June 2018 Babies

[ladydolly]

Looks like I'm the first one here! A thread for those with babies due in June 2018.

Good afternoon ladies,
Glad to everyone is ok.
My boobs have been very sore for the last 3 weeks. Had my scan today everything is ok. Unfortunately I have been referred back to colposcopy which I assumed was over and done with.
But I get another scan in two weeks so that makes me happy.

Well I was all booked in for my first midwife appointment, but apparently I needed the afternoon clinic and not the morning clinic so I dragged my DS out in the miserable weather for nothing and now I need to wait until next week

My boobs and nipples are so sore today, it makes me worried about breastfeeding - I've heard the first few weeks are agony.
In 10 weeks I'll be home for Christmas and be telling everyone, normally those weeks fly by, I hope theyre quick this year too!
No sickness yet, but I'm 5+1 so I think it's still a bit early.

Apologies for the slightly rambly post but I’m hoping someone can shed some light on my bf’s behaviour / mood. We’d spoken about starting a family for about the last 18 months and finally decided to go for it. He genuinely seemed delighted when I got a bfp. Now he’s saying he’s feeling overwhelmed (we are trying to buy and sell a house too to be fair) and asked if I’d keep the baby if he walked away. As much as I don’t want to be a single parent, I would keep it. I’m not getting any younger and who knows how long it would take to get to that stage in another relationship. I’m just trying to understand if it’s normal for partners / husbands to wobble like this with a first child due or if I need to be worried. I’m know none of you will have the answers - I’m just a bit lost and upset by all this.

@IrnBruCraver I definitely agree it does put your mind at ease having an early scan. DH only thinks it’s a waste of money because it’s still early days and anything can still happen. I will still book it though! Hope you’re not feeling too bad but at least it’s a good sign!

@Mummyloves09 glad your scan went well!

@hoopdeloop what a disappointment! Must have been so frustrating

• I know.

Part of me just wants to tell him to grow up. He’s 42 ffs.

@Zoo33

I don't think that a reaction that extreme is 'normal'

I'd be very upset and confused.

@Zoo33 sorry my screen hadn’t updated when you posted. That’s an awful situation to be in, I’m sure he is just having a panic about it and will come around. It’s still not great I know but try and just look after yourself. I’m sure it will work out!

@ZOO33 sorry to hear this it doesn't sound 'normal ' tbh but maybe he is having a bad day or week etc.

@Zoo33 I think he's just having a little wobble. It's a scary time for a bloke - it's all out of their control and they watch their partner become completely obsessed with this teeny little thing they can't see and aren't involved in.

My DH was talking about trying for a baby for aaaaaages, so we did...for 2 days (over my fertile window!). On day three he had a little panic and said he wanted to wait for another couple of months. We were super lucky - It was of course too late, the deed was done, and when I got my bfp he was absolutely delighted and his little wobble flew out of the window. He's now super excited, even if not overly understanding of why I'm feeling so tired!

I do feel for you, it's an emotional enough time without extra worry and stress, but I'm sure he doesn't mean it and probably is being a bit selfish and worrying about himself and not you! I really hope you're ok. Is he going to your early scan with you?

I think having a wobble is normal, but this seems a lot more than a wobble. I think he needs to have a serious think about what he wants and why his reaction is to walk away. If you're buying a house it sounds like you're already pretty committed to a future together? I hope you're ok, I'm sure you'll have lots of support, whatever happens and you'll always have us. X

@zoo33 No advice for you here, but I hope you’re ok. It sounds a very odd question given his initial reaction to the BFP and the previous 18 months discussions, but hopefully it’s just a huge but brief wobble.

I got phoned by the midwife today to organise my booking in appointment- so it’s all starting to feel a bit real (I’m 5+2 with zero symptoms!). Here the booking in is done at my house, which is novel, compared to where I was when pregnant with DD, and the booking in was done at the local hospital. I also found out I can have the IONA test done through Stoke Mandeville for £300, so that’s what I’ll be going for! 😊

weasledee what number pregnancy is this for you? I don't remember when exactly did nausea kick in with others but around 6-7 weeks so you still have time for it to knock you out!
I know I'm a bit ahead of what my dates are so I booked my scan in for 6+4. Did ask the place if they would do an internal if not much is picked up and they said.
Does anyone know how early does internals pick up heartbeat or is the same as the normal ultrasound just slightly more sensitive?

