Due in Sept '07 - part 3 - The Blooming Stage !?!

[canadianmum]

Due to recent sad news and at the suggestion of others, I have started this new thread. Let's hear everyone's news.......

What a lovely weekend,

Hello hannahsaunt

Hope you're all enjoying your chocolate.
i've been shopping this morning for Maternity clothes. i'm already what feels like enormous, and only 15 wks.
But needed some nice comfy trousers, and we're going on holiday in 3 weeks so i know i'll need clothes by then.

LoopyLouLisa - i can see whay and elective section sounds best for you. Plus i would imagine to recovery time is quicker after an elective than and emergency one after 9 hours of 10cm. Our babies will arrive one way or the other.

Welcome diddle and hannahsaunt!

I can't believe how long this list is.... wow!!

Hope you're all having a fab Easter weekend, isn't the weather great. Mind you, we won't be saying that in July/August. Has anyone else heard the predictions for this Summer - apparently it's meant to be a scorcher ordinarily I'd be celebrating this, bit don't think it'll be fun this year somehow!! Think I might invest in a portable air conditioning unit!

x x

loopylou, can definitely understand why you want an elective. My situation is different, had an emergency cs with no labour due to pre-eclampsia with twins and scar seems fine. Since I am just having one this time, hopefully I can avoid the pre-eclampsia and do the VBAC thing. But if I have to have another c section, it will be fine. healthy mum and babe is all we really care about right? I hope you can avoid PND this time round, at least you will now know the signs and can get treatment straight away.

Welcome Hannahsaunt, big group now!

HIWBB - I needed a portable a/c last summer, very un-green but essential in my house. I have already told DH he will need to rig up a single bed for the cellar if it gets hot this summer. I was born in august during a heatwave and my mother slept in the garden for the last 3 weeks! Of course she didn't live in London....

Hello all, I hope you're enjoying the lovely weather. I'm at work, in a dark windowless room.. bleurgh!! still I'm eating chocolate like it's going out of fashion to make up for it!!

Welcome Hannahsaunt and Diddle. When I found out i was pg, my gp did say september and october were the most popular time to give birth (9 months after christmas hehehehe!) we're certainly proving that's the case!

I'd heard the thing about the scorching summer too, hotter than last year. If that's the case I'm seriously going to rethink when I finish work, I can't face going on the tube if it's anything like last year. One day it was 53 degrees down there, I nearly fainted. God knows what it will be like at 8 months pregnant. I'm quite fortunate that I've got my whole years leave allowance to use up before beginning of september, which is about 5 weeks. What with a couple of days off here and there, I think I'll be able to finish work around the start of August. I can't wait!!!! I was thinking today, as I descended in to the gloom, that's only 4 months!! I was picturing myself sitting in front of a fan, wearing just a sarong, sipping an iced drink while everyone else sweats on the tube.. hehehehe!

Filbrit - lucky you, I can't pretent it's an entirely pleasant sensation, and only increases my need to go to the loo all the time!

Edie - I've got those funny pains again, again after a day sitting at work all day, so I'm sure my muscles are not happy about being squashed up all day! Mind you I did have some muscle aches all around my bump yesterday while having a walk in the park (could have been the sneaky icecream making me pay for my extreme greed!!)

I hope everyone's had a great Easter and has enjoyed the sunshine. it's really put me in the mood for summer this weather has!

Take care xx

Good morning all, am not too impressed at being back to work after such a fab and lazy weekend (did the Easter Bunny visit? )it was sooo nice to get out of the house and feel the sun for once..
I'm planning on a VBAC, my first was by a planned c-section, which was fine except for the recovery after which just took so long and was very painful. So I want to see if I can have a 'normal' birth this time. I've got anoher scan this week, so will ask my ultra-cautious Dr and see what he says. I've got the usual 8 weeks off before the birth, so plan to finish work by what, mid July? That'll be really nice if the weather is really as hot as everyone says, just as long as the nights are cool. 2 years ago I was off for my first, and the summer was crap, it felt like such a wasted time, having to sit inside with all my time off. I've got no pains or anything, the first time I'd LOADS and was constantly rushing to the Dr to check everything was ok, now I'm far to relaxed about the whole thing, but I still haven't felt The Bump move, which I am really missing . I hope it wakes up and moves a bit more, it's such a lovely feeling, knowing it's in there and safe.

