December 2016 Babies - Thread 6: Growing bumps and looking for bargains

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Previous threads:

Thread 5:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2699892-December-2016-Thread-5-20-week-scans-and-wriggly-babies?pg=1&order=#prettyPhoto

Thread 4:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2668947-December-2016-babies-thread-4-blooming-in-trimester-2

Thread 3:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2650742-december-2016-babies-2nd-trimester-in-sight?reverse=1

Thread 2:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2622412-Morning-sickness-and-first-scan-anticipation-its-the-December-2016-babies

Thread 1:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2597324-December-2016-Babies

I've just learned to put up with embrace mine
I've got loads though, only a couple are on my belly. Most of them are on my hips and boobs

I moisturised daily with either burts bees mama bee oil or lush dream cream, and I have a few on the side of my bump.

I have a small laparoscopy scar half in my belly button, which has started stretching and tonight it really stings. Starting to panic that it could tear!!

I know this was mentioned before but im thinking they have the sex of my baby wrong. Yes i could clearly see the boy parts for myself but now have a niggling doubt. So as you know i spent a week in hospital, well i was just reading through my hospital notes and on discharge babys heartbeat was 148-155pbm. I know may an old wives tale but isnt it anything over 140 is a girl?

Nojo, having same fears about the sex! Just went through all DD's clothes and am giving all the girly stuff away tomorrow, but have this feeling I'm running a risk! But they say it's v rare they get it wrong when they daily it's a boy, more likely to happen the other way around. The thing with the heartbeat should be an old wife's take as far as I've heard. Before I had my 20 week scan this time around so many people said that if I had bad nausea (which I did) then it was probably a girl. And if I craved salty things, it must be a girl. Now, when I feel the baby kicking loads they all say oh it's because it's a boy

In my laat pregnancy dd3's heart beat was really fast and I was really sick, nearly right up til the birth. This time, the only time mw has listened to baby's hb it was a lot slower and my sickness has been no where near as bad, gender scan at 16 weeks said baby is a girl & so did sonographer at 20 week scan. They better be right

The heartbeat thing is an old wife's tale as their heart rate is sometimes faster and slower due to being active or sleeping etc just like us - so I'd definitely go with what the scan said instead! Saying that, I'm still thinking about going for a 4d scan to get the chance to double check and reassure myself she's still a girl (really better be!! I have tonnes of stuff and a name sorted!) - those who went to window to the womb an offer came on my Facebook ads that we can get 50 quid off when booking to go back again for another scan, which is quite good as the later scans seem more expensive

Also, anyone here planning to go to the baby show in London in October

I went to window to the womb for my 16 week scan firawla do you mean if I book a 4d scan I can get £50 off? If that's the case I'd book one (they're priced from about £90 + I think) Is there a discount code or anything to use?

Feeling in an odd mood as work signed me off on Friday and have just encouraged me to stay off until I can start my holiday and mat leave in 6 weeks. I only got a 2 week sick note from doctor as I felt guilty about this and worried about my sick record. Ive been totally exhausted and struggling at work so I'm glad I don't have to go in for 2 weeks but feel guilty

becci im signing myself out of work too. Im hoping to get 6 weeks sick leave then ive some holidays to use then start maternity. The consultant didnt seem too happy about me going back to my job given how heavy it is.

goinggrey I feel the same with endless medical appointments, I had 3 in one week recently.

I have got most of the stuff for baby now, other than somewhere for it to sleep. That's mainly because we have lots left over from dd, and because I like to prepare and plan.

I'm so tired and achey at the moment (29 weeks), I don't know whether to sit, stand, lie, move ....!

nojo you have been poorly its understandable. I think on the next sick note im going to write on it that the sick leave is on revommendation of my employer. Im going to try and relax now and not feel guilty I offered to carry on part time or reduced duties but they wanted me off sick. Is it as sunny in the rest of the uk as it is in Newcastle today it's absolutely glorious here xx

Hi becci,

Sorry to hear you are unwell. Please don't worry re. your work sickness record, it rally shouldn't be an issue:-

Your employer must record any pregnancy-related sickness absence separately from other sick leave, so that pregnancy-related sickness absence is not used as a reason for disciplinary action, dismissal or redundancy.

