Due in July - Part 3- we are a chatty loy...

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Thought would start a new thread...

We gave my baby daughter my MILs name as a middle name. She was really pleased. I did not think about it upsetting anyone else. It is a shame if you can't do something that would be incredibly nice for one person just because it might make someone else feel left out. Will they both feel left out when you call your new baby Hugo?

May I join? Due July 15. I've been lurking for ages but have been leery of posting - afraid of jinxing things. Had a blighted ovum diagnosed in August. Just had a 24 week scan yesterday, and she's got all the appropriate parts! So maybe it's ok to post now...

Welcome newbies - congratulations on finding us and hope the rest of your pregnancies go smoothly!

Myfairone - you have my sympathy - dh and I had the same "row" the other day and I ended up crying for hours (and I don't cry!!) - but he accepts that all this personality change is to do with pregnancy (he is used to it by now!) and that it doesn't last. I'm not particularly moody, but I'm very insular and inward-looking and not taking a lot of notice of anyone/thing else atm - which is really not fair on dh and our three kids! - but it's not intentional. Reassure him it's just the hormones (and you are not alone!) - and it will get better once the baby is born

Hello all, prompted by the other "lurkers", could I join in too? My DD is 6th July and have been told this baby is a girl but for some strange reason I feel like it's a boy. Anyway, I have another scan booked for 16th April so will get them to have another look.....just in case they have missed a little something.......

I wish I'd found Mumsnet sooner, reading all these posts are making me feel so much better.

The low placenta hasn't really concerned me, the midwife described it as "drawing a dot on a balloon, as I get bigger it'll move up", I also know a couple of gynaecologists who weren't concerned and told me not to worry. It has taught me to not read too much into the Miriam Stoppard book though as she lists a low placenta under medical emergencies, that's obviously when it's still low when you're due.

The info on Reuseable nappies is great, I had been thinking about Bambino Mios, but having read more here I think I'm going to go with the Tots Bots Bamboo nappies. My Father-in-law is an environmental consultant and gave me a lecture on the harm disposables do, not so much for the quantity going into landfill, apparently it's more to do with the fact the poo goes in there too. I'd already decided to use reuseables, but I got the lecture anyway. I wish we had some nappy scheme round here like you have Jamantha, I've looked, but there's nothing.

We're having problems with names, I really like Seth for a boy, so much that I can't think of any other names. Blokey hates it. Girls names change on a weekly basis, everything I like seems to be in the top 100. I've only met one other person with my name (Celeste) so want something as unusual. Blokey hates 95% of what I come up with, but hasn't suggested anything so far. Grrr!

Miaou & Myfairone - you're not alone with being emotional. I'm not a weepy person, but twice this week I've broken down over some little thing blokey has said and ended up crying for hours. I thought the hormones were supposed to make me weepy at the start, I was fine then... why now?

Morning all

Hi newbies and welcome

Sorry to here some of you are still weepy.. I seem to be ok on that front.. although have a very short temper at the moment.. think dh would prefer me to be crying tbh...

TBH I have forgoton what I was going to respond to people.. memory like a sieve.. off now to take ds to creche... have a ggod day everyone....

Well spooky timing! All this talk of grumpiness and crying, and dh has just left for work after a stupid argument and me crying all through breakfast! I hate it when it's like this because I never feel I can get out of my rut for the whole rest of the day when it starts off badly. Trying to summon the strength to get on with things as normal now whilst ds is doing his favourite activity of gradually emptying all the cutlery drawer into an oven glove...

On another note I have been meaning to thank Abgirl for the weekly stats; a while ago my pregnancy brain had got so bad that I couldn't remember how many weeks I was and it went on for several days. In the end I had to come here and look at the list to find out the answer!

Weekly stats!

If you don't mind will not add on who's expecting what as it can be wrong and don't have enough time to keep updated. However I will put baby details on as they are born so everyone can see what you end up with!

Groveregg, am glad to hear they have some use and think I have actually got them right and included all the newbies (minor miracle in itself ). Will be better from next week as this is my last Friday at work! Only have 8 more working days left in total...

