Due May 2009 - The 2nd thread... our pregnancy-addled brains can't think of anything wittier!!

[SpangleMaker]

Here you go

llareggub - great news, glad everything is ok.

Got a scan in the morning - just to check things after the spotting. I am slightly reassured in that the ms is horrendous today, haven't got an appetite and feeling sooo tired.

frogthistle - am thinking of you, sorry to hear your sad news. x

SebandElliotsmum - that's so funny about being sick - I'm with you on the energy thing.

frogthistle - sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you.

OMG have just seen 2 sharks ttc on channel 5 'animals in the womb'
im ashamed to say i laughed like a 12 year

oh frogthistle am so sorry. [hug] Take care of yourself x

Have just done 20 pelvic floor excersises and am exhausted. Also made another apple crumble this afternoon and gave it to DD's with custard for their pudding. Then DH had some. But there was some left so instead of having the curry i'd made, I just had apple crumble for dinner. oh dear.
Then had a Wispa I bought earlier (WHO was it that mentioned Wispa bars the other day???? Haven't had one for years - it was miraculous. Mustn't buy any more or I'll be the size of a house).
Salad and fruit tomorrow.

Good luck to those having scans tomorrow. Hope everyone is ok. I'm ok, just tired (very tired actually - still waking up about 4 times a night), stressed, and looking really quite pregnant. I get a fright every time I look in the mirror or pass a shop window.
Night x

Just did another 20.
Need to lie down.

i really regret not doing my squeezes after 2nd child, think i might need some tena lady, but im only 29!!!

I had to resort to tena lady when i had a bad cough a few weeks ago - most embarassing. DD has a cough again so think they'll be making a reappearance!

Also doing Kegel exercises when I can - 40 is good going frazzled!

Have just remembered (for when the time comes) that doing the Kegels post delivery (as soon as you can feel your fanjo again) helps with healing any tears etc - gets the blood supply going to the tissues or something (yuck, but true).

Have just been on the breastfeeding threads trying to reassure myself that I"ll be able to do it again. Am now convinced I need a full time nanny and housekeeper to take care of everything for me while I lie in bed doing skin to skin with the baby for at least a week. (Am someone who has breastfed both times before but finds it a total struggle. Don't know why I find it so bloody difficult and painful as almost everyone else I know sails through it with hardly a worry. They just latch on and off they go. Oh God, am panicking about it all already. Asked DS if he'd booked his 2 wks paternal leave off work after the baby and he just looked at me as if I was mental (he's self employed too). (He never took any time off after DD2 and only took about 2 days after DD1 - I'm determined he's going to this time). Can you tell I'm slightly hysterical? Aargh.
Going to bed now.
(but got to tidy up first - drat).
Sorry for the (obviously hormonal irrational) post. Am just suddenly petrified.
Will try and get a grip soon.
night x

frogthistle so sorry to hear your news... squeezy hugs to you and your dearest.

Hiya to all the girls nice to meet u

Made a apple crumble this evening at it really hit the mark... ran out of wispas but kidding myself crumble is at least in some way healthier!

meant hiya to all the new girls

frazzle I'm a bit nervous of giving BF another go... still going to though

Morning all!

I'm posting because I really need reassurance. I'm getting myself in a right tizz, because I'm convinced that when I go for my scan next week it'll be bad news. I don't know why I feel so pessimistic about it, I haven't really had any reason to suspect anything has gone wrong. I had quite a lot of crampy backache earlier, but that seems to have stopped. I have been feeling queasy a lot, but there hasn't been many other symptoms really, boobs still pretty much the same, no extra weeing etc. I can't stop worrying, especially after I I read DiveDaisy's post about feeling her uterus - I'mm 11 weeks too (although my dates could be out) and just can't feel it. Am I the only one? I remember feeling it with DD, but can't remember when.

Somebody please tell me to get a grip. All this worrying cannot be good.

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flippineck one of my friends sailed through both her pregnancies with NO SYMPTOMS AT ALL bar extra peeing when she was in her 3rd trimester! It can happen... so try not to worry... it doesn't do you any good.

Now this is not said in any way meant to add worry to anyone... but on the flip side another friend recently had all the symptoms v badly & her baby had stopped growing at 6wks... she found out at 8wks and was obviously devastated. The symptoms then continued for her for a few wks after her visit to the hospital and there was no baby at all by then.

So I guess what I'm saying is keep sending those positive vibes to your belly and accept this whole baby business is a venture into the unknown... even if you've done it before!

Hi everyone and good luck for anyone having scans today.

I had my first midwife appointment yesterday, she was not happy cos we are already 12wks and she said she really should have see me before now. Due to the lateness we won't get a scan for another 2wks.
I talked the mw in to trying to fine a heartbeat, she warned me that if she couldn't find it I wouldn't get a scan any earlier but we heard it, it was like magic and I cried.

FLIPPINECK all you have to remember is that every preg is different I'm on my 3rd child + have had 2 mc aswell and all have been different. Just hang in there

Flippineck - I'm the worlds worst worrier and have had so many mini meltdowns on this thread so far, it is embarrassing - hence me keeping away for a few days to try and calm down ! I considered paying for an early scan but know it would only give me temporary relief and I'be be worrying again almost immediately until I get to the magic 12 weeks, and then I'll find something different to worry about !

