Due Jan 2010... Grab the folic acid and settle down for the long haul...

[singalongamumum]

Wow, can't believe I'm posting this, hope I'm not jinxing it but sooooooooo excited. Just found I'm due on January 1st. OMG!

nervoussara sending u a hug. Sorry to hear your feeling down. I think Biccy and londonlottie are right. This is my first and have waited soooo long that while I'm over the moon I'm so nervous at times too...it's like a rollercoaster of emotions.

somewhathorrified you should come to my house and eat the contents of my fridge - I've lost all appetite for the last few days. I did go through the fruit stage for a few weeks skidoodle but still on the giant choc buttons at the mo (safely hidden from DH) seems to be the only thing I want to eat.

So dal21 which craving have you given into?

starshaker your so called friend sounds as though he needs to grow up a little. Do you know any of his family? Maybe they can take on some of his responsibility?

dont have any mutual friends and dont know his family. we both kept our familys seperate from friends. if im honest id rather not have him around if hes not gonna be interested. dont need extra crap to deal with really. he has 2 older kids so im wondering if when baby(s) come he might get a heart and want to be involved

Hello everyone!

Today has been an uber lazy today in our household! Nothing of note has really been achieved as I too have been feeling bleurgh!

Firstly - to all the firsttimers. When I felt pregnant with DS, it was totally planned and very much wanted. I would have been utterly devasted if there had been any difficulties conceiving. We were fortunate and DS was a little bean as soon as we started trying. Having said all of that. My emotions were everywhere! I felt scared, overwhelmed and more than anything 'OMG, what have we done, this is it'. And I think that last emotion was the best summary of how I felt. Virtually every other decision you make in your life is (IMO), not so life changing and final. Marriage was huge for me, but even marriage paled into insignificance next to having a child! It was so final. I also remember saying to DH 'what if he/ she doesnt like me' Plus there is the worry of not knowing what lies ahead. As Biccy has said, once hormones settle, you can tell people and you have an actual bump - it all comes together. I loved the 2nd trimester. I felt fantastic.
So to all of you feeling differing emotions, it is perfectly natural and hopefully will pass as the pregnancy progresses.

Skidoodle - Mine is nectarines, but oranges also sound fab right now!

Somewhat - I wouldnt bother, you'll only need bolt cutters to get through it at some point!

Nervoussara - please keep posting here for support! We will all have our ups and downs and hopefully will help one another through them.

Sleepingalot - I did have a pizza express pizza last week. Other than that, am trying to stay healthy. Am not convinced fried foods will actually make me feel much better.

Starshaker - am very sorry to hear about your situation. Hope we can provide you with all the support (albeit not actual useful support) that you need.

Hope everyone else has enjoyed today. I am already looking forward to my bed!

Pretty lazy here too, although I have managed to get a curry cooking for supper (although with dd being only 3 and it now being 6.20 I am rather behind schedule). Am trying not to feel guilty that she's had the TV on since about 3.30... it's only temporary, right?

I need to bow out. I lost the pregnancy last week at 5+6 weeks.

Good luck to everyone else and hope there are lots of bouncy babies in the new year.

Jamie Jay;
my heart goes out to you my love. It happened to me too in Feb, so here's a really BIG hug for you. xx

Hi Ladies, Can I join you? After quite a traumatic week I finally got to see heartbeat on Thursday so I'm going to brave this thread if that's ok?
It's baby no1 and we've been through a lot to get here (pcos, testicular cancer, 2 ivf cycles, 1 mc...)
Total surprise after all that to get pregnant this time naturally!
After mc earlier this year I'm very anxious - managed to add to this terror by having a scan at what I thought was 6 weeks (nothing but an empty sac) turns out I would only have been 5+3!
Still very worried but trying to relax - figure even with pcos the odds are in my favour?!

I don't feel as ill as you guys do (which also worries me!!) I've got sore boobs which kill when I take my bra off at night, I'm also weeing about 5 times per night!)

Hope you are all well? Hello Lottie x

Mowmi - welcome! I have read some of your threads on the pregnancy boards...am so glad you are with us! Oh and I had zero symptoms with DS aside from the amazinly sore and huge boobs! And is causing havoc in his bath woth DH as I type!

