Due in June 13 - the epic continues!!

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lynny - hope all is well, thinking of you both

lynny-nice to see you back.hope you are both well.take care.xx

Oh, Lynny, you poor thing!!! Both of you in hospital. I hope everything is ok now with you both.

Hehe I did go suspisciously quiet didn't I Just mega busy, dd was at her Grandma's for the day so I was racing around trying to tidy up, god knows why. I think we'll be able to decorate the front bedroom by next weekend, a bank holiday too, so an extra day!!!

I did feel like I needed to network, because I didn't know any other people with children, but it is up to you. I think it must also depend on whether you are a sahm or go out to work, possibly...?

TMI alert I have been having quite a lot of discharge this pregnancy Not smelly or weird looking, just like 'normal' except loads of it. Sometimes I think I've peed and when I go to the loo, it's just discharge ANyway, today I was panicking that it could be small leakages of amniotic fluid. Is anyone else experiencing the same thing? I'm going to the doctor next Thursday, but might see if I can go sooner....

Baby is kicking loads tonight, really pissing me off!!

Gosh there are too many posts to catch up. Still waiting back to hear if there are any sitting tickets for the Tori concert

Pelvic floor exercises just seem to provoke bubba into kicking really painfully these days. I have done tons of them and been doing them in yoga since 17 weeks. From the sounds of things in antenatal classes I have done more than seems to be average. Its helps in labour but the most troubling thing I think to be honest is afterwards. I don't want to piss my pants but am little interested in continuing anything that is causing me pain due to over active response from bubba. I get a fists right in the awkward part of the abdomen repeatedly which is almost agonising. He isn't in a great position.

Tea - I have a belly bra and a maternity belt I wear both now. I have been wearing the belly bra for months because my back has been painful. Now It still hurts with both reinforcements. I can't wait to for physio

Is anyone else completely sick of antenatal classes and baby stuff? I am absolutely petrified he'll be a really awful baby. Even if he's an easy baby I'm going to be really tired and won't have people to take over when I've just had enough. They keep on saying in antenatal that you should have someone come over when you just have to catch up on sleep. There isn't any sort of strategy for people who haven't anyone to come over when you are desperate

I don't know why they concentrate so many classes on the labour. You only need to know so much and frankly I'm sick of it because its a few hours of your life and having the baby at home is forever. I want a strategy for dealing with a potentially sanity depriving newborn baby. endless talks about pain relief and pain you know is gonna come is just doing my fucking head in; you can just focus on it far too much.

I simply can't have a casearean full stop. You aren't insured to drive for 6 weeks afterwards. I am hoping I won't have to have one otherwise I'll be literally fucked because I won't be able to get out in the car. The midwife said you can try and negotiate with the insurance company at 4 weeks afterwards but they are still likely to refuse.

I am going to talk to my consultant about going to the mother and baby unit here in Bristol. I am quite resigned to the fact that my depression is becoming crippling and I don't think it is going to subside with the birth of a child I don't really want. I think thats the main contributing factor to things being so awful right now, well that coupled with the fact that walking to the shop about 50 yards away is bringing agony to my back. I am not getting out and I am really realising that my life is changing in a way I never ever wanted it to.

I went to councelling the other day which was good. I am rarely honest with how things are because I refuse to be defeated as though it is a personal failing. I am aware though that I'm dangerously depressed and it is crippling my whole life. I have to consider seriously that stuff might really not work out when bubba arrives. I need to accept that it isn't a failing and really have a plan in place because if it gets any worse having a baby could be the worst thing I ever did in my life if it completely messes up my sanity; I think addressing it and working things out is the best way to progress. I don't want to wait until it is so bad that I am not able to make my own decisions.

Anyway I'm not going to be around for a few days. I just can't relate to anything anyone is saying sorry I just don't feel the same at all and haven't anything to input. Hope everyone is well and looking after themselves etc...

Hi All
just checking what time it is over there, by posting this anyone up yet?????

I hope Pink feels better in a few days, i have just had a massage on my dodgy shoulder blade and then spent the next two hours lying down with a heat pack. I'm really over the pain too.

