May O7ers - W/C 26th Feb

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Morning...............

Buggeration, no house, no holiday, got flu, DH is being bullied at work- found him crying at 4am this morning in the bathroom- haven't bought anything for this baby, got soaked on the way to work. Wish I'd stayed in bed.

And you can all just ignore me, being a miserable old witch today.

Oh SOH, dont think i can say anything that will make you feel better but im sending {{hugs}} your way.

wow they were a good size werent they, I am not too bad lo is being very lively so it nice and reassuring - only problem is my pancreas where i am short my bump is already as high as it can go so everything is very squashed and it is particularly painful - it was the same with dd, still hey ho I knew it would happen, got growth scan next week so that should be interesting, sorry to hear about your concerns over how you will manage fingers crossed for you x

Just had a lovely bundle of boys clothes arrive, about 30 items - even dp liked them

EWWWWW that spider has given me the shivers

Looks like we may be off to Portugal in Sept, will be nice to have a break, we went with dp's family last year and his brothers girlsfriend was awful - I had got on really well with her until we were away - I dont like to judge people too much but what a bitch of a mother, we ended up leaving and spent £750 on a hotel as we couldnt bear it - we were having to sleep on the bloody floor fgs!!! anyway dps mum and step dad have said we can go but the others arent invited so should be quite pleasant - my mum got all worried about me taking a 4.5month old abroad, hopefully will be able to fit in some of my summer stuff

Yes, I'm here. Here since feckin' 7.03 this morning. Boo. I'm going to have to get an early night or I won't last the week. I have just eating two KK's though. One of the women on the desk mentions them to me when she wants some. I'm her "cover" I think, so she doesn't have to look like the biffa walking back from Tesco with the mixed dozen. Am thinking about eaating a third... Are the creme filled ones nice? Or the custard?

Had a good CV in for a temp for my job so I'm going to interview her on Thursday. Dreading it. I'll be more nervous than she is. That said, personality for this job is far more important than qualifications. Most of it is monkey work so I think once I have a chat I'll have an idea whether she'll suit the job.

Strep B MKG?? Not aware that we get that test. I'm not Rh-, no. How is your back?

Scooter, I forgot about your DH studying. It does make sense to wait until he's on a decent salary before taking a big leap on property ladder. It's different for us, because DH's earnings aren't likely to increase massively. Not unless he gets headhunted by some huge investment bank. We can live in hope. Planning to spend more time at home with the girls is a great idea. Definitely more important than an extra bedroom.

Horrid dream Pebble. I had a dream about sh'gging an escort the other night. It was very odd. It was erotic at first and then I felt awful and guilty and then DH found out. I was still thinking about it last night. Odd, odd, odd.

Hope you're ok after your fall. You get such a fright, don't you? Fingers crossed for DS1 that he doesn't have a seizure.

For SOH, there aren't any restrictions on travelling on the Eurostar when pregnant, so I assume the Eurotunnel train for cars is the same. Can't find anything on the website to say otherwise the search term "pregnant" has no results.

That's awful for your DH, SOH.

soh - hugs to you - life sucks sometimes doesnt it, we are all here for you hun xxx

Lupins, I feel your pain. The idea of going on holiday with family fills me with dread. About a year after we met, DD & I went to Australia with DH, his parents, his sister and BIL and her son. It was ok, but I felt like a complete outsider and felt like the whole thing was being organised around me. Like one day they were talking about visiting the reef and I said that I'd like to see it and DH's mum looked surprised and said, "Oh, it's booked for tomorrow, didn't we tell you? I've booked you and S on it of course." I mean, I wanted to go, but was really miffed about not being consulted about anything. And BIL had booked the house and tried to do it on the cheap and when we arrived it was pretty clear that we were supposed to be on a futon in the living room. DH's sis was 6 mths pregnant so we couldn't expect her not to have a bed, DH's parents obv got preferental treatment and got the "granny flat" bit of the house and the other bedroom had twin beds in it, which is where DD and DH's DS were supposed to sleep. DH and I were pretty miffed and moved the beds into the living room and the futon to the separate bedroom in the end, so we could have some privacy. It was all a bit much.

Have been on holiday with friends since, which was ok, but I was even a bit sick of them by the end of it. Too close for comfort. Maybe I'm just a miserable old cow who deserves to die alone...

