July 2019 Part 3 - Still in the 1st Trimester!

[TwittleBee]

Starting a new thread as we near the 1000 comment mark on the Part 2 one!

It is nearly December and I am sure all we want for Xmas are healthy pregnancies and babies

Good luck to everyone still here and so sorry for how many we have already lost on the way

Here is a new, editable, link for the google Doc Register:
docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1y-XaVbeNQM-bCGlr_UxXxcBBNGUfIVQY_4htZRUpbbw/edit?usp=sharing

Going to be exciting when the 12 week scan photos start rolling in!

Lollies are really helping for me.

I've got those ones you fill and freeze yourself, so I'm filling them with watered-down fruit juice, or water and lemon (the way I'm going through them I need to avoid them being too sugary!)

Doesn't help at work though. I'm trying to work-from-home as much as I can, but I've got so many meetings :(

@StargazyDrifter I took anti sickness tablets with DD and found that to start off with they made me super drowsy. I then started taking them at night so I got the main drowsy bit over with but I also found that the more regularly that I took them the less the drowsiness got to me- almost like I built up a tolerance to it. I agree they definitely knocked me out for a few days at the beginning though.

Pleased to hear some positive news on here today, and so sorry you had to recant the whole tale to the midwife/sonographer ratherbe. I’m glad nothing was wrong, but I also know how annoying it is to be told that. I remember thinking I’d have felt better about what happened if they had found something that we could fix! Take care of yourself and DH and I hope you’ll be back on here soon!

I’m 5+3 and don’t feel pregnant at all. Possible waves of nausea but nothing at all like I had with DD so I think I’m imagining it. If it wasn’t for the lack of period I’d be none the wiser. We go away on Thursday so it will be nice to hopefully have an enjoyable week away and come home to being 7 weeks.

I think I’m about the same number of weeks as you @DartmoorDoughnut. My booking appt isn’t until the 20/12 though as I wanted it after 8 weeks and closer to 9. Purely because it gives me less time to my scan then and I’ve got a good chunk of that taken up by Christmas!

I still feel like I have to qualify everything with “if” or “maybe” but I have to remember that there’s no reason this won’t go the same as DD rather than the MC! I’m trying to be calm about it but it’s not always working! I might feel better if I start feeling pants in a couple of weeks as I remember I didn’t feel rubbish with the MC but did with DD!

Hi everyone may I join? Congratulations to everyone. I’m 6+1. Feeling super sick (but without actually being sick), tired, and with sore boobs. Oh and so so constipated!! (Sorry, tmi.)

I feel like those of us expecting in summer are slightly unlikely just because we’ve got to conceal a pregnancy over the Christmas period. I’m having a tough time at work. I don’t want to tell before 12 weeks for obvious reasons. So I’ve decided not to go to the office Christmas party because not drinking will out me in a second, plus I’m just too tired to go to a party. But some of my team have taken major offence at me not going and have said some quite mean things. I know it’s petty and in the scheme of things it doesn’t matter and in a few months I won’t care but I’m still upset about it.

*unlucky not unlikely

@fortheloveofdonuts @crakpot
I’m on the anti sickness but god still felt really nauses tonight and had to have a sick bowl incase... don’t know if it was because I was due another tablet or what. But felt crappy all evening!

@noparticularpattern I have noticed they do make me feel a bit drowsy! So did you find after a few days of taking them you didn’t feel as drowsy? I’m just taking them twice a day a min don’t know whether to go up to 3.

Back to work Thursday I’ve asked my boss to book things in in the morning time as this is when I tend to feel ok then in afternoon I could go home but I do always seem to have meetings and I have a student I need to support too. Also my boss is the only one who knows and She’s off next week. Just a bit nervous how I’ll be at work!

@Monkeynuts18
Congratulations!
Aw that’s not very nice. Once they will find out your pregnant they will realise and everything will make sense but still they shouldn’t judge and they should just accept and respect your choice. I’ve got my Xmas party and I think I’m going ( it’s cost me £45 for a start) but going to drive. I have an underlying bladder condition that flares up with alcohol so that’s going to be my excuse but I just know people are going to start guessing! Try not to let it get you down. You have enough to think about

Congrats monkeynuts!! That’s not very nice of them to be horrid about you not going!! Give them the good old Mumsnet “it’s an invitation not a summons!!”.

