The Creme Egg Appreciation Society...memberships expire June 08

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Good morning all you creme egg lovers ( and those weird ones amongst us who don't appreciate them)

Good luck for all the scans coming up this week, and next.

i will not deny that ds is extremely active and a bit of a madman (compared to his 6 month older cousin who's the girliest girl you could ever meet), but when he's sweet he's the most angelic child you could imagine. when i've had pregnancy crazies and been crying over an advert or something silly he comes up and climbs in my lap and takes my face in his hands and kisses me. he absolutely loves a good cuddle. i'm scared of having a girl now though so know just what you mean!

ktpie i hope that works out for you, they sent me an email advertising it and i thought if i needed one i'd buy it!

i've posted a pic of the efforts of my baking... well the cookies anyway. shortbread with raspberry jam and white chocolate filling. the cheesecake is still in the pan cooling so can't show that off yet! ds made some mickey mouse shortbreads and decorated them too!! days like this i really love being a sahm.

Hello!! Going back to changer discussion this is the one we have got and its coming tomorrow also ordered the cot and wardrobe too!! Cant wait to put it in the room Will post piccies!
Here is changer etc

Very nice paro! Was looking on mamas and papas website today and they have some new white furniture in so going to have a look at that at the weekend. The are also selling a new changing top pack that goes on top of one of their own brand of drawers, so will also have a look at that and see if its universal. Thanks again for that idea ktpie - it was inspirational!

Aberdeen - have only just read back through the posts properly from today so only just saw the poo post - very funny!!!!!

Hello Everyone - I haven't been around for a few days so looking forward to catching up on all your posts - and there are loads! Hope everyone is well and bumps are getting big. LO is kicking like mad now.

Am back at work and having to catch up after having last week off. Managed to leave early tonight to get home for V-day and the irony is DH is no-where to be seen!

I've bought far too much stuff off ebay but am loving all the itsy bitsy ickle socks and hats and t shirts and jeans and shoes and babygrows and.... Am I getting carried away? I'm very broody too. Managed to get a Trenton pram for £30 tho to see if we like it (if we do may get a new one).

Very exciting news - our offer on house has been accepted. Yay! But talk about doing everything at once. Not sure how much more I can put myself thru in the next six months. I always try to be so prepared and organised but here I a first time buyer about to be a first time Mum. Any advice welcome from more sensible Mums out there!

Dh just got home with valentines stuff - and a creme egg!

congrats of offer being accepted pp.

my advice, try to move before the birth, believe me it will be much easier. try not to panic, it'll all come out in the wash, buy all your baby stuff but possibly keep it all together at a near-by friend/relative if possible. The last thing you want it that box getting lost! (or rather, those boxes) DOn't buy too much stuff cos you'll get given lots.

try not to get stressed.

Don't do any packing - you've got the perfect excuse.

I wish I could follow my own advice.

congratulations of offer - my top tip expensive but worth it is get the removal men to pack for you and as ernest says keep baby stuff together at a friends house if poss.

Congrats pp! My advice would be to be realistic about what you can achieve... If you decide that X,Y and Z needs done you'll put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

If you're normally an organised person you will cope, but take it easy.

Am changing my name to IwanttokillmyMIL. She's bloody ruined my lovely day. So angry and tearful I can't talk.

Off to find my secret stash of cremeeggs.

oh makecakes, are you ok? I hope you found a creme egg.

Morning ladies,

I think the pregnancy insomnia has started to creep in. I've already sent a few emails and called a friend in NZ!

I went to my mums for a few days and had a lovely break except for when I fell over in the street. Luckily I fell on to my side and my knee and thumb were damaged but not much else. I didn't fall on my bump and didn't have any pain/bleeding so as I knoew I was having a scan the next day, yesterday, I did nothing about it. The scan yesterday was good, cervix the same and baby/placenta all loked fine - baby does have a massive nose!

PP well done on the house offer, I would also try to move before baby is born so you can feel properly settled when you get to your home though I know it doesn't always work like that. Also pay the extra for the removals men to pack your stuff up for you, worth every penny!

makecakes or IwanttokillmyMIL I hope you are feeling better today.

Well done PP - on the house offer being accepted

Makecakes - how are things today? Did the creme eggs work?

PP, another huge endorsement to getting removals men to pack up your stuff! It's so much better than packing your kitchen into boxes yourself! If you can afford it, it's worth every penny. We've moved twice in the past three years and it was well worth it!

PP - well done with the house offer. Agree on trying to move before baby arrives.

Makescakes - hope the creme eggs helped.

Thanks guys!

Sadly couldn't find any Creme Eggs, but had a big hug from my DH and my dog and that helped. I am so bloody tired of being made to feel like a child- "I hope you are not planning a C-section" " I hope you are planning on Breastfeeding"....we had afall out six months ago- she felt I was being disloyal to her family by writing a blog. Swore she would never read it again, then yesterday sent some shitty email asking that I remove links from my blog. This particular link leads to a website that you can upload pictures to...we have a family registration, which is password protected. Because she never logs out, when she clicks on the link it leads directly to our family page. It doesn't for anyone else, since they would need passwords, but she doesn't get that...instead she sends some crappy email speaking in the third person about how people need to respest family privacy etc. DH has asked that I do as she say, to keep the peace. But yet again I am made to feel small, less responsible than a child, and worthless.I am terrified that when the baby arrives it will get worse, and all I want to do is love my baby and enjoy her and life with my DH, yet every time I try, she pops up witth something new.

I am in floods of tears so I'm sorry for ranting, but I have no=one else to talk to about this...no-one else who understands what it is like to worry that you won't have a chance to love the baby that you have gone through so much to get. I just want to run away and hide.

