Due in June 13 - the epic continues!!

[katzguk]

new thread - so my home computer can cope!

I get the wee pot back too. On a related subject, I was moaning to dh the other day about these stupid pots - definitely designed by a man. Hard enough to aim in there as a woman anyway let alone when you can hardly reach around the bump. there has got to be money in it for anyone who can design a 'pregnancy friendly' sample pot.

Not seeing the consultant re possible section until 36 weeks either, Uwila. But in my case I think he wants me to have one, so if dh and I decide that's what we want, then we'll get no argument from him. At the moment we are officially keeping an open mind until I'm scanned again. Problem is I doubt that scanning me again will actually give us any real idea of whether this baby is more prepared to come out the normal way than ds was, think I'm in a 'wait and see' situation.

TBH, there is so much going on at the moment in our lives that actually having this baby (rather than me being endlessly pregnant) is getting pushed to the back of both our minds a bit. I heard dh on the phone the other day saying, yes, June will probably be OK, but we have to fit having a baby in there somewhere. It did cross my mind that I ought to at least think about getting the baby stuff down from the loft and washing it, and perhaps start getting ready to pack a bag sometime in the next couple of weeks. And what we are laughingly calling 'the baby's room' is still a semi-taken apart study full of boxes... hmmm, not as organised as I was last time.

ohh, KVGb is OK. I totally understand. It IS SCAREY!!!! But is so fabulous too! It will all change! But when does life not change?! You'll be all right, and is good to be honest with yourself. To be very honest myself, I actually did ask my DH in all seriousness if we should give DD for adoption when she was a couple weeks old ! BUt today I can't stop grinning at ther nursery portrait that I got today! I just can't imagine life without her! The little guy though... well... I'm sure I will consider adoption too sometime soon - especially if all the rouble he is giving me during pregnancy is anything to go by....

no, I'm terrified too. Was in baby Gap on Saturday thinking it would be nice to buy a new sleepsuit or something as a 'first outfit', saw how small they are and had to go and have a cup of tea. I'm used to a galumphing four year old, but babies are scary.

We have yet to agree on a single name for either sex. Currently we think we will have to go with Sparky, which is what we told MIL we were considering when she wouldn't stop asking.

Awwww KVG, don't worry, I'm sure we've all felt like that at times, esp when you've planned it for so long, and then you feel bad about that too...but you will feel excited about your dd again...and remember she's not going to come between you and dh, she's just an enhancement to the relationship. It'll probably be a tough few weeks to start with (I think they all are) but those first smiles of recognition will melt away all your worries, sounds corny but it's true

re urine pots they do do one with like a collector on the top which is female shaped, and it funnels the wee into the pot for you!

the whole baby coming things is both scarey and exciting, in soemways i can't wait but in others another couple of months would be good!!

I'm terrified too, despite having planned to get pregnant and all that. I can't even really remember why I ever wanted to have kids now

Obviously I'm terrified that there'll be something wrong with the baby but beyond that, I just don't know how we'll (I'll) manage. I did tell dh yesterday that if I ask for a divorce in the first six months he is to put it down to sleep deprivation and ignore me.

On the positive side, though, there will be two of us full-time to look after the baby (albeit dh is chronically ill but willing) and knowing that my mum will be available, by phone at least, for any type of advice is great.

here you go!!

collection

if anyone looks at the history on my computer they are going to get one hell of a shock!

LOL, Katz! ...hmmm maybe I should clear mine down before I leave!!

Wise words from Teabelly. Having a baby will change your relationship I think (well, it did with mine), in both positive and negative ways. The first few weeks were hard for us, but you get through it (remember nothing lasts forever) and it can only add an extra depth to your relationship when you see your DH being daddy. Ahhhhhhhhhhhh.

And if it's any consolation, I'm scared too!!!!! MrsF, you're right, babies are very small indeed. And fragile. I'm much more comfortable with a big tough toddler. KVG, you are wise to go into this thing with your eyes open - if you expect it to be perfect and easy you will find it a big shock.

Girls name is sorted for us, but we are still nowhere near choosing a boys name. Only 37 days left for me... (or 44, or if this one arrives when DS did, 33).

mrs w - thought we were due the same day? 7/6/5? if so i can't count!!! even bigger ahhhhhh

Oh it's probably me Katz, I'm hopeless today. I am due 7th June (going by scan date) but going by my dates I'm due 13th June. And DS arrived 10 days early so that would put me to 3rd June. When people ask me when I'm due I usually launch into this full waffle - I bet they wish they'd never asked!

Right, off to the midwife now.

sorry KVG!!

ROFL KVG! just read your post and now my office think I'm madder than normal!

Ha ha ha, nice

just made the connection between the name of the product and its role!! Whiz hehehehehehe

Portable miracle reporting in - thanks for that KVG, made me feel better.
I know what you mean about all those fears about how your relationship will fare. I had them too and it's true your relationship can't help but change. There are ups and downs - to a large part due to sleep deprivation I think and running out of time/energy in the day to talk to each other. You can work through it though and then the double delight you both take in this new person is just so special - I love seeing the two of them together - it makes my heart melt.
I think it's perfectly normal to feel trapped and incapable too. You are trapped - the little thing has a grip on your heart from the moment they appear and they are 100% reliant on you - scary but an incredible bond too. As for incapable - yep - am fulling expecting that feeling again, I think it's to be expected as they can't tell us what they want for so long and it's a bit of a difficult guessing game for a while. When it all starts to come together though it's brings a sense of achievement that is massive. We'll be ok KVG - and we'll have company when we're not
Lippy - so glad you're making progress on the loft, I hope you'll post pictures when it's all done.
Thanks for all your good wishes on my crap day - I do feel better now and only have 6 more days to travel into work - now that is scary.

Back from midwife - all is fine apart from the heartbeat was difficult to find, and when she did find it she said it was quite slow (111) then it was really fast (200). God, that sounds terrible now I've written it down. She didn't seem worried though. The baby has been quite quiet this afternoon but I have definitely felt some movement. Do you think I should worry?

Mrs W - I wouldn't worry unduly, if she didn't seem concerned. So long as you can feel bubs moving that's a good sign...I think you should (from 32 weeks) feel at least 8 movements in a 8 hours, if you feel less my notes advise contacting the midwife, so yours sounds ok. But if you're still worried you could call the maternity unit at the hospital for them to take a closer look at things...but from my experience little one will move tons one day and less so the next...I'm sure it's all down to position as to how much/little you feel it, hth

I have to disagree wholeheartedly with those of you who want the baby to skip through to toddler stage. I want a cute little baby who can't walk or talk. When I put him down and go get his bottle, I want to find him in the very same place when I come back. I think we need some time to grow to love them BEFORE they start acting like toddlers (to keep us from killing them).

I have to disagree wholeheartedly with those of you who want the baby to skip through to toddler stage. I want a cute little baby who can't walk or talk. When I put him down and go get his bottle, I want to find him in the very same place when I come back. I think we need some time to grow to love them BEFORE they start acting like toddlers (to keep us from killing them).

Oh Uwila, yes I don't want to rush to the toddler stage too quickly - just fast forward the first 6-8 weeks so that we can go straight to routines properly; sleeping through, feeding at GF times...although as ds never did this I'm probably being totally unfair expecting bump to do it!