March 2017... Early days

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Helloooo is anyone else here?

Cheers alpha. Yes definitely not easy at all. Yeah I certainly couldn't wait til 12 weeks, if the clinic wouldn't scan me early I'd be forking out for a private scan for sure.

I go on holiday at 7+6 for 10 days so worrying about that now too - if the scan is inconclusive or bad news as it's just a few days before we go. Everything is just stress stress stress at the moment!

Hi, can I join? Found out I'm pregnant yesterday, due late March. I had an ectopic recently so it's all a bit surreal and worrying at the moment. Bit stressed as I'm. Cutting my ADS right back too. Sorry this sounds all doom and gloom, I am happy about it! This will be no 2.

Congrats and welcome new bfps. I am 7+5 today, considering i found out at just over 3 weeks or so time is going pretty fast! I have my booking in appointment this morning. Im wondering if shes going to listen to the heartbeat is that normal for a booking in? Hopefully she will tell me how to sort out my 12week scan too.

Hope its ok for me to join ladies.

After being a few days late I tested three times yesterday all positive! Due around 21st March from my rough working out. I was initially in a bit of a panic due to

a) starting a new job in three weeks (still worried about this due to unlikeliness of being entitled to any maternity benefits and them being annoyed with me when I tell them in my first week)

b) Our wedding is booked for Feb and lots planned so likeliness this will have to change.

We are both pleased as we had been TTC from Nov last year but decided to take a more relaxed approach when we arranged the wedding as it hadnt happened so far we thought the chances of it were slim how wrong were we!

neon with DD they didn't even attempt to listen to the heartbeat until 16 weeks, even then can be very hard to find, so I don't imagine they'll do it at your booking in. Last time booking in was just a surprisingly long appointment going over your medical history, that of your partner and families, birth choices, pregnancy advice like what not to eat etc. Maybe a wee test.

Thanks gardencentre 😃

Looking for some opinions. My booking in appt is at 8+4 and I'm going on a 3 week honeymoon the next week to south east Asia.

I was quite concerned re: how the dates stack up for my first scan, and that I wouldn't be around to answer letters or calls about appointments and therefore I might miss the 10-14 week window.

Added to that, I wanted advice for travelling, and to talk about cystic fibrosis screening as its in my family.

The doctor's surgery were no help and told me I can't have an earlier appt and to keep the booking in appt unless there's any problems. So I rang the maternity ward of my local hospital on Thursday and basically explained that I would love to talk to a midwife directly about it. I think in this area we usually have to go through the GP first. They took my number and some details and said they'd call but no one ever did.

Do you think it's ok to call back again to see what's going on? Or should I call the GP surgery and have a polite freak out at them?

I have no idea if I'm being unreasonable but I just have so many unanswered questions and I've dealt a lot with an NHS that is often fairly disorganised. I can't trust that everything is going to magically fall into place :/

Hello and congrats to the newbies!

Elsa I've been on ADs before and coming off them was difficult so you have my sympathy! Be kind to yourself and do it gradually if you can.

purple You won't be entitled to SMP but you will be entitled to Maternity Allowance which is about £140/week.
www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/rights-at-work/parental-rights/check-what-maternity-pay-you-can-get/
You only have to tell your employer you're pregnant at least 15 weeks before your due date (so when you're 24 weeks pregnant), of course you can tell them beforehand but you certainly don't need to tell them in your first week!
I got pregnant just after starting a new job and I'm planning to tell them at some point after my 12 week scan, I might leave it quite late as long as it's not obvious!

charlybs If you tell the midwife your holiday dates at the booking in appt, she could hopefully send them on to the hospital so that they don't book your scan for a date when you're away. You could also call the hospital the day before you go to remind them. And if you want travel advice, is there a travel clinic at your surgery that you could book in with? At mine you can book to see a nurse to discuss travel plans and recommendations for vaccinations etc.

Charlyb have you or your dp been tested for the cf gene? It runs in my dh's family but i just had a quick blood test to confirm im not a carrier. Your dp might be able to arrange it through his gp quite quickly if youre concerned? If either of you arent a carrier the baby wont have it.

Namechange my first appointment is with a Dr hence why I'm worried that there will be a miscommunication between the surgery and the midwives, especially if it's just some bog standard referral form.

We also don't have a travel clinic. It's all stressing me out tbh.

