May 2018 thread 2: first trimester, early scans and first heartbeats

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Ladies,

Welcome to thread 2 for babies due in May 2018.

Looking forward to early scans, seeing the first flutters and progressing further into the first trimester.

That’s amazing poppy so excited for you! 9 weeks today, feeling v rough and eagerly awaiting the second trimester to feel human again!

Sorry everyone who's not feeling too well. It's a bit of a moans-net at the moment isn't it? :)

May I add my own? On top of sickness and tiredness, we're having a really bad time with my son. His tantrums have reached a new level - he attacks me and follows me out of the room trying to scratch or pinch me. It's horrible. My husband had to have him in lock down hug for an hour last night. My son was screaming 'mummy mummy!' but every time he was free he ran to me and pinched me, kicked me, hit me. We're at the end of our tether and I'm really scared of this still being an issue when the baby is born. I just want to quit, it's killing me. He's a lovely boy and he's behaving really well at preschool and with the childminder but every time he's upset with us he lashes out. Also, he started running away when we're out or simply refusing to go home and no amount of bribery or negotiations can get him home. My husband can just pick him up and carry him home but I can't because he's heavy and I have a bad back. This is getting worse by the week and started as soon as we found out I was pregnant! I don't think I was if we had delayed ttc because we are just feeling powerless and basically like we're really failing at parenting. Sorry about the moan, just venting!

Thanks @ladypug
Hope you start to feel better soon, when I got to 11 weeks found I had so much more energy and am starting to feel a lot more like myself again which is great.

Oh dorotha I feel you my DS is the exact same at the moment! If he is frustrated or doesn’t get his way he hits and pinches. Mostly me, not dh so much. Also runs off and I can’t keep up or carry him like you. We are struggling! But he comes home from nursery with stickers and certificates for being so good and helpful - I don’t get it!

9+4 today no scan date yet... nausea reappeared this morning but not surprising as had v tiring weekend. Have a proper bump appearing already even in firm support tights mostly bloating but getting hard to hide!

Thanks @MotherOfBoy it's reassuring, I look around and don't see other children acting this way and feel so down. He's also brilliant with other people - I wonder if it's related? Things got worse with preschool (which he loves!) because he saves up all the negative energy for me because he feels safe to do it? I hate the parent i became recently. I have shouted at him multiple times yesterday, I just don't feel like I'm coping!

Hi Dorotha totally feel for you, we’ve all been there. My dd is the best behaved girl at nursery and we had real trouble with her for a few months (still trouble but we had a particularly bad phase of aggressive outbursts). I spoke to nursery and they said it’s really common and it’s a phase on their developmental chart where children learn to feel anger and frustration and it scares them as it’s so strong so they usually act out in an environment where they are safe and can trust (eg with us). I had many afternoons crying and doubting myself as a mother but it does get easier, sort of. I wouldn’t want to go through it with pregnancy hormones on top of everything else! Be kind to yourself, you’re doing a great job!

Oooh thanks poppy I’m going to focus on that 11 week mark and hope!

Sooo gutted! Scan date has come through for 4 weeks time (13 weeks) and DH is away with work. Called to see if I could change it and they said the internal scan I had early on put me a week behind so I’m now only 8 weeks today, back a week. This is the most depressing day ever!!!

Oh no ladypug how frustrating 😫

So frustrating for you ladypug!

Have had booking appt, now waiting for bloods which will take hours. Got a bit weepy with MW as my grandfather died early this morning, she was v kind.

I'm so sorry @HerSymphonyAndSong (())

Thank you @LadyPug 🌺

ladypug that's very crappy. My first early scan put me back a week and I was definitely a bit "FML another week of the first trimester" but then my second one loves me forwards a few days again, so maybe at your 12 week scan you'll jump forwards again? I'm 10+5 and definitely feeling more and more human as time goes on so I promise there's light at the end of the hideous tunnel.

HerSymphony so sorry about your grandfather, what sad news.

Dorotha Hugs, that sounds super tough, especially when you've all been so poorly too. I think DD has also been pushing more boundaries recently - I guess it just be confusing for her as we usually have quite a strong daily rhythm which all went out of the window as soon as I stated to feel unwell, and her usually energetic and fun mummy has been spending a lot of time in bed / on the sofa feeling gross and eating toast . Today for eg she pushed her bowl off the table, drew on window, and has repeatedly wet herself "because I'm a baby" bangs head on wall. I thought regressions came AFTER the sibling?! I also have huge moment of "WTF have we done having another baby when I can't look after the one I have" & feeling very upset at the effect a sibling will have on DD, but friends with two assure me these are normal feelings and we will all cope. I hope they are right!

