Due March 2009 - 3rd thread - Aches, cravings and... is that a bump I see?!

[auntyspan]

Brand new thread ladies!

OOoooo pregnanthedgewitch is it a 3d scan?? i will try and have a look on my pc when i get home from work!!

Moan alert

I have been getting progressively sicker since the weekend and it culminating in me sobbing into my duvet this morning as I couldn't breathe (so bunged up!), my ears were blocked and whistling from all the nose-blowing, and I couldn't stop coughing inbetween the sobs and my mouth is ONE BIG COLDSORE so I also look as hideous as I feel.

Bleurgh. Husband is away on business so have been on dog-walking duty for 2 hours a day every day and it's been sodding raining every time I have to go out so I think that's what sent me over the edge. I miss him, I want him to come home and take care of me.

I am pleased for everyone else's good scans though and checked yours out PW - she is a wriggler!

And I did win a water-birthing pool in a competition I entered as well. So it's not all bad.

Hi all

Had my 3rd scan today due to not being able to get good pics or scan of heart last time...and got another 6 free pictures as none were really good (or so the lady said, I think their brilliant) and all was good with heart Baby scratched her head...it was amazing you could see all the fingers moving slowly as they scratched...dh now saying she's just like him! And she sucked her thumb She also gave me some welly last night...3 very well placed kicks...football player of the future? Or boxer...

Hedgewitch glad you had a good scan this time, I was distressed when I thought dh and dd were going to miss scan last week, but luckily I had a nice nhs ultrasoundist lady. Nice you have that scan forever now...

Kat80 I had (found out this time round) Pelvic Girdle discomfort last time and while bfing dd. This time I have that...and if I'm really lucky it goes off because the SPD gets more painful...best thing for me is lots of laying down, not picking up dd and not being overly energetic with the hoover...and keeping knees together in bed (but my hips make the most god awful cracking in the sockets as I turn over). Got appt to see physio 1st dec...which seems a long time away today as I'm having twinges again...but so long as I rest I think I'll be fine...tis easy enough...just turn a blind eye to all the housework . What was it like for you last time round? Did you get to see a physio?

Ok so have been walking the dog up and down the common and have started to hear a clicking sound as I walk -- it almost feels like my joints are rubbing over my pelvis or something. Is this SPD? It's not painful. Will it get worse? Does everyone get it?

ha ha Ally!! i wish i could! i just cant seem to relax at the mo unless the house is done, although the other half is getting great at hoovering now! so hopefully i'll do the full handover on the housework soon! Although i had it last time i didn't get it until 36 weeks, and the only reason i did was because i fell over and landed badly, which in turn caused the SPD! (hope i'm making sense), so straight away i couldn't walk well, and with a nearly one year old it was tough! I didn't have any physio, it was never offered, but i didn't think to ask! After the birth it magically disappeared but was told not to get too excited as it may come back with further pregnancies, so here we are now, with SPD from 22 weeks! am seeing the doc on fri so hoping to get one of those belts, but will also enquire about physio, as never thought about that! I just dont want to get to the point where i cant walk!

Not sure Boobz...no expert...but it is in the pelvis area...

Kat80...I dread accidently slipping...!! I'll be a nervous wreck when it gets all icy...already planning a bag of salt to give me safe passage across the road! Here you ask the midwife for an appt to see the physio...just discribed the symptoms and she referred me. Taking it easy definately does work for me...laying down is much better than sitting. Doing housework (that I do ) in short bursts like flylady, 5 min here, 15 min there...and rest, tho if you have two other children...Mine was acute just 3 weeks ago, but with 2 weeks of not doing much its fine much of the time...no lifting, carrying, pushing with feet (ooh that's a killer!), going careful when turning...whole body not part...I think (hope) I can make it to the end of this pg and still be walking. Its caused by the relaxin hormone...just relaxes us a bit too much in that region...and the moment you had your dc the hormone starts disapating...however with me it stayed because I was bfing I believe...certainly my back niggled for the time I was. It can also be a previous weakness in the pelvic area...and as I've had back problems since I was 18 it would not surprise me if this is related. Anyway hope you can take it easy...can be bloody painful if you don't!

Ally and Kat, I am currently laid up in bed with Pelvic Girdle Pain (self diagnosed at the mo), walking is painful, sitting is painful and I had to ask my husband to help undress me last night (not for any fun reason!!) as was unable to remove my knickers and socks!
This all started on saturday afternoon when I was doing a small spot of tidying. Went and saw a GP on Monday morning - a locum from the 19th century - who told me that the back and pelvis is a complicated thing and that pregnancy is just about the worst thing that you can do to it....he prescribed paracetemol and rest. I suggested at that point that it may be PGP (after doing a bit of research over the weekend) but he completely pooh poohed me.
Have since had the week so far off work but am feeling the pressure to get back in.
Anyway, as pain is getting worse and not better, I called midwife this morning who immediately said it sounded like a pelvic girdle problem and has referred me for physio - there will be a 2 week wait, she has also recommended that I see a GP again swiftly for some better pain management advice in the mean tinme - am booked to see a lady GP tomorrow morning. I will try and attach the link to the page that provides some good info on PGP for you both to read (have never added a link before tho....)
link here

Hope that worked!

