Due March 2009? Grab your duvet & sick bucket!!

[auntyspan]

Brand new thread ladies!

I'm glad there are a few young people on here. I was starting to feel I was a bit mad myself wanting a second at 22 but as I already had one didn't want a huge age gap.

I've wasted money on sooo many things. The main one, although not baby related was 2 dog kennels that cost £100 but never got used. Sold for £10 on ebay. A complete waste of £90. But these things happen dont they?!!

hello ladies!
I'm back from my private dating scan (pre-cursor to my private nuchal fold) and OMG saw the bean in 3D!!! Arms, legs, spine, little dots for eyes (and of course heartbeat). DH was totally open mouthed - he kept saying - but it's got limbs and stuff..... I thought it would just be a blob.....

emma I got a hand held doppler for my first pregnancy and found it invaluable. Later on in the pregnancy when you start feeling movements especially - I used to get days when DD didn't move at all and I used to get so stressed. Then DH bought me one and I could just nip upstairs and have a listen to the heartbeat! Promise you not wasted money at all! I'll be dusting mine off soon!
corgi glad to hear you've had a more positive experience.... hope you're feeling better about everything!

Hey all I am a young mum 2! I will be 26 when this bubba is born but this is dc #4 for me and dh! my kids are 6, 4, and 20 mnths!
Had an early scan today, just 1 baby! Phew! 8 weeks exactly with a strong little heart beat!
xx

Emma great to hear that all went well, and corqikelly, what a story! Really glad that you had such a good scan, and I hope you're feeling lots better.

I think I'm going to slink off to the old-folks home now, joints creaking all the way...

It's amazing how different we all are. No way on earth was I ready to even think about babies until I was in my early 30's, and here I am in my late 30's with all the stresses of having left it pretty late to contend with.

I don't really know what I'm trying to say - I know it wasn't right for me to have a family in my 20's , but I kind of wish it had been - I had a lot more energy back then, for a start, and I like the idea of still being young when the kids are older.

DH and I will be in our 50's/60's when (if) ours go to uni, and that does seem wrong. Anyone else got strong views on that? Not trying to start any kind of a ruck - for me I wish I was a bit younger, but it's different for everyone (and I know it isn't always a choice, either, but I've been with DH since I was 23, so in a way....)

I dont think there is a problem with anyone of any age having babies. I didn't chose to have ds1 when I did but it worked out great for me in the end. I just would hate to have the stress that older parents seem to. Harder to conceieve, higher rish of ds/mc etc. My friend was 20years older than me when her first was born. He is one year older than my ds and we are great friends. Dont think age is prob if its right time for the individual.

CaptainKarvol, make room in the old folks' home, would you? Right through my early 30s, I was adamant that I didn't want kids; the process of realising my mind was changing took another few years.

I do regret having left it late (I'm 37), but like you, know that the right time for me just couldn't have come sooner.

My partner will be 50 when the baby arrives, so at least I can feel like a spring chicken in comparison. I give him full credit for wanting, really wanting, to become a father again when he's got two grown daughters. At the same time, though, I'm all too aware of the risks and tradeoffs of being a (much) older parent. But hey, it is what it is.

Even I feel like the old lady at 29, and I will be 29 when this one makes an appearance. I always told myself no kids after 30, and it looks like I can keep that promise.

Well I'm done taking my anti-biotics and I feel so good. My appetite is back, and I don't feel like I'm going to fall in a hole and die.

Corgi-glad to hear everything is ok.

Emma-congrats on the scan

Aunty- I love your dh's reaction.

Wanted to squeeze one out before my 30th. No idea why - seems arbitrary, but here I am, doing just that. Most of mine and my hubby's friends are no where having a baby (most not married, only some in long term relationships) so we feel we are ahead of the curve. Still feel old when I spot the 21 year olds on here with kids already!

Part of me wishes I'd started earlier (I'm 34) but then I wasn't ready for kids until I was in my late 20's. I've been with DH for 9 years but he's much younger than me and there was no WAY he was ready for kids before DD, who is 2.5.

But yes I'm feeling old and creaky on this thread too!

It weird. When I was at school I remember saying that I wanted my first baby before I was 20. Looking back it was a bit of a silly thing to want but in the end that was how it happened (almost) I gave birth 9 days after 20th birthday.

Glad in a way that accidently got pg as cant imagine deciding when the right time would be. How do you know?

There is never a right time. With us it's been "oh boy, we're pregnant (again, and again), What are we going to do now" That's pretty much how we figured out we were ready.