From www.maternityaction.org.uk/advice-2/mums-dads-scenarios/pregnant/sickness-during-pregnancy-and-maternity-leave/

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* hi everyone* **

Warning: sad news.

I have some very upsetting news that I am only now able to talk about and share with this group/thread.

On 2nd August at exactly 20 weeks pregnant I gave birth to my beautiful son who lived for 3 minutes before sadly dying. I have literally lived through my worst nightmare - going through labour and delivery knowing that I won't take my baby home with me. Knowing he will either be dead when I deliver or die shortly after. Knowing he is too premature to survive in an incubator.

When he came in to this world he was perfect with blonde hair and bushy blonde eyebrows, a slight frown on his face just like his Daddy, and long fingers which made us think he would have been good on the piano. He was very very small - only half the size (25cm) of a full-term baby but perfectly formed in every other way.

I went in to early labour two days before this due to missed complications in my pregnancy. Without going in to too much detail we have since learned that my son's premature birth and death was preventable had the NHS done their job properly. We have hired a team of lawyers and are very grateful we have the financial resources to do so.

Our baby will always live in our hearts forever and will grow up in heaven watching over us. I've had great support from the SANDS charity and bereavement counselling.

DP and I are looking forward to falling pregnant again by the end of the year.

Tiny I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say. You must be going through hell right now. I'm glad you are getting support in real life from SANDS and from bereavement counselling. If you ever need to come here and talk then please feel free, although I can completely understand if you can't face doing that given the nature of the thread. Sending you loads of hugs and support. xx

Oh tiny salmon how absolutely devastating, I'm so sorry & I know nothing I say can't and won't make you feel any better. How brave and selfless of you both to pursue legal action which may one day save someone else the heartache you're suffering.
He sounds absolutely perfect and I'm truly sorry. I hope you continue to receive the support you need and deserve. Sending you my thoughts and love. Xx

Oh wow Tiny that's such a sad post but so brave of you to post! I'm really sorry to hear your news and can't even to imagine what you've been through. I'm glad you are getting lots of support and I will be thinking about you! Good luck with your legal case. lots of love x

So very sorry to read that tiny. I'm glad you got to see your gorgeous son and that you're getting good support from SANDS.

Hope you're managing to cope with the legal process too, it sounds unbelievably awful. There really aren't any words that are sufficient. Please look after yourself. X

tinysalmon that's so sad. Sorry for this awful loss. Good luck with the lawyers, best of wishes with coming to terms with this terrible experience, and fingers crossed your next pregnancy will be much more positive. It's really nice that you had some time with your baby, so so sorry you had such a short time though Take care x

Oh tiny I am so sorry to hear this news. I hope you and your family are coping as well as you can.

It good that you have a team of people on the case. As others have said if you need to talk then come and talk but understand if you don't.

Good luck with trying again when you are ready.

Thank you so much ladies xx

tinysalmon thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.. your wee angel in heaven will b forever watching over you.. sending love your way..

Tiny, I am so incredibly sorry for you and your DP. I hope you've found some comforting ways to remember your wee boy. Did you name him?

I'm so sorry it could have been prevented. I remember you were under private health care so presumably something was missed at one of your NHS scans. You must feel so angry, I'm so sorry.

A little bit of your lovely December baby will live on in all of ours. Lots of love to you for the future and hoping for happy news soon.

So sorry Tiny what a lovely tribute to your son, sending you both massive ((hugs))

SouthDownsSunshine, yes it's a pain having so many appointments but I'd rather be fully monitored, especially as the pregnancy is so unique and also as I was so ill at the beginning as well, I actually thought that bubble couldn't possibly grow after me loosing so much weight, I really thought bubble would be underweight when it came to being measured but I'm just so lucky that bubble decided to stay put through all that and is growing just as it should be.

Tinysalmon so sorry to hear your sad news and so very brave of you to post and well done for having the courage to get lawyers involved.