Late December - Early January '17 Babies

[GerberaDaisy]

Hello,

So couldn't see a January baby post (probably because no one is mad enough to POAS as early as me!)

Anyway, I thought I would start one (waves). I am 28, this will be DC#2 making my 4 year old DS a big brother which he has been so excited about becoming (we haven't told him yet though as very early days!) I am roughly around 4 weeks and we're not planning on telling anyone for ages so thought I would start a thread so I have someone to get excited with!

Please come and say hello! Xx

Hi!
I'm new... I think I'm 8+5 but had a private early scan today who made me a whole 9! The little magic eye puzzle they assured us was a baby has a flickery bit where it's heart is developing and I guess it all feels "real" now... I could have been making it up but now I've seen something and it's only a one thing (thankfully)

So, due either 28/12 or 30/12... I have my booking in appt on tuesday too!

Welcome Elodie and Spacedinosaur. Great news on the scan Spacedinosaur it's such a relief when you see the little one. I'm 9+1 but expecting my dates to be a few days out. My midwife told me yesterday they don't give you a due date anymore but will do it at the 12 week scan. Got 4 weeks to wait. First trimester feels so long!!!

Congratulations Eloide and spacedinosaur!
My booking in went well and I have a due date of 24th December. This will be revised at my scan though (I reckon it's more like 7th January). Didn't get my scan date though, that'll come through the post. All my notes were made with an electronic pen which transmitted my information directly to the hospital via the midwife's phone which I thought was very clever!

Hi Elodie and spacedinosaur!

Woah, magpie that sounds so much more high tech than mine! I have to carry my notes around with me - I lose everything so that will be interesting haha, do you still have to have the paper book thing?

So i've been having a wobbly day, this was my first day back to work for nearly two weeks due to a combination of morning sickness and study leave/college days. It was tough, by lunchtime I was ready for bed and I find it so hard to concentrate when i'm nauseous so I don't think I did much today at all. But I have managed to convince myself that I can't wait until the 12 week scan because if something is wrong it would be better to know now.

My OH and my mum think it's completely unnecessary and that I should wait, I haven't had any bleeding, no bad cramps (just the normal ones) I feel sick etc, so they think I'm being over cautious, if not a bit dramatic. It is a lot of money when I don't really have any reason to go - at 8 weeks would there definitely be a heartbeat? I feel like that's something I should already know! Do you think it would make me feel better or would I be better off to just wait a few more weeks?

Evening ladies. Welcome Elodie and Space. Space you have similar due dates to me. Officially I'm 8+6 today which gives me an EDD of 30/12 too (which I know is right as I had IVF) but my scan put me 5 days ahead so they gave me Christmas Day as my EDD.
ktt I say go for the scan if it gives you peace of mind and avoids any stress. I would have paid for one if the FC hadn't done one. In fact I may still pay for one as I'm not sure I can wait 3-4 weeks for the next one! I saw a heartbeat at 7+5 so I'd say you'll be fine now.
The tiredness has suddenly ramped up to extreme levels this week. I even contemplated calling in sick yesterday as was completely wiped out. It doesn't help that the drugs I'm on are causing me to wake at 5am every day (at least I'm hoping it's the drugs as I get to stop them at 12 weeks). The nausea is also still coming and going and so many foods I just can't face. I bought those Sea Band things that are meant for travel sickness yesterday. No idea if they'll help but at least I feel like I'm doing something.

Ktt yes I still have the paper notes to carry around as well. I was very impressed by their tech though!
I had a scan with DS at 7 weeks and saw the heartbeat so you should be fine!

Happylass I've been waking up really early too (4am today), it started just before I got my BFP. It didn't happen in my first pregnancy though so maybe it's the drugs causing it for you.

I'm waking up really early too and I'm not on drugs. It's either the pregnancy or the stupid cat (who seems to think sunrise is automatically breakfast time!) So tired...!

Ah no don't say it's pregnancy making me wake up at silly o'clock! Was looking forward to getting my sleep back in about 3 weeks!! I'm exhausted! Come to think of it I've been on the drugs since ET and they didn't affect my sleep initially. Probably did start around the time of the BFP

Bella my cats do the same, I normally have to get up to pee....cue mass stampede even though there are only 2 of them to the food bowls. Very difficult to get back to sleep then

Haha my cat's the same samk15 I tiptoe to the bathroom at night hoping not to wake her but around the 4am mark she'll definately wake up!

I'm trying so so hard to keep up appearances with friends but I just want to sleep. It's 00:30 and I've just got home from another bloody sober night out with friends. I bailed early because I'm dying on my arse.
Yesterday I went out for dinner... I feel like my evenings are rammed.