I've been keeping a diary of "symptoms", however minor, so that I can look back and try to reassure myself. For instance, I've realised that I only really get symptoms of nausea and tiredness if I commute into London and have a long day - luckily, that doesn't happen very often at the mo as I'm working locally - that explains the lack of nausea

Last night, I was in my Body Balance class (pilates / yoga) and noticed during a couple of "plank" exercises that my uterus definitely felt heavier and didn't like me lying on it. Later on, when doing lots of bending forwards, I ended up with acid reflux, which I never ever get normally, and thought I was going to throw up in the middle of the studio !! I didn't, but felt happily nauseous for the rest of the evening

I kind of treat this like the 2 week wait of TTC days and write down every little thing I feel that is "different" - reassuring to look back on / perhaps notice a pattern when you are having a panic ?

I too am terrified of a MMC but am just trying not to think about it now - my logical head says my uterus would not feel larger and heavier unless something was actually growing in there

flippineck - the uterus doesn't usually rise out of the pelvis until about week 12 although obviously this can vary slightly, plus as you say your dates may be slightly 'out'. So I wouldn't worry. Try to relax about it - as lots of people have said a 'missed' miscarriage is quite rare, lack of symptoms is common (and normal) and if you're feeling nauseous that's surely a positive sign (for the baby, if not for you?) Try not to worry, chances are all is well. x

FiKelly - so it was YOU that mentioned Wispa's! Delicious, but a very bad habit to get into - could be seriously addictive. Glad you enjoyed your apple crumble - of course it's good for you - think of all those lovely apple vitamins!
How long did you breasfeed for? Was it hard for you? I just hate the first couple of weeks, in particular the first few days when my babies seemed to be starving and all i had was a bit of colostrum. It never seemed to be enough and they just cry and cry and I get sore chewed nipples and I hate it. Why doesn't your milk come in straight away? I don't understand why it has to take 3-4 days - mother nature has got it wrong I think. Apparently drinking various herbal teas and other supplements and things can get your milk supply up and running well - will look into it and report back if anyone is interested. Am also looking into getting a b/f counsellor lined up this time to visit me as soon as I get back from hosp (or even in the hosp) as I've always found the b/f support in hosp to be pretty rubbish (quick glance in the general boob/baby direction and 'yes, perfect latch. Carry on' when it in fact was a terrible latch, bad position and painful. Not good. So yes, as you can tell I'm getting myself in a paddy over it already. And I've still got 29.5 wks to go! God knows what I'll be like by the time I actually give birth.
(BY THE WAY - first time mummies ignore this - this is JUST ME and most of my friends have had none of this trouble and have found breastfeeding pretty much a doddle. Makes me feel crap, but reassuring for the rest of you!!!!)
Although - my top tip - get your midwife to check the baby for a tongue tie - DD2 has one which did affect our feeding (can't move tongue enough to position correctly). Nightmare. But can be snipped at a few days old and solves the prob. (My DD's wasn't snipped as they said it wasn't affecting her feeding!!!!!! - it bloody was but I just did as I was told. Won't make that mistake again.

Sorry, huge post. Will shut up now and go away!
Have a good day ladies

Sorry - am back again.
Just had a listen to the baby with my friends hand-help doppler and it seemed to be having a crazy dancing session. It's heart beat was going from 160 - 175 bpm and I kept losing it as it seemed to be jumping about so much. (Last time I listened it was about 146 bpm). Have just had a cup of Earl Grey so maybe the caffeine was kicking in! Nice to hear it again and say hello! Still sounds like a train.
(I would never have gone and bought one of these things, but luckily my friend has 4 kids and got it on ebay for hers. Very reassuring.)

hand-held not hand-help! Duh.

I'm trying to decide whether buying a doppler would be reassuring, or just cause me to worry even more

Interesting comments on the BF front - I know without a doubt that I want to try my hardest to make it work, but am leaving it at that for now and will start worrying finding out about that hurdle once I have a bump

Am definitely going to do some work now.
Should really stop talking to myself on here

Jools - I know, I'm being a bit 'previous' worrying about my BF again now when it's still so early. Just can't help it - I'm someone who likes to have things totally planned and organised so I'll only feel better once I have my strategy sorted.

With a sensible head on it's probably a waste of money to buy a doppler and if you don't know what you're listening for it probably isn't much of a help. However if you do buy one you could always re-sell it on ebay and once you've heard / seen the midwife do it you'll know what to look for.

(Unmasks dramatically - I'm actually a qualified midwife - haven't practised for 10 years though - so I do know how to use the doppler properly).

You'd maybe think I should know how to breastfeed then - duh, no! It's all so different when it's your own baby.

frazzle I have to dash off... taking my mum to a specialist check up in bristol this morning and have discovered the traffic is awful... have to get cracking. My BF story is a bit long winded so I'll fill you in when I'm back later in day

I'm 12+1 today. Am feeling quite positive at the moment. I have my nuchal scan & blood test next Monday so that's the next thing to get paranoid about. Going private for it as my nhs doesn;t do it. Am a bit worried cos of my age (36) MW said I'd probably come out at high risk - anyone got experience of nuchal at this sort of age? I have a small bump now which I'm surprised about, didn't think I'd show so soon - my hubby says I definetly look pg not fat he keeps poking it and it feels firm - I'm unable to do up any of my jeans now but don't want to go towards maternity till I have too. MS not too bad today -managed to keep my cornflakes down - YIPPEE although I did get up feeling like I'd drunk 8 pints of scrumpy last night.

I bf both my girls but I'm 1 of the sad women that had no real problem. I bf my eldest until 12 mths, she got a cold and went off me. My youngest I feed til 2 years, husband told me it was time to call it aday cos he could see me still bf her at school!!!!!!!

The only trouble I had was stopping with my youngest, she was fine about it but I had really bad withdrawls I just used to cry all the time. It lasted for about 8wks and was horrible..... but will bf again