March 2017... Early days

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Helloooo is anyone else here?

Congrats blueandpink!

I'm currently incapable of eating anything that isn't beige. The only exception is sweets!

Found a really good book called Gentle Birth Method that talks about the preperation you can do to help your mind and body prepare for birth, seems really comprehensive gives good excersises you can do with your partner and talks about the importance of diet. Only just stared reading it but so far u would definitely recommend.

Welcome blueandpink!

Thanks Rosey for the book recommendation. I'm a bit nervous about reading pregnancy books at this early stage, but I need to realise that it won't "jinx" it any more than taking folic acid, not drinking and the rest of it would. Last time I enjoyed reading "Active Birth" and "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" (great stage-by-stage advice for bfing, but also on the early days with a newborn in general). They're for a bit later on though!

Definitely getting nausea now, a bit earlier than with DS if I remember rightly. It's always in waves, at the same times of day (when I'm the most tired, so that figures), and it helps if I eat something, and have a hot drink in the morning and fizzy water and cordial in the evening. That doesn't help with the bloating though! No food aversions as such yet!

Decided to tell the in-laws next week before we all go on holiday together. We'd rather announce it officially than try and keep it secret, for them only to suspect it, and for it not to be a surprise later on IYKWIM. It seems like the worst-kept secret at the moment thanks to the bloating! It will also mean they might be more sympathetic if I'm a bit more useless than normal

We've told most of our family this weekend! I felt exhausted and I don't know if the pregnancy or the emotion of telling everyone! They are all delighted which is lovely. But I don't feel as excited as them, sadly, I'm not enjoying the pregnancy atm as it still doesn't feel real but my boobs are bloody killing me and I'm exhausted! Sorry for the moan, I am pleased really, just wishing my life away as I'd quite like to fast forward the first trimester!

Typos... I feel exhausted and I don't know if it's the pregnancy

I feel the same way NameChange. Between the uncertainty and fear as to whether the pregnancy will stick, feeling like I've got a daily awful hangover, and not being able to tell many people what's going on, I'm really not enjoying the first trimester. I really hope the second trimester is better, if I make it that far!

I feel the same Alpha... Hoping things improve or I'm going to be really grumpy for the next 32 weeks!

Oh good namechange i thought i was the only one who doesnt feel excited! Anxious and nervous about what have i done, life will never be the same again what if i dont love it enough... etc etc. But not excited. And then i feel terrible because i feel like i should feel excited.

I'm never excited in the first trimester, I'm too busy freaking out about everything!!! Feeling absolutely rotten, so tired and I've a permanently upset tummy, not just nausea, this is a new one on me!

Wow, I'm not the only one then! Sorry you're all finding it hard as well. At least we can support each other
neon I am 100% sure you will love your baby more than you can imagine possible. Try not to worry too much but most importantly not to feel guilty about how you feel! It's all ok xx

I swing between different feelings (much like my first pregnancy), usually depending on how tired I am. I suppose I have the benefit this time of knowing it really is all worth it in the end (you know, when it sticks).

I'm worried we won't be able to cope with two, that we haven't given DS enough time as an only child (but then, subsequent children never get that luxury anyway), what others will think about it being too soon (but then my OH says it's no-one's business but ours), that I should have saved what may be my last pregnancy for later so I could really savour it. Sometimes (often), I forget I'm even pregnant, like it's still a half-thought in the back of my mind and it hasn't actually happened yet. DS's conception was preceded by much broodiness, waiting, name-choosing, disappointment, heartbreak... but this one is so out of the blue that I have to keep reminding myself that in 7 and a half months I could be holding a newborn again!

Whatever you're feeling, go with it. I'd like to be able to promise that you'll feel better in a couple of months, but I can't. But the statistics are with you. In the meantime, rant away. It's always nice to know you're not alone

Strangely I don't actually feel like there's going to be a baby at the end of this? Last time (when I had a MC) I was thinking about names, researching prams, browsing in mothercare etc. This time it sort of feels like when I'm going through fertility treatment - my hormones are all over the place but it doesn't feel like anything is guaranteed, it's just another step in the process.

Aww sorry lots of you are feeling rubbish right now! If this progresses like my last one ... That'll be me in a week and a half and on until d-day. But for now, I'm feeling good and enjoying it before the crazy hits. I just need to tell DH soon as I don't like keeping things from him....but may wait a bit yet.

I feel exactly the same alpha. Trying to stay positive but given my history I'm not at all convinced the pregnancy will be successful. Had some mild brown spotting over this weekend and continued 'womb ache' as if my period is going to arrive, which I've had since it was due. Not had any red bleeding (yet) so hoping against hope it won't be another mmc but it's very hard not to think it will happen. Desperate to get through the next couple of weeks to early scan time and then see what's happening.

I don't think I congratulated you yet, blue - congrats! I don't blame you for keeping it to yourself for a bit longer, savour it for a while! When you do tell your DH, do you think he might do a better job of keeping it secret this time?!

I totally understand how u all feel. With dd I was sooooo desperate to be pregnant then when it happened I went into full on panic mode thinking I can't do this at all, that I'd make a terrible mum etc. Once it was a reality it suddenly came so much scarier than when I was desperately wanting it but it is the most amazing thing ever. It can be bloody difficult at times but totally worth it.

I've been telling the odd close friend of mine and they are so busy being shocked that I'm already pregnant that they forgot to say congratulations haha. The hardest one was today because one of the girls in my group has had failed ivf just after my dd was born so telling her I was pregnant with my second already when she still doesn't have one was the hardest thing ever. But I was telling the rest of the girls in the group so I didn't feel I could not tell her if that makes sense.

Couldn't have said it any better alpha. I had exactly the same thought during my last pregnancy. I feel differently this time, even though I know the chances are the same. I'm just in a different mindset.

Cho fx the spotting and cramps stop for you. Can you get the scan a little earlier?

Couldn't have said it any better alpha. I had exactly the same thought during my last pregnancy. I feel differently this time, even though I know the chances are the same. I'm just in a different mindset.

Cho fx the spotting and cramps stop for you. Can you get the scan a little earlier?

Sorry for the double post!

Hi everyone,

This is my first MN post but I've been lurking for a little while. Please can I join? Got my BFP on Weds and am 5+3 weeks, EED 16 March.

First pregnancy so very nervous, but trying to stay positive.

Hi kayls89 we have the same EDD :) 16 March it's my first too - we're in the same boat

Kayls Welcome to MN and congrats on your pregnancy

Thanks magic. I don't think theyll scan me any earlier. My fertility clinic would have scanned at 7 weeks but because this somehow happened naturally I cant see them this time and our local epu will only scan at 8 weeks unless there's fear of ectopic or significant bleeding. I'm seeing the recurrent misscarrige clinic at 7+1 as I was due to go anyway before I fell preg this time and they told me to keep that appt anyway and said they'd scan me there so that's as soon as I can hope for I think.

I definitely wouldnt worry about others thinking it's too soon magic, your oh is right it's no one's business but yours!

Congrats Kayls, lovely news. Wishing you a happy and stress free pregnancy!

Congrats Kayls!

Glad to hear you'll be able to get an early scan at the clinic Cho.I know someone in another TTC group who has just had a natural BFP after unsuccessful IVF and I know she feels a bit lost with the clinic's reassurance and scans. I would feel exactly the same if it were me, there's no way I could just wait until the 12 week scan especially if I was spotting. Really hope the spotting clears up soon and it's nothing serious.

It's good to know I'm not alone in how I'm feeling! The first trimester is definitely not easy.