Thank god for afternoon naps. I can't wait until we announce and then I can say "I'm so so tired I can't drag my arse out today"

They're all already massively suspicious because a sober dinosaur is a rare occurrence.
A sober dinosaur who has not been spotted drinking for over 2 months... Well, let's just say it's an "open suspicion" that noone's mentioning to me. Apart from a mate's new girlfriend who congratulated me this evening...
Me: "Erm, thanks for what?"
Her "you know.... The.... thing?"
Me "you mean the wedding?" (Last year but best I could do in my reeling state)
Her "yes"

Bless her. Hearts in the right place but it's too early.

Anyone else had anything similar?

happylass I've looked it up and the 2nd trimester should be better for sleep as our bodies get used to all the hormones! Here's hoping...!

spacedinosaur I've not been able to keep up the lies! I've told my office buddies (which is a huge relief as they now make sure I don't carry any boxes - which is a major part of our work - and have covered for me when nextdoor's office needed man power when the lift broke. I would normally go for friday night drinks with them too and they've been really good at sneaking lemonade to me and making alternative plans like the cinema rather than the pub! I know it will be hard if things go wrong, and there's a risk some of them may tell the rest of our team, but it's been a huge relief for me and the weight is off my shoulders, especially when I'm feeling really rough - they've been great.

My DH has done the same with his closest work buddies and we went out last night with a big group (I can only manage 1 late night out a week, I've been in bed at 8 every other night so I'm well impressed with you 2 nights on the trot!!) and they were pretty much the same, until the end of the night and DH's closest friend hugged me (we never hug) and said congratulations much louder than he'd hoped! The others probably guessed but we're not going to say anything to them until after the scan or we may come clean if they ask us outright.

We feel that if we do have an MC we'll probably be sad and would need support from them anyway. But this is my first time so maybe I'm being a bit naïve and will realise my mistake if we MC - I have no idea what that would feel like. Finger's crossed it doesn't come to that.

DH has a hangover this morning and I'm feeling quite good - nausea has eased a little (I'm 10 weeks tomorrow) so I'm a smug bean today

Oh here's hoping so Bella. I've been awake since 4:15 this morning - the earliest yet! We're away for the weekend and I had to have a nap at the hotel as soon as we checked in, whilst DH went to the pub!
On a side note my belly is suddenly looking huge today. Not sure if it's what I'm wearing or that being sat in the car has caused the bloat but I look huge

Yes the lies are exhausting. I'm on holidays atm with a group of people and have been avoiding alcohol which they clearly all find incredibly strange but I haven't said anything yet. Ironically the thing that might cause me to crack is that I'm so tired and keep slipping away to nap!

9 weeks today. Really hoping there is still a living growing bean inside and I'm not blissfully ignorant. Ugh.

bella I don't think it's naive (am on pregnancy 5 - two babies, two mcs before this one).

I think it's actually really weird that we're supposed to keep quiet in case we miscarry - why is there a conspiracy of silence around it? I wouldn't keep any other health condition quiet like that. I get the not tempting fate thing, and I've told far less people this time than I did last time as I just can't quite let myself believe it's going to happen and I can't face the conversations with people who aren't majorly important in my life (colleagues, mums in the playground etc - not that I told all these people before but because I was telling people close to me quite freely word spread). But in both MC cases I've been very happy to have close family and close friends/mum friends know and to have people to chat about it with.

Panicking AGAIN today. Might book another scan. Felt sick earlier in the week but it's been two days feeling fine now. I've got a bump, unbelievably (8+6!) - which gets more pronounced as the day goes on, and my boobs are still sore. Back ache, constipation, knackered. But I still feel too good. And because I had my scan at what I thought was 6+6 but measured at 6+3, I can't find any decent statistics that say seeing a heartbeat that early is all that reassuring (there are miscarriage association ones that say in women with recurrent miscarriage 78% go on to a healthy pregnancy after seeing a heartbeat at 6 weeks - and it's more like 97% at 7 weeks and 98% at 8 weeks - but 22% MC rate at 6 weeks is worrying me! But then, I don't have recurrent miscarriage - just a chemical pregnancy, two kids, and then one miscarriage ...).

Doing my head in. It's still at least three weeks until I'll get my 12 week scan. Maybe four weeks. So I think I'm going to book another private scan and piss another £60 I don't have up the wall!

