Fab Feb 2009: No really, THIS thread we'll birth more than 1 baby, we promise.

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mumoverseas - hope you are ok after your fall.

I don't know how you all keep up with the different bits of the thread! My brain konks out after about three posts and I lose track!

Anyway I've decided not to bother with the whole birth thing. I've had enough waiting. I've come to accept that I will be this big for the rest of my life and this baby is clearly far too comfy in there to ever bother coming out. I will be eternally pregnant. Oh god...

Lardy - Just seen facebook, have you only just got engaged?

That birth story is brilliant

I'm sure you're right MOS about DD (she's 20months).....she lifts my top and pokes my tummy when I ask where her brother or sister is....but she'll just have to get used to it I suppose. Its just coinciding with a clingy period (mainly cos I've been at home the last 6 weeks) and tears / tantrums at every opportunity.

We have got her some in the night garden toys from the baby, which i'm pretty sure will take her attention ....and has meant putting a pair of wire cutters into my hospital bag as the bloody things are wired into the box in a way that they can't be removed any other way

Take it easy....hope you get to see the physio soon.

Us scientists do CPD as well......but not whilst on mat leave if I can help it (although I have done 2 hours work today )

lbb, am joining you in having a pj day mines not doctor recommended but couldn't face playschool run this morning as was shattered and sore.

haven't tried the cumin tea in over a week so swigging some now in an effort to get these cramps to turn into something.

today was my due date with dd 4 years ago..... weird feeling being heavily pregnant for it 4 years on!

think i might waddle upstairs and get dressed and bring the kids outside to play while i tramp up and down for a few hours..... with dd i went for a walk on the beach right before going into labour and with ds i was swimming in the ocean for hours the day before so am convinced if i could motivate myself off my fat arse i might actually get things moving.

hope everyone who'd injured themselves or having preg related traumas is feeling a it better today. MOS, you made me wince when i read your post about the splits.... hope you're ok

I'm angling for a C-section, so a breach baby is not too much of a problem here, but just baffling - as the baby was in the perfect had down position just a few days ago, I wouldn't have thought it would have decided to spin round at nearly 36 wks!

Maybe that means yours will do the same chilledmama - and end up head down? Hope so.

Your fall sounds v painful, mumoverseas. Hope you are ok.

Hi all
Hope you'll forgive me for not having read all your posts- I'm sitting here between feeds and dealing with DS - who has just gone off to Tesco with Dh to do the shopping ! Have to wait in all day for the midwife which is a pain in the arse as it's chucking it down and I fancied a little trip out even if was just to the supermarket (I know I've had a section and I should be resting but I get ants in my pants).

Just thought I'd let you know those of you worried re no 2 and reaction from no 1... I was very tearful when DS met DD when he came back from nursery but I also hadn't seen him for 3 days so that made me worse. He seemed HUUUUGE in comparison to my tiny newborn and like an 8 year old (rather than 2.6 year old). He was very enthusiastic and wanting to cuddle her and also wants me to do stuff for him so I'm feeling anxious about what happens when DH goes back to work - he's got 2 weeks off so I am hoping that I might feel more physically capable in a couple of weeks which will help - right now I feel a bit battered and bruised - but the pain relief is pretty good. I think it'll die down after a while as dd sort of fits in to our lives but DS has slept fine at night the last 2 nights which has helped. It took a bit of persuading to get him to go with DH today and also to go to nursery yesterday as he wanted to "stay with Mummy and help Baby Amy" but I told him Daddy hadn't ever been to the supermarket (not far wrong there) and Daddy needed his help. We're finding that making him feel included by "helping" is the key - it's a concept he tends to understand.

It's hard for them as we've turned their little worlds upside down but I also can't help now feeling that it's good for them to realise that they need to share you - I didn't think I'd feel like that but I do. Lots of cuddles for No 1 and handing no 2 over to partner so you can do stuff for No 1 as well I think helps.

Sorry, have to go there is someone at the door !......

