Due November 08 - sing... "There's no business like SHOW business!!"

[sparkletoes]

on behalf of oor Daisy..

I had a hypo sat night and dropped the baby. dh cried.
i have just rung him, wailing down the phonne, sobbing. he says he loves me and we will get through this.
My dh works his socks off, looking after ds1, cooking etc, yet i told him he wa jealous and unsupportive. So I now don't have the most important thing I need, a good relationship with my lovely lovely dh.

My diabeteis is all over the place.

I am pumping. and feeding and up all night, not getting latch right.

infected cs scar. trying to do too much.

ds2 just started school who asks why I don't love him anymore.

I am in a right state.

hope you guys don't struggle as much as I have once your little bundles of joy arrive.

I am up against it.

Obs you will get there - we all forget how hard it is when you have a newborn - add to that juggling the household, other kids, and your hpyos it is not surpriseing that you feel uip against it. Throw in wleepless nights and it is no wonder you are feeling pretty bad. As your DH says, you will get through it......can he come home from work? Especially as your scar is infected, you should be taking it easy.....I have =quite literally handed the running of the household over to DH - he is doing all thw "WORK" I normally do - school runs, boys up washed, dressed, cooking, cleaning....blah blah....(Mind you, might not be to my standards but at least I can concentrate on DD and resting when she does.

If he can't get back from work, is there anyone else who can support you? It is a lot to take on on your own........

Haven't read anything yet, but birth stories, post natal thread
Can someone do me some links?

Oh, Obs, so many hugs coming your way - sorry you are having such a horrible time. Your DH WILL understand but I guess he's tired as well, you poor things. DS is too little to understand how saying something like that could cut you. Cannot DH get paternity leave (I know you have probably said why not in previous threads but have big memory probs at the mo, so apologies).

Wish there was something I can do to help, please let me know if there is, even if it sounds daft - if you need any online shopping doing, for example. Have just realised how stupid the idea of me helping sounds but please take me up on it if you need to.

Dozy, who has had a little boy called Jay? I am confised and in the middle of contractions so cannot follow thread properly...

oh Obs, your dh sounds sensitive, and you WILL get through this. once that infection clears up, and your diabetes settles bacj under control i'm sure things will seem a lot easier. if you were closer i'd pop by and help you out during the day.

DD3 is superclingey atm, and keeps saying she is my baby. she is either sitting on mine or dh laps when she is at home. i think she is getting worried she will be replaced.

I have been out to town this morning, found i had £18 of boots points, so bought some evening primrose oil capsules. HM2J what do i do with them please? somwething about showing two up my fanjo? will that work, seeing as cervix is thinning and effacing already? i also got a free pot of eye shadow powder whooo hooo.

And we bought some fireworks for tomorrow night. made sure we have a couple of loud ones, just to try and get things moving by scaring the poor baby out lol.

OWWWWWWW!

Not sure the RLT was a v good idea, this hurts like hell now! Baby still in there though. I'm going to cry if it doesn't come out until 26th November.

I am such a big fecking wuss.

Dh when I phoned him, offered to come home, but I said no. He could barely hear me, I was wailing so much. telling him he wasn't jealous or unsupportive, as i accused him of the other dy.
my dh is a saint and has been doing everything for me, cooking, cleaning, looking after ds1 and ds2. taking me to bf clinic. my mum said I was mad, and what did I expect.

my mum is coming to stay tomorrow. for 3 dys. I was supposed to have my sil, but she spent a week and a half helping us, looking after ds1, whilst it was half term, so she has dalready done more than I could ever ask of her.

pauls cousin, has taken ds1 to school and poicking him up every day this week. I am unable to walk more than to the car.

i have some support. I am starting to wonder what my problem is. maybe i just need to pull my socks up and get on with it. dh saidd so. my mum agrees. all new mums face challenges.

I need to focus on my diabetes, that has gone tits up. still waiting for kings to get back to me with advice.

I am going to give bf a chance. go to bf clinic tomorrow. but if it doesn't work soon, I will ahve to let it go. my relationship with dh, the stress ia m putting myself under ,a dn the welfare of my family unit, ie ds1, ds2 and my lovely dh, need to be my primary concern.

congrats to ladybuzz and Jay
x

Big hugs to Obs, sleep will cure all but you wont get enough of that for ages so glad your DH is being nicer. DS have massive adjustment to do and that is harder than a newborn, I am dreading DS reaction far more than labour.

DS has decided to have a monster nap which was lovely as I've had one too but now I don't want to wake him but he has to go to bed at 7 tonight as my lovely reflexology lady is coming round. He's going to be starving/grumpy when he does wake.

Off to Mothercare to get blankie for baby as just realised that WW3 will result if I try to give DS blankie to baby! Anyone need me to pick anything up for them??

not 1 but 2 baby updates .................

Just had confirmation on the baby confusion text I have just posted seems that us with text buddies have a very good habit of having our babies at the same time, as well as lacks and myself being buddies and having babies together, it seems that ladybuzz and Cricri have had their babies as well............

ladybuzz Had Jay Charles at 4pm yesterday weighing 8lbs 1oz

Cricri had Elise Vivienne at 0630am this morning weighing 7lbs 15oz. Unfortunately she ended up going to hospital for an assisted delivery but both her and Elise are doing well and should be home later today!!

