July 2019 (thread 8): pram choices, 20-week scans, and the morning gag

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New thread!

Sorry, don't know if someone else was planning to do this. Just noticed how close we were to being cut off on the last thread.

No @kentishgal. I don’t really post on the fb group, I post on here far more!

@Giraffe888 I’ve bought him (that still feels weird!) some little outfits, but as dp doesn’t want to know the sex yet I’ve got to hide them. I can’t even show him the scan photos as you can see he’s a boy!

Thankyou @Kentishgal!!

I am on the Facebook group but still haven’t posted, I’m not sure why. There was sad news on there today though, and I’m guessing that lady isn’t from this thread? Or just hasn’t shared the news on here.

@chinks123 it must be so hard keeping it from your partner!! Does he want to wait until birth to know?

Yes it’s so so sad 😢 I can’t imagine what they’re going through. I’m guessing she’s not on here but I’m not sure. It’s really unnerved me about my 20wk scan 🙁

Congratulations @Chinks123 sorry I missed your post last night! We had loads more options for girls names than boys but can now focus properly on getting a boys shortlist!

I love boys clothing over girls too so excited to buy some more bits!

@Giraffe888 I don’t think he’ll last much longer without knowing. He keeps asking me to say and then covering his ears and changing his mind He’s desperate for a boy though so me grinning like a maniac will probably give it away soon!

I know, poor woman I can’t imagine it. My 20 week isn’t until 19th March! Once he starts kicking I’ll feel better.

Thankyou @Capybaras I posted at a silly time. This time of night is always busier. I don’t even have 1 name yet. I cried when they said he was a boy I was so shocked, so happy though.

At what point did everyone’s bumps go properly hard? Mines still soft in places!

Mine is 8th March @chinks123. He’ll be thrilled when he finds out he’s a boy!!!! X

@Giraffe888 I still haven't properly popped yet and my belly is soft in places still. Looks more prominent when I need to wee, and gets bigger as the day progresses but still not obviously pregnant! I think I look it but people keep on asking me when I'll be getting a bump so obviously not!

Not on the fb group but that's so awful about bad news. Pregnancy is such a worrying time and you hear so many stories about people having bad news that I feel I won't relax fully until I have the baby in my arms!

Here he is..my little boy! Not the clearest picture as it’s a key ring and it was only a 4d peek as he’s still so small. I’ll have to show dp with my thumb over the bottom

And I’m hoping so @Giraffe888! Good luck with your scan, it seems like ages to wait. I had no private scans with dd and I’ve had about 3 so far this time..

@capybaras I look obviously pregnant but my tummy used to be completely flat 😳

@chinks123 that’s amazing 💙 I wish I’d asked them to do a quick 4D look at our private scan! X

Awww what a cute photo @chinks123! I can't imagine having to try and keep the sex secret from my OH 😂

My bumps still not really that hard but it looks big today. I feel like I'm really full 😷

@Giraffe888 Thankyou, it came included in the price but was literally only for 1 minute.

I’ve never had a 4d scan before (well we tried with dd but she wouldn’t face us-cost a fortune and I cried for hours.) I would only go to a place now where they would rescan if baby wasn’t playing ball. I still had to pay for dds and I got about 10 pictures of an ear...

Thankyou @ReginaPhalange89 it’s slowly killing me! I hope he caves before I end up blurting it out.

I don't know why they're being so weird on that FB group. They should have left it open to join till 20 weeks, then made it private and invite only. Instead they've made it private and invite only and are now saying no more. Does anyone know why? I think someone mentioned in our other threads that they're old groups didn't do this.

Terrible news for that poor woman. I'm hoping her tests tomorrow yield a different result. It's made my 20 week scan seem an age away and I'm almost dreading it more.

A lot to catch up on tonight! Congratulations to those who’ve found out the genders 😊 I’m pleased all is looking good for everyone.

Still no movement or any sensation at all here at 17+5, I can’t wait for movement or just something to remind me that things are alright in there.

My bump is pretty prominent but it’s probably because I have zero stomach muscle and terrible spinal posture so my belly always sticks out a bit anyway.