Any advice?

Oh makecakes I am really sorry you are feeling like this.

OK regarding the family photo things, can your DH explain to his mother about the password and that the only reason she has open access to it is beacuse she logs off and no one else sees it unless you give them the password?

As to her interfering, I really think that you also need to have a long talk with your DH about this. Does he know what she has been saying to you? If yes then sorry he needs to get a not of backbone and stick uop for you, and yes you may well need a C section and yes you may well not be successful at breatsfeeding but you do not need to have this extra pressure from your MIL and your DH needs to tell her to back off, you also need to set some boundaries now. This is yours and DH's baby, not your MIL's she has given birth to and raised her own family, now it is your turn. Sorry if this sounds harsh but really think your DH needs to say something.

OK Makecakes - 1st things 1st - you will have all the time in the world to love your baby - no-one can take that away from you.

When I was pregnant with ds1 we had a fall out with my Dad who still had not accepted that I was a grown woman , Dh got up and walked out of his house and said he'd never go back, Dad said not to bring dh again, my Nana said don't bring dh here etc etc... It was an awful time and I remember feeling just like you. My Mum and Dad are divorced and she just kept saying he's more to lose than you have and that's just the same as with your MIL she's got so much more to lose. Your dh loves you, and this is your baby not hers.

Anyway we had a period of about 6 months or so where things were very frosty but I was determined not to back down , Dh and I both went to take ds to meet his Grandad and Great Grandma, and things did get better. Dh and my Dad will never have a matey friendship they are way too different for that but they get on OK, enough to cope with 3/4 day visits from my dad which at that awful time I thought would never happen.

So, what I'm trying to say through all this waffle is that as soon as ds was born my priorities changed so much , dh and I were complete as our little family and everyone else took a back seat. What seem like huge problems now will get better. Just focus on you and your dh and your growing bump, be civil to Mil, (if she's civil to you)and look forward to holding that precious baby.

(((((((hugs))))))

I agree with Sophie - however hard it was for me I supported dh throughout and stood up for him.You dh needs to do the same.

Makescakes - Am so sorry you've had to deal with this stupidness.
I agree with Sophie - get DH to explain to her properly and just avoid her as much as possible.
You don't need this sh*t and your DH should be supporting you. Your MIL needs this technical thing explained to her - if only because it will make her see how unreasonable she has been. It's not your responsibility to pussyfoot around just because she is computer illiterate!

Fwiw, would you consider changing your blog address? Might be a longer term way of getting her off your back. If you've got a Blogger account you can set it up so that only invited people can read it too. (although I realise this could start more rows than it ends...)

hugs for Makescakes over here too.

I've also had issues with both MIL and FIL (and partner) to the point where they took my DP out for dinner to tell him how bad I was for him and how they were worried I was going to force him to marry me when we went to Oz on holidays! All of this coming from 3 people who have been divorced at least once each (and FIL divorced twice and on his 3rd long term partner) so we basically ignored everything they said (after all they don't have the best track records do they?!). DP also told them that he wouldn't have any problem moving to Oz with me tomorrow - except that I don't want to go! Consequently DP didn't speak to his father for 3 months (ignored all calls). This was pretty useless as FIL didn't even realise we weren't speaking to them - he just thought we were busy!

What I am trying to say in all of this, is that your DP and child are the most important things in your life now, so try not to worry about MIL (I know - easier said than done!). She sounds like she needs an email back explaining (in the third person) how to log out of websites (since she seems to think email is an acceptable way of communicating)!

Good luck with it all - we're all here for you with Creme Eggs aplenty!

(I really need to use less brackets!)

makecakes, i'm so sorry you must feel so stressed - pregnancy amplifies every emotion which doesn't help! i have been in that situation with an ex's mum who made my life hell for 4 years so i really empathise. it sounds like your dh is supportive and i think you'll be surprised how much you bond even further once the baby's born. my dh and his mum are close but when it comes to her spoiling ds rotten he's very firm with her because he knows it upsets me and because he doesn't want anything to affect him badly. it will always be taken better coming from their own son though, i agree with others that he has to deal with it on your behalf (and not say it's on your behalf either!!). really hope it sorts itself out.

i meant affect ds badly, not dh lol.

Josie You are lucky your shopping turned up at all. Last Friday we booked the 8-10 slot and at 10.30 still nothing. We then called their call centre. My husband was rudely cut of 3 times before he spoke to someone who said the store manager would call. At 11.30 we gave up waiting and went to bed and had to wake up really early to do the shopping as we had friends for lunch at 12 (so I had to cook AND do the shopping). When we came back from the shopping we had a call from the store manager who said that they would deliver at 4.00pm on that afternoon (which would have been so handy if we hadn't rush to do the shopping in time for our guest). No excuses no "we are sorry" nothing! After pressing him a bit my husband was given as an excuse that their lorry was broken. Of course it was I mean it is only Tesco, one of the biggest supermarket in the UK, they only own one single lorry.

So I do understand why you are angry/frustrated with them

Hi Girls -

Very quick Rant on the PIL theme (I know how you feel makecakes!)and then I have to zoom off and ferry the buggers around again till Monday morning

1. I came back from midwife saying she reckons my bump is already a bit on the small size (we are worried as DS 5lb)and MIL says "well you look chubby enough to me"

1. DH let slip I was thinking of hiring a doula and MIL mutters "Didn't have any of those extravagances in my day, you just got on with it" This from the woman who had 4 out of her 5 kids in the privacy of her own home with one-to-one midwife cos that's what happened back in the 60s!! FIL chimes in "Oh yes, Judith never needed a C Section or anything. Modern women just aren't as tough"

AAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH