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I'm not sure how much help she will be - she is 77 and my dad is blind, so she has her hands full. And I am the 3rd of 3 and all the others have finished their families.....

But saying that, in her own way, she will be a huge help. She is more than likely to quietly drive up to London and fill my freezer with yummy casseroles, take my older two off my hands as much as possible in the summer (and overcome her reservations about my v. naughty ds (3) ) and be on the end of the phone a lot (when I choose to call).

I think its just her way of saying she thinks I'm a complete idiot - and she probably blames herself as one of the reasons I am having a third is because both dh and I are Number 3 or 3 (so we are missing us!!)

It does sound she has her hands full, bless. DH's mum is 80 and has never been able to carry DS, which is hard for her. DH and I are also the youngest of 3 and this will be the last grandchild for both our parents. My brother's daughter will be 19 when the baby is born, and yet my brother is only 4 years older than me.

Miaou, you're very lucky to have such a supportive DH at this time. I'm lucky enough to not have any experience of this, but I'm sure that there are lots of 'what if's?' playing on your mind.

Spacecadet, I'm sorry you haven't beenwell. That all sounds quite serious, I hope that you are OK.

Beachyhead and Azure, I'm sorry that your family weren't more supportive. We were lucky that both our parents were thrilled and are willing to do all they can to help. Especially my mum. She has MS and is disabled now, although she can still get around and she insists in looking after DS one day a week. She sees him as therapy and if she didn't have him, she'd feel a bit hopeless. She's inspirational, if I were her I think I'd want to put my feet up a bit more than she does, but it's not in her nature. I've also made my dad promise to take care if himself this time, he had a heart attack on the day DS was born, we were at opposite ends of the same hospital!! He met DS sitting in a wheelchair on a portable heart monitor, not this time thanks dad!

Saw the MW today, she wants me to see her after my 20 week scan to check on the baby's growth. She doesn't think that my illness will have affected it, but I'm glad that she's checking. She also insisted that I saw a doctor while I was there as she thought I looked so rough and the doctor signed me off for another week - and I burst into tears. Fortuanately she is the doctor who treated me for PND and has seen me cry a lot, but I was so uspet that I still wasn't better. She gave me a tissue and assured me that I was on the mend, but I had to be patient. DS and I spent the rest of the day at my mum's and I dozed on the sofa while she played with DS. Starting to feel a bit better, DH steamed my head this evening and that helped a little bit. My aim for the week is to maintain a positive attitude and do my best to get well.

Hey all. Just got back from Dr. appointment, and all's well, except for I guess I'm really close to dehydration and need to drink more. She found the heartbeat instantly today, and it was really strong.

Kate and Spacecadet. Feel better. That's an order.

Sorry to all whose families had a less than ideal reaction.

Thinking of you, Twiga.

I went out with my friends this weekend, and we had sooo much fun. They helped me pick out a bunch of maternity clothes, and I've just settled into wearing those, because they fit better. Last time I wore my normal clothes too long and then stretched them out so they didn't fit after I lost my pregnancy weight.I was really happy, because I gained no weight this time at the dr's.

hi everyone
sorry to hear your still no better kate100 and sorry you have been poorly too spacecadet we seem to be having lots of sicknesses on this thread.
thoughts are with you twiga, you could plant something in your garden on the 9th of march i have heard of other people doing that and it helping.
i was away for the weekend and im exhausted today had a lovely long lie, got myself a few bits and pieces of maternity clothes and bra's etc so much more comfortable now

Hey everyone! Thanks for all your kind messages been feeling brighter and less anxious the last couple of days. Josey, we planted a rose bush in the garden for the baby I mc, it's an old fashioned one with a beautiful smell, pale yellow with orangey pink tinge on the end of the petals - dh choose it. Needs a prune and tidy - it's pot is all yuky from the winter weather, so might spend some time sorting it out on Weds.

Think the morning sickness has definately passed, am finding though that if I'm even the slightest bit hungry start to feel naseaus and have been getting horrible dry retching.

Has anyone else gone off their food? Since becoming pg I've gone from being someone who loves food (and probably ate too much snacks) and cooking, to avoiding cooking as much as poss and wouldn't bother eating if didn't feel so rough when hungry.