I’m desperate for my 20 week scan but dreading it at the same time. I’m just desperate for everything to be okay! My husband is great at calming me down (he is very used to my anxiety now as it has been bad for a few years) I don’t know what I’d do without him! Chatting to you ladies always helps me as well, it is nice to know that other people are going through the same things.

As for pains and pressure, I have been really sensitive just above my pubic bone for a few days now. It aches when I have anything putting pressure on that area. I have also been getting pain from trapped wind through the night and this weird stabbing pain on the left side of my lower abdomen (really low down, near my pelvis I would say). Every sensation is unnerving!

Exciting about all the scans and baby movements! What an uplifting read. 😊

Trying2bemum big hugs to you, that sounds a bad day! Totally with you on the baby brain. It's because you're growing a hoooouman, and all your blood is needed elsewhere. It's not your actual brain failing, as I keep having to remind myself! Apparently mothers' brains actually expand (I think maybe after birth?) to deal with more risk and danger, fingers crossed that's true. Maybe all those 4am wake ups too. Can they let you nap somewhere at work?xx

Kentishgal that's so sad about your friend, very sorry to hear it. I have a colleague in a similar position, and it was hard telling her my news. For what it's worth, with my first loss I was ok around other pregnant women. I'd rationalised it as a 'false start' and 'body getting into gear' and was confident things would absolutely happen for us. After the second and third it became really hard to be around babies and anything with a motherly vibe, but only because it felt like a reminder of loss/failure. I was still happy for the other people. They were kind of separate strands in my mind, excitement for them and a big dollop of self-hate for me (I know, I know). I got quite down about it all and, when I finally got pregnant again in October, had been slowly started drawing up an alternative life in my mind, with no children. So I think you're right to tread carefully and sensitively, as I'm sure you would anyway. Equally, please don't in any way feel bad or guilty - your friend won't be thinking like that at all.

BeckyButterfly I have appalling stomach muscles too and very bad posture. I have to dress carefully to hide my non-pregnant belly as it is, even though I'm a healthy BMI and fairly small elsewhere. My belly now is like a big shapeless blob. I saw a woman today who was of a similar smallish build to me, but she had this lovely round, neat bump. I look more like I've been inflated through the belly button in every direction! Ah well. And another thing - my belly button is taking on a life of its own, turning inside out in a slightly creepy way! A joiyous time.

Hello
Place marking and also any july 13 due dates?

@wombatron I don't know why they've done it this way, I think the same as you ! Should have just left it open for new members then closed it if they wanted to at 20 weeks. I think they originally said that but then all voted on it and decided to do it this way Instead. But it means now I have to add everyone as a friend to allow them to be added 🙈 bit annoying!

I feel like death today 😷😔 not sure if I'm getting sick , managed to make it to 18 weeks without much morning sickness and hardly anything at all since before 12 weeks. Last night I threw up before bed then spent all night tossing and turning, sick again at 4 and now feel absolutely drained 😪

Ah @ReginaPhalange89 that's a bit shit. Just send the Amanda's way! I have not idea how people get so much time to spend on that group. I just about keep up with here.

Sucks you're being sick so late, hopefully it passes. Are you working today? Take it easy

1Rose19 not the 13th but my due date is 14th!

ReginaPhalange hope you feel better soon!

Off to London today for work, fingers crossed my PGP doesn't flare up too much. It's gonna be a loooong day.

I’ve woken up and feel like death 😩 cold and sore throat and banging headache! One of the young people I care for at work is poorly and was throwing up last night so I’m hoping it haven’t caught that 🤞🏻 Don’t finish work whilst 8am tomorrow morning either!

I feel the same about the Facebook group, I’m on there but I rarely post, use here more often.

Hope everyone has a good day ❤️

@thedust good luck in London today

@reginaphalange89 and AIDE2424?sorry you’re not feeling good, hope you feel better as the day goes on

I didn’t sleep well at all. I’m trying to not sleep on my back or right side. My ears keep hurting when I’m laid on them so I then couldn’t sleep on my left. I ended up propping myself up on my back so I wasn’t flat then put my V shaped pillow round my neck to support my head. I’m shattered!

I'm also somehow full of cold and aches this morning. Not what I need at all! 20 week scan later today too. 😊

Ladies... cold sores. Is it common sense that people don't kiss babies if they have one? Or do I need to point it out? How do I do that without seeming rude?