Take care everyone else !

He's been a bit tricky at times and will tantrum quite quickly but I'm also keen not to give in too much so that he realises that this is all change but he still can't misbehave (hark at me eh?!)

Morning,

Am still pregnant...The appointment with the consultant went really well. The scan showed that she is still growing, still small, but definatly growing along the right lines.
I then saw a lovely consultant who used to work in St Georges ( where I was registered before I moved) and he told me that St Georges have a few issues with dishing out the term IUGR when its not necessary. They apparently like to induce ladies if there baby is predicted smaller than about 6lbs 7oz. Which is very very odd if you ask me!

Kettering hospital chart the estimated birth weight based on your height/BMI/weight/frame/smoker/non smoker etc...Which gives them a more accurate assessment of what baby would be born at.

So he was certain that my baby is right for my size - He said he thinks Ive been through all of this stress without 'real' reason.

So I am a Happy girl today - as they dont want to see me again & I am just playing the waiting game now...

Baby is 4/5th engaged - What does that mean? She is engaged but very little? Or does that mean she is nearly fully engaged?

Smiles to all Mums & Bumps today x

KT They mark what they can feel so 4/5th means that they can feel 4/5ths of your baby's head so 1/5th is engaged.

herb glad it's all going well. x

Glad they've put your mind at rest KT, these doctors do mess us around, don't they?!

herbie, glad things are going well with ds and amy. they do seem huge compared to a tiny baby don't they?! had to lol at 'daddy hasn't ever been to the supermarket' sadly close to true in this household too

KT, delighted for you that you had a sensible cosulktant who put your mind at rest about lo's weight

Herb....that's really useful....thanks . I'm pretty sure I will be crying as well....You are bang on though, my DD does need to learn to share me and she can't always have her way. Will be a difficult learning curve for her though I think....I'm concerned about not being able to lift her as well.....although its difficult now, I can still manage....but like you DH is off for 2 weeks and hopefully by then, I'll be a bit more capable.

Sounds like you're doing great!

KT - sounds like a great appointment and they have put your mind at rest.....

ahh Thanks lbb So she still has a way to go then.

MrsY Bloody doctors - I really do think sometimes they stress you out for no apparent reason, which in turn makes BP go up, more worries for you & baby etc...
I know they are only doing their jobs & I guess its better to be sure rather than just leave things be.

So now - I want to meet my baby & I want my body back - Am soooooooo bored of pregnancy.

She has such a pretty beautiful nursery waiting for her - What girl wouldnt want to come out & see it

sometimes the engagment thing is the other way round though.... over here it's more common that 1/5 is less engaged than 4/5... 5/5 is fully engaged iyswim.

i'm not sure why it varies though... think it just depends on the docotr/mw in question

omg.... consulktant

how did i not spot that?! bloody baby brain!

PT my midwife does 5/5 = fully engaged... I guess it depends how they phrase it?

I understood the engaged thing to be the same as pinktulips. But I didn't know you could get 5/5ths - isn't that practically coming out!!

KT - am with you on the bored thing.

Am seeing midwife tomorrow and she's offered to do a sweep. Has anyone had one of these? We've tried all the natural methods including orgasms and sex and although I now have a happy DP with a slight spring in his step , it doesn't seem to have shifted this baby!

OMG. I have just tried to cut ds's hair and have completely f'ed up!! It's the worst one yet, will have to get clippers to it! He won't come anywhere near me!

LBB - I dont even try to cut DS's hair (leave it to the professionals) on the basis I'd mess it up! Am sure he'll let you sort it out if you stick the tv on though...

MamaGoose - had a couple of sweeps with DS; they're abit uncomfortable and can trigger off cramping etc but are otherwise ok. Have you been trying Pink's cumin tea, whole pineapples, nipple twiddling etc too?

Have any of you guys seen that the octuplets lady is planning on breastfeeding her octuplets too? Most laudable but how on earth is that possible unless she's got 8 boobs to stick them on and arms like an octupus too (which I sort of think you almost need when getting to grips with feeding just one)??? If its one after another, she'd never stop feeding! The mind boggles...