Morning all,

Glad to hear of successful scans all round!

Feelign human again today, so am hoping now I've gone past the 10 week barrier that I stay feeling more like it. Obviously I could be eating my words tomorrow!

Re: age and having children. Its diffcult and I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. Plenty of people in their 20's are not ready, not with "the one", have no money are busy building careers, it would be completely wrong to have kids if it was not right for you.

I have decided to do the kids thing young-ish (26). I love having young parents myself (my Dad is 50, Mum is 49)and always wanted to be one. I am not as young as my Mum was when she had me but for me its the right time in my life, I wouldn't have been confortable having them earlier. I am married to a lovely man, we have had years of it just being us, he now has a good secure and fairly well paid job with good career progression, we live in a nice (albiet rented) house in a good area, so the time feels right. I have left it long enough that we are financially secure enough for me not to have to go back to work (just about ) if we don't want but not too long so my fertility declines and I am completely overwhelmed by broodiness . For me its right. However, if we left it longer we would be more financially secure, we would own a house not rent, I would possibly have a proper career rather than just a job, DH would certainly be earning much more and in many ways that would benefit my kids. Its about striking a balance and compromosing somewhere, we are happy with our decision but know it would not suit everyone.

I always knew I wanted kids and fell preg at 18 by accident . when I look back now though I would not change any thing. I was lucky I had met my man and we have never been rich but we have always managed we both work have a nice house and car and by the time we are 40 our youngest will be 14!
Thats just our situalion though!

There is nothing wrong with renting. We do currently and have no intention of buying although we probably can afford to if we wanted. Think its nice to not have the worry of mortgage/maintainance cost etc.

Just realised my scan could have been yesterday but moved the appt so dp could come. BOO HOO! oh well only a week and half to go.

I have also been feeling loads better since 10w milestone. heres hoping that it lasts.

I'm an 'older mum' by the standards on this thread - I'm 32 and have one DS who will be 2 in December.

DH and I wanted to wait until we'd had plenty of time to do all the things we wanted too, including buy a house, party lots, do the house up, party lots, have nice holidays, and generally party lots . Now we've done all that and got good careers, kids are right for us. DS is very chilled out and our days are filled with giggling and play - from all three of us, we really couldn't be happier. I don't think it would have been the same if we'd done it all ten years ago - although I'd probably have had a bit more energy!

We'd always said that if we had any surprises we'd have just gone with the flow though .

CaptainKarvol and corgikelly move over realy old person coming through. I will be 39 when this is born.

Had my first at 34, second just before my 38th.

I have to say there was no way i ready to have children in my twenties.

I agree Baby, I am quite happy renting. we did want to buy first and we nearly did last year until it (luckily) all feel through. Right now buying as a FTB makes no sense in my area. I rent a nicely decorated 3 bed house in a good area for less money then I would have to pay on a mortgage of a nice 1 bed/slightly grotty 2 bed flat. There would be no logic to buying right now!

Oh and of course I was forgetting some people don't actually choose to have kids, it just happens. Maybe thats the solution, no agonosing decisions, the pg choosing you rather than the other way round!

Hi Had scan today 9 weeks and 1 day.
All legs arms and body where present and heartbeat was observed.

Due date 17th March- but because dd was 14 days late we are aiming at 31st March

Oh and they spotted 2 ovarian cysts one was 1cm in diameter, the other 3cm in diameter

Have to go back in 2 weeks to get them checked.

Anyone else had these spotted?
TBH I dont remember them checking with dd

feel through . Fell through of course. I really must learn how to type!

Lily - glad your scan was ok. Sorry don't know anything about cysts.

Dare I say this. But of people I know (and that is all I base this comment on) Older parents seem to be less strict on the dc's. What is everyone elses opinion on this?

Didn't even know that ovarian cyst exsisted sorry lily. ps not had my scan yet

babyinbelly - I don't know about strictness per se, but I think I have a better sense in my 30's than I did in my 20's of what's worth 'fighting' with DS over, bearing in mind he's only 20 months at the moment.

I'm certainly more relaxed now than I was then but don't know how that translates to 'strictness'. From your post its hard to determine whether you think 'strictness' is a good or bad thing?

I think its important for my son to grow up with a respect for other people and their belongings, as well as the world in general around him. I want him to have the capacity to make decisions that don't harm himself or others and to have fun whilst he's doing it all .

Lily, note the last paragraph on this NHS website about ovarian cysts, hope this is helpful.

C

Thanks C x

Hopefully It will go away.
had no symptoms but when she pressed on it it was tender