July 2019 - Part 5!!

[Kentishgal]

Here goes...hope this works...

Wonder how many threads we'll have completed before the end of the first trimester!

Yes to discharge, and I'll raise your tmi to mine.... which is... you know how you have your own sort of 'smell'. Like body smell sort of down there..... well mine has changed and I don't think I like it that much. Am assuming it's related to the discharge which doesn't seem to be quietening down. 👍🏼----

Is anyone else in St Barts London of any other London trust? Just curious to see how care differs as a go along this!

@wombatron - thank goodness it’s not just me. I’m really aware my smell has changed and I can really smell it. Not sure if it’s heightened sense of smell or that I just smell. It’s not unpleasant as such, it’s kind of... sweeter I suppose? I asked DH and he said he hasn’t noticed, but I don’t know if he’s being nice/thinks that’s what I want to hear. I can’t really ask anyone else though, can I?

Yes @DianaBlythe it's just different. Not thrush or BV as I've unfortunately had both of those before. But different. And I don't like it to be really honest, it's not gross, but it's not one I find so pleasant. I want my old smell back.

@wombatron I'm not sure my NHS trust is classed as a London one exactly but I'm St Helier & Epsom - which to be honest is just next to St George's catchment area as Tooting is just up the road. I've only just moved to the area so haven't had much experience with them but so far so good. All the staff I've met have been friendly and helpful. The only issue has been the paperless notes and how they don't share with my GP! How about you?

Re discharge - 100% with it being so much more. It started just before I got my BFP (where I actually thought my period had started and I was feeling a bit dejected!) And hasn't stopped since. Smells the same as before though (tmi) just stronger!

Potential bad news here. Blood streaked discharge when I wiped this morning and also a little bit on my pantyliner now. I havw to travel for work today too - about a
2.5h train journey there and back, same again tomorros. Please don't let this be a day of hell!

Morning.. Ive been awake since 4.45am although Im exhausted.. Struggling with pregnancy insomnia I think, combined with anxiety 're 12 week scan as haven't had a private one done. I've got my second midwife appointment today and think I'll raise it as feel I'm close to breaking point. Does anyone have any tips?

're vaginal discharge, I've had loads! Really yucky stuff and the first few weeks I kept on running to the toilet thinking I was bleeding.. You get used to it after a while.

Good luck to those with scans today. Let us know how you get on

@troublecats2 Can you call your midwife? Do you have to go into work? Bleeding can be many things and doesn't have to be bad news. But I know it's hard to focus on that.

Behind again!

@Buggles so sorry to see your news. I totally understand what you’re going through. Hope Christmas gives you some comfort xx

Great news @Chinks and @TheScaredyCat! Lovely!

@StargazyDrifter did you say 12 week scan next Friday, so 28th? If so, me too.

Trouble2cats def call the midwife and stay at home and rest if need to (unless work is more distracting). Sure will be fine, lots of us, including me have had bleeds, def not all bad news.

Anyone else stressing, I totally understand. I’m having weekly NHS scans because of my history (3 miscarriages in a row) which is ‘lucky’ I guess but still panic in between time. Ugh.

Keep going all, hopefully all getting an Xmas break?! Can’t flipping wait until Friday!!

Good luck today @laburna... I went to sleep thinking about my scan tommorow on Wednesday that is and now I’m getting rather nervous yes, I think it’s because i have never had a scan before or been in this situation, I have already unwrapped a brand new water proof mascara as I know there will Be tears regardless. Jeez can we fast forward 24 hours please xx

Morning!

Aww that's a lovely message Twistering. And yes, we are scan twins. I'll be 12+2 on 28/12.

I've also barely slept despite being exhausted and not having the imminent stress of work this week to make me wake up early. Everything DH does is getting to me. He's accidentally dyed one of our washes and then forgotten to do something I'd asked around the house. Hardly the end of the world but it feels like it. I couldn't face eating anything last night and seem to feel a lot worse for it today. It can be pretty hard-going, all this. Really need to snap out of it. I'm already on my Christmas break and not really feeling it.

Laburna thinking of you today!

Trouble2cats I'd be inclined to skip the train journeys if at all possible. Bleeds are not always bad news, but equally I've been on a long train journey with an ectopic (wanted my local A&E not wherever it is I was, in case they admitted me). It was all an added worry because, there's not much you can do on a train with bleeding if it gets bad. Put me off risking it ever again. That was WAY earlier though, maybe 6 weeks, and by this stage things get dramatically more low risk. If you can call MW, do. Might be placenta implanting if 9-10 weeks.xx

Trouble wishing you a safe journey if you decide to go ahead with it - I think I'd be inclined to see how today goes and skip tomorrow's if I was still the same.

@Jxtina86 I didn't see my booked midwife as she was off sick. I had her cover call me up and ask me if I could come in early as she finished at 6.30pm and didn't want to overrun. Said I'd try, but she almost scolded me when I got there and said I'd need to be more flexible I said once I'd told work it would be fine but I still would prefer it if I didn't need to leave the office in the middle of the working day..... I am fine to wait till week 13 rather than week 12 if it means a better appointment. She then stated rather cheerfully that there's no point talking in depth about birth plans at this stage as it's so early.....especially if I'd had a miscarriage (it was 6.20pm at this point!). I agree with the first half the statement but the second I was a bit at!

Good luck to those having scans today!

Thanks for the advice but annoyingly I'm already on a train, work thing is compulsory. When I get there, I'll speak to them. Fingers crossed that there isn't more discharge. DH is going to call thw midwife team at 8am. I called the community team at 5:30, but they said to call GP or A&E and said that I could just go to A&E where I am with work if needed.
I had a scare on Friday, pulled over on the motorway in agony but then it was better and I managed to drive home safely and was fine for the rest of the day. I feel like I have so much sickness and time off work, I don't want to take any more time off.
Pregnancy certainly is not all fun and games, is it? What a worry! I am 9 weeks on Thursday (fingers crossed!) So hoping it's nothing. Not much in termsof cramping either.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for everyone else's scan today. Fingers crossed we've had our share of bad news!