Neonrainbow no neither of us have been tested hence my fretting. My DH is in the Navy and he can't usually access sick bay unless there's something wrong but I can ask him to see if it's possible. He doesn't have a civilian doctors as its all sorted on base.

charlybs You called it a booking in appointment so I thought it was with the midwife. You need an appointment with the midwife before you go! I would call the midwife team again.

Oh sorry namechange I'm guessing at the lingo I'm so confused.

It's the initial appointment with the doctor to let them know I'm pregnant. Sorry

No worries! A booking in appointment is your first appointment with the midwife when they fill in all the forms and book you in for a scan and blood tests etc. That is what you need before your honeymoon. Hope you can get hold of the midwife team and they're helpful!

So I have been having a lot of stabbing pain (no bleeding) and just called the maternity centre where the midwife seemed shocked I hadn't had a scan to 'confirm the pregnancy is in the right place' - she's advised me to see the GP which I am now doing this afternoon but not really sure what the doctor can do other then talk about it and take blood pressure. Starting to have a right panic now and feel like I just don't understand the system enough to be reassured.

Sorry to add- she also said if I couldn't get a GP appointment today to go to A&E. That is the bit that panicked me as I would never consider A&E unless genuinely in an emergancy.

Sorry ladies having a bit of a moan

Nausea has officially arrived , feel like crap today, not slept in about 3 nights(I mean I've not had more than 3-4 hours sleep) I've been trying to sleep on my left to get into the habit but now my left shoulder, arm and neck are killing me, I can barely move, driving is soooo painful. its just getting me down I know I shouldn't be complaining but just having an off day
xx

Just spotted this thread after joining another one so can I join this one too? I'm pregnant with DC3 (due 6th March) stressing a little as no signs of any sickness yet (had it from the start until 14 weeks with the other two)
I haven't told a single person except a random stranger in the park (other than the hubby obvs) I think one of the reasons for this is embarrassment that we wanted a 3rd after we have one of each and both are healthy. I feel like people aren't gonna understand why I'd want a 3rd. The truth is our second wasn't planned so soon and we had a short 17 month gap between the two and it was hard to get my head round so I feel like I missed out on the joy of the second pregnancy really. Is it bad to want a 3rd so I can really enjoy it? I love my children to bits but I never did the whole breast feeding thing and I really want to do the breast feeding and enjoy it. There will be a nearly 3 and a half year gap between the 2nd and the 3rd so the second will be potty trained and at nursery so I think I should be able to cope (the oldest starts school in September.
I know I don't have to justify myself to people, we have a loving home, we love our kids and do our best for them so why do I feel dead telling people like I need to explain myself? Has anyone else ever experienced this?

dread

Was sick this morning for the first time... Was never sick with DD 😔

I'm back, see below for updated list! Too many newcomers and posts to respond to so I'll just say welcome to the newbies, and hope everyone is managing to find some respite from worry, sickness and sore boobage. I've got my booking in today, and hopefully the results of my BHCG tests, and also the second early scan on Saturday. If you don't have any medical reason to scan early, my advice would be to not! it just sets the cat amongst the pigeons in terms of anxiety.

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I'm around 23rd March

Thank you for the update FX!

Sorry to hear the neausea has hit some already- I'm dreading it so trying to make the most of feeling ok- last time it started at 6 weeks until around 22 weeks!

So my brown spotting turned into a bleed last night, I realised just before I went to bed, absolutely cried my eyes out thinking the worst and slept really badly. It had stopped this morning but I rang the Drs anyway and they booked me in for a scan, which I have just got back from. Pregnancy is still there, in the right place (?) and she could see a heartbeat. She was careful to point out that it was just a snapshot today and that bleeding could be nothing or could be an early sign that I will miscarry, but I feel so much better knowing that there's a heartbeat. It measured a week behind where I thought I was, pushing my due date out to 14th March

Fingers crossed the baby sticks around cinnamon it must be so worrying 😞

I had half of my booking appointment blood tests and stuff now have to wait for another appointment with a different midwife to do the family history stuff. Apparently it takes too long to do it allbat one time! Scan date should be posted to me though which is exciting.

Wow, well done on the list FX that is a lot of work. My estimated due date is March 24 but still early days so haven't contacted my GP/midwives yet.

That is scary Cinnamon! so glad you were able to get checked out and hear the sweet heartbeat.

Namechange, I decided to tell my DH and I think he really will keep it to himself right now ... because he didn't seem all that excited. Granted it is our 3rd. He said he was happy, but it wasn't that jump-about-must-call -everyone I know! And I've hit the exhaustion wall where everything is tiring so I'm not all that excited at the moment either - but I am happy about it