Due in February 2017...thread #3!

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A home for all of us enjoying the surreality of the first trimester. We're sick as dogs, exhausted to the core, our boobs hurt, we've developed superhuman senses of smell and we're shirking all alcoholic bevvies with a variety of lame excuses...

...we're preggers and over the moon! Join us if you're due in February 2017 and fancy wisdom for the weirdness, support for any sadness, and a safe place where you can get excited about what the future holds, before you go public!

Third thread already (we're a chatty bunch!) Second thread here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2662110-Due-in-February-2017-thread-2?

Highhopes so sorry to hear about all the pain and worry
I really do hope Friday comes quickly for you and that everything is fine

I am 7 today and zero nausea sorry for the rest suffering it, it sounds awful!

Itslittle wow how is that comment from MW going to help?!

Highhopes my HCG levels totally fell off a cliff though. I lost my symptoms and then took a hpt and the line was super faint after having been very dark. I retested the next day and it was the same and then my miscarriage started. I think every woman's experience is totally different. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that it is a happy outcome.

I'm too scared to take another test!

Hey all, everything fine with me....9+5 and measuring exactly to the day....

Hopefully it will help for some of you ladies at 'pulling your hair out with worry' times to remember my experience for comfort if you need some...bleeding and no symptoms now and everything is fine.

I agree....being pregnant is worse than TTC for general mind bending and stress x hugs to all x

Great news littlek x

You're being so strong high Not too long to wait, a week sounded a long time but now only just over a day til you know

On another note, I found this and it sums up just how I feel right now...

jojo that is brilliant! People think they are being so clever telling you things like that. I have emetophobia (fear of vomiting) and have literally purchased and looked in to every old wives' tale going! One thing that has helped on the odd occasion I've had nausea is Nevasic (also known as morning well I think?) It is something you listen to through headphones, it blocks the signals to the vomiting centre (Dame Ellen MacArthur recommends it when she is out on the roughest seas) and it really helps me. You have to feel sick first for it to work as it can cause nausea if you feel ok because it is messing with the vestibular balance in your ears! Have a Google. It's about half an hour of weird music and you listen for it each time and it should reduce symptoms with each listen until they are nearly gone. Let me know what you think!

Everyone else, thank you for the hugs and lovely replies, I have been so overwhelmed with sadness the last day and felt so alone I actually considered a termination. My OH has wanted this for so long but my stupid phobia has held me back for 9 years and now the overwhelming urge to have children is too much and we have got pregnant at the first try, but I feel so alone and terrified. I finally broke down and told him today how I felt and he was amazing and we are looking at an urgent hypnotherapy session to try and get me through this phobia and depression. Fingers crossed it works, as I want a baby more than anything I just hate this feeling of constant panic! Sorry to rant, I know so many of you have wanted this desperately and also that you probably hate me for even thinking of terminating this miracle I just feel trapped and terrified. Xx

Haz--I hope the hypnotherapy helps.

I have a mild fear of vomiting (I haven't thrown up since 2003) though its nowhere near as bad as your phobia.

I'm glad to hear your DH is being so supportive and you are very brave to TTC after 9 years while still being haunted by something that terrifies you.

Good luck with your treatment and I hope you get some relief...

jojo I'm at my wits end with the nausea. I can't stomach the idea of anything. Not even water. I've had at most 200 calories today. I'm grateful I can at least swallow my pre-natal vitamins.

I have been weepy and hormonal all day. All I've wanted to do is cry after the Drs. I feel really low and my normal cheer up methods are not really working, DH is convinced I'm just hormonal.

In happier news I couldn't stand being in the market to buy veg. All I could do was heave. The coffee I bought was overwhelming too. I went upstairs to change and fell asleep for half an hour.

itslittlek. I'm glad to hear things are going well. It helps to know that things can be OK.

Thanks you london i have got it booked for next week when I should be 7 weeks. It is debilitating :( I want my life back and so much to relax and enjoy this little miracle! I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so ill, like my comment above Nevasic works for me with travel sickness etc, and actually gives me an appetite, it may be worth a try for you? Xx

Thanks so much for the recommendation haz I'll definitely try that on the train home tonight.

