Due in February 2017...thread #3!

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A home for all of us enjoying the surreality of the first trimester. We're sick as dogs, exhausted to the core, our boobs hurt, we've developed superhuman senses of smell and we're shirking all alcoholic bevvies with a variety of lame excuses...

...we're preggers and over the moon! Join us if you're due in February 2017 and fancy wisdom for the weirdness, support for any sadness, and a safe place where you can get excited about what the future holds, before you go public!

Third thread already (we're a chatty bunch!) Second thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2662110-Due-in-February-2017-thread-2?

Thanks london I am just worrying because I know I got a 2-3 CB result weeks ago and a 1-2 the week before it, so am just worrying it's not growing as it should be...I am so certain I am further along than the scan showed but OH keeps saying they are the professionals! Wish we'd never gone for the private scan now it has just made me more anxious :(

Hello! Can I join in please? Due with no2 on 19th Feb :) seeing midwife for booking in on Friday. Really excited. Sick as a dog bit also can't stop eating.

@whiskyjack my dd will also be 2.5 when baby comes :)

jojo thanks for that I'll try fruit and nuts. Sat in bed feeling sick as a dog trying to force down little bits of biscuit at present. So glamorous!
Welcome ajmc!

sweetpea and birdboo thinking of you ladies and sending lots of positive thoughts for thriving little beans

haz I think the main thing to take away from your early scan my lovely is the heartbeat - that's a massively positive sign which lowers your mc rate as others have said. I think dating this early on is really hard and not hugely accurate - I know if people who have been told similar things early on only to have had later scans jump forward in dating, so do try not to worry, frustrating as it is, and try to focus on the little bean's ticker which is great news

Anyone else unable to post from phone or tablet? I've not been able to since yesterday and written so many replies. I've just dragged out my laptop to post this.

Great news, dutchy, FX for twin1, spin, FX for healthy beans Haz and Sweetpea, and welcome newbies. I'm sure there was more to reply to, sorry!

I had my booking in yesterday like a few of you, it was fine, DD spent the day at the ILs, and while I had grand plans of taking advantage of the afternoon to myself to go for haircut or toddler-free shopping I ended up just sat on the sofa watching a few episodes of greys anatomy. Waste of day! Oh well, I'm sure I'll have another toddler-free day again at some point when I'm not shattered.

Morning all!!

Great news Dutchy!! And fingers crossed for twin 1 spin!

My brown spotting has stopped now- definitely trauma related. It seems to have been replaced with white, stretchy stuff (think egg whites but more rubbery and white!!). Who knows what this means?! Anyway I feel totally knackered fine today. Boobs a bit sore and sex drive through the roof, but nothing exciting to report really!!

I'm aware I've used a lot of exclamation marks this morning- this is what happens when you've been at work since 5am!!

wispa not judging you for the Greys binge! I like to rematch whole series between the new series coming out!

Hi folks, not been on for a while but 8+3 now. Still feeling nauseous all day long and vomiting once or twice a day. Weirdly, water tastes horrible?!
I am a snappy irritable hellbeast and struggling with the exhaustion. The house is a disgrace. Took dd to the park yesterday morning and felt like i'd run a marathon when we got home.

No scan on the horizon here. Booking in with midwife isn't until 14th July.

Anyone in maternity clothes yet? Any recommendations? None of my clothes fit properly but can't get into the loft to dig out pregnant clothes because the stepladder is broken.

God I'm a moaning minnie sorry, bloody hormones/sertraline withdrawal!

Lucy colours sound lovely and cheerful. I'd like to make a blanket too, once I get past this first trimester nonsense!

I've been too exhausted to do anything the past week except lie around and groan/snooze/retch. Dreading going in to new job, it is pretty impossible to hide the fact I have to eat every half hour at minimum just to stave off nausea and retching. On Monday at old job I was sat at my desk eating Pringles at 9am thinking any minute someone is going to ask what the heck is going on, thankfully I was left alone and now have some time off between jobs.

So relieved to be part of this group and know I'm not alone! Big hugs to everyone who feels like they are clinging on to sanity xx

I'm not feeling very positive this morning- I have awful cramps/back ache & spotting. Friday's scan seems so far away, I just want to know now so I can deal with the bad news & get over it. My DH is telling me to be positive but I feel like 'I know' it's all over now. So sorry to depress everyone I just don't have anyone to talk to about this in real life as no one knows!! :(

Just on the note of what helps morning sickness and fatigue, I found having a cereal bar in the middle of the night stopped mine starting in the morning. Once it's there I've found plain rice cakes or salt and vinegar crisps with cheese slices put it away again. Tetley boost tea comes with vitamin b6 which combats both fatigue and nausea, so been drinking that in the morning. I also find original source ginger shower gel helps in the morning, as does a bowl of porridge but had to force that in at times. I've Also found a little of jo malone's blackberry and bay perfume on my wrist where I can sniff it soothes me as its a light, clean scent. For me I've learned nausea is just my body's new hunger signal and eating stops it. 8+6 today.

high hopes having had two losses myself I'd say the worst bit was the uncertainty and the feeling alone with that, so write as much as you need to here if it helps. Can epu see you earlier if it's getting worse, might be worth asking?

Speaking of clinging onto sanity I am heading back to the hospital AGAIN today after a heavy bleed last night just as I was going to bed. Let's see....it has tailed off again but was heavier than the last one about 2 weeks ago....