Lupin we are going to spain on October 1st for a fortnight which should be fun. We are going near Port Aventura and staying on a holiday park. There's going to be 15 of us in total, all dh's family,so plenty of help with the baby lol. Ive been trying to remember what having a 4month old is like but ds2 is 3 and its hard to remember him that small.
We always go away with the IL's. It all started because MIL used to work for Haven Europe (now Siblu) and used to get cheap holidays, now its the norm for us. We always stay on holiday parks, they are a lot better than the ones over here and having a mobile home per family gives you a bit of privacy. I used to laugh at the idea of caravans but now i prefer them to Hotels, they are more like a home from home and there is plenty of room for the kids to run around outside. Also by going with the IL's it means that now and again dh and i get to have a bit of time to ourselves while they babysit Luckily i get on my my IL's (most of the time) otherwise it would never work

Afternoon all.......

SOH, I'm sad to hear about your dh, it's not good, I hope he can seak to someone about the problem before it takes over his life. We are here to cheeer you up if we can.

MKG, I am reh-.
I won't have the anti d jab before though. Personally I don't like it and they have only just changed procedure here on it. With ds in the UK and dd her last time I just had a blood test each month to check for antiboddies and then baby's blood is checked at delivery and if different from mine then anti d will be given. However, this time they have changed it and now routinely give all reh- women the anti d shot from 7mths. Both of my dc's have the same blood group as me and so I have never had to have the anti d, I was not keen to change the way for this pg'cy, so I talked to my midwife about it and she has agreed because of my history to let me do it the same as before. I just need to make sure that baby's blood group is checked on delivery.

lg&t, Hope you are ok on your wobbly day today, just look at them now though, that should be enough to make you feel better (or worse) nasty spider but don't mind spiders to be honest. Your blood pressure does seem low, do you get really bad dizzy spells? I have given M a hug for you, her cheek and eye are looking better today than yesterday. No need for childline yet.

JL, I would still love the apricots but I can't CAT you sorry. My e-mail is [email protected]

I have been to the MW this morning. All ok and YEY YEY YEY she is pretty sure baby has turned and is head down instead of transverse. PHEWWWWW. I know there was still plenty of time if it hadn't turned but I feel easier knowing things are pointng in the right direction.

Your dream sounds horrible Pebble, yes calm, fluffy thoughts before bed may help. I keep having the same dream at the moment, it is not erotic but weird to me. this is going to sound bad but not long after I met dh, before we had dc's a guy worked for me who I really fancied but he was only 16 at the time and I was 19ish. I don't know what it was but there was something there. Nothing ever happened but we became good friends over 10yrs and joked around alot. He also became one of "the group" clubbing with dh and I and friends etc..... I think I regret not ever finding out if there was something more in it. DUKWIM? Dh knew I had a soft spot for him but not anymore because he was alot younger. Why it keeps coming up now though I have no idea. I keep dreaming that we end up in each others arms years down the line. Very weird.

Sorry for huge post.

MrsJB - is your DH also Rh-? That would mean your children would automatically be the same, wouldn't it? Or is is just a fluke that they were Rh- as well?

Have emailed you MRSJB

I say NO..... tyg, it is just that I am obviously the strong one, he is A+ and I am A-

Oh dear, my children are destined for Fat thighs,arse, hips, always being right, late, and a whole lot of other not good things.

Forgot to say too, I travelled to the UK at 35 weeks pg with dd, I didn't even think to check the ferries. Good thinking though lg&t but they didn't turn me away. lol

Thanks JL, will check now.

Have mailed you back JL.

If you drive onto a ferry in a car, they're unlikely to notice if you're up the duff or just "fat". Different when you walk onto a plane. Ryanair demanded my doctor's letter at the door of the aircraft last week. (Having just relieved me of ?56 becuase I didn't know they'd reduced their baggage allowance to a measly 15 kilos. The swines.)

I went to see the osteopath who practises at our office. Had my aching back clicked into place and then he did this funky cranio-sacral thingy where he put his hand under my back and under my bump and sort of gently massaged me and the baby and "religned my chakra" or whatever he was at. Was weird but nice. The baby was wriggling around like mad.

MrsJB I know what its like to regret something like that. I used to be very close to a boy i had grown up with, we met at infant school and had remained close. I think i had always loved him but never thought he could feel the same for me and depsite the fact that several things happened which led me to beleive that maybe i was wrong and he did indeed feel the same, i never had the courage to tell him how i felt. One night he whispered that he loved me when he thought id fallen asleep, on several occassions it felt like he was waiting for me to tell him how we felt and we did kiss a few times (boy was it nice lol) but it was always when we'd had a bit to drink and so i was never 100% sure it wasnt the alcohol that caused him to do it. I was so scared to admit how i felt in case i had got it wrong and it ruined our close friendship (we had known each other 18 years by then) that in the end i decided to back off. I went on to meet dh and get married but ive always wondered what if.., even though i love dh and dont regret marrying him. It doesnt help that a couple of years ago my darling nephew who was working with him at the time went and told him how i had felt and the response he got made it appear that he had indeed felt the same I still think about him now and again, wondering what he is doing, and although its silly afterall im married etc I sometimes feel a little jealous at the thought of him doing the same thing IYKWIM

Oh here, I forgot to write this about my osteo. I remembered when I was replying to Creena's "tired" thread.

