Due March 2008 - another teeny tiny thread for dial ups and mobiles

[merryberry]

Welcome. It seems that when we get to over 400 hundred posts then dial ups and mobiles can't handle loading the threads well. Sweetkitty, I hope this helps. xx

[victoriagirl]

Hello all. I have been lurking for a while, but resisted joining (due 4th March- 1st baby). Was trying to wait until had 12 week scan on 21st Aug, as had MC in April and didn't want to tempt fate. But have been feeling so ropey the last few days that I couldn't resist. Has anyone else been getting evil headaches? And if so, has anything helped (really don't want to take painkillers)?
Re: great scan debate. We don't get nuchal here (Glos) despite my age (37) but MW said it was no better than bloods. We have decided not to have any of it, as like holidayqueens wouldn't do anything about it and would probably spend the whole preg worrying with possibly no reason to at the end. But its such a personal decision and it is not helped by the disparity across the country!
So reassured to read about prunes- have also been constipated for first time in life (such a new experience!). Couldn't face prune juice, but had gorgeous bowl of prunes and custard last night. Really helped!!
fitnforty- good to see you here- another older first time mum!

[winemakesmummyclever]

Morning ladies,

Congrats and welcome FnF and VGirl .

Hope all is well with everyone. I have had two whole days without being sick and am feeling slightly less tired. Don't know whether this is the turning point back to normality, or whether I should be quietly worried.

FnF - thanks for the flaxseed tip - really could not eat prunes if my life (or the integrity of my colon)depended on it. Thankfully not an issue at the mo .

Still no date through for dating scan - dh will chase it up at work if not here by next Thurs. Am happy for those of you who have seen your little beans already though - it makes it all worthwhile. Have decided to order Phil & Ted e3 buggy when have had scan and seen that there actually is a little monkey in there - and just the one (twins are in my family too)

[HolidaysQueen]

Morning everyone (esp our newbies fitnforty and victoriagirl!)

I woke up this morning feeling the best I have for about 2 weeks - no nausea, no constipation and even quite wide awake! I'm sure it won't last but I'm enjoying it while I can.

What is it about twins? About the second thing my parents said (after 'congratulations!') when we told them was "it might be twins" - great grandmothers on both sides had male/female twins... I wouldn't mind actually (although the extra tiredness/crying/expense scares me) - the only daydream I ever had when I was younger (never dreamt of my wedding day for example!) was that i would have girl-boy twins, and I was really jealous of a girl at school who had a twin bro. So I'm kind of sneakily hoping that my scan (which is 4 weeks away still! aaargh!) shows that there are 2

BTW my dh is trying to get sympathy from me. He claimed this morning that he is suffering a sympathy pregnancy because he is off his food at breakfast and really tired at night. I asked if he was constipated, if his nipples hurt and if he needed to wee every 2 mins. I think at that point he realised it might be safest to retreat to the kitchen and make me a cuppa... LOL

[preggersagain]

Morning all! Have just scrambled back to my desk after nodding off in the staff room! oops

i had the worlds most scary nightmares last night- poor dh was up and out of bed making me a boiled egg (weird craving along with ice and tomatoes!) and a cup of ovaltine at 4am while i cried my eyes out- it seemed so real!!

Other than that and the resultant tiredness i'm starting to feel human again! Just looking forward to my scan now as i have NO IDEA how pregnant i am (but i have a bump!!!)

[LoveAndSqualor]

fnf - welcome! we had to pay £2 for out photo, which I was frankly outraged by (though DP paid up without a murmur - very unusual. I put it down to the shock and heightened emotion). It can't cost them more than a couple of pence. Pshaw.

HolidaysQueen - hilarious about your dh.

preggersagain - totally with you on the nightmares. I seem to be having them every night. Last night's involved being chased across country by giant walking machines shooting lasers, a la War of the Worlds.

[LoveAndSqualor]

our photo

[piekin]

Hi Wendy red head, although I thought four question marks after your question was a bit excessive, I think I can put you at ease - I am a first timer, and get confused/overwhelmed with everything pg, tests etc. I was thinking of the amniocentises not the nuchal, amnio being a scary poss cause of miscarriage.

[piekin]

Love n squalor, I'd love to see the phot but the link doesn't seem to work, please try again!

[piekin]

MN seems to make me more anxious too, I think I will try and give it a break again, probably to the relief of some of you!

[wendyredhead]

Piekin: thanks so much for putting my mind at ease re the nuchal scare.

