Due in Nov 2005??!!!

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Hello!

I'm starting a Due in Nov thread! A bit early maybe, but hey! By my calcs(!) I'm due Nov 3rd, are there any other ladies out there around the same time? I'm sure loads for Nov haven't even missed their period yet!

Anyway, I'm 27
pg no 4, dd1 born ar 26 weeks, sadly didn't make it, but now happily have dd2 age 5 and ds age 3 next week. And 1 lovely dp of 7 years!

Sorry if you've read this for a 2nd time but was advised by sallie to post on here!! x x x

LexyB, just read your message. Am so so sorry. Big glasses of wine in order.

Wishing you and your family all the best.

LexyB, I'm so sorry for you and your dh, I know it seems like the end at the moment but never say never though, as you may be able to talk your dh around in a while once you get over the shock of both conceiving and losing this one, it may be the thing that opens up communication between you both about more kids in the future. Take care of yourself and remember we're here if you need to let off steam.

Welcome back Chocolatequeen, wondered where you'd gone. From the info I got from Kings you can have the nuchal scan from 11 to 14 weeks so you should be ok with your dates. Don't worry about not having a dating scan, a few of us haven't where this is our 2nd or more child. I think with no. 2 they only give you a dating scan if you don't know your dates, so the nuchal will be the first scan for a few of us, so lets all hope it's not just wind!!! Hope that makes sense

So sorry LexyB - not much I can say - other than enjoy your wine and hugs coming your way!

ChaCha - how was your day? I am absolutely knackered, God knows what I will be like by Friday.

I only have a half day tmrw as I have a biopsy of a breast lump in the afternoon - do you think I could be cheeky and ask the guy to have a flick of the ultrasound over my tum - it will be so annoyingly tempting to whip it out of his hand and do it myself!

Well better go as DH will be here at any mo.

Speak tmrw.

lexyb - I am so sorry to hear your news. I burst into tears and i'm not even pg anymore. I know exactly how your feeling, and nothing anyone can say will make the emptiness go away. Take time to recover from this, grieve as much as you can. i have been crying all the time, when i had chance to sit and think about what has happened, and if thats what you need to do then its better out than in.
I hope that your DH is supportive of you and you are of each other, they're funny things men, he may well retreat into work and keep busy, but it doesn't mean he isn't thinking about it.

I wish you all the best, you never know this might make your dh realise how much he wanted the baby and encourage him to consider giving it another go. then you can join me on the ttc thread.

Let us all know how you get on, and make sure you take it easy. i know ti can knock a lot out of you, you'll be exhausted just thinking about all that you've been through.

Big Hugs for you

Diddle and LexyB..........

Looks as though I may be joining you guys. Discharge got heavier today. I still have no cramps. I have got an appointment tomorrow morning at the EPU and am dreading it. I can't help but think I am going to hear bad news.

Life couldn't get shittier. We lost our dog today. He's a working dog. He failed his course which means we will be getting a new one and DH has to go off for another 8 weeks to train it. I also noticed my 16yr old cat has got a growth on her mini. What next?????

I have booked a weeks annual leave for next week, so whatever the outcome I am going away on a rural retreat.... I think i deserve it!

oh pee pee, i'm so sorry, but i have to say discharge during pregnancy is quite normal, i suppose it depends what its like and if any pain starts. I hope that it all works out and please keep us informed, we're all here to support you. you never know it might be nothing.

i have decided that this year is c**p, i ost my grandma in Jan and it has just gone downhill from there. I hope that all your years are going better.

