Late December - Early January '17 Babies

[GerberaDaisy]

Hello,

So couldn't see a January baby post (probably because no one is mad enough to POAS as early as me!)

Anyway, I thought I would start one (waves). I am 28, this will be DC#2 making my 4 year old DS a big brother which he has been so excited about becoming (we haven't told him yet though as very early days!) I am roughly around 4 weeks and we're not planning on telling anyone for ages so thought I would start a thread so I have someone to get excited with!

Please come and say hello! Xx

At least we aren't alone. I was fantasising about being one of those ladies who don't know they are pregnant until after the first trimester Luckyducks

Yes! That must be so nice, although I can't get my head around how they don't realise something is up. I suppose not everyone gets symptoms.

I'm also trying not to stress but it's so hard. The sickness is getting worse. I have some days I want to eat & others where I can't face it & just want to vomit. My boobs don't ache anymore but they are hot! Is this normal?? I feel sick all day & will suddenly start gagging with no warning. Not ideal in public!! How can some people not get any symptoms at all? My body feels invaded. Hope you are feeling better Samk.

samk yes this happens to me. Cried my eyes out two weeks ago as I had no symptoms all of a sudden - scan two days later and all was well. panicked yesterday that I had loss of symptoms and today feel like absolute crap. Put myself under a lot of pressure comparing pregnancies - this one feels more like my miscarriage than the two healthy ones - but then went back to the old thread I was in with my first daughter and realised I had hardly any symptoms until 8 weeks! In my head I was vomming twice a day from 4 weeks! Had symptom fluctuation then too and she is now nearly 5 :)

Thank you for your replies Magpie Emz and Swan

I have not a clue how some people can have no symptoms what so ever. I have felt nauseous practically from conception . It really helps ( not that I would wish this anxiety on anybody) to know that I am not alone in this.
I have no idea about the hot boobs!! Sympathise with the gagging though, I was at MIL on Sunday for lunch and the smell nearly tipped me over the edge!! Her cooking isn't that bad

I haven't had a healthy pregnancy to compare anything to so I have to keep canvassing opinions. Had a scan on Friday and all was well but I think because I had my mmc around 8 weeks last time this week feels very difficult to get through. Stupid I know. I think you're right Swan. We put ourselves under soooo much pressure!

Hey Samk. It's really not stupid. My first 'natural' miscarriage was at 7.5 weeks & we found out about the missed miscarriage at 8.5 weeks so the last week & half has been really hard. It felt like an emotional milestone I had to get through. I'm now 9 weeks tomorrow & feeling horrific. But due to the missed miscarriage & also feeling horrific I can't relax. Our experiences in life guide our behaviour so it's only natural to feel the way we do. Big hugs & a deep breath & hopefully we will see those wiggly jumping beans at 12 weeks xx

samk15 I had a couple of days without symptoms during week 7 and then they came back with a vengance. I had a rough week and a half and they've gone again yesterday and today (I'm 9+2). I don't know if everything is ok, haven't got a scan date yet and no plans to go private but I'm trying to enjoy the rest from the nausea and hug my husband whilst my boobs don't make me wince and just hope things are fine. What will be, will be. Doesn't stop me from worrying a little though and knowing I'm not the only one helps too.

Emz, thank you for your kind words. Sorry you are feeling so poorly and anxious too, it's really tough physically and emotionally isn't it. My anxiety definitely feels like a learned response so to speak, I get to about 7-8 weeks and then it all goes pear shaped so I get upset around that time.. This week definitely feels like a huge milestone to get through. I guess once you've had a miscarriage it conditions you to fear the worst. I am being monitored very closely by the hospital because i am diabetic and old so i have another scan on Friday. Which is a double edged sword on itself!!!
Big hugs back to you, fingers crossed for us all xx

Thank you Bella, you are absolutely right. As they say 'What's for you doesn't pass you by'
Better grab your husband quick while your boobs don't hurt
Helpfully my cat keeps wanting to walk across my chest and sit there.

Thanks to all who came back about stretch marks. I moisturise daily without fail so I'll just keep that up and hope for the best.

On a slightly different note, and out of curiosity to see if I'm the only weird one-are there any quirks any of you have developed since finding out your pregnant? I cannot have a wee now without inspecting the loo roll for any spotting. Sorry for the TMI- but it's become second nature and I find it weird but I can't not do it now.
Is it just me?

sueevone I check the loo roll for spotting too, all the time.