So terribly sorry my excessive use of ???????? prompted you to comment - blimey! Hormones a bit up in the air???????????????

[cricri]

Hi everybody and welcome to the newcomers!
Hope you're all feeling OK today without too many pg symptoms... At least the weekend is here at last!
I had my booking-in appointment with the midwife this afternoon so I now have the ante-natal notes that everybody keeps asking me about! The midwife came round to my house and was really nice and down-to-earth. DH was there and found it useful too. I now have to wait until my dating scan on 10 September and then I have an ante-natal clinic appointment two days later. In the meantime DH and I have to decide where to have the nuchal scan done.
Have a good weekend - I'm just off to have some prunes

[FlossieF]

I need prunes too. Trumping like a trooper but still feel like an over-inflated balloon. FMI perhaps?

Good weekend all.....

[derah]

Hello all and welcome to the new ladies

Well, still very tired, but was thinking today that I don't feel the same as I did in my last pg. At this stage last time, the sense of smell thing was REALLY bad and taste too - I had to use really strong mouthwash after every meal. But this time, perfume annoys me but my sense of smell isn't nearly as sensitive. I'm also not feeling pukey when I'm hungry this time, but when I do get hungry, I feel like the world will come to and end if I don't eat NOW! So maybe that means it's a boy this time - I hope so cos I'd like one of each. Only time will tell!

Still no scan date for me but the mw did warn me that the hospital tends to send them out last minute. Scan should be first week of Sept though.

Hope you all have a good w/end!

[derah]

Oh, and I've joined the prune club too! I definitely wasn't consitpated until quite late in the pg last time but am blocked up already.... yuk! I've got some organic prune and grape juice which is surprisingly tasty and seems to help.

Ain't pregnancy fun?!

[derah]

As for the funny dreams, I haven't really had any bad ones, but they're getting weirder and weirder! Last night I dreamed that my fanjo was all green, and when I checked it was full of chopped spinach! WTF!?!?

[skidoodle]

hi ladies,

lol @ HolidayQueen's DH's sympathy pregnancy. you've got to give him points for effort

I'm such a cranky so and so these days I pity my DH if he says something like that.

I phoned my doctor today since I still hadn't heard anything from the hospital. Apparently she forgot to send in my paperwork to them, so no wonder I hadn't heard anything. I went to see her about 5 weeks ago.

I think I freaked out a little. She was saying how she'd call them but my appointment might be delayed a bit and I was saying how as I was 10 weeks it would need to be soon so I could have my 12/13 week scan at around the right time. Then she told me I wouldn't have a scan until 20 weeks!

It all made me kind of confused. I've made an appointment to see her next week as she told me I should see someone each month at the start and I haven't since the start of July.

I wonder did I misunderstand the 20 weeks scan thing. I insisted that everyone else I knew (i.e. you guys) were having scans at 12 weeks and then she was saying something about a "big" scan at 20 weeks but another (I guess "small") scan when you go for your booking in appointment.

I dunno. I guess it shook my confidence a bit. I was OK now knowing what to expect when I assumed I could trust my doctor, but now it seems like I can't really put my faith in her and I'm feeling kind of at sea.

I'm not thinking clearly I know. It's really no big deal.

TG it's the weekend. I was feeling like hell all day. The worst day so far.

welcome victoriagirl I had a headache from last night until this afternoon. My sister (who has never been pregnant but is a fount of knowledge about it, it's ace ) suggested I might be dehydrated because it's been so muggy, so I drank loads of water and it seemed to help. I'm like you - avoiding the drugs, although I know paracetamol is meant to be OK.

anyway, sorry for complaining. i hope this isn't my new permanent personality - irrational and weepy.

[yardette]

hiya all
think we're all having bad days. I messed up really badly at work - left some important documents on a train. Pregnancy brain or what.... has culminated in a client complaint and me having to finish off some work this evening. Oh, and its mine and DH's wedding anniversary today.

sorry everyone is having crappy times also. skidoodle - 20 weeks for your first scan doesn't sound right, and your doctor sounds very disorganised. is there a midwife you can ring up to speak to to find out the real story?

back to the grindstone. may have to give up work if i just can't cope - my health and baby's health more important. suddenly feel helpless, and that i'm never going to cope with my job and pregnancy, never mind working when I've had the baby.

have good weekends all
a tired and miserable yardette

[derah]

Skidoodle - when I was pg with DD I was with a really CRAP GP surgery. They completely forgot to send in my paperwork for my 12 weeks scan, so I called the hospital and booked it myself. The surgery promised to fax my details over in time for my scan but couldn't even manage that! So I changed surgery, and have been thrilled with the new one.