On a positive note junior seems to be getting stronger by the day (measured by the strength of the booting that I am getting anyway!)

xx

Ooh, this all sounds nasty. Hope you all manage to get yourselves some decent feet up time. Fingers crossed my pelvic regions is still holding up.

I have booked myself in for a 3d scan on 22nd Dec, I am quite excited about it. Anyone else thinking of getting one this time round around?

Goldmother at your dr! Should get himself updated!! And thanks for the gory diagram...I have (now a pro having looked at that...) pain on my left sacroiliac joint (at the back) occasionally twinging on the right sacroiliac joint and TMI after BDing...discomfort in the perineum joint (which I thought was the bit that gets stitched up after birth but now its a joint too...interesting, how does one get rid of it?)...hoping others will share bding problems and pains now so I'm not alone in my ing .

Hedgewitch will look for memory foam thingy, have pg pillow which I use all the time...hate my knee joints touching anyhoo and it does help with my sacroiliac joint (hark at me...).

JollyJoanne no 3d scan here, bet your looking forward too it

Hope you guys get to see a phsyio soon...

Hey all. Not been posting as been as ill as a really ill thing. Actually Boobz I think you and I have the same thing. I've just felt so shit. Last week I was off with my four-day migraine which quickly turned into this god-awful cold that has been getting worse every day. I had to see the doc this morning about the headaches and she wants to sign me off for longer, I was planning to go back next week, but she has other ideas. she was wanting me to work on my relaxation exercises to stop the build up of tension in my neck and shoulders (thus migraines and headaches) and because of this stinking cold (And having kids and not been able to totally rest) she feels it's set me back a week. I don't want to tell work tho. I think if the doc had her way she would sign me off until I am due to go on mat leave!!!

RE: The SPD, yip, I've had this for weeks and feel like I have been kicked in the undercarriage by a Clydesdale. (Horse, not bank).

Hi Ladies
I haven't posted for a while, have also been ill and generally washed out.
On a happier note, had 20 week scan and it's GIRL I am so happy.
Best wishes to you all.

Got the date to start my maternity leave, hurrah! My last day is the 29th December, but with the leave I'm still owed I'm off on the 19th. Feeling a bit patronised by my boss and the HR people though. They kept asking me if I was sure that I didn't want to come back after my maternity leave, and it was my last chance to ask them to keep the job open for me... I'm not bloody coming back!Ever! I've always known that I'd be a SAHM, and, even if I did change my mind I'd go back to a different job as this one is rubbish!
Oh, and this maybe TMI, but is anyone else getting, erm, boob leakage? Surely this shouldn't start until a bit later on?

Anathema--I had boob leakage a few weeks ago and nothing since, and in my second pregnancy I started at 19 weeks. A friend of mine started leaking at 12 weeks so not at all un-normal.

Anathema, you can get maternity leave from 19 December? How?!! You lucky lucky thing! I don't start mine till 19th Feb! Boo!

Morning all, I start my maternity leave on 2nd March but have 2 weeks annual leave so leave on the week 15 feb, still got to be confirmed by my manager but thats what I've asked for. They want to induce me by 38 weeks, I just hope they don't decide to do it sooner! With dd I gave up at 37 weeks 3 days and they induced me 4 days later!
I'm not feeling great, have a really sore throat and feel a bit snuffly, just hope it doesn't get worse, dd has an awful cough and cold so off to the doc's soon.

Hi everyone - I've not been on for ages because my computer wouldn't let me scrol down to teh end of the thread - have changed my MN setting and I'm back!!!

TMy 20 week scan has been and gone and everything looked as it should be. We still didn't find out the sex..........but.......OMG.......we have a sealed envelope with the amnio results in it with a warning stapled to the front saying do not open if you want a surprise because the bean's sex is inside! I have hidden it from dh in case he comes home from the pub one night and decides to sneak a look (even though he is the one that doesn't want to know - I'd be quite happy knowing so that I coudl sort out whether or not to keep all the pink stuff from dd - my nesting instinct goes into overdrive when I see the bags and bags of clothes in dd's cupboard!!)

I've still not got my appointment through for meeting the consultant to talk about an elective section. I hope it's soon because I have to tell work when I'm starting my mat leave and that will depend on the date i'm booked in for the section (which I presume will nbe 1 or 2 weeks before my due date?).

I'm only taking 2 weeks off beforehand - did the same with dd - it nearly killed me but would rather have more time off with the new baby and we need to get as much money in as we can before I go down to SMP - ugh!