Date Name
27-Jun Beartime 27 +2
29-Jun 3flightsofstairs 27 +0
29-Jun Cakehead 27 +0
29-Jun Justbeme 27 +0
30-Jun Swift1 26 +6
30-Jun Dophus 26 +6
30-Jun Auntymandy 26 +6
30-Jun Trimum2 26 +6
01-Jul Gingertoo 26 +5
02-Jul Pulapula 26 +4
02-Jul Becks08 26 +4
05-Jul Relax 26 +1
05-Jul Cupcakesgalore 26 +1
05-Jul Stigaloid 26 +1
06-Jul Abgirl 26 +0
06-Jul Emmyb 26 +0
06-Jul Berrysmum 26 +0
07-Jul Pookey 25 +6
07-Jul Greyclay 25 +6
08-Jul Helenmumof2 25 +5
08-Jul Cyee 25 +5
09-Jul Flipflop 25 +4
09-Jul Nadinetd 25 +4
09-Jul Catstar 25 +4
09-Jul MelissaM 25 +4
12-Jul Dorisofdevon 25 +1
13-Jul Loujay 25 +0
13-Jul Breadandroses 25 +0
13-Jul Mrswaggsnapps 25 +0
14-Jul Firsttimer40 24 +6
14-Jul Hamptonnewbie 24 +6
14-Jul Weddingcake 24 +6
15-Jul Bodkin 24 +5
15-Jul Twoplusone 24 +5
15-Jul newby29 24 +5
15-Jul MarchBunny 24 +5
15-Jul Jamantha 24 +5
15-Jul Jendos 24 +5
16-Jul Cutiebabies 24 +4
16-Jul Earlyriser 24 +4
16-Jul Gingerbics 24 +4
17-Jul fido 24 +3
18-Jul Keiralou 24 +2
18-Jul Saf1 24 +2
18-Jul Bertieboo 24 +2
19-Jul Kyte 24 +1
19-Jul Vicky55 24 +1
19-Jul Biblio 24 +1
20-Jul Faby 24 +0
20-Jul MissusC 24 +0
20-Jul Princesspowersparkle 24 +0
21-Jul Miaou 23 +6
22-Jul Jennster 23 +5
22-Jul Baysmum 23 +5
22-Jul Tutter 23 +5
22-Jul Madmumnika 23 +5
22-Jul Chooster 23 +5
23-Jul Dewmeadow 23 +4
24-Jul Twink123 23 +3
24-Jul Huskygirl 23 +3
25-Jul Groveregg 23 +2
25-Jul Caroline1852 23 +2
26-Jul Firststar 23 +1
26-Jul Bubble78 23 +1
27-Jul Lynneclynne 23 +0
27-Jul Leiselvontrapp 23 +0
27-Jul Glittercaz 23 +0
29-Jul Tallysmummy 22 +5
29-Jul Myfairone 22 +5
29-Jul Typhoonsmum 22 +5
30-Jul Giulia 22 +4
31-Jul Littlepiggie 22 +3
31-Jul Justaboutmanaging 22 +3

Welcome to all the newbies! I agree that Mumsnet has been invaluable for information, reassurance, humour - everything really! I get very frustrated if I don't get on for a couple of days.

I am also going through a particularly weepy stage at the moment, but most of these episdoes seem to be about nothing in particular, or things so insignificant it's a bit embarrassing. Like this morning I ordered my toast and marmite in the sandwich shop, and they gave it to someone who came in after me. I could have openly wept, but managed to pull myself together in the nick of time. Last night dh caught me having a secret cry in bed, he can't understand how I can be so happy, yet so upset!! The little one inside me was being so active and I just felt a bit overwhelmed by everything.

I heard that waiting lists in local nurseries are very long and so I have made some appointments to go and look around a couple after Easter. I got the brochures in the post yesterday and that triggered more tears. I haven't even had my little one yet, but I'm already thinking about leaving her !!! Actually, maybe the tears were from the realisation of how much it's going to cost!!

Anyway, really looking forward to the weekend - been a tough week at work this week. By the way, congrats on the job, Miaou!

Have a great weekend

catstar, we are thinking about nursery already too. Dh only works one morning a week so DS goes to nursery on Thursday mornings. We asked last week about reserving a place for the baby after christmas and the next place they have for a baby is easter of next year! I thought we were being organised but obviously not! Looks like grandma will be getting a phone call soon...

Crikey Abgirl - I'll be in a bit of a mess if that happens to me as I don't have any family nearby, and financially I do need to return to work February at the latest. Might have to start looking into Childminders too, although I prefer the idea of a nursery.

What do people generally think of nursery vs childminder for a young baby (6 months) - I have no experience of either and my friends have all been lucky enough not to have to return to work !

catstar, there are definitely benefits and drawbacks to both. We had originally planned that DH would be a SAHD so we wouldn't have to make the choice but then an opportunity for p-t work came up that DH wanted to take advantage of. Luckily by then I had been attending lots of baby groups at our local sure start centre, so had seen the nursery and knew it to be excellent in terms of facilities and staff. I also knew DS by then and thought he would cope with the nursery environment well as he is quite an out-going and sociable little boy.

Although a child minder can give more individual care, we felt that the nursery had better facilities and more checks and balances in built to it. It is very difficult to make a decision this early - we know that DS would cope very well with going to nursery for a lot longer hours but we obviously haven't met the new baby yet and they may be a different kettle of fish! I would advise visiting a few nurseries and contacting a few childminders to organise a chat and see which you feel more comfortable with...

Hello all,
welcome newbies!

Hope you are all ok & enjoying some sunshine today! Just got back from the beach with DS...beautiful but am exhausted!

All good here, had anomaly scan & consultant appt yesterday, all fine with baby and although my BP keeps rising they have managed to get 'normal' BP measurements after 4th attempt!! So now the midwife is hopefully going to do BP measurements twice a week on top of the fortnightly consultant appts....so being well watched!!