GP's are pretty hopeless in general when it comes to being pg. You need to find out who your midwife is and sort things out with her. You can also call your hospital and book your 12 week scan. You should definitely be getting one at 12 weeks. I'm sorry you're being left to figure things out on your own, but ignore your silly GP! She is right that the 20 week scan is the 'big one' though since that's when they check for lots of abnormilities rather than just a quick check for dates (and maybe nuchal fold) at 12 weeks.

You really need a midwife!

[skidoodle]

oh yardette, sorry you're having such a crappy day.

I recognise the helpless not-coping feeling.

this too will pass. we've the rest of the weekend to rest and gather strength for next week. and soon the 1st trimester symptoms will be over

happy anniversary. Celebrate properly tomorrow.

[with some lovely sleeping. and maybe some prunes for a treat.]

[skidoodle]

thanks derah

Yes, I do need a midwife. I guess I will get one when I have my hospital appointment.

I will see my GP next week and if she's hopeless I can always change. Most of my life my doctor was a relative, so I've probably become accustomed to particularly good and attentive GP care and when they forget me I feel really affronted.

That's good to know that I can call the hospital myself if I want to. I will do that if the doc hasn't got a date for me by wednesday.

[victoriagirl]

sorry to hear about your rubbish day yardette. Hope you will start to feel better soon. It is easily done - especially with all the hormones etc. IKWYM about worrying about work- I worry too about how I'll cope with everything, but the fact is we will all find a way through it somehow- even if it does feel insurmountable at times.
skidoodle- yes think dehydration might have had something to do with it- have drunk more today and it seems to have helped. But that and bad sickness meant I didn't go to work today. Have felt really rough all day. And so hormonal and weepy. (very hard to live with!) Must be something about this stage. Crap to hear about your scan. Worth keeping pushing as it was their mistake. We get 12 wk and 20 wk scan here but again every area does it differently so it might be your area only offers 20 wk scans- doesn't sound like it though.
derah- your dream made me laugh out loud- that beats all my colourful ones!!
Glad to hear some people are starting to feel a bit better though. Weekend should help us all.

[turtle23]

Am feeling very impressed that my husband hasn't divorced me yet. Anybody else feel as though they're watching their shocking behaviour from the outside and screaming NOOOOO as you say things you know aren't true or are just silly? Have started to forget things everywhere, too. Every time I go to a friends' house they say "Oh and here's that thing you left last week." Hoping this goes before the baby is born, or fear my own child may be the forgotten item!!
Have anyone else's aureolas (spelling?) suddenly gone enormous? lol!

[preggersagain]

right thats it!!!!!!!

I want some sleep- no nightmares, no waking up 14 times to have a pee, no getting too hot/cold- is that too much to ask??

Sorry i'm absolutly shattered, two nights running i've had the most horrendous nightmares, then as soon as i wake up screaming i need the loo, then i get back into bed and just can't get comfy, please tell me that someone else is having the same thing!

Well at least the sun is shining, we are having a bbq this evening so dh is mowing the lawn, one of the kids is feeling poorly and is just laying (still in his grobag!) on the sofa while everything else around him collapses into chaos.

[3madboys]

hello all, i see i started a bit of a debate about the nuchal scan, it seems very unfair that it is a postcode lottery, from what i understand, (from info i got from the fetal medicine centre) the nuchal scan, esp when combined with the early blood test, is more accurate than the triple test, and aslo as it is done earlier you can then have a cvs, instead of a amnio, both of which carry a slight risk of miscarriage. personally for me i just feel that if there is a problem, i would rather know sooner than later, i have no idea what i would actually do, but at least i would have longer to discuss it with dp, research things etc and come to a decision. hopefully tho all will be well

i had a better day yesterday, i felt pukey and tired, but dp was off so we took the boys out for the day, went to the beach etc, it was great, but a long day and i am paying the price for it today, i have felt sick constantly since i woke up this morning.

[turtle23]

Have just made that big decision of which buggy to buy. Maclaren XLR for me. Have been having many dreams about that 0-5 carseat which goes flat. Hideous amount of money, has anyone used one? Can't afford it, but intrigued.
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