Due June 08 - As we start nesting will the creme eggs start hatching?

[bitofadramaqueen]

Another new thread! By the time this one runs out we might have some babies!!! Although, we do chat a lot so maybe not...

Morning all!!

Sorry you still feel ill debs Hope you are better soon and bless your ds!

I dont think a boy will mind going for its a lovely pattern

Parofleurmapu passes round some virtual birthday cake as today she is one year off the big 30!! slice of bday cake Couldnt find a cream egg one !!! buts heres a cream egg for you all too!!!

Happy Birthday Paro hope you have a fab day....lol at the cake it looks yum.

Debs hope you start to feel better soon...that is so thoughtful of your DS bless him...ds's are always sweet with offers of help...hope the sarnies are good

Upsidedown glad you are getting good care...im always so parraniod about p-e my mum developed eclampsia as her sysptoms were left too long. It was in the late 70s and they had to fly a heart and kindney speciallist up from London to keep her alive, she was in such a bad way...unfortunately she also lost the baby at 32weeks as well.

Right I really must stop slobbing going to mums for lunch today so she can run after the kids for me

Have a nice day everyone xx

Morning all - goingfor3, that's a lovely pattern. We've ordered same car seat although have gone for boring black...

Happy birthday paro - hope you have a fabulous day.

deb sorry to hear that you are ill - hope you feel better soon.

Does anyone mind if I have a mini-rant? On the phone to my parents earlier. Firstly, my dear dad asks me three questions in the space of a minute (no exaggeration at all)

1. How are you keeping?
2. So are you keeping ok?
3. So, you're keeping well then?

Why oh why cant people engage pregnant women in any other conversation apart from the 'how are you keeping one'. Am sooooooooo bored of being asked that question so many times every single day.

Then my dear mum gets on the phone (who I love dearly but she does drive me MAD!). She of course asks me how I'm keeping, then says I bet you're getting fat! 'Well, its fair to say I'm looking more pregnant' I reply. She replies 'yes, fat'. Then she tells me off for being so touchy.

Right, glad that's out of my system. Sorry, I know its not very much compared to all the SPD & BP problems faced by some of you but I just long for people to talk to me like a grown up!!!!

More revision for me now - hope everyone has a lovely Sunday! Still no neenz I see - let's hope we hear from her soon!

Happy birthday Paro.

Josey, I'm not suprised you are worried, such a sad thing to happen to your mum.

bitofadramaqueen once you baby is born no one will ask you how you are. You will just get, how's the baby, how often does baby feed, how much does baby weigh, when are you going to have another one, etc... We will all be invisable!

Sorry so many of you are feeling unwell. Deb - I hope your DH is better soon, and how sweet of your DS1!

DH, the children and I met up yesterday (for the first time) with someone I met on Mumsnet - he was on my ante natal thread lsat time. He (and his wife and DD) were so lovely and we had such a nice time with them, that I'm feeling very affectionate towards MN right now .

Rolf - have you been on the virtual hard stuff? .

Goingfor3 - I think I might just emigrate now... Can anyone think of any international locations cut off from the rest of the world? Although, I will need access to mumsnet and online shopping .

bitofadramaqueen -hope revision is going ok (how much longer have you got til exams- sorry as sure you've said before but I keep forgetting things). And can see why you need to rant - it is no more ok to say you're fat now as pregnant than at any other time. Equally I'll punch the next person who says at work either "really - you are going at the end of the may? " in a surprised move backwards in case my waters break kind of way or the"I bet you are counting down the days" ....

Deb -hope you are feelng better. LOl at Rolf's post -have you sobered up.

Am sitting here as away at our holiday place -feeling really guilty as have booked a few trips here pre baby to make the most of it and one of them clashes with the all women bonding day at NCT (think I've posted about this before). Am worried that will therefore not bond so well with other ladies (despite fact friends assure me its the catch ups before adn after your baby is born where you really bond). I suppose part of it is I already feel a bit weird/nervous about going given losing my son last year sort of makes me feel more scared abotu all this and a bit worried if I tell people that they might judge me.

think may need some chocolate to ease the guilt pains...

Josey that's awful, your poor mum. My sister had p-e as well but they monitored her really well and she was taken in to hospital 4 weeks before her due date, she was scanned regularly and as soon as baby wasn't growing they induced her about 2 weeks early I think, she was a healthy 5lb 6oz when she was born and is now a very active 11 year old. So there are some happy endings.