But must admit that in 7 more weeks time there will be something to show for it and after watching a documentary on adoption last night I feel lucky that i haven't had to go through that.

My ante natal classes are boring too, to much emphasis on labour and birth but i reakon i know enough now that if i had to have the baby on my own i'd probably know what to do. I think i'm only hanging in there coz they cost so much.

Have a great day all.

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Oh Pink you poor old thing, you do sound like you're in a pretty difficult place right now, hope the counselling will help you sort a few things out. I have nothing but huge admiraton for anyone who sets out on this pg lark without a partner. It's bloody hard enough with one let alone without - keep in touch with us all and feel free to moan as much as you like about whatever you like.

Lynny - thinking of you loads too and so sorry you and Leona have been cooped up in hospital. We really missed you.

TMI ALERT Lippy I know a bit what you mean - definitely an increase for me too. Yuk.

On the mother and baby groups I kind of think they're a good thing - the problem is you do have to stick at them and instigate conversation and it can feel like hard work if you're miserable and knackered. I went to lots of different ones and have made some friends as a result - one or two pretty good ones. I found the baby massage class really good as we all had something useful to learn rather than just sitting around. Dd adored the massage too - and still likes that kind of thing now - will definitley do it with no.2.
I did get really lonely and down at times during my mat leave. I guess I left a very full on job and missed it alot. I feel a bit better prepared this time round and hope it might even be enjoyable.

Lippy - have you got another day with the plasterer? Our Fimble has finished now and done a really good job - am so pleased as it was the last big thing that needed doing. Hopefully new carpet will arrive soon and I can start making a little nest

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Glad everything's ok now Lynny and that you had a bit of a rest xx

ok, I have read some of this -- about the lasy day's worth. Not much. I'm sure I've missed loads. But I figured some was better than none.

Pink, Just want to echo what has already been sasid. Wish I could help. And also, that "won't be insured to drive for 6 weeks" speel is rubbish. My midwife told me that so I called my insurance company and they told me that not only was there no such clause in my insurance policy but that they had never even heard of such a clause in any insurance policy. I have had this conversation on mumsnet and almost everyone who called their insurance company got a similar story. Although, one or two did say the insurance company did have this clause. So, call yours and find out what the scoop is. And I must say that a caesarean isn't all that bad. It's true that it will hurt for 1-4 weeks. I think it was about a week later that I was able to get up and perform normal activities, but still not lift heavy thing. I remember joining the antenatal group lunch at 9 days after the caesarean and they were all ever so impressed that I managed to leave the house. When we left the hospital (3 days after the caesarean) we went straight to Bluewater for DD's first shopping trip -- got to train her properly you know! I do remember that walking was a bit of a struggle because I had this big heavy belly hanging over the incision and it hurt. But, realistically, you are looking a week or two to recover, not six. Although some people do take longer than I did. Anyway, I'm not trying to convince you run out and have a caesarean. I just want you know a realistic picture of recovery if you do end up needing one. Alao, are you going to take Arnica? I have no experience, but I hear it is a good thing whichever way bub comes out.

And for all of you who claim to be so anti-social, I'm sorry but I just can't fathom that that can be true when I look at the length of this thread. You are all chatty people!!

Is anyone else starting to panic about being fully prepared for the hospital. Is the bag packed? How am I going to get there? What to do with DD? Does my H/P/whoever know how to get there? I thin frweaking aout about the plan is my version of nesting.

Oh, and I have loads of second hand clothes for Alex which I have yet to sort out and wash! Certainly not going to bother washing the new ones.

Hi there all.

Lynny - poor you - glad things are better now.

Lippy - exactly the same here on the discharge front! I also have my 'OMG amniotic fluid?' moments.

Pink - I admire you so much, both for going through the pg alone and for recognising and engaging with what's going on in you - believe me, often that is half the battle. You are absolutely doing the right thing having a good honest look at your feelings instead of glossing over them. I'm not in a position to say 'don't worry, when babs is there everything will be rosy' but I am certain that with your strength and foresight it will be OK, you will bond with baby and get through this difficult dark time somehow. Thinking of you.

