July 2019 Part 3 - Still in the 1st Trimester!

[TwittleBee]

Starting a new thread as we near the 1000 comment mark on the Part 2 one!

It is nearly December and I am sure all we want for Xmas are healthy pregnancies and babies

Good luck to everyone still here and so sorry for how many we have already lost on the way

Here is a new, editable, link for the google Doc Register:
docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1y-XaVbeNQM-bCGlr_UxXxcBBNGUfIVQY_4htZRUpbbw/edit?usp=sharing

Going to be exciting when the 12 week scan photos start rolling in!

Morning lovelies... Hello newcomers and congrats,

No change to my symptoms or really with me at all.

Yesterday we went to see a flat to rent seeing as we didn't live together 100% before getting pregnant. I'm absolutely fell in love with the place and want to rent the place only thing is that the owner is seeing other people because there's been so much interest and then they'll decide who they want... I played the pity card and told her that we're looking for a place to raise out children and we really want to be sorted out while still in the first few months, really emphasised that we need to find a perfect pace before I get to big and even offered to pay her 2 rent upfront this Tuesday, but she just said to call on Friday and she'll let us know.... I realllllly want that flat it's perfect...... I'm thinking about calling her again in a while just to remind her that we want it and we're perfect tenants, but I don't want to seem to pushy.

When I’ve really pushed to have a poo this morning, this was there when I wiped. Do I need to worry?

@Giraffe can you tell where it came from? Could be from your bum from pushing hard? And if not, sure is fine, only a tiny bit and probably was just dislodged with all the activity. I had lots more than that, out of nowhere and all ok.

I don’t think it was from my bum but I do think it was maybe just from way up from pushing hard. Just been for another poo and there was nothing x

Giraffe if that was from needing to push your poo out you might have just burst a blood vessel or have a fissure? But if you think it was from your V then perhaps it could be from pushing too hard and you've burst a vessel in there? There is a lot more blood down that way tam and all much more sensitive. Phone your GP today though and get checked though to put your mind at ease

Can I ask you guys something? I've been sick multiple times each day from Friday. Finally took the day off work today and my boss is blunt as fuck about it. They know I'm pregnant yet it's always a worse reaction when I'm unwell than anyone else... can they physically do anything? I've only had today off so far and I'm 8 weeks today. But sickness is really really kicking in and ramping up!

Ensure you have it in writing that they know you are pregnant, for example write on your absence form the reason you are off work is due to sickness from being pregnant. That should protect you as long as you arent in a probationary period Delilah7 as then things get a bit tricky.

I feel for you, I was pushed out of my previous two companies due to pregnancy / being a mum. I know how hard it is. They might not be able to do anything like straight out fire you but they can make it difficult and bully you.

@TwittleBee yep, they have it written down for other stuff anyways. I wrote it in an email about scans midwife appointments etc. I've been there nearly two years, they just act so different about illness when it's in pregnancy. It's so unfair. I don't always wanna puke my guts up continuously at work. It's exhausting

Delilah I know, its bloody tough and totally unfair. Such a shake how there is still such a stigma about pregnancy in a lot of work places.

@TwittleBee I need to make sure I'm armed with as much information as possible! X

www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/rights-at-work/parental-rights/rights-while-youre-pregnant-at-work/

@Dellilah is your boss a bloke by any chance?!

Certainly read the Sick pay bit Delilah as having a lot of sick pay in the qualifying 8 weeks can affect what you will get paid over your mat leave

Morning ladies,

Ive had really bad mornign sickness over last 10 days... the morning sickness i can deal with but what I've been really struggling with is the acid reflux and they burny sicky burps thats obv flared up because I keep being sick (ive had problems in past pre pregnancy with acid reflux and tummy problems) Phoned the doc today and shes prescribing me Omeprazole!! HAPPY DAYSSSSSS!!

@Giraffe888 i had that a few weeks ago and after the intial panic of tryin to find out where it came from i just accepted that it came from doing a poo.

@Delilah7 as others have said keep a note of abso everything on paper. keep your own diary if you must of ways you feel like they are treating you different. Legally they cant touch you for any pregnancy illness. Its a shame that they are making you feel this way and not being supportive!

Twistering literally what I was thinking too, although have seen plenty of cases over MN in the years where its the women who give the pregnant women grief!

My 2 previous employers were male heavy, traditional house building environment. They still insisted I went onto Sites right up to mat leave!

@Monkeynuts18 lactulose. Definitely did the trick

Morning all,

Sorry to those who are struggling with sickness

@Giraffe888 that must have been quite a scare. I've no advice really as I'd be the last person you wanna speak to re blood. I'm in the minority regarding experience with losing small amounts of blood and I certainly do not want to scare you. Generally, loss of a little blood is very normal, especially if straining - get some prune juice!