My pelvic pain has abated - am much more sensible in how I carry dd and that has helped. But if I walk a lot I still get a pain in my right bum cheek!!

Hope everyone is happy even if not completely well! Hello to all the wriggly beans!

Good morning everybody!

Glad to hear scans are going well!

i have had a hideous couple of days resulting in me breaking down at work yesterday! I was quietly crying to myself, nice and ladylike, the odd tear rolling down my cheek, then someone asked if i was okay and I erupted! I was like a child, I could barely breathe I was crying that hard! A lot of people I work with dont particularly like me, for aparantly many reasons, but the 2 people I was closest to have now got promotions and left so I am very much alone and sick of being treated like crap and totally disrespected.

I told DP about this in the car on the way home and then he decided last night was a good time to snap at me...so I sat in the bath and cried again I feel so down today, just like I can't do this anymore and I want to crawl into a hole. I know I need to get a grip, but I am struggling!

This additional upset and stress is making me worry more about baby and what effect it is having on baby. I am going to drop in clinic to see midwife tomorrow to get MATB1 and ask about pain in sacro-illiac joint so I am going to ask her to just chack all it okay with baby.

On top of this all, my mum has broken her foot and is now in plaster until after xmas so i have to drive home to take her xmas shopping (as my dad is useless!) and then I am going to have to do food shopping and cook xmas lunch, which I have never done!

I know in the grand scheme this is all naff all to deal with, but with hormones all over the place I am really not coping!

Sorry for the whinge but I really needed to get it off my chest!!

Hello all, congrats on all the scans and hope everyone feeling poorly gets better soon!

Oh Emma, poor you! Go and get a nice cup of tea and a chocolate biscuit and think about something that really makes you laugh could you write an email to/call your work buddies that have left? They?ll be on your side and be able to empathise given that they know all the people giving you a hard time.

I had a crappy day yesterday too, no real reason, just stroppy with everything and anyone in my vicinity! Had no goodwill to give anyone. Trying to be better today?
Don?t worry it will pass

Re: Christmas dinner, I had to do that one year and I would recommend buying a ready stuffed, ready basted (and all that) turkey from M&S, get everyone to help with peeling/chopping the veg or buy aunt bessies roasting potatoes, ready chopped and washed fresh/frozen veg and just stick it in the steamer when you need to. Sooo much easier than faffing about with a turkey baster!
(oh, and buy it all online so there is no need to battle with a pregnant belly, a trolley and moody shoppers and you have nothing to carry, they bring it to your kitchen!)
Can your mum do her shopping ? or some of it - online too?

Good luck for your trip to the midwife xx

Aww...thanks AmyO!! I called one of the girls who has left when I was crying, she came to see me and give me a hug! She knows exactly what I was upset about and it helped a little, but not as much as having her there everyday, lol!

With regards Xmas shopping, my mum is computer illiterate, but I could do it from home to be delivered to hers...theres an idea!! Unfortunately they have already ordered the turkey, from a local farm, so everything will need doing to it! And my mum is dead snobby about frozen veg...but she can still peel and chop sat down at the table!!

Im feeling a little perkier...think I have eaten too much chocolate to get there though!

Hope everyone is doing okay...and starting to feel a little better

I'm sure the turkey will be lovely Emma, much more healthy getting it fresh and organic from a farm anyway! I'm afraid I can't help you with meat preparation advice tho, never done it from scratch in my life!! Oh and if people want fresh veg then I reckon you should get a production line going at the kitchen table!

Know what you mean about the chocolate, I sometimes wonder if I'll end up giving birth to a little chocolate-covered baby the amount I eat!

Glad you're feeling better tho and hope all you PGP people get the rest and help you need and deserve!

I reckon you need to start new traditions and demand everybody's presence in the kitchen to help with the cooking. Your mum will be happy bossing everybody around and you won't feel like you have to do everything!

Has anybody else started walking a little bit funny now? I'm sure I push my shoulders back much more and stick my belly out. Not sure if it is for balance or bump-pride purposes!

laweasel I am walking a little different!! I dont have a bump yet...just look fat...so I dont know whether it is me trying to create a bump out of nothing or genuine balance issues! Glad Im not the only one though!

Oh Emma - I can sympathise - my work is sh*t too. But do you know something, once you have your baby and you are off work it totally puts everything in perspective and you don't really care as much about work and colleagues as you used to. All your priorities shift onto your baby and it means that most work nonsense just drifts by you (unless like me you get pregnant again, get shouted at by your boss and your hormones make you take it all to heart!)

And don't worry about the stress on the baby - get your mw to check everything and that will putyour mind at rest. My wee bean has been through much since we conceived and there he/she was waving away at the 20 week scan as if to tell me to relax and enjoy.

I have definitely shifted into pregnancy wadddle mode! I think it is almost time for me to hang up my high heels