Due May 2009 We're Nesting and Napping, Squeezing and Holding

[FiKelly]

here we go

Evening all,

I feel like i've had braxton hicks all day long today- its really annoying me!

Grrrrr. I need to rant.

My mother, who I have long suspected of lacking any maternal instinct, spent 10 minutes moaning at me earlier in the week that she hasn't visited here in a while. I told her she was welcome this weekend, she said she'd let me know.

I rang her this evening to find out whether she was coming, and she has made arrangements to see my brother's children, as she does every weekend. I'm really fed-up of her digs about not seeing DS, when really the cause is her never coming to visit. We travel there frequently, a 3 hour drive, with DH working full-time and running a business.

Anyway, normal stuff for my mother. Wouldn't bother me normally. Until, she told me that she'd rather come in 2 weeks when my baby is due. This puzzled me, being 32 weeks pregnant. My own mother thought I was due on 4 April, not 12 May. I've lost track of the number of times I've told her that my c-section will probably be the 27 April. We even talked about it yesterday when I told her that I may go for a VBAC, which means that I'll probably give birth in May. How on earth can my mother be 6 weeks out on her own daughter's due date?

Grrrr. I know that 2nd babies aren't generally welcomed with such interest and anticipation by grandparents, but this takes the biscuit.

Sorry all. Rant over.

Looby I hope you are feeling a little better about things. I do still get moments when I get a bit miserable about having GD, but once you get into the swing of things with blood sugar testing, you'll hardly notice, really.

Evening everyone.

I do feel a bit better about things this evening - amazing what a cry and an hour's nap does that.

Haven't heard about the appointment with the diabetic nurse yet but assume I will hear 2moro.

llare I know what you mean about mothers. My mum has shown no interest whatsoever in the baby. It will be her first grandchild too . She still lights up in front of me when we go round to their house too.

My dh says that when we visit with the baby we'll have to make sure we stay outside - they're house stinks of smoke.

looby- glad you are feeling a bit more upbeat.

If i were you, i would say something to your mum about the smoking- i am very anti-smoking and am that she would light up in front of you. It shows she is either ignorant of the impact of passive smoking, or doesnt care- neither is good. I am not sure i would take a newborn baby to anyones house who was a smoker

llareggub- am also that your mother can't remember when you are due- the odd few days maybe, but weeks/months

Does your brother live a lot nearer to your mum- funny that she sees his children every weekend but cant cancel that to come and see you. I wouldnt be happy either, especially if she makes digs at you about not seeing your DS enough when you are the ones always making the effort.

Not really got any words of wisdom. I get annoyed quite often when my mum puts church things before seeing her grandchildren, and has a real issue with travel (she can't drive but hates getting the train) so we end up with a stalemate where I won't make the effort to see her until she's done the same! I just think shes the one missing out. I guess because my DCs have got my PIL only 2 miles away they do have one set of GPs they see regularly...

evening all. girls in bed and i'm meant to be getting work done and (surprise) I'm just lingering on MN and f/book as well. just socialising.

looby, glad you're feeling better. I agree a cry does one good.
pula, what a great bump (love your bellybutton) and good to see your huge lovely bathroom again . my bump now (33?)looks like your 40wk one!

llareggub, shame about your mother and no words of wisdom from me either I'm afraid. would love to say 'in one ear and out the other'... but I know it's not that easy. has she favoured your bro for awhile?

hope all are having a good night. my ribs are really hurting and i've had a weird twitchy eye for about a week now and it's reeeallly annoying me. don't think there's anything to help a twitchy eye though. does it mean I'm nervous?

pulapula to be honest I don't mind whether she comes or not, it's just that I have to put with her making little comments all the time about how she never sees DS. She is the only one putting barriers up; she told me she was coming in February, and didn't. Then she moans that he is forgetting her, and implies that it is my fault. I can't really win. What with her and my MIL, I despair! They really are chalk and cheese. It is the business about my due date that really bothers me. I could understand a few days, but to be out by nearly 6 weeks is really irritating.

She lives about 10 minutes from my brother and looks after his children pretty much every weekend.