Weekend with in-laws - grrrrr. DP was ill so was mostly left on my own. Apparently my baby will be lucky to survive its first year because every choice and decision i am making is bound to result in its grisly and awful demise. Can not tell you how angry i got at the constant judgements and criticism lobbied at me. How do you with kids already cope with other people (unrelated to you) having claims on your baby?
Weekend saved by glorious weather so bunked off for long walks by myself via cafe with cake. (Oh and i was expected not to eat between breakfast at 8.30 on sunday and sunday evening dinner - so i had to literally steal food to survive).

Think i will have calmed down by about Christmas.
x

We moved to London from Australia when DS was 10 weeks old.....not an in-law in sight!!!

Dear all - hope you enjoyed easter.

Sophus - you reminded me about a book i've been reading called "paranoid parenting". Basically it says (so far) that there are so many opinions, judgements and pressures today on being a parent (including during pregnancy) that we make life very hard for ourselves.
I must admit, with my first I put a lot of the pressure on myself - what I should eat / not eat, how I wanted the birth, must use real nappies and breastfeed. The first few months were hard enough without trying to live up to the ideal situations of others.
Now that I see people with their second babies, they seem so much more relaxed. This must be because they have confidence in what they are doing, and aren't to suceptible to everyone else and their opinions. Just be strong - you are in charge and it will all be fine.

Poor sophus!! It's terrible you had to sneak off to eat, TBH right now it would take a charging hoarde of elephants to come between me and my food! I know what you mean about the comments of others. I get the opposite, my sister has two, and if one so much as farts she flies in to a panic and they all stand around scratching their heads as to what could possibly be wrong. I HAPPENED to mention some strange muscle aches that were concerning me the other day and I got rolled eyes and "Oh my God, we're going to have this for the next six months aren't we?" from my sister. GRRRRRRR! I went and had some chocolate, the ONLY solution!

LOL at the massive list of us who are all expecting in September! It's great

Keep drinking lots of water girlies (says she with a bottle of Fanta in her desk )

i snuck off to a cafe when i went walking had a slab of carrot cake and a can of fat coke (it helped to propel me for another 4 hours walking), and when i went back said that i had stopped for a cup of herb tea and a glass of water and as i had been walking for 6 hours, could i possibly be allowed a sandwich. (then stole out to the car and my secret chocoalte stash)

Have told my DP that we are going to lay down some grandparent groundrules - they get to love, support and spoil them but it doesn't give them free rein to judge our parenting.

Also very difficult as their values etc are all so different to my family and how i was brought up.

Promise i will stop ranting eventually.

stop me when i get boring....

OMG sophus!!! You are too polite!!! I'd have been tearing the house apart foraging!

And I am eternally grateful my PIL live abroad!!

Hi all,

Hope you all had fabulous sunny Easter weekends. Its fab to see how many new people have joined the thread. Its gonna be a busy September.

Sophus - I really feel for you. Nobody has the right to judge your parenting least of all your in laws. You need to make sure those ground rules get laid down pronto. When we broke the news to my dh's parents I was treated to my mother in laws opinion on EVERY aspect of pregnancy and child rearing. How she thought this business of them sleeping in the same room as you for the first few weeks was wrong, how she disagreed with bumps being visible (much better to wear a tent for much of your pregnancy) etc etc. The final insult was her telling me she never had a day of sickness when at that point I was still puking for most of each day. I had to take several deep breaths and remind myself that she lives 250 miles away and therefore I won't have to put up with it too often. I bit my lip for the sake of my dh but don't know if I always will be able to manage that.

By the way, I am rhesus neg too but have no card! What does it say on the card? I just thought it meant I had yet more dates with the needle (cos there aren't enough of those are there?). Wouldn't put it past my midwife to forget to do some admin - she has already butchered my arms twice whilst trying and failing to get blood samples. Grrrr.

Afternoon all, hope your not all too fed up being back at work after the long weekend - I know I am!!

Was hoping I can join your board.

I'm 25 and this is my first pregancy and I am due on Sept 7th

Yeah but i sulked like a teenager all weekend, didn't laugh at anything they said. Sneered at my MIL when she said "oh but i'm only teasing", and hopefully generally ruined the weekend for all concerned.

And my MIL offered me fruit crumble for pudding which was "health conscious" fruit crumble which consisted of cold fruit with brown breadcrumbs on top - all uncooked. WTF?????? It was a crime against puddings.