CONGRATULATIONS LADIES AND WELCOME TO JAY AND ELISE

Congratulations to Ladybuzz Dozy - I think you have interpreted the message correctly so I assume we will hear from Crici soon as well!!

Obs hugs to you - I think what you are going through is the same as anyone with a newborn but you have got your diabetes on top which must make things even harder. Fingers crossed little Max can get to grips with bf but if not, then the other option may make you all much happier in the long run.

Hi to everyone else - this is just a quickie whilst DH is away from the computer - him working from home is great most of the time but it really does limit my MN time

yay fabby news

two babies!!
congratulations ladybuzz and cricri
and welcome to the worls Jay and Elise

X-posts!!

Congratulations to Crici aswell on the safe arrival of Elise - very pretty name and glad they are all doing well

world- obviously- lordy my typing, can't blame it on pg anymore, either

Huge congrtas to Ladybuzz and little Jay fab weight.

Thanks for all your fab advice on cracked nipples will start trying some of the advice now.

Thanks Dozy off to read/join the postnatal thread now.

Good luck to Cricri

OMG! Congrats to Ladybuzz and Cricri - welcome to the world, little babies Jay and Elise [wipes away a sentimental tear].

Glad to hear all doing well, so chuffed for everyone.

[gr in]

Hi Ceebs and Pinky, nice to see you!

Mum2becks, are you hearing this about text buddies? Get on the RLT, hon, I want my baby! Just kidding, are you okay?

Obs, yes, fine, all new mums face challenges but it's not helpful of your mum and DH to say so to you, especially when you're feeling rubbish. Comparing different people's problems is never constructive or kind, so you have the right to feel like crap if you feel like crap! You have genuine hurdles to overcome, don't let anyone make you feel like you're just being a wimp, you're not, and don't beat yourself up about bfing, either, anyone who gives you a hard time about it can fuck RIGHT off - they aren't you and its not their baby or their body.

[pant pant pant]

'kay, rant over.

Hana, very probably, yes, see post above!

Damn just missed that birth announcement

Wow fab news Cricri lovely name too. Well done

First of all, Obs, sending you HUGE, massive hugs, I know that things will settle for you eventually, but this stage is definately the hardest to go through. I hope that you can get your diabetes under control.

Yay for another 2 babies (I mean this genuinely, no matter how hard it is to come on and see all these babies being born when mine is stubborn and nearly a week overdue, lol!)! Congratulations Ladybuzz & Cricri Hana, it sounds like things are definately moving in the right direction for us, like I said yesterday, I had an increase in BP too, high for me, but not dangerous, no protien in waters or swelling either. I suppose it could be "white coat syndrome".

Misdee. I have been shoving the EPO up the old fanjo. I couldn't tell you if I was effaced and ripe before I started or if this is a result of the EPO, but I am still shoving 2 a night up there. I also take 2 orally in the morning. As you can see from me (40+6), it's not helping much, lol!

A quick me, me, me post I'm afraid.

Just a quickie.

Just back from 1000 appointment!!

Cyril failed the heart test. Had to have a scan with consultant. All the excess fluid has gone and there?s almost no fluid now. Blood flow to brain is high ? he?s working too hard. Had another heart test and he was failing after 56 mins (the most they do it for is 60 mins) so they called the consultant ? during this whole time I was nil by mouth as they were thinking of a C section. Anyway, Cyril had a little burst for 2 mins and passed the test at 58 mins, just as the consultant walked in the room!!!

So?. I have been allowed home (I begged!) but am to go back again for 1800. I?ll be having another test and, if he fails, I?ll be induced (if ready, C section if I?m not showing signs of being ready). If he passes I might be allowed home but I will be a priority tomorrow so, I will definitely be induced tomorrow, they won?t put me off if they?re busy.

It?s been a bit emotional so am going for a sleep now as I?m shattered.

Fingers crossed that Cyril will be ok.

Congrats to ladybuzz and cricri

I'll soon have one to report!!!

awwwwww come on! i went away for a few hours and two babies are born...seriously will anyone be left with me by mid nov?

congrats to ladybuzz and crici on Jay and elise. love all the names. wasnt it crici who had a hindwater leak like me...where is my baby then??

well hana same situation as you, midwife came blood pressure is 144/97 and so she whisked me straight off in the car to day assessment unit. i get my blood results back at 3pm and then they will decide if i need monitoring or an induction. was told to wait at home with feet up, rest and get this blood pressure down.

so i get in and have invite to FIL xmas party where i am expected to bring newborn. it states the party is to focus on family and to instill in the next generation the importance of family and its support, this is after my SIl said we were in a loveless marriage and me and my baby would die and never apologised. im absolutely raging about it and blood pressure must be soaring.

obs wish i could just give you a big cuddle, please focus on your diabetes. im sure if you felt more in control of that then everything else would seem easier to cope with. you need to feel as healthy as you can. ask DH to take over for you xxxxxx

OBS So sorry you are having a rough time of it. I hope I'm not overstepping the mark here by suggesting a sling for carrying around Max in case you have another hypo but it also keeps your hands free for your oldest DS, so he feel you are more available IFYSWIM.
Congratulations to all new mothers and the babies.
I still have difficulty with my fingers so am posting very infrequently but I am thinking about you all!