@Delilah7 your employer sounds horrific! It makes me feel very lucky to be where I am. I can't imagine working for anyone so insensitive. I'm not sure what the law is around taking time off for pregnancy issues.

My work have even provided me an extra laptop so, if I'm feeling crappy in the morning and my laptop is at work, then I still have one at home so I can WFH if I need to.
You don't work for the public sector do you? My DP does and they are pretty much sociopaths when it come to needing time off for any real reason.

Me? Well I'm counting the hours down until Scan Day tomorrow. Actually, this time tomorrow I should be in the scan room
I'm having terrible flashbacks to when we lost our sweet little Emily at this same stage. Those immortal words "your baby's heart has stopped beating" just fill me with absolute dread. My mind is doing all sorts, and I am desperately clinging onto thinking this just cannot happen again - how bad would our luck be to lose a third after such a long time of darkness.

I know the world doesn't work like that, but I honestly don't believe I'll be able to cope with it happening again. I'm just not strong enough to go through it again.

No. Positive, positive positive! There will be a happy and healthy little baby in there tomorrow with a lovely heartbeat, and baby will have grown to where he/she should be! None of this 2 weeks behind dates rubbish.

@Meg1389 I wasn’t sick a lot but I was sick. It was very random and would just suddenly come over me. I’m hoping I don’t get it too badly this time as I have visions of having to just ditch DD wherever we are and run to the loo 😂😂 the nausea was absolutely crippling though! I also have a bit of a sick phobia. I’m fine when I’m actually sick, but the thought of it and feeling sick is just bloody awful.

Still nothing to report here. Pretty convinced I’ve made it all up 😂

I’ve been to docs for blood test, go back thurs for repeat x

@Frazzlerock lots of love, darling. All will be fine and I can't wait to hear your news tomorrow once you've had your scan and seen your healthy little bean.
Has anyone any advice re bad backs?! On 31st October I herniated a disc in my back. It was the week before we conceived this little peanut. I've been to a chiropractor, and a physio. Took 2.5 weeks off work, then returned last week. By the time I'd done 2 full days (classroom assistant in a primary school) my back was so bad I felt like I'd gone back to the beginning. So went back to gp who suggested reduced hours and amended duties. Now, they've asked me to do afternoons only, which I did on weds and thurs. Then they needed me Friday morning so I worked then. I rested all weekend then back in yesterday afternoon. Problem is, I have to lean over, crouch down, sit, and all of those things are really painful. Obvs now I'm pregnant (5w2d) it's really important I get it fixed before I get heavier. I have woken up today in so much pain. I've emailed work to say I'm not coming in. I can feel the disc bulge through my skin. I'm lying flat on the sofa with a hot water bottle under me. Anyone got any advice as to how I can get this better? It seems as if going to work isn't helping, but I hate being off

@Delilah7 make sure any illness related to pregnancy is recorded separately from any other sickness absence. It can't be used against you in formal managing attendance protocol. So if you had 2 period of sick and a 3rd would move you up a level in your companies attendance protocol if it's pregnancy related it can not be included.

@Giffafe that looks fresh blood so if it came out your bottom it’s most likely if you have been constipated and been straining on the loo that’s it’s burst a vessel. Keep an eye on if it continues. If you poo is black or tarry then you need to tell your GP has this could mean a bleed in your stomach ( had this before that’s how I know) but I think that is from straining on the loo.

I've had some bleeding this morning. Ladies who've been referred to their epu. How long had it taken you to be seen? Still waiting for my gp to call me back about the referral

ForTheLoveOfDoughnuts took 5 days for me to be referred but I was only 5 weeks so they weren't too worried because they said it is was ectopic then it wouldn't be a concern for a few weeks yet and they also said if it was a MC then there wasn't really much they could do anyway. Really does differ from area to area though. Are you okay? I really hope you aren't panicking too much and it all turns out okay xx

fortheloveofdoughnuts they saw me the next day - sorry to hear this but hopefully it isn't anything bad. But as some of the ladies on here told me and I subsequently discovered from the EPU, you can self-refer.

Delilah7 that's really rubbish for you, as the others say, not much they can do officially but we all know how bullying some bosses can be, just keep records. I'm a solicitor and you would think a law firm would be better behaved - but they're terrible - but nobody likes to say anything so they get away with it. My boss sits on the equality and diversity committee at work and yet she's terrible and such a bully. Just think, the health of you and your baby are more important and you dont need the stress.

Frazzle I really hope all goes well, I think you'll be fine!