One of the ladies at the toddler group we go to on Fridays (my day off) is 37 weeks pregnant and at her latest scan they found a bowel problem with the baby which will need operating on straight away once born, and also they are testing the baby for cystic fibrosis... She is understandibly terrified. It really makes you think (sorry for being so morbid!)... Let's hope all of us & our LOs are going to be fine.

RE. nursery places.... It really varies between areas. When we lived in south Belfast there was often over a 12 month waiting list, so I had to choose & book a place at one before I was even 3 months pregnant last time! Since we moved to a more rural location the local nursery can be a bit more accommodating.... Personally it's very hard when you don't have any family nearby and making decisions this early on is tough. DS loves nursery but once we have 2 I am thinking of changing to a childminder- plus I want to work very much part-time whereas I worked full-time for over a year after DS was 7 months old (had to financially). I would like the 2 siblings to be looked after together, and I think the family home environment of a childminder is good for babies... BUT toddlers love socialising so DS adores nursery now, and we were lucky that his old nursery had a small baby room so they good very individual care and what seemed like quite a homely environment...
Lots to think about anyhow.

Hope you all have a relaxing weekend. Huge hugs to those of your suffering from crazy emotions- can empathise!! xxx

Hi ladies, just got some bad news...broth/inlaw died this morning, so got myself into a right state, just cant stop crying and at the same time worried wot im doing to little one, at the moment i dont feel i could handle going to a funeral as this brings too many memories back from when dh died (its dh brother)also dont know how i can handle telling ds(again brings all those memories of when his dad passed away) I'm not sure how family would react to me not attending funeral...infact yes i am sure,mother inlaw would be furious if i didnt turn up, thers been a few funrals recently....neighbours and i couldnt attend those as much i wanted to i just couldnt. Does anyone have any advice??????? I spoke with dh there and fells i shouldnt go due to being pg also hes worried incase of another miscarriage.

just read through that, sorry about all the spelling mistakes.

Oh, am so sorry LynneC - thats really awful news. I'm presuming he must have been fairly young too. I hope your DS is OK?

I'm afraid I have no words of wisdom but I just really wanted to say how sorry I am. I think you really need to look after yourself and do what is right for you. Not going to the funeral does not in any way mean that you dont care and I hope there would be ways of explaining this to your mother-in-law. Perhaps there is another way of saying goodbye to your brother in law without having to attend the funeral?

Whatever you decide take care x

Lynne - I shouldn't even be on the computer, meant to be cooking dinner for 8 but saw your message and just wanted to send you a big hug.

I think being pregnant heightens all the emotions surrounding death ( I discovered I was pregnant on the first anniversary of my sister dying and the baby is due on the 12th anniversary of my father dying and at first I found both of those things really messed with my head) so let yourself react exactly as your body feels it needs to and not how you feel other people are expecting you to.

Be as kind and gentle to yourself as you can this weekend and don't feel like you need to make any immediate decisions regarding the funeral etc. Give yourself a bit of time to get your head round it all and then decide nearer the time if you feel up to it or not. Only you can decide what's right for you.

As for the baby, they're tough little things so don't give yourself extra stress worrying about that - just make sure that even if you can't face eating you keep your fluids up as crying can really dehydrate you.

I really feel for you and your ds as I'm sure it's bringing back all sorts of vivid and painful memories. I really wish there was more I could do or say but just remember that the pain won't always be this raw. I'm sure you know as well as anyone that even though time doesn't fully heal the pain, it does help you cope better with it.

Sorry if this has come out as a whole load of garbled crap - eloquence has never been my strong point but will be thinking of you lots xx

Lynnec- just wanted to send you big hugs {{{{{{}}}}}}}}

No advice really you really have to do what you feel is best for you at this time.. people have got to understand that..

At the funeral I was at last week people kept asking me if I was ok.. think they were worried about the impact...

I am thinking of you at this difficult time..

Thank you so so much ladies, ive managed to stop crying for now, ive also managed to tell ds who asked quite alot of questions which made it even harder for me, although hes not to know is he.We just phoned for a take away so i am managing to eat, as i dont want ds to see how upset i am, as i know he'll worry also about me and baby(hes 13 going on 30)just wanted to say a big thank you to you all for your help and advice, dont know what id do without you'se.
I hope you all have a nice weekend xxx

LynneC, just seen this, how terribly sad for you . Please look after yourself and (((((((((((hugs)))))))))))) to you and your ds.

It sounds like your DS is being really brave and so are you Lynne. I hope you manage to relax a bit over this weekend x

LynneC- I am so so sorry to hear about your brother in law, I cannot imagine how hard it must be and the memories this must dredge up for both you and DS. Weddingcake's advice is spot on- please be gentle on yourself and don't rush any decisions, but do what you feel is right for you not what anyone else expects of you.
Huge hugs (((((( )))))

LynneC I am so very sorry, I really wish I had some words that could offer more comfort x

Just caught up on messags, including LynneC's news. Very sorry to hear about this LynneC. Take care and be kind to yourself.Make sure you and DS take compfort in each other. Sorry I can't offer much else, but am thinking of you.

LynneC sending you (((((hugs))))) and thinking of you...