Due April 2009: Episode 21 - RLT officials have stern words with the April mums after stocks plummet!!

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Thanks to Nutty for all the thread suggestions including this one. I hope no one minds but I picked this one in honour of the brilliant race commentary we had from Nuts and Frekkles the other night. Hopefully we will get some more.

Hello all

very quick post before I run in to a meeting - was up all night with pains - literally didn't get any sleep then got out of bed at 4 to phone the labour ward when they stopped and haven't had any since! This LO is really annoying me now!!

Smutts - I would just hit the hydro on the head - it's clearly making you worse!!!

Springy - it's difficult but actually all you can do is offer to be there for her, talk to her whenever she needs it and support her through it - it has to be her decision and it's a tough one- she might end up really regretting it but there's nothing you can do to predict what her reaction will be - just being there and listening to her will help!!!

Yes all wear helmets!!!

Had a 3 hour meeting about death this morning - not the lovely fluffy PR job I signed up to... hee hee!!

BB ((hugs)) for the pains xx pesty LO!! lol

Now the worries of spsringy have cleanly pushed what I wanted to write in 'catch-up' out of my head... sorry ladies.
As I recall someone's LO is sleeping well and another went off to nursery without mom Good job to both.

Boff your hair cut is lovely and you look rather greek goddess-like. I think Artemis was the goddess of child birth and the hunt(Fanjo warriors hunters perhaps) and you call that to mind in your picture for some reason. You are very beautiful.

Surprise (i think it was) a conversation with Dh about your need for extra help seems to be in order. Sometimes people forget that even though some of us (not including me in this statement) can do lots and 'keep it together' others need a little help now and again...especially when in the closing months of our pregnancy.

I cannot remember...
Oh Nutty, sorry about the water workout not doing any good, and good to know (at least) that the people involved in your 'case' have a firm idea about what they want to do for you/about you... Surely his name must be a mis-spell?

Anything else? Dunno girls, my mind has fizzled out...

Well if he's not close to you then yes, staying out of it with him is best... in my case I was close to both and knew what was going through each person's mind after some talks, but no one wanted to talk to eachother...which left me in a tongue tied position and in the end just being a listener who tried to encourage both as best I could. Hand holding with one's mouth firmly shut is sometimes the only thing one can do.

BB, your LO obviously has a good sense of humour

I'm still laughing at Dr Scrottum. I'm not sure what that says about mine

Ah yes.. easter eggs.. I'm eating one as we 'speak' they're a very good deal when you consider how much chocolate you get for the price... though the reflux with me means that maybe not so good a price as not eating any at all.

I've just made a cup of RLT that I found at the back of my kitchen cupboard - it has a use by date of Jan 08....do you think it'll still work???? (or maybe it'll just make me puke instead! )

Springy - sorry to hear your friend's having a tough time. I don't think there's much you can really do except be there for her whatever she decides. It would be good if she discussed things with her DP though because he might also find it tough if she decides to go ahead with a termination and they should be supporting each other whatever they decide.

Do any of you have DPs with mother tongues that you don't understand? We're going to bring up the baby bilingual with english and greek and DH already talks to the bump in greek (which I don't understand much of). But it slightly worries me that I can't understand what he's saying - yesterday, for eg, we were having a disagreement about where the baby will sleep and he said something to the bump in greek and I reckon it was along the lines of 'your mum is crazy' or something like that! He could be telling the kid anything about me and I wouldn't know!!! Am I just being daft to let this bother me??

Springy - i keep reading the letter has perked me up no end of times today dh is going to have a field day when he reads it

This tea actually tastes ok. It's leaving a dodgy green ring round the mug though...

pethi mou - is litle one or loved one i think
Kali mera - good morning
Kali spera - good afternoon
Kali nichta - good night
YaYa - nan/grandma
Potanna/ Portante (sp) - prostitute
Yasso - hello/goodbye

and i know numbers up to 20 in greek but thats it.