Thank you MegsMog that’s made me feel loads better. I hope so! I psyched myself up for week 9 as it was my worst sickness week last time, now thinking I might only be starting week 8 is gutting! To make it all worse at 12 weeks I have an event to go to and was hoping to be honest with family by then but scan isn’t until week after so not sure if I should tell them and hope scan goes ok or try to conceal it even though I’m noticeably bigger! Glad you’re feeling better, can’t wait to feel less sick, that will make everything a bit better!

I’m on my second type of anti sickness tablets and as usual they work for a couple of days and then don’t do anything and I’m back to being stuck in bed.

I’m 12 weeks on Wednesday so fingers crossed it subsides. My scan is 13+1 so a week on Thursday.

Lots of love to everyone feeling so rough - anyone else get really bad tummy ache low down on either or both sides? I'm not experiencing the nausea hardly and tiredness seems to have improved (I am now 11.5 weeks) so there is light at the end of the tunnel but I am experiencing quite painful stomach ache most days - can't decide if it is just "baby" or more digestive? It radiates pain and bloody hurts! Really uncomfortable.
My 12 week scan is this Saturday - keeping fingers and toes all crossed that all will be ok since we had 10.5 week private scan. Be a relief to be able to tell more people but now it's approaching I am worried about jinxing things by telling people! X

Maybe something muscular, like round ligament pain noredwine ? Do you have one of those microwave heat pads or hot water bottle? It really helped with my preggo aches and pains last time.
I have my booking in appt tomorrow and scan is 3 weeks on Wednesday.

Thanks Kirstipops - currently lying in sofa/DH with rice heat pad thingy on stomach!
I get the super sharp pains in uterus pretty much every day but this pain is more dull and long term. Sooo annoying!

ladypug I had exactly the same thing, I had a scan at what I thought was six weeks but the sonographer said it was more like five, I'm almost 100% sure I'm right because I know the day I ovulated and the implant day. My response was 'are you kidding me???? I have a whole other week of this?????' (But was so relieved there was a heartbeat that i didn't mind too much) I showed the pics to my midwife during my booking in and she said not to worry about it as at this stage it's hard to be certain on dates and they could change.

symphony so sorry to hear about your grandad

california you sound like you're having a terrible time, really hope things start to settle down soon as you get to 12 weeks!

nored hope the pain goes away soon, take it easy!

There seem to be quite a few people getting towards 12 weeks now which is making me feel much more positive, fingers crossed the sickness, fatigue and pain goes away for everyone soon!

Hey Aggy that’s so good to know. I know our conception also but they said sperm can live in the body for 7 days! The depressing thing is it’s pushed the scan late (think ill have to tell everyone before the scan as I’ll be showing so much which I didn’t really want) and also I thought this was the last bad week of morning sickness so now I know I prob have another week of that to look forward to!!! 😩

Last time I was sick until 16 weeks.. I felt so cheated because I expected it to end at 12 weeks!

Please please please let the nausea be over by Christmas at least - I know there are lots of fun things we can't eat but I do want to enjoy what I am allowed!

Aggy and Ladypug, that sounds like what happened to me, and that's what made me think I was going to miscarry as there was no embryo on my early scan, just a yolk sac. They said either my dates were out or I was going to lose it and if I started bleeding that answered the question. SO when I started bleeding heavily of course I thought I was losing it. Just a coincidence as I have a hematoma! Turns out the early scan was around 5 weeks 6 days and not between 6-7 as I thought.

My dates were pushed back and when I looked back on my FF chart, I must have conceived 3-4 days after me and DP had sex. Nearly missed the window! I'm not trusting OPKs again that's for sure

Although I won't be using OPKs ever again anyway as this is the last bloody time!

12 weeks today and back at work after a long weekend. Nausea has gone but I'm so grumpy. Colleagues are all wittering about nothing today and getting on my nerves. Think I may have to work from home a bit as I know they are all lovely really but just want to tell them to shut up.
Scan tomorrow evening! Excited but nervous!