Due in June 7 - the one with all the boys!!!

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yeah new fresh and clean thread!

I'm a first timer too!!!!

I'm not sure of the size. I chose not to see it -- refused actually. DH said it was small and bround with a long tail (my guess is that it had two eyes and four feel as well).

am also a first timer. find I go on and off reading stories about birth, although the ones on this thread have been about as gentle as any I have seen (are you guys being kind to us?).

I'm a second timer. I have almost two year old DD. She will be 26 months when this baby arrives (if it's punctual -- and since I have plans to have have it surgically removed via my belly it will be). DD's name is Hannah Margaret. I'm into picking family names because I think they are more meaningful when the child grows up. Says something about who they are and where they come from. Of course there are always family names that are vetoes on account of "oh I could name a child THAT..."

emergency caesarean the first time. Right, you want feel-good version or the I hate this socialistic nationalised medicine version? Or, some middle ground?

Hi everyone, I'm back, finally, having skimmed through 150 odd posts!

Welcome to all the de-lurked people, KVG and Lummox I think.

I hadn't been keeping up with the thread much over the last day or two, but I really appreciate all the concern about where I have been. It's very, very touching.

Ummm basically what happened was, we went to our scan at lunchtime on Wednesday. I was so nervous about finding out the sex, it was ridiculous. An efficient, competent yet very un-friendly sonogropher made matters worse. We asked if it was possible to find out the sex and when she told us, an already very quiet me started crying .

It's all incredibly silly, I'm a bit shocked at how I reacted tbh. The whole of Wednesday I couldn't face anything at all. Came online to let you know that everything was all ok, but that was about it, especially with the thread title. I think I was also a bit ashamed and embarrassed about being so upset about something so minor really.

Anyway, since then, I've slapped myself a few times, talked to a couple of people, read the "what's so wrong with boys..?" thread to sort myself out. It's very interesting how people feel about 'having one of each' or 'all the same', our attitudes etc. It's a good thread.

I tried to remind myself that I could still be stuck on the ttc thread and thought about what happened to Sweetheart's baby son too. I know I'm really lucky, we all are. I have one gorgeous, healthy dd and have no problems ttc, what does it matter what the sex is? All that stuff did make me thank my lucky stars, but the fact remained that I had felt disappointment when I found out about my dd2 and I had to deal with that in order to move on, lucky, fertile whatever.

So, now it's ok. I feel a bit sad about it, but not much. I'm wondering if it was mainly because we had such a cool name picked out for a boy and nothing for a girl as yet I'm also wondering if it was just an 'expectation' that we should want one of each and be 'lucky' if we get that and 'unlucky' if we don't, who knows.

Am going to spend the next 20 weeks decorating dd's old nursery for the new baby and thinking of fabulous names!

I've also learned my lesson about wanting one sex over another and next time will not hope for anything at all, except short, painless labour and healthy baby

So, again, thank you all for being so sweet and concerned about me, I do appreciate it

Lippy,
I won't tell you not to be sad because I think it's really patronising when people tell me how to feel.

But I do want to add that by brother has two girls. He really want a boy (chauvenist macho thing in my opinion, but anyway...) he got another girl. And the upside is that these two girls are the best of friends and always will be. They are close in age, so that of course helps. My brother and I are the two youngest, and we could never have the bond that they have just by belonging to the two different genders.

Your two can share clothes (a plus for your budget as well), stay up late talking about boys. There are lots of things that sisters share that brother and sister don't.

I hope you are glad you found out. And I expect that by the time she arrives you will have got your head round the whole girl thing and just enjoy her arrival on the birthday.

LIppy! I'm so glad you're back with us! And CONGRATULATIONS on your GIRL!! . You're going to get into the idea of 2 girlies soon I know it! thanks for letting us know!

Tea, I love the name Amber and went through a phase when I was younger of pretending my name was Amber!!

Uki, I'm so sorry to disappoint you, but your "early morning" post was only 11.30 pm so you were actually very late!!

Uwila - it does sound like a little lost fieldmouse so there's a good chance you're not infested. Please don't get those back-breaking traps or poison if you have them - I can locate humane traps for you if you need them (or get a cat) x

KVG I'm a first timer (eek!) (so's scraggy (where are you Scrags?))- have you posted on our stats thread yet?

Charley - I think cats qualify as inhumane traps. But, I'm allegic to cats anyway, so they are forever banned from my house.

I'm getting to the birth story... be back in a bit. Appears I'm actually supposed to do some work today. The nerve of some people?!?!

