Due Sept 08: The one where we pack our bags and write our birth plan.

[mamamufin]

I thought I would be brave

thanks everyonr i will see what the lady i orginally spoke to has to say on the matter and if they still can;t find it i will have to see if i can get another

I have found you
Eanz I am jealous. sex stuff?
My ds wants to write now, sorry:
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As I was saying; Sex stuff? Lucky you! I can't even write to you without a 3 yr old asking me to let him write a message.
mamamuffin did you buy the new style tray?
I hope you find it.
I bought a second hand bumbo and ANOTHER brand new sling, I have the Close already, this one is the kari me. I just love the things, I hope Lorea loves them too.

mufin, go to Contact a mumsnetter at the top menu. I hope it works. We are other direction from you, near Helmsley. OK to rant, I currently live in fear of missing deliveries.

I've been told I need to be positive about the prospects of recovery after birth, but to be prepared for the worst. It would be my dream that I suddenly recovered, but given how bad mine is that is probably unlikely . Some have taken up to 2 years in really bad cases.

Had a visit from the hospital OT this morning. She left all sorts of things that look like they belong in an old folks home. I now have a lovely wheeled trolley with a little tray on it, so I can at least shuffle to the kitchen to get a cup of tea (note, don't try that with crutches). It is delightful beige and brown combination, which is a travesty against my current interior decor scheme! Perhaps they make them in deliberately nasty colours to be sure that you don't try to keep them .

potxola,
don't be jealous! i have a feeling when this baby comes our sex life will probably go away. then all i'll have is a big box full of kinky junk.

Hello all - found you on this thread.
Had my full GTT on Friday - 5 samples of blood taken over a 2hr period. Ended up taking the last 3 samples from the back of my hand as my arms were being stubborn. I was full of bruising and blood!
Got phone call on Saturday morning whilst still in bed (had hoped to have the weekend to enjoy myself before results today) from the midwife and, would you believe it, my blood sugar levels are perfectly normal and I'm not diabetic!!!!
Took me ages to get over the shock - convinced I had it as my sis did.

So today is a good day - had 28 wk growth scan & all is normal. Had good look at flumpet. he is head down, just under 3lbs and the right size for my dates! Consultant virtually chased me out of room as everything was fine and said see you in 6 weeks. Then DP and I went & viewed the local nursery - very impressed. Long waiting list but we've got a place cos we're v early putting names down.
Finally, ordered car seat & bought moses basket.

Woo hoo!!! Hugs to all who have more worries, especially Kasha.

And Hopefully twas me who asked about hospital bag - thanks for putting it previous thread.

imoscarsmum,
i'm very happy for you!i knew you were come through it ok!

starlight are you familiar with the book "Guide to Childbirth" by Ina May Gaskin?

I also want to pick your brains about home births as I am behind on my research.

Oh crikey you've got me worried about my Ikea delivery now. We're on holiday the following week so it HAS to arrive on the day they said, and I'm rearranging my whole day around it.
Off out to a friend's for second-hand chinese, I really live a glam life!

Lol potxola you may yet get the addiction.

I am toying with the idea of selling my Babyhawk. I know that I won't use it much as I love wraps. I also [heart] my Tettitett which is made by a Norwegian WAHM. They are pretty expensive and selling the BH will help me pay for another one of those.

carrieon & mamamuffin we're doing Bristol Ikea this saturday, but after paying £120 for delivery last time (bloomin' huge Pax wardrobes) we're just buying smaller storage that we can get in the car and bring home that day. DS is staying with Grandma for the day so we won't even have the car seat in the back taking up space.

I am utterly obsessed with finding some Dinosaur curtains for DS's big bedroom. Next do some but they have scary glow in the dark t-rex's on them . Think he might need therapy if I get him them.

I am getting lots of Braxton Hicks lately. DP forbid me to clean the bathroom earlier (i was gutted ). So he did it!

eandz I am imagining you in about 3 years time when you are having a nice chat with the parents/inlaws/priest/potential boss... and Noah (that is his name isn't it?) walks in with something from the sex toy box and says "mummy what's this?"

oh, i prefer to read other people's birth stories rather than watch them [coward].

the book is beautiful. you ought to open it.

I am planning to buy a water birth book, too lazy to link at the moment. I also have Active Birth by Balaskas. Between those three I should be clued up, no?

I think too that I need an alternative birth plan if i have to have my arse hauled into hospital. Even if i have to be there for medical reasons I don't want all the decisions made for me.

debithescot,
yes, Noah is his name . and I've hidden the blindfolds and garter belts. We didn't have any whips/strap ons or anything.

because i've had a fear of ever buying them because when i was about 8 years old i went to visit my mom and step dad and found my moms dildo and didn't know what to do with it so i stuck it in her mailbox. the next day the postman knocked on the door with it asking if it belonged to our household.