Kate sounds like you've got a good bunch of medical folk looking after you and a star of a Dh! Sending you and Spacecadet lots of non-sicky vibes {{{hugs}}}.

glad you are feeling better twiga - I am also off food - it is a real effort to cook and I used to love cooking - it was a real pleasure. Now, I have to really prepare my brain to get it done....also not really bothered whether I eat or not after about 4pm. Up to then, and particularly at breakfast, I do have to eat when my body tells me.

Has anyone found any nice maternity clothes yet? I've looked in Hennes and Next, but I wasn't that impressed. Has anyone any recommendations? Don't really want to do mail order.

Feeling very tired and miserable today - just not enough sleep and too much to worry about. Can't tell work yet - as one friend said, they'll write you off as soon as you do, so hang on until you feel ready.....so I'll get fat in silence and see if they can bite their tongues about my weight gain....I'm not showing yet at 14 weeks, just a little lady tummy.......

Only 4 more mths of work.

Hope everyone is feeling chipper today and in good health.

Not looked too much at maternity clothes yet Beachy, have got a couple of basic T-shirts from mothercare which have been great - more comfy than my ususal ones as bit more roomy and a decent length - all my fitted t's were starting to look short due to increased bust! They've washed well so far and aren't bad price at £8. you could try Dorothy perkins, they've got a maternity range and also H&M if there's one near you.

Hi all. Glad you're feeling a little brighter Twiga. Planting a flower was a lovely idea. I've ordered a few things from JojoMamanBebe which should be here within a day or two. I've ordered colder weather clothes - a couple of jumpers, some cords, mostly in the sale - because rather ridiculously most of the stock at places like Blooming Marvellous are for summer. I mean, who needs linen trousers and sleeveless dresses now? I just don't understand it for maternity clothes - in the next few weeks I'm going to need clothes, and need them suitable for the weather now. From last time around the shop I preferred was Formes (a couple of branches in London, not sure about elsewhere) - expensive, though. I plan to wander down to the Covent Garden branch in my lunchtime next week to see what they've got. I'm amazed M&S don't do maternity clothes - they had a very limited range last time, but even that seems to have disappeared now. Ooh, I've just seen online that Top Shop has a range - I feel old enough to be the mother of most of the clientele there, though.

Talking about clothes, can anyone help with the over- versus under-the-bump dilemma? I swear that under-the-bump trousers didn't exist four years ago. Do they really stay up? I dont want to be hitching up my trousers the whole time, especially when my bump isn't at it's biggest.

I'll second your question about that Azure! The over bump ones look hilarious, not sure I want Simon Cowell (sp) style trousers but how do the under bump ones stay up?! Am I right in thinking you can get Formes on-line?

Oh yes, it looks like you can get Formes online, although I haven't tried.

Pretty strong elastic, Twiga. They're actually quite comfortable, at least to me. And they look WAY better than the over the bump(that sounds so funny, we just say stomach here) ones. My MIL got me some over-the-bump pants, and they look so dumb, I only wear them in the house usually. Can't wait for warmer weather, cause the summer clothes I have look so much cuter.

I just realized, you all are going to laugh at me because I said pants, aren't you. Read trousers instead.

Well, you can get over-the-bump pants (in the English sense) as well . Don't you think bump sounds so much nicer than stomach? I wish Gap in the UK did maternity clothes like in the States. Now, if Banana Republic did maternity wear, I would be getting on a plane now.

Twiga, what a lovely idea. I get the impression that people want to try and keep mc's secret, but that's a great way of remebering what I'm sure to you was a real member of your family. When I was pregnant with DS, my mum bought me a rose called 'Great Expectations' and it's still going strong in our garden and reminds me of that special time in my life before he was born.

Feeling much better today, I even went out to the shops and bought food. Considering I haven't really eaten in the past 4 weeks I was pleased that my appetite seems to be returning.

Twiga, you're right I do have a great team looking after me. When I hear what other people put up with I realise how lucky I am.

I also face the 'under or over' dilemma. I don't like under the bump as I don't like my tummy being cold, but nor do I really like the Simon Cowell look either. Why don't they make them to go on the bump? However my biggest problem at the moment is that my knickers are rolling down, it happened last time and I can't stand it, it really bugs me, but then it's back to the whole 'under or over' dilemma again, although not so much, have you seen those big Mothercare pants??!!!!!

