June 2018 #4

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts again.

June 2018 #3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3100612-june-2018-3

I’ve not had pre e but a friend has. She found the magnesium made her feel awful but after a few days she felt fine again.

Are the boys doing well? Do they need to reach a certain weight or age or milestone before they can go home?

Wowee just checking in here having not been in for a while. Many congratulations to you @ClareB83.

Hope you're all doing well.

They stopped the magnesium sulphate when my cannula broke and it was just pouring into my arm instead. So I've been off that about two days.

They have various things they have to hit including weight (Joe was born 5g shy and expect he'll lose some before he puts it back on; Max is already over the top). They like to see them breathing and feeding normally, have to be registered with a GP etc. We're sorting the admin but the boys need to do the growing stuff!

Aw joe and max!!!!(sorry I must have missed their names up thread!) hope you get your strength back soon and they continue to do well x

Oh what awesome names @clareb83!! I hope you start feeling better soon.

Sorry @Cookie1831 I probably forgot to say. But yes Joe and Max 😍.

Lovely names @ClareB83. Glad to hear you are all doing ok hope it won’t be too long before you are all home together

Congratulations Clare on the boys! Joe and Max are awesome names

How's everyone's weekends been?

Very long haha, today seems to be going very slowly 😆 how has yours been @Northenbeachbum ?

I wish mine was the same @jade, i cant believe ive already got to go back to work tomorrow, I'm not ready!!! Had a lovely lazy weekend though

We've had a bit of a crap weekend. I still suffering from a bad cold that I've had for 2 weeks and can't seem to shake. DH then started symptoms of said cold with a temperature so has been laid up in bed most of the time and to top it all DS (who also has the dreaded cold) has also got a D&V bug so he's been puking quite a bit - mainly over our just cleaned carpets .

One advantage has been I've ironed all the baby clothes for the hospital bag. Our flat is in an absolute tip though which I hate!
Sorry for the moan!

Moan away @sparklesandbubbles! Colds are especially evil when you can't take cold and flu tablets! How is your DS now?

I'm impressed you've ironed the baby clothes.....hopefully the hospital won't notice my lax parenting

@SparklesandBubbles I've been suffering with a bad cold too! I now have an infection either behind my wisdom tooth or in my sinuses so I need to get that sorted because half of my face is in agony.
It's so crappy not being able to take much to help any pain! I hope your cold improves soon and you feel a lot better x

@Northernbeachbum I don't normally iron anything!! I just had the urge to iron the newborn clothes for some reason!

DS had a good sleep at lunchtime and seems a bit better - he's managed to keep some toast and apple down and we're going to try him on some pasta. He's not quite himself though - secretly I'm hoping it means he's shattered and will actually go to bed at a reasonable time tonight (he was up till 10:45pm last night and again between 1-3:30am!).

Thanks @WreckItRach And @Northernbeachbum This cold is driving me mad as it just won't shift - I've tried inhalations and also Sterimar to try and unblock me but it just keeps coming and the cough is not great either (it's seriously testing my pelvic floor!!!)

I'm getting a bit concerned that I'm due in just under 4 weeks and have so little energy I have no idea how I'm going to get through labour!

Hope you are all feeling better soon @SparklesansBubbles.
I’m actually looking forward to tomorrow kids have fought all weekend so I’m looking forward to them being in school (sounds awful I know but it’s been a very long weekend).
As much as I want peace and quiet I’m also dreading being on my own again this week, nothing wrong with being on my own usually I just feel so lonely at the moment. Doesn’t help that I don’t really like being around people but still 😕
Hopefully it will be a better week than last week though 😊

@SparklesandBubbles that's so awful, have you asked your MW for any ideas to help shift it? Resting as much as you can now will hopefully help it shift before you go in to labour. Other women that have had a cold said that it went during labour and came back after, so hopefully you will be fine!

@jadeward89 try and keep yourself busy and distracted, I'm sure the day will go quickly for you. If not, chat lots on here!

Yeah I’ve already planned to strim the front garden tomorrow (only a small garden) couldn’t do it over the weekend because of the neighbours (odd people) got to do it whilst they are in work which means hubby can’t do it as he’s in work too. Hoping to see my nan this week at some point

@WreckItRach I've got a midwife appointment tomorrow so I'll ask and see what she says. She'll probably send me off to the GP I imagine.

@jadeward89 I was looking forward to DS going to nursery tomorrow morning as I've got tons of freelance work to finish up this week but I'm pretty sure I can't send him in as he was sick and had diarrhoea this morning.
Sorry you feel lonely at the moment - can you set yourself a little project to do or perhaps just make sure you get yourself out of the house. I also usually find if I write down a list of things I want to get done it helps my self-esteem seeing what I've ticked off in the day.

Oh blimey, loads of colds going around! Hope you feel better @wreckitrach and @sparklesandbubbles and your DS is on the mend too!

@jadeward89 do the neighbours not like the shorter grass so you have to cut it on the sly?

No our neighbours just don’t like us. They were friendly when we moved in but over the last year she has become an fing cow. She has two kids (ones in mid 20s one is 11/12) and has no idea what it’s like to parent 3 children close in age that bicker and fight. Once had a go because one of them ran up the stairs and she could hear it (I couldn’t be bothered to point out that the neighbours do exactly the same thing just as often and they are older) she is someone who knows all the goings on of the street too so I try and keep away from her as much as possible. It’s hard work telling the kids to walk up the stairs (I’m aware you’ll hear noise on the stairs when they are attached to the house next door I just live with it and I do wish the kids wouldn’t run on the stairs it annoys me too lol). Sorry that was longer than I meant for it to be

Sounds like they have too much free time!!

Had really painful Braxton hicks over night (guessing that's what they were anyway!). To the extent I started wondering if they were actual contractions!

I had a bit of a meltdown last night.

The boys are doing really well and it looks like we might be able to bring them home on Thursday but part of the hospitals process is parents staying overnight in this little twin room on the ward with the babies for a night or two.

I really don't want to do this. I think I'm a little more traumatised by my stay there last week than I realised especially the nights when I was there alone and often involved me getting bad news or unpleasant stuff happening when I was on my own (eg being told my kidneys were failing, my catheter being allowed to totally fill) and I really don't want my whole family living in that horrible hospital.

Also it seems a bit pointless:our boys don't have special medical needs where we need staff on hand. I think they'll pop in to take their temperature a couple of times but otherwise leave us alone. It's also a horrible looking room with no kitchen or windows and the idea of being in there from tonight until Thursday morning is awful.

But I'm afraid to challenge the process with the staff as I've discovered the boys notes also include our 'performance' as parents and I don't want them to say we can't take them home.

That also feels really shitty, just because my babies were premature I have to pass a load of tests to take them home. While other idiots just walk off the post natal ward. Literally there is a checklist of stuff we have to achieve to take them home eg registering with GP.

It doesn't help I have to have the conversation on my own as DH is at work trying to clear some things so he can take paternity leave from Thursday and/or be there in that room all day Friday. I'm usually so confident but 1) still recovering from PE and birth and 2) the hospital have the biggest bargaining chip in the world - my babies!

Not sure what I expect you ladies to say but just needed to let it out.

It does seem unfair that you have to jump through certain hoops. Are there any mws you get on with that you could ask, put the feelers out?

@clareb83 I can completely understand your frustrations! It's very odd you are being judged more than anyone else just because they were early. As annoying as it is I think it's a case of jump through the necessary hoops to get the boys home (great they're doing so Well!!!).

I don't think I'd want to stay in a hospital where all that happened either so I know it's easier said than done.