Morning ladies, it’s the big day, 12 week scan at 2.40 this afternoon, just a morning of work to get through first! Well, that’s if I can get off the toilet, apparently all I needed was a good dose of nerves to get my digestive system working again!!

Thank God the discharge and smell isn't just me. I keep saying to the other half I smell down there
Lol!
@trouble2cats sending you well wishes.

And good luck @laburna for your scan today too 😊

@HchyScott I had exactly the same thing yesterday before my 12 week scan literally went to the toilet about 5 times before 10:30. It was quite nice after weeks of constipation 😂 Good luck with your scan today I hope it goes well. I'm nervously awaiting the results of the downs edwards and patau screening. Keep checking my phone every 5 mins to see if there's a missed call from the hospital. I genuinely don't know what I would do if it came back as high risk. One of my friends had a termination last year when the test showed high risk of Downs. I can't decide if I would do the same. Has anyone opted out of the screening?

@wombatron oh that’s so annoying! Your midwife just wanted to knock off early. That’s a real bug bear of mine. When I worked with patients some days you’d finish 2 hours after your supposed finish time and you just got on with it. You don’t take it out on the patient hope my midwife isn’t like that, we’ll fall out if she is lol

@trouble2cats oh poor you, hope you can get through the day ok. Work getting in the way just makes it even more stressful doesn’t it?

@allthegoodnamesalreadytaken I haven't opted out, but DH and I have decided that if the tests come back as high risk, we wouldn't proceed. For this reason we won't be announcing our pregnancy until we have the results back. It's a very personal decision, one I know my mother wouldn't accept regardless of our reasoning.

People who haven't done this think it's lovely and a wonderful secret between a couple. The first trimester is actually quite lonely. The first time round before my MMC I didn't join the board really - but I'm glad I have this time.

Thank you @allthegoodnamesalreadytaken haha im exactly the same I do feel like I’m empty now!! I hadn’t really thought about the screening as I’ve been so worried about Getting this far although I opted in for all at my booking in appointment... something me and DH should properly talk about today after the scan actually

Urgh woke up with shitty head and then dad rang to say he'd called an ambulance for mum as she's had a bad fall - think she's broken her hip or pelvis - she's got advanced dementia so I'm fully expecting her not to come out of hospital and this "to be it" now. This has just rounded off a totally s**t year. My MiL died four months ago, and my mum's best friend died yesterday. Think I'm going to have to take a break from thinking about my pregnancy for now - what will be will be.

@trouble2cats I hope eveedything goes smoothly for you.

@Kentishgal I'm so sorry to hear that you having a difficult time. I know it's hard but please find time to look after yourself.

allthegood Dh said that whatever the result of the downs 𝖲𝖼𝗋𝖾𝖾𝗇𝗂𝗇𝗀 he’d still want the baby. So no point in any further tests. I’m in agreement sort of (because we did this with ds and everything was fine) but don’t actually know how I’d feel if results came back as high risk. Would take a lot of getting head around and a lot of research re how we’d manage as a family. Still don’t think I could go ahead with a termination though.

Especially as here (jersey) if after 12 weeks I’d have to fly to Southampton for the procedure which would be added stress and trauma. I don’t like to fly at the best of times. And that coupled with the trauma of the procedure and staying in a strange hospital far from home (albeit a 30 minute flight...) nope.

@reeny19 having never gotten to a booking appointment before I didn't know I'd need to pee in a cup. I got there and was told to call her mobile as she wasn't on the hospital ward but the group midwife bit. Called her, she said I'd need to give a sample, and I mentioned I'd been desperate and had peed not long ago. She sighed non the phone.

She came and got me and I told her that I wasn't overly impressed with her first impression and that I found it quite rude. I'd rushed to get there and was so pissed off. Then she said they are supportive of home births so I smugly sat in my chair and calmed myself down.

@kentishgal oh no, hope you’re ok. Look after yourself and I’ve certainly found the “what will be will be” attitude helps. No point stressing out about things that you have no control over.

@wombatron still, if they need a urine sample and they haven’t informed you of that before arrival, then it’s something they need to improve their end! Still shouldn’t get grumpy and blame the patient. Ah well. I do know how difficult it can be as a health professional to say the right thing all the time, but I really don’t like it when they get grumpy at patients, it’s just not necessary.

8w2days now and no symptoms since my 6am kitchen vomit incident on Sunday! I’m not even constantly hungry anymore. It’s so weird, maybe nothing’s actually happening? Got my booking in appt on Saturday so will see what they say then. I’m not anxious at all, weirdly. And I don’t want symptoms, there’s no way I’m willing on symptoms of nausea! It’s just so odd. DH wants to tell everyone at Xmas but I think I’ll veto that, will wait for the 12w scan before doing anything.

With regards to testing if something came back that would indicate serious health or genetic problems for baby I wouldn't want to continue. Me and DH have different views on this but I couldn't bare the thought of bringing a baby into this world if it was to live a life of pain.

My friend last year found out at 20 weeks her baby had a rare genetic disorder (can't remember the name) but there was only a 10% chance of babys survival if it survived to full term. And even at that it would need several life saving operations and the baby's standard of living and life expectancy was poor. My friend and partner made the agonising decision to terminate.

God how I pray for healthy and happy babies for each and every one of us.

12 week scan on Friday. I'm getting more worried as the day gets closer.

And as for smells.... My pee smells a lot sweeter 😂

@kentishgal sending you lots of love ❤