Pregnancy after loss - Autumn babies 2021 - Thread 2

[Pancakes7]

Hi All,

I thought I'd start a new thread before we fill the other one.

@Bellabubble
@Firevie
@PumpkinEverything
@MrsF111
@MrsTD88
@Strawberry08
@imisscoffee
@Greenrubber
@vitaminb33
@Smurf123
@NorthernGirl1991
@bookwitch13
@JRH4622

Hopefully I've tagged everyone!

@Garman you are most likely right. Poor you. I’m thinking of you Xx

@Garman I'm so sorry you've got this wait. Take care of yourself x

Thanks all, will stay busy with work and stopping my 2 boys from killing each other!

I'm so sorry @MrsF111, take care of yourself ❤️

@Garman that's so hard being in limbo I'm sorry you're going through this. I know lots of women have bleeding and it's okay, but it's understandable you'd feel otherwise.

@SophW194 in my first pregnancy I had terrible nausea and I completely despaired when it didn't vanish at 12 weeks, but it did gradually improve and I think for me it was gone by 16 weeks.

I have a little more breast pain and a little more nausea but still on the whole my symptoms are pretty mild (at 5 weeks 5 days), realistically even if it's mostly irrational I know if worse nausea doesn't show up after 6 weeks I'm going to start assuming a bad outcome.

I didn't sleep very well again last night. (Neither of us slept much Thursday night as we were both so anxious) last night I kept waking up and then was up from 1am till 3.30am. I think my mind was still processing the events of Friday. Still taking it all in that our baby is all ok. Luckily it's the weekend so DH got up with our son and I had a lie in. I really hope I can sleep ok tonight. Anyone else struggling with sleep?

@Pancakes7 I never sleep a whole night right through. Up to pee once then I usually lay awake for a while. Annoying! Wish I could be more chilled out. X

@HereWeGoooo Is that just since being pregnant? I'm hoping I'm back to normal tonight 🤞🏻

@Pancakes7 Yes only since being pregnant. It's on my mind pretty much 24/7... I wake up and it's the first thing I think of. (First baby and haven't got this far in pregnancy before.) Just can't believe I'm growing a person. Just hope they are ok! Is everyone else the same with that?!

@HereWeGoooo Yeah that's understandable. How far along are you now? This is my second successful pregnancy (hopefully 🤞🏻) but it's definitely strange to think you're growing a tiny human. I think it feels more real when you get a bump but that is quite far on. Then I found I had quite a few panics of I haven't felt him move!! Lots of drinking ice water or going into hospital to be monitored but all was ok.

@Pancakes7 Going by last menstrual period I'd be 9w tomorrow. But pretty sure I'm more like 8w1d today, as my cycle is long and I know when I ovulated. It's a lot of mental tiredness too with the all consuming thoughts it brings. I've been off food for about 2-3 weeks now and that's getting annoying!!

@HereWeGoooo Yeah I think that's what kept me up last night. Too many thoughts. I'm a few days ahead, I'm guessing I had a shorter cycle. Mines normally between 26 and 28 days. Lmp I'd be 7 weeks +5 but from my scan I'd be 8 weeks today. Have you had a scan yet?

I was trying to hold out for the 12w NHS scan but I have booked an early private scan, after all the scan chat (although I was more nervous in the very beginning around time I MC, than I am now) which is Tues night. Feeling quite confident but still never want to get too ahead of yourself. Have to say, the first trimester hasn't been the joyful, thrilling experience I thought it would be! Maybe next trimester will be more enjoyable 🤞🏻

@Pancakes7 I was the same with my scan, barely slept the night before and then it took another 3-4 nights to actually be able to sleep at night again properly. Feel like I’m sleeping a bit better again, although I keep waking up early to pee and not wanting to get up, but can’t get back to sleep again because of it so I just lie there in some sort of delirious state 😂 I need to just get up!
I’ve been not letting myself drink after around 8 to stop myself waking up, but I’ve been really thirsty the last few nights and have needed a drink before bed

@HereWeGoooo Yeah unfortunately pregnancy after loss does lose its shine a bit. Plus you generally get your worst in the first trimester. Second is the best you'll feel throughout so make the most of it lol. I found second trimester I felt ok. I then got really bad pgp and was on crutches all this trimester... I'm hoping I don't get that this time.

@HereWeGoooo third* trimester

@PumpkinEverything Oh dear. I hope I'm back to normal tonight 🙈 DH is back at work Monday lol. Although I've got my Mum been Tues/Wed. She's looking after my son again Wednesday when I have my bloods etc with midwife. I love my Mum being here as I can nap! lol. I'm glad you're sleeping better now.

@Pancakes7 what women go through! Maybe if I can have just one baby, that'll be enough haha! One and done 😂

@HereWeGoooo Yeah it's a lot! Straight after having my son I said that's it I'm sorry but we're only having one. But then I wanted another... I was desperate to have one more. I'm so happy this looks like it's all working out finally. I feel with 1 more our family will be complete.

@Pancakes7 That's lovely and I hope your wee addition arrives safe and sound.

@HereWeGoooo It is definitely a shock initially as they are more constant at the start. But it gets easier!! After the 6 weeks mark is easier and then it continues to get easier from there. The love and their amazing little personalities definitely make it all worth it. Having my son is the best thing I've ever done. No idea how I'll manage 2! lol but I'll make it work. Also I have no back to work advice as with the pandemic I haven't gone back since having my son lol. He's now nearly 22 months old.

@HereWeGoooo I should explain I was on maternity, went back for 2 weeks then lockdown happened and I've been on furlough.

@Pancakes7 I slept badly last night...couldn't get to sleep! Nothing major but with needing to wee 5/6 times a night anyway I end up knackered!
@HereWeGoooo I'm trying to hold out til 10weeks for my scan...im currently 6+3 and super chilled but not sure if I will give in! I had a horrid experience with private scan clinic where they lied and said there was a heartbeat when I later understood that there couldn't have been a heartbeat! Horrible!

@Pancakes7 oh my gosh. Do you think you'll be back at work before mat leave starts again? That's great you've had all that time with your son though.

@JRH4622 that sounds horrendous. Do private scan companies not need to be registered/qualified? Jeez. They should be shut down for that. The place I'm going claims to be a practising NHS nurse/ experienced sonographer. But the website is a bit make-shift.

@JRH4622 That's awful!! I can't believe they would do that. I'm so sorry that happened to you. I hope you complained.

@HereWeGoooo Yeah I've been really lucky with the timing getting all this extra time with my son. An extra year! Lol. I don't know if I'll go back now or not. Furlough is extended till end of September so I do wonder if I tell them will they just keep me off till then and then I'll use some holiday then go on Mat leave. Crazy.