@Meg1389 yeah I found that trying to take them on an evening (mine were only once a day as I wasn’t vomiting constantly, just couldn’t function with the nausea) really helped break the back of the drowsiness. I definitely felt better on them and do think I eventually started to feel less drowsy whilst on them. I could function which was better than before I had them and when I first got them when I would just sleep. Either I built up a tolerance or I just got used to functioning whilst taking them. It was definitely preferable to feeling absolutely hideous 100% of the time! I remember counting down the weeks until I was in the third trimester and keeping my fingers crossed that it would all go away. Thankfully I was at my worst 7-14 weeks and then it did Peter off (but not go completely!). How many weeks are you now?

@Monkeynuts18 omg the constipation.. I had to get something from the pharmacy. And thankful after a horrible week I'm pretty much back to Normal on that front now

@NoParticularPattern
I’m 7w+5 felt nauses since week 6. Not vomited but I was stuck in bed all day just feeling so sick and woozy. I’m off food but forcing myself to eat little and often. I’m literally counting down till I get to 12 weeks and hoping I feel better. I know it’s part of it but it has got me so down feeling so dreadful all the time. Found the tablets have at least held the sickness feeling off till about 5pm then it seems to kick in even being on the tablets, but only on day 3 don’t know how long they take to get in your system? We’re you never sick then just felt sick till week 14. It doesn’t help me like but I have a bit of a phobia of being sick which may seem daft to some people but I’ve had it for years.i feel really pathetic having the phobia and I don’t have it as bad as some people do but it’s another reason it’s got me down a bit. But I’ve got to persevere and it will all be so worth it I know.

I’ve not really had constipation but found I’ll have more a bad tummy more than anything? Sorry if TMI but read this can be normal too? Guess with me not eating what I usually do it’s going to affec my stomach!

Really glad I found you bunch of lovely people.

@Meg1389 I hear you with the bad tummy 😳

@meg1389 thank you. You are 100% right - hopefully in six weeks they’ll understand. It’s just upsetting - these are people I usually get on really well with. But you’re right, I’ve got bigger fish to fry!

@noparticularpattern - I’ll give that a try! I genuinely have felt like saying something like that - it should be a choice!

@fortheloveofdoughnuts - haha, I’m so glad someone understands! What did you get from the pharmacy?

I’m really glad I’ve found this thread - I don’t know what you guys have found but I’m finding early pregnancy quite isolating. I haven’t told anyone except my DH and the GP - so haven’t told friends, family or colleagues. My DH doesn’t want to talk about it very much because he’s terrified something we go wrong, plus there’s only so much I can whinge to him about feeling sick and constipated! I don’t see the midwife for another 2.5 weeks. So I’m feeling quite lonely!

@Monkeynuts18 it can feel quite isolating and I’m quite surprised how not only it’s affected me physically but mentally too. Had some pretty down days which I didn’t expect as I’m over the moon to be pregnant but I became incredibly anxious and verge of being depressed with the symptoms and then thee were concerns of eptopic. I don’t want people to think I’m ungrateful I really am not and I know how others have had some extremely tough days recently. I guess things just test and affect everyone differently.

I ended up having to tell my parents more because I felt so anxious and needed someone to talk to. His parents now know and my boss at work. It’s difficult keeping it from people you feel such a liar! But this group is really helpful so thank you everyone xxx

MonkeyNuts that's exactly what this thread is for! I've had to persuade my DH that I should tell my previous mumsnet "bus" group (from when I had my DS) as it's this pre-12-week time when you feel most isolated.

