August 2008, anyone want to join for the very early days!

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Have DS, 13 months. Stopped bf in Oct and immediately got pg but was chemical preg which I lost at 5 weeks. Now got BFP today, very excited. Quite faint line but definitely a line.

Anyone want to join?

Penny - make sure you eat LOADS of natural yog so that you can counter anything you may get quickly. df gave me food poisoning last christmas when i was 7 and half months gone with ds2, had to go on a drip in hospital had lods of bags of the stuff, they say that the baby will take everything it needs and it's only you that will suffer from it as a result, so dont worry, even if you feel like death warmed up the baby will fine and if you dont eat much you'll lose loadsa weight (sorry that sounded really pretentious (sp?) and i'm sure you dont need to lose any, but you know what i mean....i hope)

Thanks Bealcain, I'm a probiotic convert, so hopefully can steer clear of nasties.

And don't worry, I know exactly what you mean - have now entered that "don't look pregnant, just look fat" phase, so not happy

MM - Voicing what everyone else has said too, thinking of you.

JennyLee - Had that for a few nights after severe vomiting - just sat in bed all shivery until i had a fizzy drink and went to sleep. I think it's a blessing that we don't remember this each time, i think there would be a lot of one child families if we did!

Had to come online for a break. How difficult can it be to change the upstairs beds with these two here?? Have been ages...

What's for tea folks? I want to eat cheese pancakes...

Oh had lovely icey drink pomegranate flavour with peach in Starbucks earlier...was icey and lush...mmmm!

Thanks to everyone for your thoughts etc, much appreciated, feeling a little more positive about things, have decided we have to be positive for another week otherwise it will drag terribly and mean we're really miserable until the next scan.
On a different note, went to slimming world last night and I've lost 6.5 lbs over Christmas, come on MS and lack of appetite!
So something good has come of this!!
Thanks again everybody, you've all made me smile x

am glad you're feeling a bit better MM and well done on the weightloss - thats just showing off

I gave in to curiosity and phoned the hosp to see if I have a booking in appt yet and I do but its not till 24th - 3weeks today until the all reassuring scan - aaarrggghhh!
on top of that its at the worst time of day when I'll have both the girls/ will have to ask for an early finish at work/dh will have to have a late start and dd1 will be fed up and dd2 (more affectionately known as the asbo child) will probably rip the place to pieces from being overtired!!!

I did ask if they wouldn't mind changing it to a morning spot and you would think I'd asked them to deliver the baby for me!!

never mind, as my 4yr old dd would say - only 20 more sleeps!!!

x

yummm, dh has made home made chilli for tea, very nice indeed.

No idea when my scan will be - don't see mw until 16th and she books it from there. Hoping it will be end of Jan when i will be 12 weeks!

felt RAF today.....(RAF = Rough As F...)(how rude, virutal swearing!!)

Hi Everyone,

Mollie, i had literally no idea at all with my dates i hadnt't had a period since july. I could have been 3 months or 3 weeks.
I do hope you get some good news soon.

I have a question for everyone, have you announced your pregnancy yet? I haven't and don't plan to until 12 weeks, no rational reason really and i am enjoying the secret.

BUT i really want to share it with one person at work, i just feel like there is this massive thing going on in my life and i sit in all these stressful meetings thinking about the bean. I have a fairly stressful job and this person i suppose is my most supportive co-worker, i just want to share the burden. DH not keen though, he thinks it is odd to tell her before we tell our own families, which is true. But i don't feel any urge to tell parents etc, just her.
Am mulling it over but not sure i can last another 5-6 weeks. If the worst did happen, i would tell her anyway, a) for the suppot and b) because she is my deputy and would need to look after things if i was off work.

Anyway, excuse the rambling, just interested in whether or not you are keeping it quiet or not. I can't think about anything else!

Hi Sticky

am in the same place as you - have just found out scan is not for another 3 weeks so dont want to jinx anything buy telling people before then but I also have a very stressful job with quite a playground atmosphere sometimes so I felt inclined to tell my closest friend there. it is someone I consider more than a colleague but a friend who will also watch my back too and I know who will keep my secret too. We haven't told our families etc and to be honest it will be nice to tell them something more concrete when the time comes for the scan. If you're like me you'll spend most of your time with your work colleagues though so maybe it will be a relief for you to have someone keeping an eye on you.

