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Due November 2008 - hang on a minute, that's NEXT MONTH! Yikes!

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ruthosaurus · 14/10/2008 14:23

Not that it'll even BE November by the time we run out of space on this thread...

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MonkeyMargot · 14/10/2008 22:16

thanks for the hugs. I think you're right - i'm being oversensitive due to hormones.
Right - off to bed now. Thanks again lacks.

sparkletoes · 14/10/2008 22:21

Gosh yes that was probably difficult for her but I am sure as Lacka says she will encounter similar experiences and there wasn't much else you could do so don't blame yourself. It is incredibly sad but you obviously are a very caring neighbour. It is good you have this relationship with her as I am sure it can only help instead of hinder her in long run...

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missygoo · 14/10/2008 23:34

Oh dear how awful for your neighbour MonkeyM
You really can't blame yourself for the van though, or for being pregnant. Though I can competely understand why you would be feeling bad for her.
What a horrible thing to happen
Sorry, no words of wisdom from me, just sadness at such an awful thing.

missygoo · 14/10/2008 23:39

daisy 'that quintessential Must Have for your hospital bag'
OMG they are just awful!!!!

MonkeyMargot · 15/10/2008 06:35

Missygoo - what do you mean, awful? I've just ordered myself one in every pattern..... Don't know where you find these little treasures Lacks.
Right - off swimming. My MW says every woman she's met who swims a lot has an easy(er) labour.

LadyBuzz · 15/10/2008 08:16

Merry how scary hope you feel better now and the itching has improved. Just had a thought if they section me (not literally ) at 38 weeks we will have our babies on the same day I will hopeflly get a date today, I'm ready for a fight and I am hoping very very much not to come home without knowing what is happening again - its so frustrating when you have psyched yourself up for answers!
Monkey how for your neighbour, like Daisy I had a miscarriage when 3 of my colleauges were pg, 1 of which I worked directly with. It is very hard, but it is not your fault that you are pg, it sounds like you and DH are being very sensitive and lovely to her.

Oblomov · 15/10/2008 08:19

Ceebee, totally understand about feeling on fire one day and then bamboozled the next. But I do think mine is a bit down to the infection.

MerryM, so sorry to hear of your hospital exploits. SO VERY VERY gald to hear that twose 2 lovely babies will be arriving next week. NEXT WEKK. God !!!!!

MonkeyM, so sorry to hear of your neighbour. You are so loving and sensitive to her. There are lots of us on thisi thread that have MC'd. Alot of us met on the MC thread - that was how I met Cricri and Daisy. So we do understand.
We live in a close. 7 houses face eachother on a square. My neighbour at the end, lovely L, portugese, had a MC. Then I did. Now we are both pg. She is due just after me. Our american lady in the middle, she too had a MC after us, but is not currently pg. Every time I see her, I want to give her a big hug. It is so tricky. But you are being very sensitive about it. And that is all you can do.

missygoo · 15/10/2008 08:22

Lordy! I am up in a right grump cos DH woke me this mornng and here I find tht monkeym is off for a swim

So, gonna moan about my man. Stoopid niggly moans but moan I will.
He is drinking wee stubby bottles of beer at the mo, good offer somewhere, but leaves them in varous places in the house (in the bathroom being one) mainly on the kitchen counter though. We have small kitchen, about 50cm constitutes our kitchen counter, covering it in used bottles is not good!
I gathered them, for him, and put them in a bag outside the front door to go to the bottle bank. Nothing doing last night. So I gathered last nights ones and put them in another bag and hung them from the front door.
This morning I am woken by him demanding to know where his shoes (eh??) are and then teh clink of the door shutting with the bag of bottles still on the door
So I now have one bag inside the house and the other outside.
The bottle bank is about 100ft from the house!!

Then, we are going to be doing our kitchen up, to increase said worksurface. For 3 weeks I have asked him to clear the shed so that we can empty the kitchen cupboards contents into it. I had to do it myself yesterday! Humfing big things I really shouldn't!
The garden needs doing. I ask him time and time again to trim the hedges, he never does, I always end up doing it myself! My back hedge has been looking ridiculous for nearly a month cos I could only reach so far!
He never cuts the grass, to do so involves clearing up after the dog first, as task anyone hates, but I always end up doing. So now my grass is going to look just awful over the winter again cos I just can't do all these things! That is not mentioning the vegetable patch which is looking lush at the mo, weeds as tall as my knees!! Will he be the one to turn it over? Nooooo, my dad will have to come out and, no doubt, carry out all the outdoor tasks for me.
My mum will come with him and help with the kitchen, and DH? Won't even notice!!! Will prob complain cos he no longer has a kitchen to work in until he pulls his finger out and helps his father to put in the new one.