Poppy I'm sure you'll bond really well with all the mum's, you get on with all of us so I'm sure you'll have loads of mummy pals. I have to say I didn't really bond with any of the antenatal class, but I made some great mates at the baby activities and I still meet up with them once a week and ds is 2. Don't worry about it enjoy yourself.
xxx

Josey - how awful for your mother.
My mother had p/e with me and was very dangerously ill. I was delivered early by c-section and weighed 4lb 13oz.

Poppy - I'm sure everyone is right about the bonding thing. I didn't particularly bond with my NCT group until after the babies had all arrived. Lots of people will have their reasons for holding back a bit whilst still pregnant - I think it's perfectly normal. I was certainly like that when expecting DD.

Happy birthday Para. And hope your revision is going well, DQ.

poppy - exam in 1st week of May then I have a break till November. Well, if a break includes a dissertation, big assignment and completing a module while revising for another exam and having a baby .

Obviously, baby stuff is dominating my brain because I'm super calm about exam even though I'm massively behind on my revision.

Am also sure everyone else is right about the bonding going by the experiences of other friends who've been to NCT.

Right more revising zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

Just doing DS2's homework with him.

Q. What are 3 things you can say about an octagon

A.

1. it's like an octopus
2. same number of tentacles
3. similar name

Flipping SATs. If he'd been asked how many sides it has he'd have been fine...

Afternoon everyone, just got back from a hectic weekend with the out-laws, and stopped off at the hospital for a tour of the birthing suite (had a bit of a panic attack at the thought but dh was brilliant ).

Bit annoyed with my MIL (just for a change! ) as we were supposed to be pick up a pram from her neighbours this weekend (gorgeous Mamas and Papas one that's hardly been used) but MIL decided we shouldn't take it home cos it was bad luck . Don't know why it upset me so much but after everything we've been through the last thing I want to hear is that my own bloody MIL things it could still all go pear-shaped and we'll have no baby to put in the pram .

We then went to visit SIL who gave us a lovely changing bag cos she's so excited about being an auntie she couldn't wait to buy us something, and then dh's best friend who's wife had stored away their moses basket and travel cot cos she always had faith that we'd have a baby eventually (it's taken us 5 years). It made me feel a little better that no one else is writing off our little boy before he's been born.

Anyway, sorry rant over - hope you've all had good weekends. I'm off to have a nap as very tired and wrung out.

splodgesmum - sorry about your outlaws! I really do understand why you're annoyed - I've had two mc's previously so have been very upset in the past when people have warned me about things being bad luck. Like I somehow brought bad luck upon myself!

It is a really common superstition with the older generation though so try and not take it too personally.

Your little boy will be here safe and well before you know it!

thank you dramaqueen - i'd never heard it before and had been busily piling my house high with baby stuff and then felt like i was tempting fate cos of what she said

MIL and I have a v difficult relationship at the best of times and I think I take everything she says personally!

That's a shame. I get on fine with mine, but we have our moments! You keep on shopping . Actually, haven't bought any baby stuff for a few weeks, may have to do something about that...

splodgesmum - cannot believe your mother in law being so insensitive . bitofadramaqueen is right re the older generation thing (although I do suspect some internet shopping as a revision break may be occuring round at her place )... Was very very cautious re this pregnancy as had difficulties before but have realised (very slowly and painfully -with a lot of therapy!) that it makes no odds what you buy/dont buy . Your little one

what type of pram is it? A Pliko or whatever they are called ? Have a friend who raves about hers. What is the changing bag like? DH chose ours and it looks like a laptop bag (quite sweet really as wanted something he can wear- he has been doing far more buying than me....)

sorry meant to finish sentence -pregnancy brain -saying your little one will be here before you know it.

Splodgesmum I don't think people realise they are being insensitive, they just say it without thinking. Mil relationship is really difficult, I never had a problem with mine until I had ds then she everything she said and did just upset me. It is better now 2 years on, but I still feel she is critical of everything I do. I think we just live to close.

As far as buying anything goes, superstition is a load of crap. The need to be organised will take over anyway!!

Hi Poppy, MIL makes a career out of being insensitive - over the last 5 years of ttc she's come out with some priceless classics which basically run along the lines of "it's not fair, I want to be a grandmother, everyone else has grandchildren, why can't I?" etc, etc., as if somehow dh and I were enjoying the fertility tests, failed treatments and m/cs and just doing it all to spite her!

Anyway, yes our changing bag also looks like a laptop bag!! It's called baba bing and is a real full on man's gadget bag so dh has no excuse not to use it! I would have preferred something a little more girly, but the mamas and papas pram comes with a bag too which is more my style!

The pram is a Pliko and it's fab - really versatile, with lying down pram for early months, then pushchair which faces back or front for later. I love it and we got it for a fraction of retail price cos it's 2nd hand, but it's hardly been used cos it belonged to a grandmother who used to use it for an hour a week when baby sitting!

Other than that haven't done much buying, but have been given loads of stuff cos most of our friends have finished their families and our childless friends are so bloody excited about us having a baby they can't stop buying things!

katyjo, sorry threads crossed! sorry to hear your MIL is critical - sure mine will be too! have always been a huge disappointment to her as a DIL so can't see that my mothering skills are going to up to her exacting standards either!

thankfully we live a couple of hours away so can manage to keep visits to a minimum!

agree with you about being organised - she suggested bringing pram up after baby is born which will be bloody useful if we want to take the baby for a walk in the early days won't it?! they are also giving us a cot (dh's from when he was a baby) and were planning to bring that up at a 'later date' too but we need it in the nursery so that our friend can do his mural which he is doing and he'll know where the cot fits in

can't be doing with all this superstitious crap - as if not having this stuff in the house would make it any easier to bear if something did go wrong now .

You should really, really ignore all the superstition crap - just do things the way you want and try to let it wash over you. Actually it is good practise, because in my experience mils only get more annoying when they become grandparents. Mine would constantly refer to my ds as 'my little man' which I found really upsetting. Fortunately she has calmed down over the past 7 years but is still really possessive over my kids - which I find really hard to cope with as they are my kids!

I think I may have just bought a birthing pool on ebay! I am irrationally excited about it!

splodgesmum -she sounds class. bringing the cot and pram over at a later date? so splodge will be sleeping in the sock drawer til then.

the baba bing is great - was lusting over that but bought something v.similar when we went on hols.

my mil is generally bonkers but has been amazingly good throughout this pregnancy (she lost 2 babies and had 2 difficult pregnancies). however normal lunacy on all other topics does continue and knowing how she is about her other grandchildren (paris will be her seventh) i am not expecting any let up once paris arrives.

sybil - congrats on ebay bargain. did you have waterbirth with your ds (can imagine it takes a lot of forbearance not to smack your mil one when she goes on about "her kids") or is this a first? just been reading my hypnobirth book today (weeks after course and after a frank admission by dh that although supportive of the aims he would not be going over any of the joint relaxation exercises -instead had some v.crude versions of his own...)

evening all, i think even the good in-laws cause the same feelings. mine calls ds 'nana's boy' and i cry out 'no, he's mummy's boy in my head every time she says it. and although i love how much she loves him she's very possessive of him as well and it really irritates me. she was upset because she wanted to make ds' cake for his birthday (she made his 1st bday cake) and i said i wanted to do it this year. i don't want to hurt her feelings because she's really lovely but i thought - okay, my kids now, my turn to make cakes!!

had ds' 2nd bday party today. had far too many people over, it was total mayhem but still went quite well, then we rented the pool at the leisure centre for an hour for only about 10 of us (half kids half adults) and it was wonderful. finished it off with a wagamamas (too tired to face cooking in the already very messy kitchen) and came home and ds went straight to bed. he should sleep well tonight!!

thanks everyone on the positive comments about the name. i think unless it really doesnt suit him when he's born it will be Jackson. i like the Jaxon suggestion but not sure dh will go for it...

hope everyone has had a great weekend. xx

Love the new thread title.

I'll be so disappointed if I'm not the first to pop - it might only be a couple of weeks for me now as I am 34+3 today. Doc says it should be anywhere between 35 and 39 weeks.

Things I won't miss about being pregnant:

1. having to wee every hour (and sometimes when I've only just been)
2. not being able to bend down
3. not being able to sleep for more than two hours at a time
4. not being able to walk more than 100yds without having to lie down for three hours afterwards
5. having to sleep on my right (though sometimes I have to go onto my left cos I am so uncomfortable)
6. worrying all the time about whether the babies are OK
7. just generally feeling crap!

I'm sure there are more but can't think of them right now...

neenz you're back! We thought you'd gone and popped . Someone from a twins thread popped in to look for you here too.

Who suggested that I might have been internet shopping while revising... . Didn't buy anything poppy but it's pay day later this week which means some pennies for the 'baby budget' that will need to be spent!