If you trust her and think it will help you in these first few weeks then by all means do it, your family never need to know they weren't the first to be told. Just make sure you emphasise the importance of not letting it get any further at this point.

x

Ah yes Captain, RAF is a nice way to describe today for me as well. Sitting here eating popcorn and coke because I'm hungry. Only barf the real foods today it seems so sticking to JUNK. Kinda wish I had chocolate-carmel covered popcorn at the moment.

On the telling people about the pregnancy front. At the request of DH I delayed saying anything to our families until Christmas BUT I told all my girlfriends straight away. My reasoning was I needed their support. With DD we quickly phoned family because of a stupid feeling that they needed to know first...I was working and needed to tell my boss. In hindsight it really didn't matter who we told and when EXCEPT for the support issue. You need a RL outlet. MN is great but sometimes you need a little hand holding too.

{{munch}} {{munch}} {{munch}} MUST FIND REAL FOOD!!

Hee hee TS - if you find said chocolate-caramel covered popcorn (yummm!) would you share it with me?

I've told my friend who is pg and due in June but NOT my friend who is pg and due this month . I've also told 2 of the 5 people I share an office with coz they are also good friends (one of them is ds' godmother). I also told my boss so if I need time off for anything she will agree it, no questions asked. I also agree with someone watching your back without giving anything away. Feels very nice to have that support.

My faith is very important in my life, and I truly believe that God has my life planned out for me. Whilst I'm not telling the world (I'm being selective with the few who I have told), I know that if anything should happen I can rely on these people for support. For that reason, it doesn't seem appropriate to tell my friend who is about to give birth!!

We told my folks on Christmas day, and we're off to see dh's family this weekend so will tell them then. 2 hour car trip - man I am NOT looking forwards to that!

When pg with DD we only told my sister and a friend before 12 weeks, but it was all rather a shock and we needed some time to get used to the idea.

This time we ended up telling our closest family over Christmas as the fact that I couldn't eat any of my favourite foods made it obvious. Happy with that decision though as if things go wrong we will need them.

Other than that a friend knows and after a bit of umming and ahhing I told a friend at work after she announced her pregnancy. She's just had her scan so we're not too far apart, in the scheme of things, and will be off at the same time (all being well). Also, I figured I'd need her support if it goes wrong.

That's been our test: If it goes wrong or would we want that person's support or would it be awkward?

Cha cha am feeling better today am able to eat and drink a little - well a bag of babybels, crackers part of a bun and clear soup, forced myself to drink some squash so no shivering today, if it had carried on like yesterday I would have been wishing for death by today.

Am thinking to phone the gp surgery tomorrow and ask if I see the gp or just make a booking in appointemnt with the midwife.

Stickybean I was going to keep it a secret but my Dh told the world, is better as I can moan about the symptoms and talk about baby stuff with my Mum now.

thinking i was further along than we were meant that people knew at like 3weeks, i cant keep my own secrets to save my life, ironically our parents were the last people to know, in fact my df was about the 3rd or 4th person! agree with the 'if it all goes wrong would it be awkward'.

up all night with both ds2 and df, am bloody shattered, ms kicked in at 3am so now feel RAF....hope all are well.

MM - hope you are feeling slightly more confident today When TTC DD1 my dates seemed to get changed almost every week, i was initially due on 23rd June and last date ended up as 10th July, this was due to irregular cycles after stopping the pill.

I had my booking apt yesterday and was realy happy with the midwife, she spent lots of time talking to me about different options and it was the 1st time in all 3 of my pregnancies that I have been offered a home birth. I don't think I will opt for a home birth but really pleased that different options are available.
MW tried to call through and arrange a scan but the computers were down at the hospital so will have to wait for hosp to write to me - I am expecting my dates to change once I've had a scan, I never seem to get the dates right, although I know when I Ov'd I'm expecting my dates to change maybe by a week or so.