Ok rant over. It is all just so petty though isn't it? I am not really asking much, just do do the tasks he hates. But he puts them off and puts them off until I get exasperated and just do them myself. It is not a new pattern, but has me cross this morn cos now I am up at a silly hour (for me).
When I was pregers with DD, I asked him to do the grass. Again he said, in a minute.
Eventualy, impatient sod soul I am, at 9 months pregnant (and, it turned out, in v early labour, hence the desperate nesting) I picked up dog poo and cut the grass. Had DD 2 days later!
I never let him foget that one but then, as I say reckon my impatience that time was defo nesting.

ceebee74 · 15/10/2008 08:58

Morning everyone

Monkey I really feel for your neighbours and can't imagine what they have been through but you do sound so understanding and lovely about the whole situation. I think your friend has given you an opening to talk to her about it by e-mailing you so maybe go round for coffee?

Missy grrrrr for your DH! Is he always like this or is it just the impending increase in his brood that is making him act like this?

Ladybuzz good luck today - really hope you get the answer you want (and then you can give me tips on how to deal with consultants ).

I actually had a reasonable night's sleep last night - I think DH being away helps as I get the whole bed to myself . It was only ruined by DS deciding to wake at 5.30 and play his music for about 10 minutes - he of course went back to sleep whilst I laid there cursing him!! I gave up at 6.15 and put the light on and read a book for a bit - was nice but sleep would have been better.

DS now at nursery and got the whole day to myself again apart from a MW appointment at 11. I love this only working 2 days a week lark

LackaDAISYcal · 15/10/2008 09:06

off for a swim at 6:30

Is it too late to take up swimming now in the hope that I'll have an easy labour? I go every week with DD, but I doubt that "bouncing along in my big red tractor" and "old Macdonald learnt to swim" for half an hour a week will have the same effect

Had a bit of a lie in this morning courtesy of DH being home midweek as he is at a conference today up here

oh, missygoo, you have every right to moan and whinge. My DH has been promising to wash the kitchen floor....for six weeks and the bath for longer, but some how they never get done (thankfully the lino in the kitchen is dark grey so the muck doesn't show up). He does do loads of other stuff though, so I can't really complain. It's just that those are the things that I really struggle with so have developed an almost impossible level of urgency.

Had an interesting night last night with several very strong and painful contractions that meant standing up and having to rub my back and move around to get some ease, but it all calmed down after I went to bed. I've had a couple of big BHs this morning as well. I can just see this one running and running and if anyone mentions "tricky third labour" to me once more I will scream!!

sparkletoes · 15/10/2008 09:11

LadyBuzz really hope you get the answers you are looking for today, am SURE you will!

Obs are you feeling any better?

Missy DHs that walk past tasks set out for them and do things in their "own" time... yip I know that feeling! Good to vent about it tho, as for dealing with it.. anyone, anyone???

Hi Ceebs, I also have day to myself but can't decide what to do as all the things I want to do can't be done yet! Upstairs is a tip but until we get DS a new chest of drawers for his room I can't rearrange the rooms and stock up the baby's room grrr!! Hoovering then...

I feel really sick again this am , nasty MS will it ever end?

LackaDAISYcal · 15/10/2008 09:21

good luck for your appointment LadyBuzz.....gosh babies everywhere soon

Oblomov · 15/10/2008 09:22

Sympathy to sparkle. I have been really sick this am aswell.
Does MS go away as soon as you give birth ?
And what about swollen feet ?
I can't remmeber how long that took last time. And neither can dh.

LADYBuzz, "is late, is late, for very important date". Lets all hope she gets a DATE.

Sorry for missygoo's dh. He is a rascal.
And at MonkeyM going swimming. I am struggling to do anything at all.

suiledonn · 15/10/2008 09:37

Obs my MS went away the minute I gave birth to dd. The awful taste I had in my mouth for 9 months vanished and my appetite came back. I never enjoyed a meal as much as the cornflakes and brown bread I had for breakfast after she was born.

MerryM Glad to hear all is ok with the babies. A week will go by so quickly - you must be very excited.

MonkeyM You are a very kind neighbour to worry so much. I think time does heal these things. I met a woman whose first child died in very similar circumstances. She has gone on to have 2 more children and is very open and lovely when talking about her first.

cricri · 15/10/2008 09:42

Sorry for Obs and Sparkle suffering ms - not pleasant
MM Hope you enjoyed your swim Sorry to hear about your neighbour but as others have said, you're being very understanding about the situation. I found when I had my mc that I really appreciated it when people acknowledged what had happened. They didn't need to say much, but that was enough. It's the people who just ignored it or brushed it under the carpet that made it worse. I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a baby full term and an early mc just doesn't compare but as with any bereavement it's something you have to work through on your own to a certain extent. Hopefully your neighbour is getting the support she needs to do so. Just letting her know that you're there and thinking of her will help.
Ladybuzz Good luck with your appointment today
Missygoo My DH is the same - his favourite phrase, which winds me up no end, is "I'll look to do that" - in other words I'll just ignore you and do it in my own time or not at all. Have no answers for dealing with it unfortunately.

LackaDAISYcal · 15/10/2008 09:45

My feet stayed swollen for about four weeks afterwards with DD Obs, but it was June and very hot. I found my "yay I've got my feet and ankles back" post on an old PN thread the other day....and copied my description of how you your DP should do a lymphatic drainage massage......but forgot to post it on here . I'll have another look for it later.

Sorry some of you are still feeling sick and hope it gets better soon.