JamieJay - am so sorry to hear your news.

Biccy - DS has also watched way more tv than normal today!

mowmi - gosh, you guys really have had a very arduous journey to get here. Glad to have you with us

If your boobs are sore at night you could try wearing a (properly fitted) sports bra. It helped me loads last time. Mine were so comfortable and my boobs so sore I ended up wearing them all the time.

JamieJay - so sorry to hear your news I hope you have lots of support to get through it.

Hi everyone else

I had a very lazy day today too. I was meant to be sorting out my clothes into our wardrobes (rather than having them lying around in suitcases and bags) but the bed was just there and I'm pretty sure it was calling out to me. Let's just say I let myself be seduced

nervoussara please don't worry about being a downer. We're hardly a barrel of laughs around here are we? Feel free to talk away about how you're feeling. Far better than faking excitement you don't feel and not acknowledging worries you have. If you have a search on MN you might find some useful threads about antenatal depression. You're far from alone.

Biccy I am so jealous of your curry , although I suppose I could have made one if I hadn't been sleeping all afternoon.

Loads to catch up on sorry for the losses and congrats to others.
Still feeling very sick constantly but never actually sick
I really have to force myself to eat.
Well I'm 10 weeks and really don't know when my first scan will be so still not telling people.

Just found out I've passed my uni work so I'm really happy and will graduate in November was planning on dieting for that but will prop be glad of hiding under thye gown

Hi All

Dal21 thanks for preggie pop link, I'll take a look ASAP.

starshaker if you think your friend may take an interest later, perhaps it may be an idea to remind him briefly of the preg on a regular basis as you go through it now, so he can help sooner than later after birth. I'm just thinking in the long-run if you can build a relationship for your child(ren) earlier it may be worth exploring, even though he is being worse than useless now. My DH is preg/baby phobic, even though he loves our DD and we love each other and have lots in common, it's been hard to get here, and he'll struggle until DC2 is at least 3mths. I have friends who DHs are similar, so perhaps part of your friends reaction could be that too (fear).

maygirl I'm 5ft and put on 4 stone after 1st preg too! I put it down to the fact I had to stuff carbs to stop being ill, but truth is in last month I also gave up and ate cookies day and night. I had water retention (all over arms and legs), so just though it's just water it'll leave later - big mistake, literally! 3 mths after giving birth a lady in Mothercare said 'someone knows what shes having' (I was buying pink clothes and DD wasn't with me)

Hi mowmi you really have been through it to be here, I hope everything goes well for you.

So sorry JamieJay hope you have someone giving you lots of hugs.

alibobins congrats on passing your uni work

Well folks, went for 'night out' tonight and back home in bed already. It all started to go wrong when I started to get ready and put on my newish black trousers that I only wore about 4 weeks ago and was a real struggle to close them and when I eventually did they looked ridiculous... so put a skirt on and still felt all wrong. Am so bloated at mo I actually look pregnant and am only 8+2! Arrived at party (my bosses) and drinking sparkling water made certain colleagues eyebrows raise (I'm driving...honest!!) Felt as though one colleague was staring at my tummy - she was sitting down and I was standing, which didn't help. Not planning on telling work folk until end of wk 12 so became super paranoid, made excuses and left. Now back to the sanctuary of my lovely bed, where, quite frankly I could quite happily stay for the forseeable future!

I haven't been on for a while, really sorry to hear that some have had bad news.

sleepingalot - yep I'm also bloated. None of my work trousers fit me anymore and I had to buy some baggy ones with a low waist from New Look. My gut looks massive and my boobs have gone up a size already and my nips seem massive (sorry!)! Don't know if anyone has noticed though!!!

Despite all this I still can't believe I'm pregnant!

nervoussara - it is a bloody rollercoaster isn't it? I don't know what I was expecting it to be like, I half sort of thought that I would flounce around in flowery maternity wear for a few months and then have a gorgeous baby and nothing else would change but everything in your life goes upside down. It's a lot to take in.

So sorry jamiejay to hear your sad news.