Hopeitwon'tbebig - not looking forward to another scorcher. I was pregnant last summer, until June and it was hot enough then, and having a newborn at that time wasn't great either. He wore nothign for weeks. just a nappy and i was constantly worried he still be too hot. Think we all neeedf to invest in fans now, before the prices get bumped up for the summer.

Mrsmar - love the vision of sitting in just a sarong, sipping a nice cold drink. I love the sun but not when i look like a hippo.

I haven't got to think about time off from work this year, as i'll have my hands full being a SAHM, DS will have just turned 1 when the hot weather comes, and maternity leave should start. Don't think i'll ever know what a rest is!!!

Sophus - what an awful weekend. you hve see some horrible people. Have your in laws being saying those things or just other weirdos? Are you alright? and how on earth did you manage to survive between 8.30 and tea time, i ca't even go a couple of hours.
Stay strong, you're the mommy, nobody else!
Sounds like i'm lucky to have such lovely in-laws, they've been great with first DS and i know they will be with the 2nd baby, but i guess i'd be mad as anything if they totally tried to overrule me all the time. luckily we have the same ideas about parenting

Welcome Gils - How have you been feeling so far?

Sophus, i think that pudding would have been the breaking point for me, i love a good pudding!

The in-laws - OMG! - They just have a way of totally getting to you like no one else does.

I too have had mine to stay for Easter weekend - which was surprisingly lovely and I enjoyed myself. I developed a way of filtering comments, so that I only took notice of things that I wanted to. I've come to the conclusion that, yes I am different to them, but their son has chosen to have his child with me, so they'll just have to get used to it. I have a feeling though that I'll be seeing a lot more of them once the baba is here. Twice a year is just enough, thank you!!

I smiled through clenched teeth when a comment was made about my lack of cooking this weekend and then managed to laugh, when I received a recipe book as a gift. I was also told that I looked like a 'hippy' in a beautiful dress my partner bought me.

Hey ho, I'm sure the fun will just get better when the baba is here. I'll just have to develop my filtering system a bit more!!

emalushka - oh my god, can't believe your suffering from In law abuse too.
See you may be wondering if you're being over sensitive about it, hormonal etc. but your flippin not, thats awful. i'm totally

Ha ha ha. Sophus, your message reminds me of a few Christmas' ago, when we were at the in laws. I had to spend 2 hours sat in the car on my own, as I quite seriously would have strangled one of them.

DP came looking for me and we both ended up just sitting there... it was so bad, it was funny. I'm dreading next Christmas when we most likely will have to spend it with them again.

I'm keeping better now. I had a few early bleeds but everything has calmed down now, even morning sickness. Although every now and then it still catches me out.

Has anyone else felt their baby move, I haven't and I am 19 weeks on Thursday, what does it feel like?

I won't get started on my in laws cause I could be here all day. He has learned to completly block out everything they say but the digs they give can be so hurtful and I've got to try not taking everything to heart.

i shall be a better person and ignore them and smile sweetly.

they are actually very nice and kind and generous people and would do anything for us...

....but they do like to open their mouths before thinking.

And i don't like to be starved. I once snuck off on boxing day for a "bracing walk" and went to the local pier and stuffed my face full of chips and doughnuts.

my mother is now on the warpath that someone has dared to upset her precious pregnant daughter.

I'm off to Mongolia to give birth up a mountain where no-one can bother me, and families aren't allowed.

i don't know if i can feel anything or not. sometimes i think i do, but it might just be wishful thinking - don't exactly have a clue what it should be like. i'm 19 weeks so expecting to so any minute now...

Of course, sophus I have the opposite at my parents house, where I'm fed to the point of being sick!! It's the Italian obssession with over feeding your children.... even when they're in their 30s!!!

I'm 17 weeks tomorrow, and I keep thinking I can feel things. I don't know if it's just wishful thinking. I always thought I'd be freaked out by this alien thingy moving around inside, but I think if I knew for certain that's what it was, I'd be quite reassured.

I spent the 90 mins between dh getting up and me getting up this morning trying to work out if I could feel it. Slight vibrating sensation right at the front of my belly, kind of between belly button and bikini line. My sister said it wasn't until she'd had her 20 week scan that she connected the sensations she was feeling with the baby's movements.

Did I imagine it, or did someone say that how much you can feel it often depends on your body size? I'm certainly no skinny minnie, and I would have assumed thinner people would feel movements sooner, if that theory is correct. Of course it could all just be bull and it's down to the position of the baby and placenta...