Due April 2009: Episode 21 - RLT officials have stern words with the April mums after stocks plummet!!

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Thanks to Nutty for all the thread suggestions including this one. I hope no one minds but I picked this one in honour of the brilliant race commentary we had from Nuts and Frekkles the other night. Hopefully we will get some more.

Oh on the no-moving LO is more active today however DH's mother (of 10 children) has declared that I have 1 week to 10 days left before the LO comes. (I am hoping for the LO!!!)

springy - whatever she decides will be her decision. Don't feel any guilt for giving your opinion if she asks for it honestly. She knows you are very pregnant, but I'm sure you've told her you were also in her situation, so she knows you're not anti-abortion.
I just don't want you taking on any guilt. Listen to her, give whatever opinions/advice you feel you should, but don't feel bad about it. You are only being a friend, which is what she is asking you to do.

Kalikaroo - my ex was from africa and I couldn't understand a word of his language. I didn't mind it until I'd be sitting with him in a room full of his african friends and they would all exclude me by having their whole conversation in Shona. It used to make me feel awful. I know that's not quite the same as your situation, but I do understand how you can be made to feel left out.

Bleu - what an amazing time your DH is giving you. Enjoy every second, you deserve it.

Oh Puzzle - no HiP forms for met yet either. Surgery have requested them, endlessly apologetic but just can't get them. Most useless roll out of a new system I have ever seen.

BB - what clues is your MIL basing that on?

Bleu - if you keep having curry and sex you'll be popping before long.

I am actually getting scared of the baby coming early as really want to move home first. It's feeling a lot lower and I'm very pre-menstrual so I'm worried it could be brought on if not careful. So I will be forgoing my weekend vindaloo this week and will fend DH off with a stick if he makes any amorous advances (as difficult as that may be!)

She has had 10 children and said once the movement really slowed down she always gave birth between 7-10days!!!

Right I know nothing about this so I need to ask though I'm googling currently too...
I have a cavity (Mom apparently got cavities when she was pregnant to so I'm not exactly surprised but really discusted with myself though I know I've done nothing wrong) and I don't know about dentists over here or if they do work during pregnancy... any hints for me ladies?

Oh LuLu I want this one out now!!!

dentists are free for pregnant people - you just need to get your NHS card.

What BB said.

Thanks everyone for the sympathy / advice WRT my friend. You're all right, of course - I can only support her as much as she wants me to & just be a friend to her. It is an awkward situation given that I'll have a baby within the next 5 weeks, but that can't be helped.

LuLu, I thought that about her not wanting to be around babies at first, but then also remembered that I decided to get a part-time job at Mothercare at Easter after I lost my pregnancy at this time of year - I think my hormones thought it'd be a good plan to be around babies & children. It wasn't. & so I'm worried that she'll want to spend loads of time with us & end up making herself worse with it. That's a 'cross that bridge if we come to it' scenario, though.

Bleu, did your DH freak out about the open cervix thing? I'm worried that mine will notice the difference & decide that enough's enough. He's been perfectly sensible about the whole thing throughout, but the idea that the door's open between LO & the outside world, so to speak... I think it might put him off. I hope not!

BB, can you imagine doing this 10 times?

& I'm with you - the earlier the better as soon as I'm term. By my dates, that's already. By theirs, that's Saturday. I'm happy to wait until Saturday, but then he can get out! He keeps pretending to be a starfish & there's just no room left!

BB - of course I would love this one out asap. I am sick of being pregnant and so looking forward to meeting the baby. But I need at least a fortnight to get things sorted out first. I've got to move out of my mothers and move back home first. I am busy trying to repair all the damage we have caused at my mothers! (The rug I washed yesterday has come up really well, so that's good news.)

And our own house is very, very nearly finished. DH told me they were hanging the lampshade we bought to go over the dining table today - which is really 'finishing touches' (I don't actually own a dining table yet - but that is just detail )

If necessary I could probably sleep there next week although we would have to live on microwave meals as that is the only kitchen appliance installed (delays with the worktop mean there will be no hob for a while).

thanks everyone for making me feel better

sorry to hear about your friend springy. As for you only being with DH 15 weeks when you fell pregnant, that was like me and DH when I fell pregnant with DS. I found out I was pregnant exactly 4 months after meeting him, but it was the best thing that could have happened to me at that time to be honest
And he was MUCH more supportive to me then than this time!!