Hi, can I join you all? I'm 8 weeks, 5 days and seriously paranoid after a miscarriage in January at the 7.5 week mark (was I worried last week...) Not sure whether you all are as gross as this, but I am prodding my own boobs to check tenderness, behaving like a detective at a crime scene, looking for blood each time I go to the loo - and gutted that I am not feeling sicker.
sleepingalot I am with you re work: I don't want to tell my colleagues, but every social occasion seems to involve sneakily avoiding drink!

Half a stone of mine was between 40-42 weeks lilacpink, kept eating the haribos I'd got in my labour bag and stopped exercising as thought was about to give birth any minute ! Needed to keep energy up! I got bad water retention during the birth, and was exactly the same weight when got home from hosp as I was the day I went in, after having 8.3 DS! I was horrified, was expecting to be at least a stone down!
Trying to follow slimming world this time, prob still gain loads but hopefully be in the habit of following it for afterwards, as the plan for while breastfeeding is great, can eat loads !

Welcome Mowmi and Mumbling

Thanks Maygirl

Sorry to hear your news JamieJay.

Hi everyone this thread is moving superfast - glad to know I am not the only bloated one - . I don't have ms but I do have evening sickness so I have started eating dinner at lunchtime and that is a bit better.

I can't believe I am 10 weeks already I have put on 1.5 kilos - hoping that slows down a bit now.

3 weeks to next scan but have blood tests next week hope I don't faint this time around.

That dinner sounds lovely londonlottie I might need to get a supports bra too although I am trying those vests with built in support first.

Maygirl are you doing slimming world during pregnancy will you loose weight on it - I quite fancy trying it - what's the food like?

Londonlottie your post made me hungry (not difficult!) Yesterday was starving and wolfed down a veggie breakfast at a local cafe, including a poached egg - does anyone know if there's a poached egg embargo? I'd just forgotten all about egg issues

JamieJay, am so sorry to hear your news; it really doesn't matter how 'normal' it is, or how many others have experienced the same thing, it is still very very sad when this happens to you.

Hi mumbling, just thought I'd reassure you that you are not the only uber-paranoid one around. I miscarried at 7 weeks in Feb (plus lost two at 5 weeks in Nov/March) and am now 6 + 5. I am getting so nervous... am really worried this morning as I don't feel as rough as I did yesterday and my bloatedness seems to have gone down (but that's probably because I finally got an early night and a lie in, and I seem to feel the worst in the afternoons!). I don't like the nausea, but am even more unhappy when it seems to go away. I am knicker-checking like crazy, examining the loo roll every time I pee, have had dreams of miscarrying... and like you massaging my boobs to check they are still tender. I've even whipped my trousers down in the kitchen to check!

Hi Mumbling glad your over your first hurdle, hope everything goes well for you this time.

londonlottie your heathly eating shamed me into having fruit and yoghurt for breakfast today... not felt like eating anything for last few days so have just been snacking, and it's not been too healthy stuff . Am going to make more of a consious effort to eat today and healthier things.

Hope eveyone has a good day

Mumbling's post made me think. How many of you guys are actually taking any notice of the 'do's and don'ts' associated with modern pregnancy?

Personally I look at the lists, laugh, then go eat and do what I enjoy..."be happy" was my Dr. advice and I'm sticking to it!

good morning everyone

I've just had my weekend lie in and finally feel like I've had enough sleep. Anyone else's tiredness feel almost like a type of sickness? It's not just that I'm tired, it's this all-encompassing exhaustion that feels like it will never be satisfied. I'm dreading this week of work.

sleepingalot I too feel I would be perfectly content not to get out of bed for a while. Those grandparents in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory had the right idea. Other than visits to chocolate-themed places, I want to be where there are pillows

Welcome mumbling sorry to hear you're so nervous. This first bit just isn't fun, is it? Roll on scan dates for all.

alibobbins well done what great news. Now you can lie back and feel proud of yourself between sleeps or more like give yourself a little pat on the back whenever you get a chance to stop for a breather. Can you tell us what the course was? Sorry if you have and I've forgotten.

Oh yes, meant to say that I'm in Northern Ireland, so a long way from most of you.