I was also thrilled to find out my new hospital are happy to tell you the sex of the baby at the 20 week scan - I'm so torn now whether to find out or not

foghorn - did they not tell you before then? i've found out with both of mine, my theory is, it's a surprise whenever you find out and when the baby's born you've got a baby so if you already know it doesn't matter and there's always the feeling that they might have got it wrong. definately finding out this time as am desperate for a pink one so if its not then i'll have a few months to get my head round it!

glad you've got a good m/w, mine's shocking, having to use a friend of mine unoffically as dont trust this one. definately home birthing this time (hopefully) i've become a bit of a natural, hippy mum with ds2 with slings and co-sleeping, the only thing i wont do is cloth nappies. i'm even going to go as far as eating my placenta this time round. thought my friends would be really shocked, which they were but now they want to come round and try it too...my df's best friend is 100% up for it, he's keener than my girlfriends!

now you all think i;m stark raving mad!

Fair play bealcain but I can 100% say I wont be joining you in the eating my placenta. I absolutely love the idea of home birthing. being in your own surroundings, being able to hop into your own bed etc but I just have this niggling thought of if something goes wrong I'd rather be at the hopsital just in case - my new hospital will also discharge me after 4 hours providing everything is well so isn't too bad.

The hospital where I used to live wouldn't tell you the sex of the baby - if you wanted to know you would have pay privately and I have never even considered finding out before but this time I just have this urge to know - maybe it's having 2 girls already and the practicalities of knowing in advance. DH keeps saying he doesn't want to know but I think when we get to the scan the thought of knowing will just get too much for him and he'll cave.... Although he hasn't said it, he would love a boy this time as we've agreed it's our last.

Fingers crossed you get a pink one this time bealcain

my friends were really unsure as to whether to find out or not and so the sonographer wrote it down in an envelope for them and they put it on the mantel piece, but they still couldn't decide, one wanted to, one didnt....thst must be awful, i think if i knew i'd be telling the world! good luck on a blue one this time

Oh god that would be torture

I have my booking appointment next week so pleased I wasn't going to the GP too early.

Sticky ? with DS1 I told friends and family and work at 19/20 weeks. Had been through every minute detail of my sister's pregnancy from 4 weeks onwards and just didn't want to have the same hoo-haa surrounding my pregnancy. Kept it very quiet and simple. It was great because after they knew there was only another 4 months to go and it passed really quickly. It also meant that I'd had the 20 week scan and knew that it was a boy and that everything was fine as far as they could see. It was probably affected by my dad having a heart attack when I was about 4 weeks pregnant and we were all busy thinking about that.

This time, I'd like to do the same. But people are more suspicious 2nd time around, I think. Or maybe I'm more paranoid? I think there are loaded questions from people about how old is DS1 and the 'ideal' gap between children and my parents made comments about my weight over Christmas (although they do that anyway... )

I've told 2 local friends who knew we were ttc and that's it. I'll cling on to my secret news as long as I can!

The GP asked me about tests yesterday. Does anyone know whether they're opting for the nuchal (sp?) test? 200 quid is a lot of money for it...

LS - we get it free here, both the scan and the bloods, it;s routine.

Libbyssister - I have been offered the nuchal test this time (I was even offered in my other pregnancies) but like you it isn't covered on the NHS at present so I would have to pay £100.
As I didn't have it with either DD's I don't think I will have it this time either. I didn't have the triple test in my revious pregnancies either

The GP said the nuchal test was 140 quid and it was more reliable if backed up with a blood test which was another 60 quid. i don't think we've got the money to spare.

I had the triple test with ds1 so maybe just go with that again. But I'm 35 in April

hey everyone, i am still here, been feeling very sick the last few weeks so hence lack of post! Hello to shazza, how are you doing? Hello everyone else xxx

Hello everyone

Arrgghh, so fed up. I went to my doctor to say 'I'm pregnant' on 11th December. I saw him for about 30 seconds, (after waiting for TWO HOURS). He barely even looked at me, just told me to let him know what hospital I wanted to have the baby in. Let his surgery know about the hospital a few days later so they could refer me.

Have just been on phone to my chosen hospital who have never heard of me, so called GP's surgery, who surprise surprise, can't find any record of a referral letter being sent.

So now have to wait for them to refer me again. Feeling really upset as it would just be nice to know I am in the system and that someone is going to see me at some point. My symptoms have really subsided recently and I am scared that there is something wrong.

Sorry, I know that for those of you who have given birth that this all seems par for the course, but as I am a first timer who knows NOTHING I just need some reassurance.

SKF - that's awful. you should write a leeter of complaint to your practise manager. i know it probably wont help, but it might help you to vent frustrations. how many weeks do you think you are?