Hi everyone, please can I tentatively join you all? I'm 5+1, due date 28th July I think. This will (hopefully) be DC1 for me, but I've had a chemical pregnancy and two MMC over the last 18 months, a,nd am 41. Finding early pregnancy so hard, but it's reassuring to hear that many of you are in the same boat. I have a very busy job, and usually the weeks fly by, but sine I got my BFP the week has gone sooooo slowly. I am so excited to become a Mum, but equally terrified of miscarrying again - I'm not sure I can take it a third time. It has taken me about a year to get pregnant again after our last MMC. I don't have that many symptoms so far, other than sore boobs, burping more than usual, and feeling particularly knackered. I found it so hard to concentrate at work today, hard to think of anything else other than the pregnancy, and worrying that things will go wrong again. I was just counting down the hours until I could go home. We're hoping to get an early scan, around 7-8 weeks, but I'm already stressing about having to get time off work for that. The EPU gave me a card after my last MMC giving me open access for an early scan. My midwife booking in appointment is booked for 18th Dec. Last time I was pregnant it took 5 scans, over the course of about 3.5 weeks, to diagnose the MMC, which spanned Christmas, so I spent Christmas staying with relatives, scared of starting to miscarry, as I knew by that point that the pregnancy wasn't viable. Really hoping to not have a repeat of that this year. The not drinking is not much of a problem for me as I don't drink much anyway, so people won't really bat an eyelid at me not drinking. Anyway, I sound thoroughly miserable from what I've written I think - I am delighted to be pregnant, but just dreading a possible repeat of previous pregnancies. Thank you to you all for posting your experiences on this thread - I've read them all, even though I've only just posted myself, and it really does help to hear of others in the same situation.

@bubble77bee congratulations and fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy xx

Welcome, all the lovely new people.

Bubble I also had my MMC over Christmas, waiting to see what happens and knowing it wasn't to last, so Christmas is a bit of a funny time. Here's hoping this one is a better one!

MonkeyNuts similar happened with me and our work Christmas do. Commiserations. I think ultimately they mean well. I really can't be near other people's food at the moment though!

NoParticularPattern thanks for sharing your experience of the tablets, I will give your approach a go!

Feeling quite fragile this evening, everything is doom and gloom, everything seems difficult. Hormones, eh!

And, in other news, I just made myself gag reading a thread on here about Christmas food and accidentally woke up DH. 😭

Hi all, tentatively joining you at 5+6 - so 6 weeks tomorrow. Me and my husband tried for three years and it's taken us three cycles of IVF to get this far. Delighted to have my first ever BFP but feeling quite anxious.

Symptoms are reassuringly strong - nauseous but extremely hungry all the time. Very sore boobs. Tired but seem to have insomnia. Crazy dreams. Peeing loads - having to get up in the night to wee.

Getting stomach cramps, more at night I think. Bit unnerving but feel more like things stretching than cramping if that makes sense.

Right now to try and get some sleep...

Crackpot1 I've started feeling a bit nauseous now and it was particularly bad in my two hour long end of year appraisal meeting! I found it helpful to squeeze my thumbs (like make a fist with your thumb inside or use the other hand to squeeze your thumb). Not sure if it's distraction or what but it seems to surpress the gag reflex and is quite discrete. I learnt this technique when I was much younger as a way to give a better BJ

No names picked out here! I like Colin for a boy but DH thinks he would get called colon...

Has anyone else upped their food intake? I've been so knackered each morning that I doubled my breakfast and it seems to have helped somewhat. Quite worried about putting on too much weight though.

TwittleBee not surprised you've got a weird mix of emotions, it's a horrible limbo that you're in. I really hope everything works out.

AIDE2424 really hope you get your results soon.

Oops sorry I think I didn't refresh the thread and it's moved on!

Morning all, I've just enjoyed chucking up my water upon waking today. Starting to feel as badly pregnant as I did with DS now.
I must be pregnant.

All good points you make still KinCat haha. I'm sure we have all done that before, I know I once replied to the 1st page of comments rather than the last page!

Hi Trying2bemum welcome and good luck on this pregnancy! And yes the stretching does make sense.

Welcome everyone else too! Fill in the Google Doc (link in OP) if you wish to x

It will be TMI but does anyone mind if I share a pic? I really need some advice x

The sickness has started, in a strange way I’m happy 😂 least I have some more symptom now!

My sister got admitted into hospital last night for her chest I’m sure the local hoosital will be charging my family rent soon if we all keep having a go 😂

Work have kindly given me the week off until Friday after my scan so im twiddling my thumbs this week,

How is everyone else feeling?

Also can I just add and say Thankyou for everyone’s support over the last few days it’s reslly help been able to come on here and vent!xx

Giraffe, I’m sure we won’t mind. Share away.

@Giraffe of course! I don’t think anyone is squeamish here!

Welcome all newbies! I’ve been mental with work (ugh) so just catching up a bit and taken me ages to read all this! I’ve finally booked the midwife (and randomly she had an appointment today) so probably jinxed it but hey ho!

@TwittleBee glad to hear you are feeling shit.... you know what I mean! :)