Oh sure, I'm on the job today and goes all quiet. Well, you'll all be happy to know that nanny leaves in 3 weeks.... yahoo! Actually, to be honest, my feelings are mixed. She does have some really good qualities. Like she genuinely cares about DD and she has done an exeplary job of teaching her language skills. But, as you all know, she also posesses one or traits I can not live with so I am happy to be leaving those in my past. And, I thinkI may have found a new nanny. This is actually much sooner than I had expected to complete my hunt. But, I'm delighted if the job of new nanny hunt is already done.... or soon to be.

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Hello all
Just a quick message to say my Dad is here now so I won't be on for a week. We are off to a 5* hotel on Sunday night for a treat via a motor show as we will need a new car when we get back to the UK and so thought we would have a look around as all the dealers will be there.
I found being with mums with babies the same age as mine a lifesaver. Having said that I had no-one when I was in the UK and that was OK too. Prefered it here though. I washed all dd's clothes. I didn't really nest in any other ways so that was what I did, wash and iron... and buy food.
Pink - Hope you are OK. Thinking of you.
Lynny - Glad you and Leona are OK too.
Speak to you in a week or so. Have fun and take care.....

Enjoy your break Cooperoo,
Lynny - you really do lower the tone (was thinking similar myself) Glad Leona's having a good day out after being unwell.
Uwila - hello - you're not around much these days - too busy on the nanny etc board?? There are some wierd things going on there, for sure.
Have you seen the consultant yet re your section?

Hi Welshie.

Grrrr.... I wish! I won't get to see the consultant until 05 May (36weeks +4) to discuss it. I'm increasingly impatient about this. But, Isuppose there's not much I can do about it. I'm getting to that point where I start to worry if everything is in place (bag packed, can DH make his way to the hospital, does DH know which hospital to go to, and so on) SO the idea that I have two more weeks before the consultant will even discuss caesarean vs. vbac options with me is rather unsettling.

Anyway, I guess if worse comes to worst, than I'll show up in labour demanding an emergency caesarean IMMEDIATELY. Oh, and if that happens, chances are I'll be bringing DD with me. I bet they'll love that! And when they make one little snotty comment I'll remind whose idea is was not to plan this event when I was 16 weeks pregnant.

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Hi everyone. Just wanted to pass on a quick "hello" from Aprilmeadow. She is going in to be induced and I was lurking on the April board. So I crashed it to wish her luck and she asked me to say hello to everyone here.

Hi everyone

Lynny!!! Wash your noth out young lady!! I'll have you know, this little 'problem' has been going on for weeks now That goes for you too Welshie !!!

Pink, I'm so sorry to see that you are at a very low point. DO stay in touch with us on here, we don't care if you can't be arsed to make polite comments about what is happening in everyone else's daily lives. Just come on and rant if you like, but don't lose touch.

Having a baby is bloody hard work, even with a partner, as Welshie said. Especially at this late stage. Focus as much as you can on you before the birth. Are there no options to give single parents some relief out there?? For what it's worth, I've met you twice now and I know you'll make a wonderful mother, if that's what you decide to do.

noth = mouth

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aah lynny, that is very sweet. Hope you're both better by the way.

Hope everyone is well, and Pink, just to echo what the others have said, look after yourself and don't worry about venting here.

Have been frantically busy this week but seem to have achieved precisely nothing, just had a look over my anal-retentive Sunday night to-do list that I make every week and I have been able to cross off going to the midwife and sending a birthday card. So I'm not sure what exactly I have been doing. All was fine at midwife appt, blood pressure is up one visit and down the next, am still measuring 3 weeks ahead of dates (but think that is excess tummy not excess baby ). Seeing consultant in 4 weeks to discuss section/vbac - currently leaning towards section bizarrely enough having started the pregnancy ready to fight anyone who suggested it, but am keeping open mind.

Other than that, have horrid backache so am walking like fat old lady. But taking it out on dh is relieving the stress .

Have good weekends, am off to watch Bridget Jones and eat pasta as dh is out tonight.