Peepee, Lexy B, Diddle...what's going on!!! am starting to feel v. worried i've been taking it all for granted that all is tickety boo. This is terrible news. be good to yourselves.

hope all goes well tomorrow at epu peepee...btw just reread message and didn't mean to exacerbate negative thought, i find it hard to know what to say re: mc. DP says i should probably not say anything at (hmm the male approach), but as i'm getting to know you all ... i say be positive. it may well be fine and dandy, and spending this eve worrying won't change a thing. anyway...will be thinking of you tomorrow JenJam

JenJam.... PLEASE DON'T WORRY........ I am really sorry i didn't mean to freak anyone out. I think i am going to change threads. SORRY

Diddle, the pain is not there but the discharge is starting to look familiar. What other threads are there available to talk about this stuff i feel guilty worrying people unecessarily.

Good luck everyone.x

hey peepee don't be silly this isn't about me. this is about you. taking some time off sounds like good idea.

Hi peepee, please don't feel you should go somewhere else, we're all at the same stage and you should talk about your worries on the nov thread. was momentarily intention was to be supportive and give you a hug. please stay on the thread and let us know how it goes tomorrow and feel free to chat about whatever you feel, whenever. jen

Thanks BEKsmum - the secretary at dr's office seems to think it will be ok, just getting a bit paranoid that i will get there and i find out that i am weeks out. very embarrassing. and very expensive, seeing as we are doing it privately. think dh will have a fit if we have to have another one as well because i got the dates wrong....bless him.

Interesting toilet problem - images of you wandering round in public for the next few months with trainer seat in hand. Probably not the best option..... how about if you hold him over it? Is it just that he doesn't want to touch it? Tricky one. Or maybe just cover it all with paper? Will have a think on that one. Thinking of starting ds on potty training - he's just 2.5 and has his nappy off several times during the day, but not consistently. How old was your ds when he started? Tips would be gratefully received!!!

peepee, am sorry you're having such a rough time - always seems to happen like that in life. Really hoping that you are being premature and you find there is nothing to worry about. Have my fingers crossed for you. Easy to say, but try to keep positive and moving forward. This time will pass, and things will get better - you need to try to remember that when things are getting tough. Let us know how you are in the morning.

Think at some point one of us is going to have to be brave, and GASP begin a new thread for the group......!! Maybe message number 750?

Ice cream mars bar calling, dh travelling on business again so will go and eat it in bed!

xxx

Anyone around. I need a friend. Just back from hospital as bleeding alot. Doc did internal and says my womb had contracted and is certain the foetus died a few days ago and is now being expelled. I have a scan tomorrow to make sure but he was quite certain there wasnt much hope.

Im so so sad, cant sleep just want to say up all night till the scan. Is there hope, i have no pain.

I'm here Cp3 and know how you are feeling. What time this morning have you got your scan? Hope its early so you don't have too much longer to wait. I don't know if you will feel the same but yeaterday when I was bleeding and not sure if the baby was OK or not and hoping it was I found worse than when I knew it was all over. I mean obviously I was really upset and in tears but at least I knew what was happening and not just in limbo.

Be thinking of you - fingers crossed

Lexy- So sorry to hear.
CP3- Hun I'm so sorry to.
I've been through this 3 times before and it's so hard but there is light at the end of the tunnel. All I can say or do is I'm here if anyone needs me and
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To you all that need one at the moment.
Peepee- Fingers crossed all goes well today. I was the same until I had my early scan and now eveytime I get the familiar brown/pink stuff, I try not to worry. As the mw says, my body's determined to try and have periods anyway.
Reading about your losses Diddle,Lexy and CP3 really brings it home what the hospital told a woman who was miscarrying, 50% of all pregnancies end in mc. Never ever thought it was that high but mw confirmed it.
Ever since reading about Diddle, I can't get you all out of mind. Maybe it's because I'm a sensitive little soul but it's been so heartbreaking watching this thread then seeing what you've gone through. I know how hard it is and admire you all for returning to this thread (must be so hard but well done). Please Cp3 and Lexy, stay on here and let us know how you are etc. It's been wonderful to still have Diddle and hope you'll stay to.
Well I've babbled on long enough. Sorry girls. Think I'm all philosophical this morning (must be lack of sleep ).
Take care all.
Good luck Peepee

CP3 - all the best for your scan i hope that you get an answer wether it be bad or good, i know what its like to be in limbo, that was me last week. My fingers are crossed for you. Take great care of yourself and your family.
I don't want to get your hopes up, but there is always hope, doctors are sometimes wrong. wait for the scan you will have a better idea, hopefully. Let us know how you get on.