I'm sorry you've felt so bad. You shouldn't feel guilty, no one here can really know truly how bad you feel and I'm sure everyone is understanding of each others issues and experiences. You and your OH have come up with something positive to help though which is a big step forward.

lucky thanks so much for the useful list of ms foods, DH is shopping so I've just sent him an updated list!
highhopes I'm so sorry my lovely, it sounds absolutely miserable and don't feel at all bad for sharing on here as that's what we are all for
Sounds like people are really going through it at the moment and dealing with some idiot health professionals to boot. My only worry is outing myself early at work due to ms. Normally I'd just be upfront but I am moving jobs soon internally and whilst the work will be less stressful I'll be less useful to them pregnant, so selfishly want to get my foot in the door before I fess up!

Fingers crossed it works for you jojo!
Thank you, yes i feel better already having told him how I feel honestly. These first few weeks are bloody hard!! I wish I was one of those women who had tummy ache one day, went to the loo and had the baby there lol xx

Hi all

Sorry so many of us are sick and exhausted.
Good luck to all with scans coming up, I really hope you all get good news.
I am still feeling tired and ill but not quite on the verge of vomiting as much as I was last week. Had some cramps last night and wondered if it was all over but no bleeding at the moment. 9 plus 4 today.
Can't wait to be done with this stage, really don't want to do it ever again.
New coping mechanism is ready meals. So I don't have to cook and I can eat early with the kids. Not healthy but can't face cooking at all.

Hope you are coming out the other side of feeling so poorly blueskies they say symptoms peak between 7-9 weeks perhaps you are over the worst? Fingers crossed you are xx

London after what you said I am thinking I don't feel pregnant either
I am 7 weeks but no signs of nausea...

Only thing is the being exhausted and the sore boobs. But definitely not feeling there is life inside.

But I got another 3+ yesterday on CB

We shall know tomorrow as I have my scan at 8:30

Hazand I think it is good that you reached to your husband and that you got some help. Sorry you have been feeling alone. You can chat here

evergreen fingers are firmly crossed for you

I'm more bloated than ever before today! My stomach is like a football! I'm so sexy for my poor DH, trying not to belch and fart in front of him... Why does nobody warn ladies that early pregnancy is like this?!

Evergreen good luck with your scan tomorrow.

I am with you on the not feeling pregnant and I'm at 9w1d. I have had no morning sickness but with my first pregnancies I was sick all day from 4-12 weeks! I have the sore boobs and the tiredness but I am running around after two toddlers so I was tired anyway! I won't believe it till I have my scan in a little over 2 weeks!

ceecee I am farting with wild abandon. I have no shame.

Sending love and positive vibes to everyone waiting. The waiting is just the worst ever, you feel so powerless and redundant. Hoping the days go fast for all of you.

10 weeks exactly today. Should I be worried that I've not put on any weight, in fact, I've lost a few lbs. I am overweight already (about two stone) and the baby certainly has a ready made belly to grow into, but I certainly wasn't expecting to be losing.

So sorry that so many of you are having a difficult time at the moment. The uncertainty is indeed horrible.

If it helps any of you, I went yesterday to my scan absolutely certain that I was going to get bad news and I got the complete opposite.

Still bleeding (despite them seeing no reason for it on the scan) so I think that I'm going to call the midwife tomorrow and see what they say.

I second what dutchy said. I had no symptoms and what little ones I did have disappeared two days before my scan. I thought the worst. I imagined both scenarios - them telling me they could see a hb and them telling me there was nothing there. The second scenario just felt so real that I couldn't imagine it being ok but it was. It was fine. Obvs not out of the woods yet and it could still all go tits up but your judgement gets a bit skewed on these things so don't read too much into feeling/not feeling pregnant.

Sat in bed at eight thirty ordering vitamin b6 tablets online. #thuglife

Hi....

(gentle steps toward the thread)

I'm here - after 18 months of trying I'm very cautiously here.
5+1 today, and having an appointment with the GP tomorrow to tell her I'm pregnant so she can refer me to the midwife.

This will out me to anyone who knows me, but we have literally just finished a monitoring cycle with a fertility clinic and was in the process of deciding ways forward with treatment (IVF recommended!) so I can't believe our luck really, but it is making me really nervous. I'll happily go for an early scan to calm my nerves, but not sure exactly when you will absolutely get a heartbeat?

Also - amusingly I've been talking about going to the clinic with lots of friends and family. Who now want to know how it is going... Hmmm. I hate lying, but DH doesn't want to tell anyone until after the scan which will be ages...

I'm so impatient!! Argh....

Hi ladies-- sorry if I've caused a panic. When I said I had no symptoms I really meant zero. No sore boobs, no exhaustion. Don't despair. Something like 25% of women don't get morning sickness and it doesn't mean anything. Hopefully you are just lucky!