I'm starting to wonder if my mother has a problem. She is getting increasingly vague and she frustrates me by being quite dim about things, whereas she has always been pretty bright and switched on. She even claims to have no interest or clue about politics, yet camped at Greenham Common and went on Greenpeace marches in the past. I have long suspected she has a drink problem, and she knows that we don't allow drinking in our house due to DH's alcoholism.

I wonder if I am wrong about the drink and perhaps she has some sort of medical problem that is making her vague and forgetful. Back in 2004 she had a go at me for not involving her in the wedding plans, so I asked her to choose and book the flowers for the ceremony and reception, and get the bill sent on to me. She "forgot" to do it and claimed to know nothing about it when I asked her about it a week before, even though I'd asked her about it a few times. So there is a history.

I'm ranting again. Time will tell, I guess.

My friends and I joke that we really ought to remember these frustrations when our children are married with children of our own, so that we can either be the model grandparent or seek revenge!

looby - hope you get your appointment with the diabetes nurse soon - hopefully she'll be able to ease your fears etc. but you've got good advice on here anyhow! And I canot believe your mum would continue to smoke... I'm ex-smoker and I absolutely HATE it. I wouldn't have my child anywhere near a smoker. Makes me very

Ilareggub - some mothers!! Who'd have them!! Saying that it can really hurt and they don't even see it themselves. I hope I never become either a mum or MIL from hell.

Momino - my ribs hurt too! I feel bruised!! Think I need to remove a few on my right side!! As for your twitchy eye - I'd get that sometimes usually when I am very tired or stressed...

Did I tell you all about my spa treat???!!! Oh er!! My mum was gonna take me and my sis away for a weekend spa break before bump is borne. Unfortunately we couldn't get a weekend that suited us all. So my sis is going on her own and today, ladies, I have booked me & my mum in for a day's pampering!!! Going on 3rd April for a mum-to-be package (150 mins of massage and facial) and adding in an extra delux pedicure (60 mins) and 30 mins of reflexology... mum is getting a spa detox (salt rub, body wrap and massage for 150 mins)... BLISSSSSS! Oh did I say we can use the hydrotherapy area and get lunch there too??? OK OK I know, tragic, but someone's gotta do it!!!

And... dh finally brought in the crib my step-dad made for ds from the garage, so it's all washed and ready to be brought upstairs - I suppose I'll have to nag ask him again, & again, & again.... to do that!

divedaisy, really about your spa treat. 60 min delux pedicure? I want to see your feet after that!

Momino - I'll let you see my feet (if 1: I can work out how to upload a photo on here & 2: it isn't banned by mn as offensive!) and then YOU can tell me what they look like!!!!! LOL Cos I can't see them!!! I only hope that 60 minutes is enough time!!!

llareggub My sister (a doctor) asked me last month when I would be having my 20 week scan. I'd been moaning about something I think and was feeling a bit down. I was 28 weeks! She's a busy young thing though bless her in a relatively young relationship

lol at Divedaisy and her feet! completely forgot that our feet have disappeared from our view. sigh. bet they'll look beautiful.

Thank you for not telling me I am being unreasonable! It means a lot. dandy and jennster thank you also for letting me know I am not alone.

divedaisy enjoy the spa day, have a lovely time!

llareggub your mum.. i would have been pee'd off too.

divedaisy you've reminded me i got a posh pedicure the week before i had ds.. it felt absolutely great and was really nice to have pretty toe nails that with the lovely weather were on display a lot. you're seriously tempting me to book one!

divedaisy - am very, very Where are you having that done?! I can't find anywhere that does nice things for us lot! Maybe I'm not looking hard enough. Most I can get in is a bit of waxing next week when I'm at my Mum's..

Llare - omg, you poor thing. Some mothers, eh? Can't believe the flowers thing - you must have been beside yourself!

Looby - glad you are feeling a bit more upbeat! Bit about the smoking mum - especially in front of you... does she smoke when she comes to yours?

Got another busy day at work today (boooo) - but then a week off (yaaay) - and then I only have 3 weeks left at work, then off FOR A WHOLE YEAR!!! (quadruple yaaaay!)

Ahem...

Morning all

I am well p*ssed off this morning.