Well this is my 4th pregnancy (one early miscarriage and one late) the previous 3 times it’s started on day 1 of week 6 without fail and in a big way! I’m now 6+2 and nothing.
Quite concerned

Thanks ladies, you’ve made me feel a bit better. I’m hoping it is just a wobble (I think he’s super stressed at the idea of selling his house so that we can buy one together). I might give him a bit of a mental slap tonight though as I don’t need this stress! He also talks of getting married so I’ve always thought we were committed to each other.

@lampert I hope he’s coming to the scan! If he doesn’t then I guess I have my answer... I’m hopeful he’ll snap out of whatever is bothering him when we see the baby on the scan. I totally understand about your DH changing his mind - I came off the pill for 1 day before he said he wasn’t ready, then he was upset when I told him I’d gone back on it (I think he was surprised he was feeling upset). I came off it properly later that month.

I suppose one positive (?) thing if I do have to do this alone is that I can move out of London and give up my stressful job (I’m no good at it anyway).

@Zoo33 I'm sure it's just a wobble. I'm sure he'll be back on board before long! Sounds like you've been planning a future together in some way or other for some time now!!

I have just had a scan (7+4). It's part of my treatment plan as I had PGD treatment. Anyway, I saw the wee Sticky Bean and it's heart was beating. Incredible!!!!!! Can't quite believe it!!!

Wow our first group scan! Brilliant lorz!

Wow amazing! Congrats!

Wow that's so exciting @Lorz80

@Zoo33 I would take your DP to some sort of couples counselling. This needs to be talked about openly and really addressed asap. It doesn't sound normal and you shouldn't have to deal with it right now. Whatever happens I hope you'll be ok.

Lorz80 Yay the first scan photo!!! How exciting. Glad all is ok!!!! Makes me want to book an early one ...

Zoe33. I'm really sorry your dealing with this and really really hope it's just a weird "bad day" man thing, tell him there will always be a reason to put it off but it's happening now and everything. WILL work out. Me and my DH are currently awaiting all the solicitors crap as sold our house and brought our new family home and I know it's more stress on him than me as his the point of contact but it really will be fine. Some people are in terrible situations ... apparently dads to be who are struggling really don't "feel" the connection until either the scan, the baby starts moving, or sometimes even when babies born. Cxx

Hi, jumping in! Got my BFP on Sunday after a very rocky road TTC. The midwife put me at 7 weeks, but my cycles are very irregular so could be a week or two out.
I have chronic illnesses (endometriosis & interstitial cystitis) and had a post-partum haemorrhage (sp?) last time around (DS is 4yo) so I'm very nervous about increased risk of miscarriage & complications. DH is FREAKING OUT & consequently flitting around doing housework like the Tazmanian Devil so I don't have to .
However I am very excited and so lucky to have finally got to this point!

Wow @Lorz80!!! Huge congratulations on the scan, that is amazing to see!!

Anyone else got scans coming up? I've got one on sat and thinking about it makes me feel soooooooo nervous!

Lorz80 and mummyloves congratulations on your scans.... that's fab, you must feel you can relax a bit now.

Can't wait to have one but I have at least 2-3 weeks to wait before it would show, I'm only 4.3. How is time going so slowly....?

Zoe sorry you're dealing with that, can't believe what he said and I really hope he snaps out of it fast...

Congrats Gerty :) and hello x

I've a scan on the 25th - I've had some cramping today which has worried me a tiny bit. I know it's normal as I had it last time round but I suppose I'm still nervous. I'm 6+1 today - feeling slightly nauseous all day - hope that goes soon

I had a scan on Sunday. And posted my scan pic 🙁

@Lorz80 Lovely scan pic! Congrats!!