy. Can't believe I'm only 6 weeks. Sorry to be a downer but everyone is saying how excited I should be but I can't. I want a baby just not all this. Hope you guys have a fab weekend. Some sunshine would have been good.

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Biccy · 06/06/2009 16:22

nervoussoura, is this your first? I remember feeling really down in the early weeks of my first pregnancy; I couldn't believe I was ever go to feel like me again, and I just kept thinking 'what have I done?'... but things changed once the hormones settled down and I had a lovely bump to rub, and I got my normal energy levels back. I cried alot at my first GP appointment - poor thing, she had to gently ask if the pregnancy was good or bad whilst pushing the box of tissues at me while I sobbed and gasped 'good'. She said that's why she has tissues, and it is a really weird time emotionally, and to try not to worry about not feeling excited - it's perfectly normal. I'm not feeling excited now, currently my overriding feeling is fear (not of the birth, just the whole responsibility thing I think).

I had the Martha and William Sears book on pregnancy, and it was fab I thought, especially in terms of acknowledging all the negative feelings you may be having, giving you some explanation as to why you may be feeling like that, and letting you know that it's ok to feel like that.

maygirl · 06/06/2009 16:29

Not had any MS so far, and hoping stays this way, didn't have it with DS1. But have been hit with extreme tiredness, feel a hormonal and tearful mess!

Albany midwives looks lovely. In fact it was reading the homebirth stories there that started the tears rolling! I planned a home water birth last time, but ended up post dates so having a hospital induction.

Trying to reign in the eating, as gained 4 stone last time and at only 5ft, was quite a weight gain!

Hope everyone's able to have a relaxing and restorative weekend.

maygirl · 06/06/2009 16:29

Not had any MS so far, and hoping stays this way, didn't have it with DS1. But have been hit with extreme tiredness, feel a hormonal and tearful mess!

Albany midwives looks lovely. In fact it was reading the homebirth stories there that started the tears rolling! I planned a home water birth last time, but ended up post dates so having a hospital induction.

Trying to reign in the eating, as gained 4 stone last time and at only 5ft, was quite a weight gain!

Hope everyone's able to have a relaxing and restorative weekend.