Also, way TMI, but - err - wetness is occasionally an issue and I constantly panic if I feel that until I get to a loo, worrying that it's blood

Every morning I get up and instantly whack the underneath of my boobs to see if they're sore. And then prod them constantly throughout the day. if they're super-tender I can check them by squeezing my arms in from the side, which I like to think is less obvious than having a rummage in the middle of a meeting, so I engage in that quite a bit.

I spend a lot of time analysing how nauseous I am feeling - and often as soon as I think of it I start to gag, when I was feeling fine before

I've now stopped my horrific POAS habit (since my scan), but the only thing that has stopped me booking in a second unnecessary early scan is embarrassment at turning up at the same place (which was a good £30 cheaper than anywhere else I can find) two weeks after the first scan for no reason whatsoever :D

When I lie down at night I like to see if it hurts to lie on my tummy or not, and then to worry if it doesn't ...

The list goes on!!!!!

Boob poking
Nausea/general symptoms checking and obsessing
Knicker checking
Loo roll checking
Extra discharge

All perfectly normal in pregnancy!

Ha! swancourt I agree with everything you said too!!!
It's reassuring to read I'm not the only one.

All of the above!

You guys make me feel so much more normal! Trying not to inspect toilet roll but it's become an subconscious habit. Oh dear.

Saw midwife for booking in & booked scan. 21st June seems so far away, but then we do have the earlier harmony test booked. The midwife was very sniffy about me having it. Sickness isn't quite so bad today but she did make me feel better about being on cyclizine. Nearly passed out having my blood taken, so embarrassing. My veins are so thin & hidden that they jabbed my arms & then ended up in the back of my hand. Meanwhile I'm going all swooney... Just a drama queen me. 😬

That does sound a bit dizzy making Emz! Why was she sniffy about you having the harmony test?!
I've got my booking in appointment today too. Feeling a bit nervous about it and not sure why. I don't know if I'll get my scan date today (had to phone up for it with DS but that was a different area). I hope I get it booked today!

I was nervous but it was just a case of checking urine, blood pressure, going over the booklet of questions & then booking scan & taking blood. Other than the blood - all painless.

I don't know why she was a bit out. She questioned me as to whether I was aware of how much it was & then said, well if it's high risk then it'll be up to us to sort out. I did politely point out that that wasn't true. I realised though, I haven't actually let myself believe I'm pregnant. It sounds silly but my husband & I haven't really talked about it much & if only told a few close family members. I guess I'm just trying to protect myself against heartbreak & the fact that end of December seems a long way away. Anybody else found this? I'm taking multivitamins & not drinking & watching what I eat, I just haven't let myself think about it much as a baby. If that makes sense

Emz I am the same. Almost in denial. It must be a self preservation mode. We sound as though we are having a very similar experience so far Glad everything went ok this morning (apart from the blood taking bit)
We are going to have the harmony test.....perhaps I wont mention it to the midwife just yet.

Samk phew glad it's not just me. The woman taking my blood asked me when the baby was due... I stared dumbfounded for a minute before I realised I had to answer... Must have looked like a right moron!

I mentioned it as I didn't want to waste NHS money on them testing me when there's no need. Think they just get grumpy when you 'go private'. I'm only doing it due to it being more accurate plus it's a bit earlier so I don't have to wait weeks & weeks. The woman booking the scan said "I hope the NHS starts doing the harmony test, it's much better and has less follow ups". It's also weird how different hospitals do things so differently. This is my second baby but using a different hospital (we are between 2) after having a terrible experience last time & I feel like I'm doing this for the first time.

Hello!
Please can I join you all? EDD 21st December with DC3, and just hit 10 weeks. How's everyone doing?
E x

Welcome!
We have the same EDD, although I'm a first timer .

Congratulations Sueevone, it's an amazing journey! How have you been feeling? My LOs are 4 now and I'd forgotten how awful morning sickness can be...

I've been feeling relatively good. Nausea hasn't hit me as hard as it could, had the odd bouts but I know it can be a lot worse so thankful for that. My boobs are the bane of my life,

Pressed send too early!
I had quite a bad bleed last week but luckily I'd booked a private scan for the day after so was only 24 hours of worry but all was well.
I'm just glad to have got this far as our last try ended in a MC.
Looking forward to getting a bump though, it will feel more real then!

Welcome Elodie. Congratulations.

No Emz you are definitely not alone. Can't get excited at all. I'm sure you didn't look like a moron, bet they are used to dealing with far worse I had an appointment at the diabetic ante natal clinic today and all the midwives were scared to speak of the baby because I must've looked really stressed. Bless them.
Well as you say, we are helping the nhs by having a private test. Seriously some of these health care professionals have got such massive chips on their shoulders!! Like you I don't want to wait weeks and weeks. I am worried enough.