The situation not made any better by this absolute piece of work midwife on the phone last night who basically had a go at me for having so many scans...even though the NHS have invited me in for them each time due to bleeding....she said, quote 'I should think carefully before BUZZING THE BABY'....the most helpful comment of all time....

I'll let you know later how I get on. Xxx

Sat waiting for a blood test trying very hard to not be sick.

Yesterday I had a horrible call from my IBD nurse about getting my flare under control because of the miscarriage risk. I can't stop thinking about it now and just want to cry.

Do you think if I asked my consultant for an early scan that I would get one? He ordered one for me at 6 weeks for DD2, but didn't this time. I thought I didn't want one, but now I feel so worried I can't stop thinking about what the nurse said.

high hopes , feeling similar to you today. The wait until Saturday is horrible, i have more Brown blood today and a little cramping again. Starting to think the worst as if it's good news on Saturday then that's a bonus.

little k, i can't believe the midwife said that to you! Cheeky cow. You go ahead and have the scans, maybe send her the pictures next time

My dd is asleep at the mo so I'm watching game of thrones, I'm a bit behind though, so only at the end of season 3. No spoilers girls think i deserve to have a bit of a rest!

"Buzzing the baby"?! Is that a technical term?! Ridic. Hope you're okay Its.

I just phoned my GP surgery to gently probe why I haven't been referred to a midwife following my informing my GP three weeks ago....and they just asked me to phone the midwife directly. Is that a bit odd? I feel a bit daft ringing her mobile and introducing myself!

Thanks everyone.

Sorry for your losses Lucky - I think they said I had to wait a week between scans because it may be inconclusive if the heart is still beating slowly. Its either going to have stopped or sped up, I just want to know now!

littlek - sorry to hear about your bleed, how rude of the midwife- so insensitive!

First time seeing my GP today. He should have booked an ultrascan directly for me next week, as asked to, rather he told me just to turn up to the epu in Hull and show them the letter.

Bare in mind last time I saw him 3 weeks ago we were discussing fertility treatments all he could go on about is how the bleeding could be a delayed abortion, no interest in if I have symptoms (still feeling sick land my boobs ached walking to the surgery). Nor calculating my due date or discussing midwife appointments. He seemed to be very much go home and miscarry. In comparison to the Dr and nurse in Bath I've come home feeling really low.

I think we need a big group hug. . I wish people spoke up more about how heart wrenching the early stages are.

I know what you mean birdboo. I thought the ttc part was difficult and I was over the moon when I got a BFP but now all the excitement has gone. (hugs)

My OH just keeps saying "oh but it's our little secret". Yes. Yes it fucking is. A little secret that I'm supposed to hide and lie about whilst pretending it's all ok. I'm somehow supposed to turn into an award winning actress overnight when people ask me how I am- because all I want to do is scream that I'm pregnant and I'm terrified that it might go wrong before I'm even "allowed" to tell anyone. Miscarriage is not shameful nor is being an emotional wreck. It is, however a very real risk that shouldn't be hidden or talked about in hushed tones only in dark alleyways. You did not murder your child if you miscarry, you are not a bad person, you are allowed to be upset and want support. You are equally allowed to be worry about the possibility of it happening. Telling us "it will be ok" is probably not going to help. Nothing you, I or anyone else can do will change whether someone will miscarry, just as much as telling me to "calm down" will probably not make me calm down...

Neurotic? Me? Never! Group hug definitely needed...

Hi everyone-- it seems like today is a rough day. No real words of wisdom but I'd just say remember Dutchy had loads of bleeding for weeks and her scan was great. In a few weeks most of us will be out of the scariest part of the first trimester so we just need to hang in there a little longer. I have had a miscarriage myself and the one thing I'd say is that I knew it would happen before I even started to bleed. I just did not feel pregnant anymore. So if you still have strong symptoms, I'd definitely hold out hope. Wish I could say something more helpful.

Personally, morning sickness has come full force at me today for the first time. I am very close to totally losing it. I can't eat anything. Its only gotten really bad this afternoon. I went to the gym this morning and was fine. I've had mild nausea for a few days but now I know what its all about. I'm 6+ 4 (I think)!

I think someone asked about telling people in real life. I've told 3 of my closest friends who knew we are trying and who I see every week and would have totally figured it out in seconds anyway. Another really close couple friends of ours guessed and when DH and I denied it, they basically told us we were full of shit!

We aren't telling our parents yet but only because they were so gutted by the first miscarriage we don't want to put them through that again. We'll probably tell people once we've had the results back from the NIPT screening around week 10-11.

Spin so very sorry to hear about your loss and wishing the best for twin number 1 
Phantom I dont like the idea of the phone appointment at all! ** And I dont think it saves that much tome either, my MW took my bloods at the same appointment as well and blood pressure. Weird!
Hazand sorry to hear about the worry. I think lots of people have said that they measured different but then the baby caught up, but I understand the worry.
I think I am so exhausted at the moment that I cant even worry anymore.
This is not all fun and games, but one worry after the other.

Radder I am really struggling to cope with work at the moment. I just woke up and I am already exhausted.
And my job is also quite active (11 km just walking around yesterday)
3 more days for the weekend
I need sleep
Mas everything crossed for you, sorry to hear about the spotting. If it helps I sometimes feel like my period is going to come, the light crump or stretching sensation I get before my period
Dutchy very happy for you. I have my scan tomorrow and sooooo hoping there is a heartbeat

London That's interesting to hear, because that's exactly how I feel. Like deep down, I know I'm not pregnant anymore. I suppose we will know for sure on Friday morning!