Ponymum I had an ex boyfriend who lived in Helmsley once. He was a waste of space, but it's such a lovely part of the world. his mum lived out on the road towards whitby, so we used to get lots of nice walks round her as well. Why does DP have to come from the boring south coast?!

Starlight .... OPEN THE BOOK ... honestly that Ina May Gaskin book should be obligatory reading for every pregnant woman in my view. I just love it and have now read it 4 times!! It is optimistic, but not in a crazy unhinged way, she has an amazing track record of delivering babies without unnecessary medical intervention. For me the book is a reminder of the normality of birth, and the birth stories give you a huge range of experiences that can all be counted as 'normal' but which are often hugely different from each other. It's a real inspiration.

We're in chaos at home with our kitchen being re-done. It is currently a building site, with a huge hole in the back wall where French doors will go. And we are camped with an electric hob in our living room. So no running water downstairs at all - and the sink the next floor up is too small to even fill a kettle, so it's up to the 3rd floor for water. Plus we have no washing machine. It will be worth it in the end, but it could be mid-August before they're done!

kkdmom Yes I am getting the addiction. I also like the one you like, I like it a lot. Someone stop me!

Imoscarsmum I am so please your results great great. It is fantastic news!

Hi all - started NCT refresher classes yesterday. We started off by going through our last birth experience and of course, mine was by some distance the longest, most medicalised and horrifying to the class. I completely chickened out of telling them I've opted for a CS this time, but told them I've been given the option and need to make a decision in the next three weeks!

Was good though - there are only four of us so we get to dictate the content of the course. Others want to focus on the birth itself but I want to spend some time thinking about and focussing on this baby and also trying to remember what it's like to have a little one in the house.

Dad is now out of hospital. I had a conversation with him yesterday and he said that he thought everyone had exaggerated the problem. I was like 'I don't think so!' This is despite the fact he's spent the last 13 days in hospital going through a severe detox, where he's been ranting, raving and trying to escape. It's also the third time this year he's ended up in hospital with a drink related thing. I'm tempted to just wash my hands of him completely. Apparently him and my DSM are going to continue to live together but she's still having a divorce and buying him out of the house ! I really cannot be bothered to be a party to their destuctiveness any more. They used to drag me and DB into their arguments when we lived with them and I'm damned if I'm having that anymore, or have DS or Baloo witness any of their scenes.

Anyway he did his usual and super-sensitive thing of tell me that he and DSM will come down for the day when Baloo is born but not stay overnight as they don't want to put the cats in a cattery. This is an excuse they've used many times before. TBH it suits me as I don't want them staying over, but DP is furious and doesn't want them to come at all. Hey ho - I just cannot be bothered with it all any more. Thank god we don't live near them.

Anyway, sorry for moan! Hope everyone is well. Only 5 weeks left at work for me!

Four in a class sounds good sunshine, at least there's no danger of being neglected! Glad to hear you're managing to wash your hands (a little bit) of the problems with your dad, it's bound to be good for you to avoid stressing about it just at the moment!

Pidge your home sounds a bit like a bombsite! And there's me complaining about a bit of low water pressure...

I think I have finally decided on which sling to get. look at this

I can't wait to have my baby to carry in it, I just love the colour and design.

hopefully - you are spot on, the kitchen IS a bombsite, as is the garden where they are digging up our patio to lower it to allow french doors to open, and re-doing all the dodgy drains, and the rest is covered in builders rubble. Meanwhile the new kitchen units in flat pack boxes plus new french doors and a sash window are taking up about 3/4 of the living room. Total chaos. Yet I feel strangely calm! Could be something to do with heading off on holiday in 2 1/2 weeks, so we will escape the madhouse for a fortnight to stay somewhere with a kitchen. Hooray.

Also it's a good distraction from pregnancy!

that wrap is v.v. pretty sassafrass you will love it. i have heard good things about those wraps.

It's so miserable working when all I want to do is to sit in the sunshine! I keep staring out of the window (at the v boring road and teensy corner of the river I can see if I crick my neck) and thinking how nice and sunny it looks out there.

Have got a meeting with my manager this afternoon to make sure it's ok for me to get paid some of my holiday allowance in lieu rather than take it. The only reason she might object (HR have OKed it) is that it will cost her more than if I take it, but I'm hoping that the added benefit of having me in the office for longer will make it worth it in her book.