Have had another cervix hunt and still can't find it but...I think I felt baby's head! Is that possible without finding the cervix? Right at the top there was a bulge or lump type thing on behind the back wall. I was a bit concerned I had a growth or something but then it moved away! Now baby, who has been quiet all day, is wriggling away and I have a bit of a tummy ache, hope I haven't hurt her

10 babies - makes my eyes water. Today has been a day where I have really struggled just to cope with DD.

Well he did say it was 'very different' and he um...had a little trouble... during the first distraction because we were being more traditional and I think it must have been on his mind because he said afterwards he could feel the baby's head and he kept asking me (afterwards again) if I felt the baby was acting different. Baby wasn't. (When I think about it now he said almost at once we had started 'Oh the baby's moved positions!')
We were less traditional the second time and he kept making sure that I wasn't being hurt or anything and the baby was not acting 'weird'
...honestly the baby was fairly quiet for both times and while it was different for me ...like I said I felt like a goddess...

I know - but she is an amazing mother and is lovely - Although if she is wrong I will be having words!!!! I am banking on her 7 days!

surprise, it sounds like you may have found her - mine moved away & got all wriggly when I poked him in the head. Must've been quite a shock to them

LuLu, sorry you're having a tough day Just think about your lovely new house & how it's full of the pretty finishing touches that you've chosen. It'll be so nice to move in & have it all ready - the difficulties of daily life at the moment (like being so far from shops!) will be totally worth it

I'm currently eating Rusks & watching DH do topless flatpack assembly. I'm feeling reasonably content at the moment

Bleu - Wow - my DH is obviously not very observant. When pregnant with DD we were at it all the time - until I was ten days past due date and he never mentioned anything.

This time round due to him being in Brum a lot of the time and DD not sleeping etc there has been extraordinarily little nookie , so it's hardly surprising he hasn't noticed any changes.

Well (uh-hum) Dh and I have rather straight forward conversations about such things as we're both rather curious/science-y people so perhaps the 'stage' is better set for such observations in our bedroom house?

How do you know if a dentist will do work on pregnant women (in the States very few do because of legal things). Will I just be needing to call them all in the area tomorrow? Is it usually expensive to get a filling (does anyone know)?

Bleu - We get free dental treatment here when pregnant.

Bleu - you are right there is a limit to what can be done to a pregnant woman (mainly as they are reluctant to use the painkillers unless it is an emergency). But your NHS exemption certificate entitles you to free dentistry up to one year after the due date with LO. So if you can bear it, wait to get it done until after you have given birth. Your next challenge is to find a dentist who takes NHS patients.....

Also it only covers 'essential work'. I broke my front tooth in half when pg with DD and needed a crown. This was deemed to be cosmetic rather than essential (pretty damned essential from where I was sitting, but hey) so I had to pay for it.

Bleu, I lost half a filling when PG with DS and the dentist (albeit French, can't speak for a UK one) said he couldn't do anything under anaesthetic. The nerve was exposed, and even just the examination was agony so I had to sit in the waitng room for 30 mins before I could summon up the strength to go home.
That evening I went into labour, and DH is sure there's a link.
I then spent the 4 days in hospital until they'd let me out, in serious pain. Every time I began falling asleep, my jaw kind of snapped shut and I bit down on the damaged tooth. DS slept like an angel, exhausted by his traumatic birth, and I couldn't even take advantage of it and recover myself.
All this is a roundabout way of saying that you need to get to a dentist ASAP, because that is one hassle you do not want!
At least see if they'll put a dressing on it, to stop it getting any worse.

Bleu - Just read your post at 15.56 and i'm so delighted for you.

That's what I'm thinking... I did think it might be able to wait...but I really find it repulsing AND it's getting worse now matter what I personally do it seems. I have had a filling without any drugs before so I think I could manage again if I could get it done soonish... I guess I'll call around tomorrow then and see... If I call the surgery would they have a list of dentists who take NHS work on? Or I guess if a filling is not too expensive I can use my pocket money on it too (so it doesn't cut into house expenses) as I've not spent any in a good few weeks...

Oh and Bleu - don't beat yourself up about getting a cavity while pregnant. Pregnancy is known to have a weakening effect on the teeth (which is why pg women are entitled to free care in this country - because we need it!).