Pee Pee - don't leave us, i lost mine last week as you know, i'm still here. stay with us we can support you through this. If you do want to go to another thread are stay on two, there is an April Miscarriage thread.

LexyB - i hope that you're okay, my thoughts are with you.

Its at 10.15. Thers lots more blood this morning. i dont know if i can pull myelf together for the scan. I just cant stop crying. Oh god why does this have to happen to us. Its so unfair.Im so scared

cp3 - you're right it is unfair. But its better you go to the scan and get it sorted out.
I cried at my scan and before and after. I also found that after drinking so much water it actually made it very painful to walk and stand upright. Take some paracetamol before you go.
My thoughts are with you.
Life's crap. But you have to think, this might be the best thing for the baby, if it wasn't goingto survive in the outside world, then it would have just aborted itself. I know that doesn't help and it is so hard to know what to say, and telling you to stay positive is impossible at the moment. just take care. i hope you get on ok.

cp3 - is it just like a normal period or are you losing clots? people do have period whilst pregnant, some of the kids i look after their mums bled all through pregnancy and it turned out ok, the baby was fine.

its like a heavy period, dark red blood, no clots as yet. Will i feel the baby come out or will he/she just disolve. Sorry but i cant call it foetus, id already named it. It was a baby to me.

How far gone were you Diddle??

Cp3- You've every right to cry. You're grieving.
Diddle- I totally agree with you. Yes there's always hope and if it is bad news then at least you know there's not a thing you could've done to prevent it. Just natures way I guess.
I felt really guilty after mine but tried to think positively.
Cp3- Please come and let us all know how you are and what happened.
Feeling totally gutted for you all especially as I feel closest to Diddle,Cp3,Beks and Rodeo.
Good luck for this morning. We're thinking of you.

CP3 - well i thought i was about 9 weeks, but my previous period was in Dec, i conceived straight after a M/c in Jan so only had that date as a guide. the doc said that i could have been earlier, maybe 7 wks.
my bleed wasn't very heavy, and sometimes the baby does just dissolve and you may have a few small clots, or big ones.
if anyones squeemish don't read on!!!
with my first i lost lots of clots and a small green sac which would have contained my baby. I did feel it coming, and was gutted when it just landed in the toilet.
The 2nd i bled very lightly with a little pain until the sunday night when i had major pain and when i went to the toilet i could feel something coming - a long (about 6 inches) piece of tissue, looked a lot like an umbilical cord type material, white and rubbery. I burst into tears when that happened, my hopes were up until then.
I did manage to catch it though just to see what it was. but i couldn't make out anything babylike. thank god.
When this had been expelled the pain subsided a lot.
This just goes to show that every m/c can be different. I was told that the tissue i lost could have been from the 1st m/c and been left over which just got my hopes up even more.
But we tested last week and it was negative. so we now know for sure.

What you are experiencing could be nothing, but its worth getting checked out, they do say if it heavy bleeding to go to the EPU so you are doing the right thing.
I'm crying with you, i know how hard it is to be positive, my DH was very positive, but as a woman you know deep down that you have to prepare yourself for the worst, just in case.
big hugs for you.

If you want to email me later for a chat you're more than welcome:
sarahdotharvey5904atbtinternet.com

good luck

That's similar Diddle to my 2nd mc. I saw the sac and actually managed to take it to the dr's. Luckily for me though, the other two were so early that I never felt or saw anything just alot of blood and clots.
Same here Cp3 and anyone else that ever needs a friend or a chat mail me on [email protected]