I got to work at normal time 5 to 7. My boss had told the others not to worry about coming in on time as we weren't that busy any way! At 7.10 I walked to the paper shop and got a paper to read. the others appeared at 7.45. God I hate it here

And miss snotty secretary (my boss's girlfriend) has asked me what time off I'm having next week and what for?! got Physio Wed, Breastfeeding Workshop Thur. Well I'm very sorry but I'm not going to miss them - especially as I'm still owed about £3000 in pay!!

Also waiting to see diabetic nurse so that will be another appointment to go to.

I hope to God I get some money today.

Sorry - rant over.

looby keeping everything crossed you get some pay today. still think your boss is very lucky you turn up at all and are not taking him to court!

Looby - don't blame you that you are pissed off! Three grand??!! That's appalling!! Is there an HR dept? (or have I missed all this..)

So I'm sitting here in clinic (which of course I turned up nice and early for), and so far, 4 patients out of my 8 haven't turned up (including the first one, which I turned up early for!!), and I've made a 15 year old boy cry because he needs a blood test, because he doesn't take his tablets. I love my job.... roll on home time, eh Looby?!

Looby- I can't stress enough that you need to get your pay situation sorted out- I am really worried that it will come to your Mat Leave and you won't have been paid- it sounds like the company is in difficulties if there's not enough work on, but you need to get to the front of the queue in terms of getting your back-pay, or else make it clear that you will be seeking legal advice from ACAS etc.

Looby I second what the others have said. I'm sure between us we can help you cobble together a letter. Do you want to go back there after your maternity leave?

Hiya girls,

phew, what a busy couple of days!

thank you for all the birthday messages, i had a lovely day and was spoilt rotten by DP and Madi! was really good day, didnt want it to end

looby sorry to hear all your troubles at the moment, i think you must have a lot of patience, id have told your boss where to stick it by now! sorry you've got GD, hope you get to see the nurse soon and she can help you, im sure you'll be fine tho!

llare cant believe your mother, god id be fuming too, if I had a mother!

dive i am v.v.v. jealous of your pedicure! wish i could have one, heaven knows how im supposed to reach my feet anymore!

Is anyone else getting really bad braxton hicks? mine are starting to take my breath away, isnt it a bit soon for that??

Really must start organising stuff, only 9 weeks left!!!

Looby It's just awful that you haven't been paid- fingers crossed they sort it out fast, have they said if you will be paid today?

I have just eaten a bag of Lindt Lindor eggs- the baby made me do it!

Hi day off today. Yaaa I love Fridays!! I have started to sort out newborn clothes but I can't reach the main bag in our loft cupboard so need DH to crawl in and get it for me when he gets home. The stuff is so tiny. I'm 33 weeks today so things feel very close now. I kept waking to go to the loo last night which was so annoying.

Good afternoon everyone.

looby I can't beleive you still haven't been paid. I really feel that you need to address this and I have this horrible feeling that your boss's business is in trouble. My dad went through a similar thing with his employer in the 80's when I was little and they ended up going bankrupt because they were in dire financial trouble. I hope your mum becomes a bit more supportive soon. A woman needs her mum when she's pregnant. I needed mine with my first one just to check if things were normal or if she'd experienced the same, IYKWIM. But I suppose that was before MN was ever invented and now you've got us to ask those questions!

llare Can't beleive your mum got your dates as wrong as she did. Mine gets it wrong, but only by a day or so. Not an entire different month!

divedaise at your spa treatment. I don't think I could manage a luxury pedicure though, I'd die laughing. I can't stand people touching my feet. But a facial and massage would be more than welcome. My ds does a good job at back rubs, but it's not quite the same as a proper spa treatment! Maybe I should train him to give me a facial.

I had acupuncture today for my PGP as the osteopath had got in touch with her mentor a dr Steven Sandler (I googled him and he's a consultant obstetric osteopath for the Portland!), who suggested trying acupuncture if the manual treatment hadn't made a difference, which it hadn't. I can't beleive it, but on the one side I don't have any more pain and I can move much better. The effect has been almost instant. I've got to go back next week for more acupuncture, so hopefully this will be my cure!

I've also seen my mw today. My baby's growth has gone back to its good old spot above the 90th line, I really think it was a case of different mw, different measurements. Baby's lying in a perfect position: head down, back to the left. So I'm very happy. Next time she'll see me it'll be at home to discuss my birth plan and to drop off my home birth kit That brings it home how close it is.