Hi there - not much to report here in pregnantland. Just getting bigger. Put on 3lbs last week! However it is only 5lbs in total.

Glad you are feeling better at last kate.

Twiga - that's lovely about the rose. I still have a plant from when ds was born and dd has the daffodil bulbs in the garden that come up every year. Sorry you feel so down but glad that things are going OK otherwise.

Sorry I've not had time to catch up on everyone. Got a course tomorrow so talk again soon.

I think bump sounds so much more special. I got most of my clothes from Gap, as everywhere else were just horrendous. Even Old Navy was pretty sad this time around. I don't want big tent-like things in pink, lime green, or orange. How funny, Azure, I was just thinking the other day too bad Banana Republic didn't do maternity.

How funny you are talking about on/under the bump trousers - I've been offered a pair of under the bump trousers by another MNer and am deliberating on whether or not to get them - I hate having a cold tummy too!

Nothing else to report here either - lots of kicking going on though, even dh has felt it!

i'm reluctant to order maternity clothes online because i'm such a tiny person nothing ever fits me properly......and i just can't be doing with the hassle at the moment of having to send stuff back. what really bugs me is i 'measure' a normal size 8 but nothing in a size 8 is ever right. i'm also having under/over bump dilemma although i find my biggest problem is keeping my back warm. i seem to feel really cold around my back/kidneys all the time. at the moment i've taken to tying a shawl thing around my waist to keep my belly and back warm. think i might go with under bump and treat myself to some really nice wraps.

i'm also having the appetite problem. i really am having to force feed myself (it for the baby!!) as i just have no taste for anything.

Thats lovely about your rose twiga it gives you somewhere special to go and think - i have a shrub for my dad ds likes to take special care of it and speaks to it when he passes.

Glad to hear you are up and about again Kate100

I was shopping at the weekend and got a few bits out of dorothy perkins and they have a good sale on just now there trousers etc are nice but nothing great in the tops - mostly going for under bumps this time as found the over really uncomfortable so hoping that the cold weather wont last too long as im also feeling the cold and dont want a cold bellie.
I had a look in Top Shop but the shop itself didnt have maternity i have only seen it online and i ordered a few things a while ago.

Have had really bad sickness they last few days thought i was getting better, i will do anything rather then make food, and yes if it didnt make me feel sicker i would stop eating all together.

Sorry to hear you're back to feeling sick Josey. I've still got a nausea taste in my mouth everytime i eat.

My clothes dilemma is need to get some basics since I need the clothes now, but not wanting to get too much of the winter clothes because we're going to be heavily pregnant in the heat of summer. So got some jeans and trousers from the blooming marvellous sale. Tops wise, i'm still wearing my old clothes and brought a couple of Xlarge tops at Gap.

Mind you - its still snowing here in Paris and i really wish it would stop now. We're in March for god's sake!!!!

it was just 1 pair jeans 1 pair light combats and joggers i got along with 1 pair work trousers tops are light weight and a lightish jumper im not likely to have the pleasure of getting a hot summer so not likely to get out of jeans and t-shirt. it will probably still be snowing in May with me
just took a really dizzy spell in the kitchen my blood pressure is always on the low side and worse when pg poor ds came through for a drink and found me on all fours trying to breath slowly!! poor child

Josey, sorry to hear you're still sick. DS has found me retching over the loo a few times - the little sweetie pats me on the back and says it'll all be ok. Re maternity clothes, it's a shame we have to go from cold weather to the relative heat of summer. Not that I can actually imagine warm weather at the moment, but I remember it was pretty unbearable being 9 months pregnant in August last time.

hi hope everyone is ok, my full blood count has come back that im anaemic, they only phoned today to tell me and i had the blood test 2 weeks ago! gp said that would make the dizzyness worse, being feeling quite faint on occasions too.i def have a little bump now and am inbetween normal and maternity clothe..v annoying. twiga i have lost babies too, one stillborn and 2 misscarriages, I can understand that you have very mixed emotions at this time.I never forget any of my babies due dates even though it was a long time ago.