Tinkerisdead · 15/10/2008 10:06

Morning all, i am debating whether to start scrubbing the floor on my hands and knees. Its that or the ironing! I dont have the energy for either actually.

MM - thats really sad about your neighbour but it sounds like you are really treating the situation sensitively and like a real friend. Our friends are having IVF and i said if it was too hard being around me, i wouldnt be offended if she avoided me. But she says she wants to enjoy other peoples babies, she loves coming for a feel. maybe you need to send her an email or invite her for a coffee and ask her how she wants to handle it?

Merry - what a crap time at the hospital, Ive been having pregnancy migraines and last week i hallucinated and thought i had 8 arms. i was waving them in DH's face saying "wow look at this, 8 arms, how amazing". he bundled me straight in the car to the hospital. I tried to tell him i had flashing lights in my eyes but kept telling him i had "bunting!" no wonder he took me to hospital! apparently its normal though!!!

ruthosaurus · 15/10/2008 10:26

Morning all,

Can I again apologise for the crap thread title? I woke up feeling bad about it. Let's all write loads so we use it up fast. It's been less than 24 hours and we're already at 90+ posts, so it should be a piece of cake. Mm, cake...

Monkey, big hugs. I wish everyone was as nice as you. I bet your neighbour really appreciates your kindness.

Merry, are you and the babies feeling a lot better now? What a worry, and I know everyone says "not long now" but I just bet this week isn't going as quickly as it might.

Drswife, Hi! and gosh, those are some hallucinations! Have you been ill-advisedly picking wild mushrooms without the benefit of a spotters guide?

Lacks, what's all this about swollen feet not going away IMMEDIATELY the cord is cut? You mean I could have piggy trotters for another 2 months or more? How am I going to get my Santa boots on for Xmas? No-one told me about all this...

Well, it's my last day at work and the place is in a right old tizzy - I feel v guilty for leaving them up a gum tree but I can't really do anything about that. My line manager is nearly in tears due to understaffing issues (my maternity cover lady has called in v sick with the actual flu) and I just sit here being massive and useless. We were going to go to the pub for lunch but somehow I feel this would be tactless now... I am trying to look small and inoffensive. Problem is I cannot teach as if I stand up and move around for more than 5 mins I get massive BH contractions, plus my feet will only fit into my birkenstocks now, even if I spend the day sitting down, so I am genuinely sod all use.

In respect of this I will now stop faffing around on MN and buckle down or at least try to look suitably chastened. Scrabble is off the cards anyway as the work server blocks it, poo, so I will have to carry on getting my ass kicked by y'all this evening or tomorrow.

Sorry for long post and see youse later!

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LackaDAISYcal · 15/10/2008 10:34

don't be silly rutho, the thread title is just fine

enjoy your last day...and get thee to the pub at lunchtime; you only ever have one first maternity leave so make sure you do something to mark the occasion. they will survive just fine without you as well; it's not your fault that your cover has flu.

Now stop feeling guilty and responsible and sit there enjoying the activity going on around you

I'm sure your trotters will be back to twinkletoes in no time

ceebee74 · 15/10/2008 10:50

Saurus totally agree with Daisy - enjoy your last day as this first time only happens once. None of the other issues are your concern and it is not very nice of your boss to try and make you feel guilty. Now MN to your hearts content, get yourself to the pub and ENJOY

Right, off to the MW's now.

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ruthosaurus · 15/10/2008 10:55

Lacks, dear, I have the guilt quota of the western world niggling at the back of my mind today (I think its something to do with too much shopping in the face of the credit crunch and spurning DH's advances this morning). Probably just hormones.

Forgot last time but Missygoo, mine is the same, esp with moving large heavy articles within a day of me asking, and not realising that babies come when they want, not at the due date, so getting ready is a matter of urgency whereas The Adventures of Conan on the computer is not... Love him really.

Okay, now I really am going to knuckle down.

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sparkletoes · 15/10/2008 10:55

Well Ruthy I for one really like the title, it made me LOL when I read it. I realised yesterday tho that next month is like 2 weeks away!!!!!!!!

AND Merry's twins will be here next week! Yay!

I need to get motivated, this is my one and only DS free day I could be doing SO MUCH why can't I be assed??? Just want to go back to bed... humph

LackaDAISYcal · 15/10/2008 11:17

lol at your DH still wanting to make advances rutho......mine is so over that at the minute. In fact I was on my hands and knees tidying up toys last night when he came in the living room and I made a joke about being at the right height and he just laughed at me and said that as he'd have to be bow legged to accommodate my bump it might be a bit uncomfortable for him ......I don't give him BJs, he complains...I offer and he laughs at me....Can't bloody win in this house .

hana, the balloons sound lovely; what a nice gesture from your colleagues.

DH has officially resigned and his boss is talking about releasing him early from his contract. so, with his paternity leave lined up and nearly three weeks holiday to take, he could be leaving as early as three weeks......or sooner if the baby comes before that . And he'll have about six or seven weeks at home before starting the new job , and is talking about getting the living room decorated before Christmas . It's all a bit much for me to take in!