Due November 2008 - hang on a minute, that's NEXT MONTH! Yikes!

[ruthosaurus]

Not that it'll even BE November by the time we run out of space on this thread...

bloody hell MerryM; sounds scary . glad the babies are allright though and that you are on the mend. I thought that maybe you were just off scratching in the corner somewhere!

Did they give you a date for getting the babies out?

oh merry wondered where the middle of the night insomnia postings has gone! Glad all is well though, you take it easy now......

Can someone please, please start a game of scrfabble with me????

lacks, my date is week tomorrow. Yippee!

dozy, i would but I am FAR behind in all scrabble games!

Dozy Have just started a game with you I'm rubbish though so you'll thrash me!
MM Sorry to hear about your stay in hospital but glad you and the babies are OK. Bet you can't wait until next week We can't wait to see pictures of them!

next week

babies...woohoo

i'm always up for a game of scrabble.......initials J J on the FB group and am ice skating.

Yikes MerryM, you be kind to yourself now...

Ceebee - haha that is a coincidence but somehow doesn't surprise me given our history of coincidences!

Welcome back DoctorsWife!

Scrabble - I have just had to get DH to re-set the laptop and he reckons it is something to do with all the scrabble games I am on, oops

If this baby comes on the due date I worked out (like its brother did) I will give birth a month today!! Somehow that doesn't seem so far away now I am not at work!

My friend's baby did well with his heart op so I am very relieved. She is dealing with it all so well I am in awe...

spakle so glad to hear that the heart op went well - your friend sounds amazing - dealing with it so well.

Lacks Have you changed your photo on FB? I remember the one of you ice-skating but the only JJ I found has a photo of her with two children - is that you?
Sparkle Good news about your friend's baby, you must all be so relieved. One of the couples from our NCT group found out a few days after the birth of their son that he has a heart problem and will need surgery in the future. Very worrying

durr that's me; forgot I'd changed it.....yup sitting in a shelter with DD in a pink flowery coat and DS in camoflague. We were crab fishing on Cromer pier

Sparks lol I feel a bit 'stalkerish' reallyth with the names but I had decided on this baby's name long before I knew what your DS was called

So glad your friend's baby is doing well - I have also been in that position as DS needed a life-saving operation (although this was a stomach op) at 8 weeks old and it was the worst week of mine and DH's life but you do cope with it - at the time we swore we wouldn't have another baby as it was so traumatic......as you can tell, memories fade

Merry so glad everything is ok but how very scary for you - I bet you are just counting down the days now until next week so you can have your body back and the fun begins

So much for an early night - have been on the phone to my mum for the last hour!!

can only imagine what it must be like to ahve such a little one go through surgery, but glad your friend's baby is doing well sparkles. And similarly I hope that y
our NCT friend's baby is OK cricri.

DS had an operation to stitch an eye wound when he was two (he spent his second birthday in the sick kids hospital, bless) and holding him down while they anaesthetised him was pretty traumatic. they couldn't get a canula in him so they had to just use the mask. He didn't like it one wee bit.

Haha don't regard you as stalkerish at all Ceebs! I love DS name (and have done since pre meeting DH!). I am delighted you are considering it in your wee man's name it is cool.

Gosh yes that would have been a difficult time for you too. So glad you decided to have another in the end, that is reassuring... They will get over this.

Must have missed that Merry, next week!! Yay! How exciting!

Can imagine Lacka, I found it hard enough taking DS for his routine immunisations fgs. That certainly seems so trivial now. But guess as mums we are programmed to be distressed if our babies ever are...

MerryM - poor you - glad everything is OK with you and your babies. What a worry for you. I must have missed a page, but next week! That's really exciting!! 2 more babies!!
Obs ouch - your cyst in your lady bits sounds terrible.

sparkle glad your friend's LO's heart op was a success. How awful to go through all that.
Hope everyone else is OK - i've had a strange day.

wassup monkeyM?

How so Monkey?

One last chance for the Baby Show tickets before they go on FFP.........speak now or forever hold your peace

It's a long story, and quite depressing. So not sure if you want to hear it at bedtime.

if you need to offload monkeyM, it's what we're here for

Ok - thanks. Bear with me cos I'll have to give some background to this.
Just over a year ago some new neighbours moved into the house opposite us. Our street is like Corrie, only 21 houses, so we all know each other. The new couple were similar age to my and DH and we got friendly. She got PG, and was due end of April, around the time I was telling people I was also PG. She was full-term, and went into labour. Sadly something went wrong during delivery, baby was starved of oxygen, and died 6 days later.
Since then, it has become harder and harder as I get bigger, and they have grieved for their little girl. It has been incredibly hard for them.
Anyway, today I had my nursery furniture delivered. The van parked opposite my house (so right outside their house). It was after 9am so I had assumed (wrongly) she had already left for work. Anyway, I see her coming out the house, and she can't get her bike out as the van is blocking the gate. So I go and get the driver to come and move it, and go out to tell her he's moving. She seemed a bit off, but I didn't think too much of it.
Later on today I got an email from her, followed by a text, explaining that she had seen the van and assumed it was baby-related, and it all just got to her. She was really apologetic. I have replied and apologised for the insensitivity of letting this situation happen. It just brought it all back - I thought she was slowly getting over her loss, but I realise this is going to take a long, long time.
So not only does she have to see my every day with massive bump, but another neighbour had a baby girl 6 weeks ago. She can't get away from it.
I just know it's going to be incredibly difficult when we inevitably bump into one another. I feel terribly upset about this.

Completely up to you but you know what they say about a problem shared...

oh, monkeyM, that is sooo sad for your neighbour , but I'm sure that she doesn't think you were being insensitive. Life goes on after all and your delivery van won;t be the only thing that brings it all back to them. Perhaps even having some wee babies around will help them with the healing process?

I know it's not the same league, but I was pregnant at the same time as a work colleague, but had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I felt really awful about her still being pregnant when I was off work and really didn't know how I was going to face her, but she sent me a wee email and it sort of broke the ice. It made my return to work much easier.

lacks that must have been really awkward. It's a weird situation - we have seen them a few times socially since it all happened, and have had lots of hugs and tears and long conversations about it all. But it feels almost like things are getting worse, rather than better, as I get nearer to giving birth.
I don't blame them - I just know it's going to be tough every day when we see them.
They were at our gay neighbours 50th on Sat night, and I found myself avoiding her, as all the other guests at the party (who didn't know what had happened to her baby) were cooing over my pregnancy. So I didn't want her to have to hear that. My DH was brilliant and talked to her for ages about how she was feeling.
I just hope, in time, she can face us, and the world again.

She will MM, I'm sure. Would it help to popover for a coffee and a chat with her? Although I;m sure she is finding things difficult, I think that maybe you are feeling things a bit more keenly than you would otherwise due to the hormones and the uncertainty fo your own looming birth experience. I know that what happens to other people's babies and children affects me much more when I am pregnant and hormonal.

Have a few virtual {{{{{hugs}}}}}