Uwila, I am very glad I found out, I think you suggested it would be a good idea as I was feeling the way I was, so thanks, in a roundabout kind of way

JonahB - sorry for not including you in our little "first time in June" subgroup

Teabelly - have a good weekend. I don't mind the war stories really, we have to be prepared for what's to come after all. I just don't want to worry about the birth to the point where it spoils the rest of my pregnancy, if you know what I mean.

Lippy - glad you're back. Frankly the thread needs some more girls, but it's a bit harsh that you had to have one when you wanted a boy Congratulations to you on a healthy bub.

Uwila - Margaret was our choice for middle name for a girl, as both of our mums are called Margaret.

Hey Charley, it's 'curry night' tonight!! I am . I moaned to dp last week " why don't we have a regular 'Friday night, so and so night???'" He reminded me that we did used to eat out much more, but now we have children, it's much less easy to do so, for us anyway !!!! I love takeaways, not that fussy, although I generally kill for Crispy Duck

So what colour shall I paint the nursery?

yeah, death by cat isn't that great, but at least the mousy has a sporting chance and cats keep them away from the property in the first place - also they get a real adrenaline surge when being teased/chased by a cat so the pain's not as bad if they do get caught (apparently).

I miss cats SO MUCH, dp reckons he's allergic but says we can have some when (if) we get our smallholding

Lippy, congrats on the girl!!! I am really excited for you. I'm with Uwila, i'm not going to make any patronising remarks about what you should and shouldnt feel. I would say though, that if you are anything like me at the moment, I burst into spontaneous tears all the time at the moment - a nice song on the radio, Eastenders, my DH being nice to me... you name it. Something as important as this is bound to affect you.

My only experience of mice is when my v. delicate girl cat, left a dead one for me in my bedroom doorway as a "special" present for us. The only other one (much worse) was a yelp i heard from Mr Whippy (little boy cat) at 3am one day, who was proudly holding up a wriggling one in his mouth. DH wouldn't go near it, so yours truly spent about 1/2 hr chasing the bl**dy thing round the bedroom. In our house, chasing live creatures seems to fall under my durisdiction!!!!

Sorry, overlapped threads again. Death by cat isn't so good for the poor mouse, fly, moth, bird......we've had them all.

Yeah, all you really need is my DD. She mystery murderer, then stand there screaming like she is the victim.

Lippy EVERYONE should make Friday night curry night - it's a bit of an institution for us and since we moved to Weybridge, people have followed in our footsteps and some weeks we accumulate a dozen or so people. It's great!! Also, if it does become regular it's easier to share babysitting

Hello everyone. Glad to hear that mostly things are going well, although I was really sad to hear about poor Sweetheart. I do still lurk when I can, but I have been incredibly busy at work so when I get five minutes I barely have enough time to read what's going on, let alone add to it! Everything seems to be going really well though - I'm not having any problems. I had a 20 week scan a few weeks ago and everything looks fine - the baby was a lot more co-operative this time and did smile for the camera! We were offered the choice to find out the sex but we decided against it - my dh wanted to find out, but I didn't, and although we had each managed to convince ourselves that it wouldn't be too bad to not find out/find out, when it came to it I decided that if we found out I wanted us to keep it as a secret between ourselves, and my dh felt in the end that he could wait too. So that was that. My dh still maintains that it's a boy, though! The only shock was the moment I realised that I was actually closer to giving birth to this baby that to conceiving it... It's happening, and it's happening ever sooner! I think I have quite a neat bump, but I am definitely showing now. I was offered my first seat last weekend! M&S is the place to go... And the baby is kicking quite a lot now, and quite hard! Did anyone else feel bad when they could feel the baby move, but their partner couldn't. I felt kind of selfish in a way - my dh spent ages every evening with his hand on my bump and I could feel the baby moving but he couldn't feel a thing. I couldn't say that the baby wasn't moving, because he was reassured that everything was OK when I could, but at the same time... Not that it is a problem now! Sometimes you can even see my skin jump - I'm waiting until that happens a bit more and then I have to get some maltesers. Did anyone else see that advert, where the couple are on the sofa sharing out the maltesers according to whose side of the bump it rolled down when the baby kicked?

I'll try to pop in a bit more often, but if you could just talk a bit less it....

Dd's room is white, with a pale blue wall. The furniture from Ikea was painted in either blue or green wash with stencils on them.

So, fairly neutral, because we didn't know at the time what we were having.

This time, I'll keep it neutral, but makes some changes for the new one. DD is moving upstairs into a new loft conversion room, freshly decorated, new bed etc. SO, number 2 has to have some special treatment too!!