BB can help with the mother tounge and Boff too.

i seem to have forgotten all the good greek swear words though...... grrrrr

Why are you such a greek expert, Nutty? I'm intrigued by the combination of words you know

My Greek's not much more advanced than that! . I really should make more of an effort with learning the language since we've been together for 6 years (and his family don't speak english). Living abroad and getting to grips with the language here has been pretty hard work though, so I'm not sure I can manage another language at the moment, especially one as hard as Greek. Hopefully I'll pick it up while bubs is learning it! DH's english is great and he speaks another 3 languages enough to get by with - makes me feel quite . It's amazing how much you pick up though when forced to communicate with in-laws!! My vocab came on in leaps and bounds last time I was in Greece! (from about 2 words to about 10 )!

well my mum and i used to go to greece alot for holidays and spent one christmas over there for 6 weeks and i spent alot of time with the cleaner who taught me some and we had a fave bar called busybodys and they taught me too and it kinda stuck (thats the clean stuff) .

also one of my friends in school was from a greek family and spoke both english and greek and she taught me some more (the rude stuff)

plus i love greece and the people there,i would quite happily emigrate (dh and i considered doing this a few years ago)

Helloooooo - about to go and pick up DS, but Springy couldn't not butt in (sorry) about your friend......just wondering, are you her best mate, are you the person she would naturally tell these sorts of things to, or do you think there's a chance she picked you to tell about this because she wants you to talk her out of it, on some level?

Seems odd to pick your incredibly pregnant friend to tell about your abortion, unless on some level you are hoping they'll change your mind for you. I know you don't want to try and influence her, but her headlong rush to get it all sorted sounds sort of like someone on a crash course who desperately wants someone to stop them, if that makes sense.

Sorry, it really isn't much help I know, but I had to add my two pence worth.

xxx

Now a 'me' post but not as whiney as I've been lately I promise.

Dh took me out to eat last night at this great little indian place by his work- he was supposed to go biking but said he needed a tool before he could go and asked me to drop it off 'after work'...he tricked me...and took me out instead even though I protested for a bit. I had a lovely curry (beef malabar it was called) and a little glass of red wine which he also insisted I drink. then I had a lovely pineapple and saffron dessert (being 38ish weeks figured it was about time I could eat pineapple again). Then he took me home and I had a little nap in the evening and was awoken by his kisses, which led to some lovely...um...distractions.... and made me feel like a cherished goddess. Then we fell asleep. He woke me again early this morning with more kisses and further distractions of the most lovely sort and then we fell asleep again. I woke at 9 to more kisses but told him to get to work as any further distractions would have made him very late for work. He laughed and showered in my favorite shower gel of his (flying fox from Lush which makes me want to melt) and with a few more teases went off to work with a promise of some more gentle distractions when he comes back from a ride this evening.
I then got up and showered myself then walked! to the MW. A random guy who was waiting at the surgery talked to me and told me that I look quite nice and have a 'fit, neat bump' which made me blush deeply. Then when I went into the MWs she said I was looking healthy and the baby is doing really well and has started to engage properly, she could hardly feel the head because the bone was encasing it so well. I walked home and then popped off to see Dh for lunch and catch him up on all the news.
Then he caught me up on his news...
He's put his CV in for a little part-time job/work at home job (4 weeks only), but here in Cardiff! which he felt he was likely to get and would, if nothing else, tide us over until something came along. It's not as much pay as we/he'd normally get BUT the agent said the little company who was looking for someone was quite flexible so that if he found another job they would work around his other hours! So please fingers crossed for us everyone

So I'm feeling more positive again...distractions and prospects have cheered me greatly.

Bleu - thats fab!!!

Oh Bleu nice DH!!! Fingers crossed - glad things are looking more positive now!

My DH is also being very very lovely at the moment and having lots of good snuggle time! Just can't wait for this baby to come now

Surprise - if you are feeling really strong just stop doing things for him, if you are ironing, don't do his shirts, if you are making dinner, don't make his - he will soon realise which way his bread is buttered and be more helpful!

Nutty, if you emigrate somewhere sunny you'll have to expect that I'll be visiting a lot

WFH, I am her best friend - we've been friends for 9 years or so now. She was the first person I told that I was pregnant (before DH, even - although he was only out at the shop ) so it is natural that she would tell me. But she did also seem quite interested in the later stages of things, as if she was considering if she could deal with it. With her threatened miscarriage, she's still in a fair bit of pain I think - I can't help but feel that she's thinking that she'd feel like that for 9 months, when obviously she wouldn't. I've told her that it'll go away, but it's difficult to make these things clear without looking like I'm ignoring her intentions.