I gave in and bought a fetal Doppler yesterday. My midwife wasn't super pleased when I run the idea by her during my booking on app as not finding the heartbeat causes unnecessary worry but I really need the piece of mind. It says to be used from 12 weeks on so I'm still early at 10-4 but had a go yesterday. Found the placenta whooshing away nicely but no heart beat first time. Going to give it another week and try again.

swancourt and sueevone I've cracked and am booking myself in for a reassurance scan next week. I considered the doppler but decided to go for a scan. My booking in appointment was moved to 9th june when I'll be 11+4 and MW said she'll book my scan after that! I can't bear the thought of another month without knowing things are progressing. I've been really calm about it all until last night when something snapped in me and I just want to hear a heartbeat!

I'm about to crack too. I have felt totally fine the last three days - today i went out for Turkish food and had loads of mezze, then chicken and rice, then a huge piece of birthday cake and a cup of tea and didn't feel the slightest bit nauseous. I've been at least off my food and sometimes retchy over the last couple of weeks, so this is completely wrong. I honestly feel that the pregnancy is over. I've got sore boobs still but that's it.

I'm even thinking about going to the GP and saying I've had spotting (I haven't) - I know she won't refer me for a reassurance scan unless there's been spotting. Do you think that would be an awful waste of precious NHS resources? I think I'm probably not thinking straight on this one. Incidentally, I hate my GP - she was unsympathetic about my last mc and when I went to register my pregnancy this time she was completely horrible and also said 'have you had a miscarriage before?' and I said 'I had one at 5 weeks, then two healthy pregnancies, and then a mc in March', and she said 'oh right, so miscarrying is pretty normal for you then'. Of course that has stuck in my head and I feel like I'm some sort of perpetual miscarrier now, even though my history isn't unusual at all.

Anyway, either I'll do that or, if you guys think I am being really terrible, I'll book an early scan for this week. I'm at least three weeks, probably four, away from a scan (I think I'm 9 weeks, midwife is going on 8+5 after my last early scan) - I just can't wait that long when I've lost all my symptoms and feel so negative about it.

Jeepers Swan that's awful of your GP. How insensitive could she be??!! I'm so sorry she said that to you. Like you ever get used to having a miscarriage.

Could you phone your EPU instead? so you don't have to go through the absolute bitch of a GP

When I was actually having my MC last time I called the EPU but they won't see you unless referred through GP. I don't know what would happen if I just turned up.

I thought I had to go to my GP to let it be known I was pregnant (this was how it worked when I was pregnant with my other two) - and she just said 'right, you're pregnant, so what are you telling me for?' I said 'I thought I had to tell you', and she said, really crossly, 'go back outside, go to the front desk, and make an appointment to see the midwife'. To ease the silence I said, 'actually, while I'm here, I wondered if you could take a look at my youngest daughter? She eats loads but she's really tiny'. She stared at my blankly and said 'health visitor?' I said, 'I'm so sorry - that's fine - we've moved area since I had the last two and things worked differently in my old area', and she said 'well I can't see why that would be the case. Things should be the same everywhere. What exactly was it that was different'. I said 'well I went to my GP to have the pregnancies put on the system and to get my booking appointment, and I'd have asked my GP about concerns with my 2.5 year old'. She just stared at me. Then had a go at the kids for standing on the scales. Then 2.5-year-old had a huge meltdown and I looked like massively incompetent mother dragging her out of the room by her heels

I get the feeling she is childless - put it that way!

Wow she is special isn't she!! I think I'd be requesting to see a different doctor. Is that something that's feasible?

That's rubbish about the EPU, you'd have thought that that's what they are there for. Maybe you could just turn up crying and looking distraught they might be able to see you even if it's not on the same day. Sorry I don't have anymore useful advice, I'm really new to all of this.

Yeah there's a harrassed but basically nice male GP at my surgery and I think I'm technically registered as his patient, but have been assigned the lady whenever I've said I don't mind who I get. New surgery - only registered in January - so I didn't know to avoid the woman! Will ask for the guy next time.

DH is away for four days, too, so I think I'm driving myself a bit batty as I've not got him at home to get my worries off my chest with. Thanks samk

Swan your GP sounds awful, no wonder she's the one you get sent to for appointments, I imagine she's free all the time as no one wants to see her! If/when you're feeling up to it, maybe you could write down what you've told us and send it in a letter to the practice manager. No one should be spoken to like that. It sounds like she's in desperate need of some extra training!
As for your symptoms fading, my understanding is that the placenta is starting to take over at this point which could change how you're feeling. Could you phone the midwives though if you're worried? Maybe they'd be better placed to help you than the GPs?

Thanks magpie - yes, I might do that. My midwife is absolutely lovely - had my booking appointment on Friday and spoke to her on the phone last week and both times thought she was brilliant and really approachable, so I'll definitely bear that in mind. For now I've left a voicemail at the clinic and am going to try to get a scan this week. Thank you!