Yeah, wouldn't fancy trying to bf 8!!

I think I'll have to stop being a tight ar*e and pay the £9.50 in future for haircut.
Now the flat is in a state again.
Kitchen wrecked coz I had to get lunch done in super speed time for grumpy bum, the bath is a state as had to put him under the shower, the snot meant there was hair everywhere so the bath has a nappy a vest and a pair of socks in there soaking wet and covered in hair. Big pile of hair on living room floor surrounded by toys and tv/dvd remotes. So do I clean it all now or go back to bed with ds and deal with it later?
Think it needs to be sorted now. Bugger.

OMG LBB....you paint such a good picture

Hope its ok. Luckily, my mother is a hairdresser....mind you DD hasn't yet had hers cut....just the fringe nibbled at.

lbb, you daft mare.... you always strip a boy off to do his hair and make him stand/sit over a solid floor (or in the bath if only using scissors).... as soon as hair is chopped dump in shower and rinse off. works for little boys and for supposedly grown up ones who can't manage the clippers by themselves

dinky, i'd imagine she's going to mix feed and do alot of pumping. doubt they could latch on for a fair while yet as the biggest is only just over 3 lbs. fair deuce to her for even wanting to try and do it... so many woman immedietely dismiss bfing when they find out they're crrying twins or higher multiples, it's bloody brilliant that she wants to try. i wonder does she have older kids who'd she'd bf before?

breastfeeding 8? Bloody hell but think of the weight she will lose

herby, really good to read your positive story on how your DS is reacting to his little sister. Lovely to hear. I think quite a few of us have older ones around the same age (twoish) so its good to have an idea what to expect. I think the key is to hand over number 2 (or in my case number 4) to DH as much as possible and make sure the older one gets lots of cuddles and attention too (luckily my 15 and 12 year olds have grown out of cuddles!)

No news from IDBI? Can't remember if she is on facebook (I struggle - baby brain- with remembering who is who in real life)

Mamagoose, hope sweep goes ok tomorrow. I've not had one but have heard they can be uncomfortable but if it works...

still feeling very sore 'down there' but thank god its our weekend now and DH will be home very soon so will be very lazy this weekend and make him wait on me. Am planning PJ days tomorrow and Friday. I think he needs to make up for only taking one day off work when baby comes Herby I'm very jealous of you having your DH home for 2 weeks

Hi guys, just a quick post to say well done to all the new Fab Feb (or should that be Jubilant Jan) mums. Hope that things are settling down for you guys and that the lo's are growing nicely.

Am still swamped by uni work so am trying to be a very good girl and stay away from here and fb. Don't have a minute to think these days. Am sleeping really badly (am the size of a whale, have PGP, heartburn and now PUPPP), but at least that gives me time to get work done in the middle of the night

Have just got back from ANC and have been booked for CS on Monday 16.02. Having to be uber-organised so bag already packed and ready to go.

Good luck to everyone on here and hope to have lots more time once the baby is here. Wow, bet not many people are thinking that a new arrival will mean a bit of a break!

Take and care and will pop in when I can x.

dinky Well I'm braxton-hicking all day long and have constant tightening in the lowest bit of my abdomen but this has been going on for a few days now. Not sure what difference cramps could make as well - as in doubling up period-type cramps? Midwife only offered the sweep - down to me. I may have a think. I thought you had to eat 7 or 8 pineapples for it to be any good? And I don't know what the word for cumin is out here so fear I'd end up drinking some other dodgy sort of tea!

BFing 8 - blimey the woman will be a size zero in no time! Highly laudable but so so important for premmie babies (I donated to the milk bank when I was feeding DS1 so that other premmies could have breast-milk instead of formula - it's a fab thing to do if anyone's thinking of it) although they take ages to feed so she really will be on constant feeding duties. Can't you double up and do 2 at a time?