I really do feel that she doesn't really want to do this, but I can't stop her. & maybe my judgement is clouded by my own imminent arrival. Maybe she really is fine...

Bleu, your DH sounds like he's been fab for the last 24 hours! I want a nice meal out & distractions I really hope he gets that job - it sounds perfect for the time being, at least

Kalikaroo, DH speaks Turkish, Arabic and Dutch (as well as English) and I know very very basic turkish conversation - i can make out roughly what people are saying but would be unable to actually say anything to them back!

He speaks to the bump in Turkish all the time (whilst kissing and hitting it like baby cheeks) which I actually really love but we have a rule that once the baby is here, we (as in me and baby) will learn together properly so anything he says to the baby he has to explain to me too!

Kali - I can only answer this from the other side - DH's German isn't great although he does understand quite a bit. I often think he should make more of an effort to learn it properly, after all he's known me for.... hmm... 15 years now. Our DCs might end up speaking German quite a bit and then he won't understand what they are saying. Surely that's wrong?

Having said that though, Greek must be really difficult to learn. My best friend is also married to a Greek man and she's struggling with the language. So I don't blame you!

Puzzle - this HiP form has my name all over it

Springy - sorry to hear about your friend, I haven't got much to add except one of my very good friends had two abortions in her early twenties, and now has 3 boys with a different man and I don't think she regrets anything. Your friend will make the right decision for herself, all you can do is support her whichever choice she makes.

Springy with this LO the drs thought it was ectopic (sp?) and said to me that it was unlikely to develop anything and if it was there was a chance my fertility rate would decrease (if the tube burst or anything more serious etc) and for that reason 1. I refused to get attached to it and 2. Found it much harder to get my head round the fact that I COULD be a mum.

However having said that the thought of losing LO was so scary that it made me realise how much I wanted the baby to be OK and that's when I decided that this was the right thing for us (I don't think I ever would have really got rid of it as me and DH always said if we were married and ok then whatever happened happened) but having just got married and not planned kids for a good couple of years there were decisions we had to make (we are not in the ideal house / are or financially as stable as we would have wanted to be etc).

That is not very helpful I know but it may be she is hiding or scared but while I was scared and spent the first week or so purposefully trying NOT to get attached, the scare made me really realise how much I wanted it - give her time to work her head out and she'll make the right decision for her - but I would encourage her to speak to her DP about it!!!

Afternoon all

Bleu - good news. Things do always come up in the end - and working in Cardiff is a massive bonus. You really don't want him commuting far away around the time baby is due.

Nutty - your docs name is prize winning! Sorry aqua was not such a success.

Surprise - I really think you need to have a chat with your DH. You don't want to make yourself ill before baby comes and the stress of bottled up tension will only add to the potential for making yourself ill.

Springy - awful situation to be in. I sympathise. Around the time I found out I was pg with DD a friend of mine was trying to make up her mind whether to have an abortion. It was very difficult (I had introduced her to the dad and he was an utter a*hole throughout). She did go through with it in the end, and yet has always been fabulous with DD. She was the first to visit in hospital when DD was born and will be her godmother if we ever get round to having her Christened.

I have to say I do think WhatFreshHell has a point - she has chosen you, an 8 month pregnant friend, to have heart to hearts with about this for a reason. I am not sure what to suggest other than to continue to provide a shoulder to cry on and support her whatever decision she eventually makes. Also don't be surprised if she doesn't find it easy to be around you and George when he's born if she does opt for a termination.

Apologies in advance if post riddled with typos. DD is using me as a human climbing frame.

Just read that first sentence and realise it makes NO sense!!

develop into anything and if it was ectopic, my fertility may decrease

duh!!!

So.. I was thinking about this...as my time is nearing and while I'm happy on the 'sidelines' watching the 'race'...If there were more distractions in the Bleu household this evening as anticipated...perhaps that could put me into a better position to win aye? A bit of maneuvering from an outside position...
DH did say that he could tell the baby has moved down and he felt (Uh-hum) that the cervix was open...though he didn't know quite how one measures such things.