Osteo said that when he was in college, they were given fake heavy breasts to wear for the day, plus a weighted belt, and made to walk around the college for 6 hours to give them an idea of what it's like to be heavily pregnant. He said they were all shattered by the end of the day and sore and miserable.

Nice to know that the men can't take it even for a day... Shows us how strong we are. Plus it shows that we really should be looking after ourselves.

Oh you soppy lot.....get a grip. You should have played the field properly before settling down like me I used to be very norty, hee, heee

Tales would curl your toes....

I never had that 'what if' so i dont know where your coming from, i did my 'oooh i like him's'. Oh tell me to shut up. If you had caught me in a soppy moment i would have been bawling with the rest of you.

SOH you poor poor thing, shall i send emergency rations of cake for your lovely DH? Dh will come and kick the ass of the work bully, in fact so will i. I probably weigh more than most at the moment How awful to think we are still dealing with bullying issues at work, you would have thought the bullies grew up when they left the playground your poor DH. Hugs for you both, cake on the way next week xxxx

DH making lamb tonight, topped with all manor of chilli, herb and garlic. Looks delish, he has made potato dauphinoise too. Sooooo yum

ditto, but thanks pebble. Thats exactly it. I love my dh and dc's and would never dream of doing anything to jeapoardise it, but we were young and flirted you know what it's like, all in good nature and often around dh so it was never anything sinister, infact this guy used to openly tell dh that ds was secretly his after he was born. dh would joke and tell him he wasn't capable, lol

I think you are right though it is alot to do with the what if...............; but why am I dreaming about it now? Hormones do the weirdest things to you. No?

TYG That sounds pretty similar to our experiance tbh - except that I got on with dp's mum & step dad fine - think they were just as appaled at the behaviour of the other members of the party as well - It was so much more elaxed when we got to the hotel - however dp then had to go to hospital due to massive ear infection and burst eardrum - it was gross wont go into too much detail lets just say I felt sorry for the maid changing the covers ewww, and he couldnt swim or drink poor love - we will try again this years - spirits restored

Pebble I too have been trying to remember what a 4 month old is like, feel bad that I dont remember - I think they just smile alot (or is that wishful thinking), Dd wants to go on a caravan holiday - I have said we will go on one with nanny as dp wouldnt even contemplate it - I think it will be fun - just when to fit it in really, only inconvineient thing about baby being born in may - splits the year up a bit hehehe

MRSJB wow on baby pointing downwards - homeward bound

I am trying to keep my dd awake (strange i know) she has come back from preschool pooped - however if she sleeps now she will be up at 10 and I wont get to bed till 2 - NOT HAPPENING lol

I think it is the hormones, I was in the bathroom the other day and i suddenly thought of all the things id planned to do when i was younger but never got the chance to and i felt really sad even though dh and i have always planned it that we would complete our family before we were 30 so that we would still be young enough to do everything once the kids have flown the nest. I also had a panic on the bus the other day, i was watching an elderly couple and the woman looked quite poorly and i suddenly started thinking that will be me in a few years time (wtf im only 28 lol)and i dont want to get old, i dont want to die Where that came from i have no idea. Have been fine since so have put it down to a sudden rush of hormones making me go all daft for a minute

I am exhausted after reading everything from last two days!!

TYG - should you be avoiding all public (pubic?!?!) transport due to run of bad luck?!?!

Gingerbread man (v late to add I know) - feet first. ANyone elses child love that story? - I always feel a bit iffy at the end where he is squealing i'm a quarter gone, oh no I'm a half gone etc etc - suggests head goes last but does he suffer more?

you can tell I'm a vegetarian

lol, pebble, we are soppy, sorry lg&t, Hormnes, grrrrrrrr have pulled it together now, promise, found some grip fill and used it well.

I think thats a great idea for the osteo's, should become compulsary for dh/dp's for a day too.

4mths old, don't do much, smile, giggle, poo, eat and sleep if you are lucky. I think it's an awkward age, they don't like laying down much, get bored easily but can't sit up or amuse them selves yet.

Just eaten tea and am stuffed, need to put dc's to bed and lolop on sofa now I think.